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Q: I have a friend but the thing is i don't like her as a friend any more because she is very mean and controling. she still thinks we're friends even though i haven't talked to her in months. she called me and asked me to go to her birthday party how do i tell her that i don't want to go without hurting her feelings? also it is a sleep over thing and i said i could sleep over because of something the next day which is true but she still wants me to go for a few hours the first day! please help i don't want to hurt her feelings!!

Well its going to be har trying to tell her woth out huting her feelings.You just have to be honest with her and hope everything goes ok.
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Q: I wish i had best friends but i dont. I want to be friends with certain people but i dont know how to fit into heir group.

Don't TRY to fit just be your self and if they don't like then there los becasue I am sure you a great person.
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Q: okay well my friend doesn't really have that many friends nd ALOT of people hate her and like i like her but she can be REALLY annoying. and if i dont put her in my profile for AIM she gets pissed off but then im gunna lose alot of friends if im friends wit this girl so wat should i do?

Ok well she should not get mad at you for doin that.And if your friends won't be friends with you because your friends with some on they don't like then there not your true friend.
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Q: ok well my best friend lets call her jenny & i
got into this fight. and when she gets into a fight w/ someone she has to get everyone to hate
that person too. so we got in this fight and a while ago before the fight we were at the library and shes like ohh lets make an AIM sn & curse at people. so i was like w.e. so she d always curse at people nd say it was my friend chrissy wen actually it would be jenny cursing at the people. so everyone hated chrissy nd i never went on that sn unless i wanted to see if somebody blocked me on my sn or if jenny said go on it cause i need to send u something on it. so when we got in this fight the other day she decided to tell everyone that i made up the sn that she cursed ppl on nd now like everyone hates me! what should i do?

Fisr of all if a friend does that she is not really your friend.And second of all try to explain to them that it was not you and is they don't bileave you then you know it was not you and God knows itwas not you.And that should be good anuf.
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Q: okay me and my 2 friends..Miranda and Ashley are always known to be "best friends" and like no one can split us up..well that's what everyone tells me..anyways..oh yeah and they are neighbors and i live a little ways away from them and i always hang out with Miranda without Ashley sometimes and then Miranda and Ashley always hang out without me..but when me and Ashley try to hang out without Miranda she ALWAYS gets mad at us..like she's always telling us that she feels left out when it's just us 2 without her..but i don't get it because we're not leaving her out we just want to hang out alone or whatever but she doesn't get that..we don't know how else to explain it to her..how should we explain it to her that we aren't leaving her out because whenever Miranda and Ashley hang out i never feel left out or whenever me and Miranda hang out with out Ashley Ashley never feels left out but this happens every time and now we have to keep it on the down low whenever we hang out alone because Miranda gets pissed off..how can we tell her that we're not leaving her out?? help me please!!

Just tell it to her plainley.But nicely.Its har I have that problm with my 2 best friend but we alwasy talka nd work it out.
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Q: me and my friends want to take a trip somewhere for a couple days..just us. where should we go ? any ideas on where to stay?

You should go to DC or NYC.they rock

Q: I am 13 and I'm a female. A few of my guy friends seem to act real nice around me, but when they're around each other, they say bad things about me. I'd like to know if I can trust them.

If they do that I would not trust them.They are not true friens if they do that sorry.
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Q: I just got back from a two 1/2 week vacation to california. Me and my best friend hung out so much before I left. When I got home I called her immeaditly and she was like Hi. I told her i wus home and i missed her and she said Uh-Huh. *not in a sarcastic way* Shes busy hangin out with all of her other friends right now, i dont mind that she hangs out with them, but Ive been home for a week and she never calls me or anything and she didnt act like she cared I came home! Whats going on?

Well try talking to her aout it tell her how you feel.And if it still goes the same way then mabe yall arnt as close I know it is a asd thing but it is the truth.
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Q: hey i been friends with Ashely for about 6 years and we are best friends and we were going out to dinner and a movie with group of friends and i pick here up and i walk in and i show her cuting her self and her dad and mom was not home i dont want Ashely to get her or i know some times u can die from cutting your self do u think i should tell some one or just keep it to myself?

You should totlay tell some one and adult you trust.You make think your friend will be mad but in the end it will be better for her.
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Q: I'm being blammed from my friend that i have been hacking onto her account on another site!well, i'm not!how do i convince her i would never do that to her?

Well if she is your true friend then she should beleAve you. You should not hAve to convince her.
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Q: I have a friend who hangs out with me when we are in class and since we have a locker right next to eachother she hangs out with me. But when she is around certain "friends" she acts really mean to mean and ignores me. Sometimes I feel like i'm not her friend and sometimes i feel like we are best friends, What should I do?

If she does thAt then she is not reAlly your friend. Just tell her how you feel And if she is still meAn to you then stop trying to be friends with her.
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Q: Two of my best friends aren't speaking to eachother.My one friend is mad at the other because she's real popular and since she has so many friends, she ignores her.But she dosen't get to see many of her friends so it's hard for her.And if I agree with her then my other friend will get upset.And when they aren't fighting they disclude me!I tried talking to them but she dosen't get it.I can't stand them not speaking to eachother.What do I do?

Well I have leraned that it is better to let your friends work it out for them self.And if the never work it out then just tell them I am not going to talk sides and that you want to be friends with both of them a even if theey arnt.
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Q: i need help about a friend....we have been talking on the internet and like we have gotten so close...its unreal...but i lied about my identity...its not that i don't like the way i look this picture was a lot better...now i feel like a loser cuz i really want to tell him the truth but i am afraid that he won't talk to me anymore...and i really don't want that he is too fun@ HELP PLEASE! I will RATE REALLLLY HIGH!!!

Ok well you shoul tell him the truth I know it might be hArd but if he is your true friend he will forgive you over time.But you really need to be honest with your friend.
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Q: people say im really pretty and nice but it doesn't seem like anybody wants to be my friend. should i be like hyper and wild? cuz i have noticed that people like hyper and wild friends. idk what do i do?

Well if pple don't want to hAng out with you than I Am sure you Are a greAt person And that is there problm you should just be your self.
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Q: I'm going to band camp this week so I havent been hanging out with my friends that much lately. On my screen name they are being rude to me not really but rude. Why are they doing this? How do I make them stop? How can I call them when they seem mad at me?

Well are being rude to you and you don't know why you need to talk to them work it our and if they are still rude after that then they must not really be your friend and that is there laws.
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Hey! I am 14 and I love to help people.And I love God I am like a Jesus freak he is my best friend.My favorite animal is tiger I love them.I aso like drinks I know it sound weird but I do.My favorites are Sunkist,Moutain Dew and Dr.pepper(THE BEVRAGE TO LL MY FRIENDS)HAHAHA well any way I love to go to the mall and sbend money.I like to girley things like shopping and just being girley and I like to be a tom boy too likegetting dirty clibling trees going in the wood and stuff like that.Well I hope you ask me for advice and I will do my best to help you.
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