ok... so my friend doesn't want me to go out with this guy. shes gone out with him and so have i. but i really do like him. she says that hes an ass hole. but i dont think so. she said that he is only nice until he has you as his gf. and then he will ignore you. she told me that if i went out with him she wouldn't talk to me for a long time. he doesn't live here, he lives in another town. she says that he will cheat on me if i go out with him. im worried that he might. part of me wants to go out with him but part of me doesn't at the same time. he has told me that he likes me and i told him i like him to but he hasn't asked me out. does he really like me? should i go out with him and lose my friend?
Okay, here goes. It is very important for you to be with your friends and to be trustworthy with them all. I think if you really want to go out with this guy (we'll get to his personality in a minute) then you should be able to. Your friend isn't much of a friend if she's willing to sacrifice your friendship with her over a silly guy. Your friendship isn't worth much if she can actually do that. Go to her and talk to her about it. Ask her why she blackmailed you and why you can't have a shot at being his girlfriend and possibly seeing that he really isn't like that or changing him if he is. It just isn't fair for you to not get a chance. Be calm when you talk to her, make sure she understands that you really love her as a friend and don't want to lose her. Be nice about it. Now since he hasn't asked you out, you shouldn't be worrying so much if he'll cheat on you because nothing is going on yet. If he does ask you then i think you should go out with him. You need your chance to try it out with him, who knows, he could be "the one." And if he does ask you out, you will be able to tell if he truly does like you. If your friend is a true one, she'll let you give this relationship a shot. You shouldn't lose friends over a guy. And, if after all this, you still lose your friend. Move on, she wasn't worth it in that case. Friends are forever. Good luck.
-ally
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i have this friend who thinks she's like really hot, but she's isn't. whenever you're at the mall or w/e she always all "that guy is so staring at me" or "he is so checking me out", when the guy is staring at ME. how can i break it to her w/o wrecking our friendship?
it sounds to me as if you think ur really hott. yeah she may say things like "hes checking me out" but that's most likely wishful thinking. and you dont know for sure who he's looking at if you are sitting right beside her and next, what kind of a friend are you? you are basically calling ur friend ugly and thats not nice. before you look for other people's faults, look at your own. that's all i have to say. good luck
-ally
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I am a 14 year old girl and I have this guy friend that I've been really tight with since like 2nd grade. We were the only two to go from our elementary school to our middle school so we kind of had only each other for the first part of 6th grade. But over the years we've both really changed...him I'm afraid for the wrost. He's gone totally goth...I mean hardcore. Black EVERYTHING and "satan worshiping". Now I'm afraid he's doing drugs and seriously worshiping satan, not just joking. I mean we're still pretty tight, but he just doesn't seem to be able to tell me anything. I talk to him...and tell him just about everything, but he only jokes with me. and doesn't tell me the truth when I ask him directly. I just don't know how to approach him though. I tried today, but he wouldn't be home cuz he was going to his stoner friends house. And that worries me even more. I know, I'm rambling, but I'm really depress/worried about his future. He is really like the smartest person I know, but he's doing the stupidest things I've ever heard of. Hopefully you have some insight. and you might even know who this is....I just need help.
if this is who i think it is, well i'll answer the question as best as i can but you should talk to me directly about him. you see, i have absolutely no idea what there is to do. if he's on to satan worshiping now *i dint know that* then i'm really scared for him cuz it seems hes too far gone. do his parents or your parents know about everything he's doing? are they doing anything about it? the best i think you can do is just be his friend and steer him right when you see he's going the wrong way. he's just lost his way, with you being as good a friend as you are, its likely he'll turn back at some point. talk to me sometime about..outside the column. bye
:)
-Ally
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Hi JennaRESPECTS i am really upset. Im really worried that my best friend is avoiding me. I dont want to ask her because i dont want her to get mad at me. But i dont know what to do to find out if she is or not. what should i do? Help me please.. she means ALOT to me. I love her alot. Thanks so much!
Sincerley,
Confused and Worried.
