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I'm Hallie. I'm really understanding, and love to help people. Feel free to ask me anything! I'll never be rude, unless you are asking questions that are agianst my beliefs, and you come across as totally selfish or just plain stupid. I wont answer questions that just go on and on about he said she said type of stuff. and i wont answer questions that are like "omgee, i need a personality! help me find one!" NO. thats gay, and ill just tell you to be yourself! PLEASE give me feedback. idont care about the rating, i just wanna know if i helped any!
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advice

so, my best friend, can treat me like DIRT.
i mean horrible. she's just sooo rude! what do i do? i mean i love her so much, and shes amazing. but when shes rude i dont know what to do! i just take it. beucase i NEVER want to loose her. i NEED HELP!
15fem.

You should definatly talk to her about it. Although you dont want to loose her as a friend, shes going to keep treating you that way intill she learns she cant do that to you. You have to let her know that you won't let her treat you like that, because shes probably just used to you wanting to be her friend and thats probably what she thinks, that you are always going to be there no matter what. That is a pretty good thing, because no friends are perfect, but if she really was your best friend maybe she could rethink of how she treats you.

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do you think that we dont realize how much a person meant to you until they are gone?
we dont realize how much a person meant to you until they are gone like for example when your friend is moving while your avoiding them because you dont wanna get hurt but next thing you know you getting hurt anyways? i mean i think if you distance yourself from that person or spend time with them hurts the same...dont you think? sorry im not good at english so its all mixed up

You don't relize how much people mean to you intill they are gone. Intill you see them at a distance and you only have memories of them. Its very weird, because when you are TOO close to people, than you get so sick of them, and it just causes drama. Familiar faces are way different than unfamiliar. But even no matter how annoying your friends might be, be there because you are their friend and you care about them. And of course, you never know when they will be gone. Also, Try to take breaks from friends, because, this way they wont drain you down. I hope to help.

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Yesterday I went up to the college I'll be starting in the fall. I registered for my classes and what not. There were other freshman there too. No one knew each other, but by the end of the day they were all talking with one another. I didn't say a word all day. No one said anything to me. I'm not saying it's all their fault. I should have spoken up and joined in the coversation, but I'm too scared I guess. I'd love to go up and start a conversation with someone, but I'm always worried they'll just look at me weird and wonder why I'm talking to them.

I'm not exactly shy, I'm just never the one to start a conversation, you know? I don't know where to start or what to talk about. On the other hand, if someone approached me, I'd talk with them no problem. So how can I fix this? I'm worried that if I wait for people to come to me I won't meet anyone. The whole reason I wanted to go away to college was so I could meet new people, but it's harder than I thought I guess.

Suggestions?

Although you may not think you are shy, you kind of are because you are afriad to go up to people and start talking. Dont worry about what people think, just go and say are you nervous for college too? or, what are you going to major in?

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ok i have a bunch of friends and i love hanging out with them but i dont somethings missing like the only preson i can totaly be myself around and that feel's like a totaly good friend is my sisters friend i know thats kind of weird but she started talking to me one day when my sister ahd this huge sleepvoer anywho she's the only one i can hangout with have fun with totaly trust and what not why cant i find anyone else thats like her cause i really like all my friends but like yeah this is really hard to explain because i dont even really get all of it please help thoguh if you can

Its really hard to fit in sometimes and find friends that are just right for you. All you can do is be yourself and hope to find some really good friends that love you for you.
Although you may not feel that you can be your complete self around your friends right now, thats perfectly normal. But you shouldnt have to be someone else.
Another thing is that different people, bring different parts of our personalities out... like, with your sisters friend, she might bring out a side that you like about yourself. and with your friends, its probably not the full you, but still, they are your friends.

I dont no if this makes since, but i mean there is a difference between close friends and just friends. and thats okay to have only a FEWW close friends that you can be your complete self around. like your sisters friend. hopefully you will be able to hang out with her more and stuff, and maybe you can hang out with her friends too.

But thats just how life is. Everyone only meets a few people in there lifetime that they feel like they can be there complete self around. and those are called best friends. thats why they say they are hard to find.

i really hope to help, and i hope im not jsut rambleing on and on about this stuff that doesnt make since hahaha. I tryed to understand the best i can, let me know if i helped! :)

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So hi! I am having a sleepover with my best friend when she gets back from vacation and I need some really good ideas to take her mind off of things. I've got a pool so we can swim and of course we'll watch movies, but, thats all I can think of. She has been through alot with some other friends and she complains that her summer sucks. I wish I could take her on a trip with my family but we can't afford it. So, anyone have any ideas of things we could do together to maybe cheer her up a bit?

I don't know if it means anything but we're both 16/F and she has her license already. But don't be so quick to suggest we drive somewhere because my mom may not be up for that. But feel free to list anything you think of, even if it involves driving.

Thanks Alot!

yall could get all dressed up and give eachother make-overs.. than go to the movies.. or out to dinner or something.
oorr make movies.. thats always funny.
or you can bake things because its always a fun experience lol.
try to be creative! and just be random!
im sure yall will have fun :)

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my friend is masically the coolest one in our little "group". Anyways, everyone loves the expressions she uses. She says things like "OH BABY" and "come on noww". Anyways, are there any expressions that I can use that are kinda cute/clever/funny? THANK YOU SO MUCH. %% thanks %%

be YOURSELF.

