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im12 i just got a boy friend 1or2 weeks ago and his little sister is my only girl friend / best friend and shes mad because i'm spending more time playing with him and not her.witch one should i choose mbest friend or boy friend and i dont want to break up with him ill just stop hanging out with him instead ill play with her

Your 12,

One you should not be on this site until your 13.

Two, you're 12 and should not be dating until your older like 16 years old.

Three, by saying you "play" with him.. and that you'll "stop hanging out with him instead ill "play" with her" means that you are still playing as a child.. and you're still in the kid stage..you should not be having "boyfriends" at 12, you should be focusing on just friendships and playing as a child... because before you know it.. your child life will disappear.

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im ten me an bff are fighting alot beause her brother is my boyfriend how should i talk to her to make her stop crying over it

Your 10!

First you do not belong on this site until your 13.


Second, I'll state the same crap.. sorry was that too much for your young ears... I'll state the same facts as I state for every young girl who wants to date at 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15 years old... do you really want to look back down the road when your 19-20 years old..and say how you have been dating for 10 years now..

Do you really want to carry all that baggage when you get older, or look down the road at how many heartbreaks you have had..

Third, When I was 10.. I was outside playing sports and acting like a child.

Fourth, I am now 21.. and I wish I was a kid again..because being a kid was so much less stressful than it is today at 21.

Stop trying to grow up so fast, and be a kid before you can't be one anymore!

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What does it mean when a guy calls a girl lil woman or lil mama?

In my opinion.. it's a horrible way of flirting.. but in most cases it is flirting.. or showing a sign of attraction

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I met a boy in my class we are realy close and I do not know if he likes me or not> HELP

Just take it slow, see if he flirts with you.. like he always talks to you, always looks, laughs and smiles. Tries to go out of his way to make you smile and laugh.. These are clues and signs that a guy likes you, but you can always be the straight forward one..and just bluntly ask him if he likes you as more than a friend or not. Guys tend to sometimes like a girl who can be straight forward and wear pants like that. It's pretty demanding and a turn on. :)

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This is kinda random-but I've come to realize i really don't have a best friend?- I used to have one,from when i was 3 up until about 3 years ago (she's older, going to college,working-ect)and we've just grown apart. So lately i've been looking around a noticing- everyone has a best friend. I sort of feel like i've missed my chance at getting that title, because i'm 16 and usually your best friend's the one you've known since you were little,you know? I really have no one, i mean i have awesome close close friends-but none that i'd really consider that one best friend-anymore. Am I alone in this? Am I..missing something? I guess it's got me feeling kind of down XD.

Your not alone, my best friend and I were friends since we were 7, and we are turning 20 within the next 2 months. Well, we drifted away. While we work for the same company and same job, just different locations, we are at each other's throats at who's better. We go to 2 different colleges. We have argued on random occassions, and she had let boys become between us more than once. We grew apart over time, and I, like you felt that I don't have a best friend anymore. I don't have someone to name a best friend. Well I grew closer to a lot more friends because of my distance with her..and I became more of a 'best friend' with others. I look at my mother and her best friend, they may never be attached at the hip anymore, or they may fight and not talk for an year, but they met when they were 14 and now are going on 55, and they know if they need something the other one will be right there in a heartbeat..It's never too late, you'll find that best friend. I know exactly how you feel.

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I'm in high school and back in middle school there was this girl who i really wanted to be friends with. i got lucky and in 7th grade she was in my homeroom. we got to be real good friends and hang out. now we're in high school and i haven't really talked to her a lot in years. I really wish we could be friends, but i don't see her much in school. Is there anything I can do? I don't want stupid answers like "talk to her" or "go say hi".

this isnt much to do...unless you "talk to her" and "say hi"....

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Okay, so two of my friends, lets call them Maddy and Jenny, have been getting into a lot of fights lately about the dumbest things you can imagine (once they got into a fight because Jenny wouldn't share her chips). Everytime they fight, they drage my other friends, lets call them Tya and Linda, and me into their fights. Then, when we refuse to take a side, they somehow manage to twist our words for them. This fighting is really getting in between our group, what should we do?
By the way, I'm 13, a girl, and going into the 8th grade.