My real name is alli.. but thats how i feel
Hey my name is alli too sept its spelled ally. Anyway, what you need to do is like ask her if she wants to do stuff with you, like come to your house or go to a movie or something and if she says no to the majority of it, then yeah she prolly is avoiding you so you then need to ask her if there is anything wrong. She could be mad at you, something could be going on in her family, anything could have happened if you find out she truly is avoiding you. That's why you need to confront her to see if she's alright. just say hey, are you okay? We haven't been hanging out much lately and i was wondering whats up? Don't just burst out ur avoiding me. That will get her upset. Good luck.
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ok well my friend Christine says stuff about me and my other friend behind our backs and we hate it so we asked her why and now she says she didn't say anything when tones of pplz tell us she said stuff what should I say to her to make her spill out the truth or should I stop being friends with her??
if you know for sure it's true i think it's time for ur friendship with christine to end. She's obviously not a very good friend and doesn't deserve to be treated like one. Don't stoop to her level, don't talk about her behind her back just...well it's time to stop being friends with her. Friendships come and go. Good luck with what you choose to do. Ttyl
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Ok, well i have this friend who always tells rumers about me! i hate it and i always tell her how i feel, but everytime i tell her she goes and tells another rumer! what should i do?! help me please!
signed.
Losing a friend?
if she tells everything you say to her then she's obviously not a good friend. You need to be careful what you say to her. Talk to her sure but make sure you are always cautious and make sure what you say to her is something you don't care the rest of the world knows. I'm going through the same thing as you are. If you wanna stay friends with her then do what I do. I don't like losing friends so I just keep being their friend but am different in how I am with them. Watch your back because any thing you say or do could be used against you. (in a court of law. haha cop shows)sorry about the joke..lightening things up. Good luck.
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i just moved from new york to virginia. im going into 9th grade and into a new high school. ive been with my friends in new york ever since pre-k and now im scared to make new ones.. what should i do?
The best thing you can do is be yourself. Go out there are talk to people don't act like a new kid in town. Act like you were there until pre-k and just kick it! You'll be just fine..find some people to walk up and talk to then do it. The only way to make friends is to talk to them. You can't wait for them. good luck.
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I live in a small town in Illinois. You know, where the corn and stuff is. Anyway, the only places we have to "hangout" is the movie theatre, ice rink, and a local pool. Other than that, we have nothing. Going to the same three places gets very boring, any hangout ideas for small towns?
well i dont know why i'm answering this cuz I live in South Dakota but i know you don't need hot spots to have fun. you can do anything with your freinds anywhere and have fun. Trust me you are in paradise compared to me.
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okay i have this friend and sometimes i cant stand her!!! me and my other 2 bestfriends have told her why we get mad at her all the time she said she would change but of course she didnt...i dont know why i cant tell her that i dont think we should be friends...but i think because if im not friends with her...her bestfriend kelly wont be friends with me
you see...to be a friend you need to accept them for who they are..right? well if you want to make a friend you want to be yourself around them dont you? you want them to like who YOU are doncha? Well, i do. And since you can't accept her you need to tell her. I know her best friend won't like you but it's HER best friend. Not yours. If you are going to cut her from your life you need to cut her all the way from your life. It's only fair and I know life isn't fair but that's why people are in the world...we're here to make it as fair as possible. do the right thing.
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my friend cuts herself because of her ex-boyfriend...ive tryed to tell her not to. she cuts herself all over her body except her wrists. and when her parents ask her what happens she makes up excuses like she ran into something, fell... i dont know what to do!
-signed help my friend out!-
I REALLY NEED HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
this is serious buisness. self-mutilation is a very bad and dangerous habit and needs to be stopped. i think you should tell your parents or talk to your friends parents about whats happening and if they dont believe talk to someone whos an adult that will believe it. if you cant take care of this by yourself than that is your best bet. thats pretty much all you can do and exactly what i would do even if i swore to God i wouldnt tell. its the right thing to do. good luck!
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