Well. I think that problem will not be able to be fixed, because she ignores you, DUH. More than likely, you annoy the living shit out of her and you don't deserve to live, and you probably are pudgy. So here's my advice. Get a life. No one ignores you for no reason.

I'm going to give you my bluntest answer, because a question like this deserves it completely. Uh. That is the stupidest thing in the entire world. My best friend is completely against drinking and pot and shit, and when she found out I was going to experiment, she said "Mere, It's not my life." If you want to, that's your call, as stupid as it is, but seriously, fuck your best friend. If you could lose her over something so stupid, then you really need to consider getting a new friend.

Friends go through funks. PEOPLE go through funks. I know alot of people (including myself) who are particurly pissy around certain times of the year, and I definately lose contact with alot of my friends, because I can't stand being around them. I'm not saying this is what the problem is with your friend, I'm just saying, give her some space, and just talk to her...no body likes to feel uncared about. :-)

No...if he really liked you that much he'd break up with his girlfriend all by himself. Trust me. I have to keep telling myself this everytime I talk to the love of my life that has a girlfriend. :D

Ummm...does she seem unhappy with her boyfriend? If your answer is no, then back the hell off of her. Because you and your friends don't have to do anything with him, or talk to him or kiss him or anything. It's not your choice, it's hers. Maybe she sees something different that you don't. Sorry to be blunt...but just because ya'll don't like him doesn't mean she can't.

I personally think you should take the person that'll have the most fun.

I can't quote this perfectly...but I know the jist of it. You are only yourself, when you're by yourself. I sometimes even doubt that. But for the most part. I think it's true. You will be different around everyone. Seriously. It is part of who you are. You are different around everyone. For instance. My three best friends are completely different in every which way. One is serious and really deep. One is shallow and hyper and concieted. And one is self absorbed ad gorgeous. With one, we talk alot and tell each other what matters most. With another I pretend i'm pretty and strut down the side of the highway getting beeped at by strange men. And another I sit and listen to everything and give him advice, and acknowledgement. And I'd never do any of these things with anyone different. The point is. You are SO complex. You have SO many sides. You don't show them with everyone. As long as you aren't "pretending" with them...then you are being yourself, the only way you know how with that person. Your friend is wrong. She likes how you are with her. She just has to accept it. :D

Here's the question I bet everyone else has said to you... Why are you friends with her? And it is a good question. People in your life that make your life a giant hassle, aren't worth you being friends with. So here's my advice. Ignore her. She isn't worth it. And if you really mean that much to her, she will come crawling back to you.And I hope she has a pretty damn good apology, and a better attitude. People that arent worth your time of day...don't deserve to be called your friend.

It's a matter of changing really. Everyone goes through changes in their life. But if you don't change together...that is where you have the problem. Take into consideration that maybe this could be her now. (If you are sure it isn't, it would be a good thing to talk to her about how she is acting.) And here's another good thing: My best friend is black, and she's so white though. It's funny. But every once in awhile she has a "black moment" and I seriously can't be around her. If I don't have that option, I just ignore her. But I do tell her off, because I don't deserve to be treated that way, and neither do you. It is annoying. So unless you feel like getting on to her ALL the time, the best thing to do would be confront her about how you're feeling (Yes, I know this sounds bad, but it's true) Friendships only work if everyone knows what's going on. And if she still doesn't change, and you don't like the person she is anymore, maybe it's time to take a break from this friendship, and spend more time with people you can stand to be around, and that are more like you.

Listen to me. If a friend is a true friend, they forgive. He doesn't hate you. If you had this amazing bond like you say you did, (and cussing out isn't the worst thing in the world) He'll forgive you as long as you ask and apologize profusely.

One thing I need to tell you straight up, and you're just going to have to believe me. People that go around telling the whole entire world they're about to off themselves are doing it to get attention. I have no doubt that she hasn't hurt herself before. But know this, people that have true pain, you never know about it, because they don't tell.

People like this bring you down. Really. And this shouldn't be happening. You need to realize that this isn't just her life you should be worrying about. Yours is also on the line. Why would you want to waste life on someone like this? I do realize she is a close friend of yours. But if she were a true "close friend" she would realize that you have your own life, and your own friends. And this poor girl is paranoid. Make sure she knows that she means alot to you, and you'll always be there for her, but you have to get something back in return, or your friendship is going to suck. And then you are going to fill up with so much anger, and one day explode on her. And that, my friend, isn't going to be pretty. Because that will hurt her more than telling her upfront how you feel, and what is going on. So by doing this. You will be saving future tragedy. And if nothing improves, think about telling someone that is capable of getting her a therapist. Because someone that is trained in this type of thing will be much more able to help her than you will.

All you need to know.

1. I'm very good at giving advice.
2. Asking for advice is just reassurance for yourself.
3. Period.

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