Tell them how you feel.
Communication is the key to everything.
If you lose them, then oh well.
Then they weren't great friends to being with.
After highschool your gonna realize who your true friends are.
I graduated 3 weeks ago..and I already found who my true friends were.

Hoped I helped. =]

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i don't really know what to say for my candles. and who to dedicate them too... its a really hard decision and i dont want anyone to get upset! what should i do?

most of my friends when they did sweet 16 candles.. made sure everyone got a candle. =]

do them in groups to everyone at your party,
that way no one gets hurt. =]

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my friend gets gross out when she see couples kiss man and women. but when we saw a moive with a scene where two girls kiss one another she didnt say "ewww". she trun and look at me (i saw it in the corner of my eye). we are both bi curious but i know she doesnt like me because we are friends but WTF why did she look at me?
i know friends can go out but she said she see me as a sister...idk

Sometimes, friends can like each other more than friends.. even if they say they are brother/sister type friends. Trust me it's possible and it happens. I'm guilty for that one.. my best friend..who was like a brother to me..I fell inlove with. Just because you seem to act like sisters.. doesn't mean they don't like you like you.

If I were you, I'd confront her with this issue, tell her you feel uncomfortable with what happened, and you want to talk it out to clear up the atomsphere, so things aren't awkward.

Hoped I helped.

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Hi,
My best friends moved away last year and when they came to visit for the first time ever I kinda cried whenever they had to leave! I miss them so much! What should I do to get them to come over more and to stop missing them so much?? Thanks!

I had the same reaction.
My best friend moved.
It's kinda weird we were friends for about a month.
Then she had to move back home.
She was only here for 6 months with her dad on business.
She came back that summer.
For 4-5 days it was great.
When she left.
It was like bleh.
But it wasn't an overrall reactional cry.
For some odd reason.
She couldn't come back last summer.
So it's been 2 years since she has been back home to her second home.
She came back this summer.
For again 4-5 days.
The second her dad picked her up and they left for back home.
I cried for about an hour-2 hours.
Crying just shows how much you love that person.
The best thing to do is keep in touch as much as possiable.
With me and my best friend we talk online all the time. We noticed we both go on around the same time every night. So we try to go on around there just for that purpose. Write funny e-mails too. Write letters here and there. Phone calls come outta the blue here and there. We watch the calling because it's outta state and all. We don't want the rents down our throat from the cost in phone bill (lol). Sometimes we'd send random "I miss you" or "I love you. Wish you were here with us" cards to brighten the other one up.
Just keep doing that and you'll be able to see them again sooner then you can realize it.

Don't worry. It will be okay.

For us. We had to beg her dad. It was really up to him. Since he comes here every now and then for business for a few days. If he is willing to let her come and stay with me, while he's working.
It's up to how the cost is and what not. If it's like the other side of the county or the other the side of the state. Then it isn't oh so bad. But for us it's either they drive here and fly back. Or fly here and drive back. It's really on the cost and the distance and expense. It took 6 months to come back after she moved. 2 years after that summer visit. We are luck and she's going to the city with her marching band over thanksgiving weekend. So our parents are letting us go in and see her. With luck. Even if it's only a day. After that, we are hoping she can come back next summer. It's really just depends on the cost and expense.

Maybe you could go to an amusement park or something that's between both places. Where you could see each other.

Don't worry! It's gonna be okay.

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So my friends and I are going to college this fall as freshman and even though I'm really exciting and I know I'll meet new people and such, I don't know how often I'm going to be able to see them. I live in Texas and 2 of my very good friends and I are going to UT, others are going to be scattered across Texas and others in different states. My best friend is going to a design school in New York, and my brother (he just graduated college and is going to law school now) is going with her to New York but he's going to be at Colombia. So I was just wondering, from your experiences, how often did you get to see your old friends after you went off to college?

well. as someone who is still in highschool. i know someone who is going to Boston for college in the fall and he plans to come home to NY monthly every few weeks. for a weekend and go back and up and come down in 4 weeks or so.


it really just depends on the distance and the expense your paying to travel.

hope all works well.