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i always THOUGHT i was outgoing, but people are telling me i'm boring and that's why i'm losing friends. well i really wanna be outgoing and likable and i miss my old best friend. i really wanna be BEST friends and do everything together but i dont know how to start. right now we talk a little bit but all we say is hi. how can i gradually get her to WANT to be my best friend?

i really need help. =/

Dont over think it. Just be yourself, and you shouldnt have to impress someone just to be there best friend. You probably arent boring, you are just different and not all crazy like everyone else wants to be. Im also like that, im not the most outgoing person, but i have other traits that people like. and i no exacly how you feel about loosing friends becuase ppl think your boring. its probably because you just dont click with the same people you used to, and its all apart of growing up and finding yourself.. but if you really want to be her best friend, focus on finding yourself first and your personality will come out. just be random and say wahtever you feel even if its weird ppl like that.. and just like ask questions too. people like when you are intrested in them.
i hope you understand what im trying to get across but really i hope to help!

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i wanted to send my old bestfriend a scrap book. ANd i wanted to put poems in there not sad ones but poems saying what happend and why did we grow apart ya know.. So if anyone has any good poem sites or ideas it would be very great thanksss

my friend one made me a book with all our inside jokes in it. it made me feel really good because it was personal.
maybe do like a list of inside jokes. and then at the end be like... thats why we are best friends/

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Well basically in my group of friends, I have always been that background girl. Out of drama, out of fights, the nice shy one of the group. Although that may sound pretty good, I'm also the one that gets overshadowed by EVERYONE. I never, ever get the attention from guys, I'm never the one that all the girls want to hang out with. Pretty much, I'm never in the spotlight. I'm so sick of hearing how my friends are jugglin like 4 different boys constantly, and I have a difficult time getting one, especially when guys must be crazy if they pick me over my friends (all my friends are absolutely gorgeous by the way) I've always acted like it never bothered me, but lately it's just been really getting to me, because my whole life this is the way its been, and just for once, I would love to get the attention even just for a slight second. I don't know...any thoughts or advice would be appreciated :-/

Trust me, guys are going to be drawn to you later in life. People get sick of people who try to be the center of attention all the time. Maybe the people you hang out with arent really your true friends if they dont want to always hang out with you. Try making a stand for yourself and finding other people who actrully respect you and will be there for you. Find the people you can be yourself around. and dont stress that much about not getting attention... because seriously the people who take the time to get to no you are the only opinions that should EVER MATTER! maybe being in the spot light isnt what you are destinated to do.. maybe its so much more... and you will get attention when you find people that TRUELY appreciate who you are...hope to help... and just dont worry about it becuase im sure you are a great person!

hope to help.

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sometime i feel lonely and friendless. i want to make more friends but its hard for me to talk to new people or i dont know what to say to them. im shy and quiet most of the time. i get more comfortable when i get used to them. where i work, i see alot of people everyday though. i want to be more hyper and talkative.

i know exacly how you feel. thats exacly how i am. but the thing is you have to get comfertible with youself and then you can get comfertible around other people. like im an introvert. andi talk better with people when im talking abuot intellectual things... just try to find pepole you have stuff in comman. dont try to change yourself. and its okay if you only have a few close friends... i hope this help. but the truth is im struggeling with the same thing so i dont really know the exact right answer

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Last year, I was quite popular. I made everyone laugh, I talked to anyone and everyone, and I always had people around me. I was totally confident with my life.

Then, this year, all the sudden, I lost my group of close friends because they all got into drugs and drinking. Since I no longer have my close friends, I'm the one walking up to people desperatley trying to start a conversation. I'm the one feeling alone. I don't walk with people anymore, I'm picked last for partners in class, and I'm always feeling left out.

How do I get back to my old life?

Maybe the question is,
how do i adjust to my new life maybe?

maybe you were ment to find someone else that was lonely.

also loneliness is just a growing thing. You find out who you really are without a bunch of people around you. you find who your real friends are, and although last year must have been great, you may even become a little more friendlier, and deeper as a person. because now you dont get everything handed to you, you ahve to work for things, and now you no waht its like to be the one left out in the dark. so therefore, like i said, maybe find someone else that feels the way you do. she might need it.

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ok so the past 6 months i found out who my real friends are and ended up with none, i still have friends but there not my real friends i mean i have fun with them but they would backstab me, and i cant just make friends that easly again. and theres so much stuff going on in my life riight now and i just need a friend to talk to who is loyal and someone i can hangout wiht someone who would understand me, because i cant make it threw this life on my own but all my friends now either wouldnt understand or would backstab me any ideas on just how to find the riight friend..

im kind of going through the same thing right now with my friends. i no i may not be an expert with this becuase im dealing with it myself, i just thought you would like to no that you arent alone. and trust me just remember when one door shuts another door opens. so just be patient and you will find someone, also try finding someone at your school you mite like to be friends with and be like hey do you wanna hang out sometime? and then jsut tell her your situation and sometimes people can be really understanding and helpful, she might even introduce you to her friends or something...
well hope this helps a bit.

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15/f. lately it seems like all of my friends have been ditching me. now i feel like i'm friendless. people don't call me to hang out or go anywhere. its like everytime i make a new friend they always either use me or ditch me. why do they always do this? is there anything i can do to make sure that my friends don't use me or ditch me?

thanks!

Mostly every girl feels like this at one point. the best thing to do mainly is to talk to one of your friends you feel the closest with. Kinda get to the heart of her you know? If she doesnt care to listen or if any of your friends dont care to listen or amke things change, i think you should start looking for a new group of friends that actrully care. After all, they probably arent worth it. And just remember to not take things to personaly because that really gets messy...most of the time girls dont even realize they are leaving people out.
hope this helps!

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