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I'm a sixteen year old female and always give advice to my friends. For as long as I can remember, teenagers have come to me for advice and I answer honestly and truthfully. They said I give good advice, so I decided to come on an advice column to share my advice with others. No matter what the trouble is I promise to never judge and do all in my power to help.

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Hi! So one of my friends is going out to dinner for a special occasion, and I heard her say (right in front of me) that if some guy couldn't go, I would be invited. I definitely want to say no if that happens. I think that that was so rude of her. Do you agree? Am I overreacting?

Your not wrong to be a little upset. If it's just a certain number of people that can go, I would understand her wanting to have people in mind, but to say right in front of you that you are second choice is pretty rude. Kind of like how it's not rude to think someone has a bad haircut, but it is rude to point it out. So no, you are not wrong for being upset over her saying that

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Hi,
I'm usually pretty good at giving advice, but this I can't help myself with. I'm 13 and I just got transferred to a new place. I've been here for two months now. As many people here are teens they love to act all grown up and I'm not comfortable with the kind of things they do and the language they use, so I'm not friends with anyone, I tried to adjust and get used to them but without a friend I just can't manage. I'm kind of shy but I can make friends easily, but no one is like me (a little kiddish and crazy) everyone loves to act all grown up. I'm having a tough time making friends, please give me some advice on how I can adjust or I'll end up a lonely girl who talks to herself

Some teens do like to act all grown up (trust me I know A LOT), but some still like to go crazy and childish such as you and I would. Remember this, girls mature faster than guys do, so it would be best to focus on finding a guy friend first. I'm sure there has to been some fun places around such as a laser tag, roller rink, etc. you could try your luck out there and see if there's anyone welcoming to have fun with. There's bound to be some fun people at places like that. And remember, a bathroom is a girl's best friend. I can't tell you how many times I've met people in the bathroom. I go in there to do my hair and next I'm having a long conversation with a total stranger in a bathroom about the meal I ate or the things I did at whatever place I was at. sometimes you just have to find the right place to meet the people you want to hang with. if you have any fun places in your area, I would say that would be
the best way to start. Or maybe try joining a club at your school or get involved with activities there so you can spend more time with different people and im sure there has to be someone you can relate to. I wish you luck!

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I've become friends with someone in Japan and have been talking to him for the past four-five months. The thing is that I'm 18 and he's 33. I didn't think it was that big of a deal. He started calling me "sister" and telling me that he loved me. I thought it was more of a sibling kind of love since he called me "sister." It began to get awkward when he started talking about seeing me and us living together. When I asked him how he really felt about me he said that he wanted to "make a love" with me. I explained that I didn't feel the same way and he shouldn't have referred to me as his sibling if felt that way. I told him that I was already in a relationship and thought it would end from there. The only thing that DID end was my title as "sister." After a while he began, again, telling me how much he loves me and wants to see me.
I will admit that it's partially my fault for not giving a stronger "no", and I do enjoy only some of the attention he gives me, but I can't stand hurting other people's feelings. The last time I dealt with something like this someone threatened their own life. He's also my friend and I don't know if he'd stop talking to me because of how I feel. What exactly am I suppose to do?

No one likes to hurt people's feelings (except for rude jerks). But what he's doing is hurting you. You need to make it clear to him that you want him to give you back your old title as sister. Some guys will never give up unless there is some kind of shock to bring them back to reality. If you have a social networking site that you are friends with him on (Facebook, Instagram, etc) then post some pics of you and your boyfriend on there. He might even be thinking you made it up to let him down easy. If you post pics of you and your boyfriend (maybe even some where you both look love struck together) then maybe he'll back off a little. Or better yet, tell your boyfriend about this. Let him know that you like the guy as a friend but nothing more and see if he will have a talk with him. Your boyfriend may get jealous and want to straighten him out. Either way, this guy shouldn't be doing this when he knows your not comfortable with it.

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13/f.Ummmm,I am in the 8th grade and one of my good friends some way have gotten pregnant. My friend doesn't know that my bestfriend and me know that she is.My best friend had to do some for my friend on her fb page because her phone is going to be off. So she told her to text her boyfriend that her phone is going to be off. My Best friend just have texted me sending me pictures of the messages between my friend and her bf talking about abortions and if she is going to keep the baby. Her child's mother talked to her too. Right now my most concern is like I know that its like we invading her privacy,but I need an adult advice. I want to tell my mother,but my mother would most likely make me stop talking to her or hanging with her. But now I don't know how I'm going to face her in school tommrow. Also,she told me many times that her father child use condoms,but it seem like they don't. So please tell me what to do. THANK TOU!

Dear friend pregnant,
You can let your friend know that you know she is pregnant without letting her know your friend accidentally saw the text and then sent it to you. She obviously didn't mean to get pregnant if her boyfriend asked whether or not she was keeping it. If she meant to get pregnant, she would automatically keep it. When someone is pregnant, they start having side affects. Things like vomiting, food cravings, exhaustion, lack of sleep, headaches, dizziness, the list goes on. Let your friend know if you have seen any of these side affects. It will be obvious and she never has to know your friend saw the text. If she is truly your friend, and trust you like friends should, then she will tell you. Don't get angry that she didn't tell though, 'cause pregnancy is a beautiful thing, but if you didn't mean to get pregnant it can be really scary. Talk to her once you see the side affects and tell her if she doesn't want to keep it, she can put it in an orphanage so it will be given a loving home. I wouldn't recommend letting your mom know if she won't let you hang around her anymore. Right now may be the time your friend needs you the most, hair maybe not know how to tell you. See about talking to a different adult that you can trust. Maybe a young adult still in their 20s that can give you adult advice, but will be young enough to understand to situation from her view point. But right now your friend needs you, androstenedione likely wants you to know, but is scared. The three of you get together and tell her that you know and will be there for her, and support her. It will make her feel so much better that someone knows and she has someone she can put her worries on.

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F/13 Hi! So, I've known this guy for two years now and we used to talk everyday. He'd tell me anything and everything as would I. A few months ago, he asked me out. I said I didn't like him that way and wanted to keep the friendship going. But ever since then, the conversation has dropped and I speak a few words to him once - if I'm lucky - a day.

I hate that we aren't as close as we used to be and I have tried to get the friendship back. But, conversation gets low and he moves on to have better conversations with someone I hate. I'll admit I'm jealous. He laughs more around her like we used to. I probably sound stupid... 'I'm only 13. I'll make new friends,' I can already see the replies. But, I want to know whether to keep trying or to let go.

I don't want to let go but will it make him happier if I stop trying?

Ok, I'm gonna be honest here. If he's with someone he knows you hate and laughing a lot around her, I think he IS trying to make you jealous. When guys really like a girl, they will go to pretty strong strengths. Be direct and ask him why he's avoiding you lately. He may be upset that you turned down his offer, and is doing what he can to make you jealous and want him. If you can't talk to him, text, email, call, use Facebook, Instagram, ANYTHING to try to get ahold of him and prove how much his friendship means to you. If he avoids your ways of getting in contact, have someone speak for you, without letting him know you put him/her up to it. Someone you and him can talk to as a friend preferably because then that friend will listen to you, and he will listen to him/her. I hope it works out for you. Good luck!👍

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