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My friend Felicia just invited me over her house in like 30 minutes..the problem is, I don't want to go. I just don't feel like going...What excuse could I possibly use? I can't say my parents are making me go somewhere because they're both at work. I can't say I'm hanging out with friends because all my friends are out of town. Please help!

If both of your parents are at work, you really shouldn't go anywhere, incase they call. So just tell her your not allowed out.

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my prom date asked me what the color of my dress was. i am curious as to why he would asked does anyone have a clue?

It could be to match with you, you don't want to odd colors outta no where at the prom. also for flowers maybe? or a jewelery, maybe he was just curious?

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This may sound wierd but im friends with this guy i met maybe 3 weeks ago at a teen dance club im 17 hes 19, i bearly know him and i dont know what makes me feel so much like i need to help him but its killing me that i cant come up with my own solution.

This kid was recently kicked out of his house where he lived with his father and step mother, and that may possibly be a good thing. his father was abusive and it wasnt a good living situation. the last few days hes either been sleeping in his car or finding people to stay with. What hes planning on doing in 11 days is moving back to texas (from new york) and back in with his biological mother who hasnt seen him in forever and who hes only been talking to for 2 weeks. All his friends and his life is here though and hes not even sure if texas is going to work out for him.

i was wondering if anyone has any suggestions of things he can do. chances he has of staying here. He did graduate highschool etc and is really a nice guy though obviously he has his issues. This is a last resort for me. idk if theres people i can talk to or what i just need someones advice on this

thanks

If he has any money, suggest maybe a hotel for now, till he decides he wants to move to Texas. Maybe his mother can send some sort of fast money and pay for the hotel stay? Like credit card type pay, till he wants to go to Texas. Maybe help him find a low rent apartment? Try going to a homeless shelter or a church and ask them if they have any suggestions of where he should go. Hope I helped

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my friend at school is going out with this boy that i liked.i'm asking u do u think she is a true friend or no. but i don't like him now.please help me i will rate.

did you even tell her that you liked him? Why should it matter anyway...if you don't like him now why do you seem mad at her, its not like she is doing it while you like him.

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There is a new girl in my school. She was recently expelled from her Catholic school because she got an abortion. One of my friends was friends with her for a while since they lived near eachother and now she's coming to my school. I have my opinions about alot of things and abortion I have a very strong opinion about it and I'll argue my point until my face is blue. I'm 1000% against unless you were raped or you are having difficulties with your pregnancy and it could cost you your own life. Just by knowing this, I already do not like her because of that reason and that reason only. My friends all know that if they were to get pregnant and get an abortion, I would probably never speak to them again. I am not a virgin, but I do know that if I was ever to get pregnant, I would never get an abortion reguardless of my situation. I just think it's wrong. But please, do not bash me because of my beliefs just answer me this, could you at the very least understand why I wouldn't want to be friends with her? Is it wrong for me to feel this way?

I have to agree with kiyya when she said "It is wrong, your telling me not to bash you for your opinion but look, your bashing this girl, she might not be happy about her desicsion, but you do not know what situation she was in ,and you don't know why she made that decicsion."

Do you know that she didn't use protection? Maybe the condom broke, because I don't understand how someone had sex and got an abortion as well...why not just use a condom? How do you know that it was her decision? Maybe she wanted that child and her parents wouldn't let her live at home if she had it. How did the school find out anyways?? Can you see where I am coming from?

Yet, I have to agree I think as well that Abortion is totally wrong on the case of..how would you feel if your mother got an abortion and didn't let you have you the life you have now? So on that point I have to agree.

Yet on the other hand everyone has their own veiw on things.

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EDITED-...u said that i didn't see the added info n ur right..i didnt because u added it 5 mins after i answered..

but when you said "could you at the very least understand why I wouldn't want to be friends with her?" you said you dont want to be friends with her..sorry but it sounds like your judging her

EDITED AGAIN-- but was it her choice to give up the child?

EDITED AGAIN-- ok then....what the hell was she thinking? now i see why you don't like her decision..and i have to agree with you on that...because what she did was plain pathetic

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Me and my friends are having a sleepover this weekend what sort of things can we do besides the usual stuff like watch movies? any ideas? thankyou xxx

Every girl should know what they can do at a sleepover..talk about guys, read magz, listen to music, play games and ect..there are a lotta stuff you just gotta think..normally when my friends stay over...we talk on-line bc i have a pc in my room, watch a movie, talk and play video games..and ask for advice on stuff yeahh its pretty fun...or we would dance..make cookies...skip in the rain singing the Wizard of OZ while locked arms...lmaooo there is a lotta stuff you can do...just think!! lol

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I have the bestest friends in the world. but i cant help but feel left out sometimes. i know im just been stupid half the time but it really bugs me. I know that having 3 best friends will always be hard but its so awful been left out. Like they will sleep at each others house etc. I told my friends about this and my other friend said sorry i just feel more close to her than i do to you. and that just made me upset becuase i have known them both longer than they have known each other. So i dont know what to do, they will think im trying to split them up or something which im not! so what can i do because i have already told them but they just carry on. thanks
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I feel the same way, 2 of my friends I have known one since 2nd grade and one since like 6th grade..and they both became close and 1 said that she is comfrontable saying stuff to the other one then to me, they would go for bike rides, and to the movies and say that they called but my sister never told them... which I don't belive but yeah. Then recently I had the same thing with another 2 of my freinds who don't know each other they only talked on-line a few times, but the one I knew for a lil over a year got annoyed because I was telling the one I only knew for a few months more personal stuff, bc I knew he would be there for me when I need someone to actually talk to. I know how it feels being left out of a triangle, I also know how it feels when you know one feels like they are left out. (such like I knew my friend was getting annoyed bc I couldn't be as open to him the other one)...What I am going to say is sit down with both of them and talk about how you feel and maybe have a day with just the 3 of you to have fun like old times, I know it wasn't the best but if you need anything else feel free to drop on in.

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my friends stepdad molested her last night and i dont no what to do. i no i NEED to be there for her. and her mom said that if they cant find another house to buy they are moving over an hour away. which means i will probably never see her again. she is like my best friend. someone please help me. it has just hit me that i might not ever talk to her again. someone please help. i have been crying a lot...

ok 1- calm down
2- talk to her on-line and on the phone
3- my friend moved about 45 minutes away and i really cant see her much i just saw her for the 1st time last month since the last day of school.
figure a game plan where you guys can see each other on the weekends maybe go to the others every other weekend and stay all 3 days or something ...like drive there on friday after school n do hw in the car or such n come back home on sundays.

you just gotta think possitive on how u guys can see each other..one of my 2 friends who moved out of state n i are 8 hours away and i found out Hershey, PA is our half point where there is 4 hours and 35 mins to there both ways, so next time we could meet there instead of drivin 8 hours to see the other person....

JUST THINK POSITIVE!

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I got My best friend Nicole a job at the same place i worked. I introduced her to Danny (my crush). She called me the first day of work and told me that she told Danny that i liked hiim. I was so embarrased but i let it go. Some weeks went by and Nicole stoped speaking to me. I expressed my feelings about the situation to another co-worker. And word got around that I thought Nicole was being wierd. Later on that day. I got a Message on my cell phone. It was Nicole calling me all types of nasty names. She told me that i should stop spreading rumors about her. So I *69 her right away. You would never guess who picked up the phone. It was Danny. It was his home telephone #. When i confronted her about the situation she acts like it is all my fault. And i'm making up things. Is my so called best friend playing me for a fool?

your so called best friend isnt yer friend right now she obviously likes him 2 and wants u to stop likeing him just so she can get a chance maybe u should talk to her ...shes being the biggest bitch about it and she seems like a girl who will do wat ever it takes just to get wat she wants DNT LET HER

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