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Hello. Im asking advice today for a stupid little problem i have, but im not sure if there is any way i could control it. If im in school, or with my friends, or whatever (by the way im 14), when they mention "mom" or "dad", or "family", my eyes start to water and i just about cry. Not the "WAA-WAA" kind, it is just the red face, tears coming down and stuff, no squeaking or any of that crazy stuff. I cant say anything about parents or anything. When i talk about my family when someone asks, my voice gets shaky and i choke, and it makes me very uncomfortable because crying in front of the class isnt really a fun interest. I cry because my family has...problems. I just feel like i want either them or me to die. I feel like i hate them so much. Its not some "im mad at them because they took away my cell phone" kind of thing. Its more of a love issue. Im seeing a therapist but that is not working, she's not changing them. Well, in a nutshell, whenever someone talks about their parents, and when i talk about mine, i cry. Umm, i hope someone can help me with this, if its possible. Thank you. (link)
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well im really sorry that you are having problems with your family and no that isnt stupid because no question is stupid unless you are trying to be stupid about it and i would need more details to really help you so just drop one in my box
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my mom is constantly telling me tha ti am fat... i never thought that i was before but now that my mom keeps saying it i am begininng to think that i am.. i dont want to loose weight becasue i am happy wiht the way i look but my mom doesnt get that. i am 5 foot 3 and 195 pounds but i knwo i dont look it because i do have alot of leg adn arm muscle. i dont knwo if i shoudl tell my mom to stop or jsut loose the weight to amek her happy even thought it wont matter to me... please help (link)
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dont listen to your mom...if you dont want to loose weight and you are comfortable with your weight then just tell your mom that and dont think you need to loose weight and wut a bitch...y would she tell her own kid they r fat!
xox ash xox
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my brother just hit me so bad and it was for like no reason my whole face started bleeading he took a shoe and started hiting me with it and started pulling my hair i hate him so much..i was so close 2 calling the cops but i just couldnt wat should i do i really started hating him! (link)
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well if you are being abused by your brother you need to tell your parents and if they dont do anything about it tell an aunt or an uncle bcuz no1 has the right to abuse you like that...i hope your okay! if it happens again when ur mom n dad arent home i would go to a neighbors house and knock on the door and try to get away from your brother...if u have another question just drop it in my box!
xox ash xox
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what do i do here...
i wish that my parents would get a devorce at
points. there a very unlikely couple i guess u could say and i really dont like my dad that much...he walks around with no shirt on, beer belly, and the house that we moved into i have to walk through there room to get to my room and its really annoying when i have friends over. my parents get into fights a lot and i go into my room and cry and my mom thinks im stupid for doing that, like she thinks i exagerate. in the summer my mom just works on the weekends and leaves me home with my brother and dad which i hate. my dad will buy me practically anything i want-cellphone, trampoline but i think he just gets me all this stuff bc he thinks i love him more or something. and i feel worse for my brother bc he has to put up with even mor eof his crap. i so scared im going to grow up like my dad or something. please help...tell me, am i being a brat? (link)
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well it sounds like you dont get along with your dad and if they do end up divorcing then you most likely wont end up w/ him...and about ur mom...well i would just say screw her...i mean...it sounds like shes a real well u know...and about the house situation...you should try to talk to both your parents about it and just tell him that you dont like how the rooms are arranged and if they could maybe look for a new house and sell this one soon...and no1 wants their parents to get a divorce...but if they do...IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT...and dont think that it is! oh and if your mom tells you to stop crying just tell her mom i am crying bcuz of you and dad not getting along and just be like i want yall to get along and be happy so i wont have to be sad all the time! and see what happens! good luck n let me know if i can help u!
xox ash xox
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~*Hey I have this problem with my cuzin. She is now 14. She thinks she is better than every1 else...she even told me that once. She dresses like a slutt...most ppl call her 1. She wears skirts that don't cover her a**, and shirts that go just bellow her breasts. Every where I go wit her guys r always starring. She always brings me down, and told me that she was ready to have sex!!! She is turning anirexic(food disorder). I wish I could help her. All she does is tell me how much she thinks I wanna be like her. I just don't understand I love and care for her and she treats me like this. I've tried asking her whats wrong, and she just calls me a loser and walks away. Pls help wit my problem*~ (link)
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if you know she is turning anorexic then you do need to get her help! you can go to websites that have support groups and help centers but also about the whole 'slut thing' you can always just ask her if when she is with you if she would dress more uhm...modestly i guess is the word...and just tell her that it makes you feel akward when she dresses like she does...oh and she is only 14 she is not ready to have sex...next time she says that just say so youre sayin that if u had sex n got pregnant you would be ready to have the baby and be a mom full time??? and see what she says...that should change her mind...but if u need nething else just drop one in my box!!!
xox ash xox
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ok my sister's boyfriend just got into a fight with his mom. and now hes not living with his parents anymore. my sis doesnt want him to end up like my sister which did the same thing and never came back. so i think she just went with her boyfriends mom somewhere. and if he comes by wut do i tell him? or if he calls do i tell him wut is going on? idk cuz my sis sounded pretty serious about it and sed that i couldnt tell him anything. but wut should i do?!?!?! plz help
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well if your sis asked you not to tell him anything then i would say that you should respect her choice and not tell him anything but when she does ask you if you have any ideas you can tell her that her boyfriend can always go back to his mom. she is his mom and no matter what she loves him and even if she said she didnt she does and so just tell your sis that but respect her and her boyfriends privacy and dont do anything to make her mad at you b/c she is prolly pretty stressed out right now! tell me if u need nething else
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ever since summer started its been problem after problem. i guess its keeping me busy n itz better happening now the during school. but i dk. i break down at night n crym y self 2 sleep its getting bad but im the kinda person that can deal with alot happening but i dont like it. i dont know i think im really confused about wut to do n i need help. (link)
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Hmmm...there are alot of things you can do. You can ask around the neighborhood and see if anyone needs their car washed, their dog watched, their kids babysat, simple stuff like that! Then you can buy a few school clothes with the money you make if your parents can't buy you any. I know it sounds really bad, like you have to buy your own clothes. But when it really comes down to it. You need clothes and thats a way to get them. And when school starts, ask the counselor to help you out. They really can do alot even though it may not seem like it. They can get your parents help with money and stuff like that...but meanwhile...try to talk to your mom or dad and just say that maybe you can have a few dollars every week and if you save up enough you will be able to buy some more clothes. but i would be glad to help you out some more so if you do want me to then just type it in on my advice column!!!! i really hope you arent so stressed out!!
xox ash xox
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Both of my great grandma's just died. I went out shopping with my best friend all day yesterday after going to a doctors appointment with her dad. I feel terrible about not helping my dad with the funeral stuff... Should I feel bad? (link)
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no dont feel bad...you and your dad are going through a very rough time right now and you should be able to feel sad and just know that they went to a better place and that everything happens for a reason...if your dad really needed your help and thought that you shouldve helped him he most likely would have said something to you but dont feel bad...your emotions are going crazy right now and you dont need that problem on your shoulders to so just dont feel bad...good luck and im very sorry about your loss
xox ash xox
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I've been having problems with my dad lately ... well now that I think about it i've always had these problems. Sense my parents got divorced when I was like one I've only seen him everyother weekend. I used to hate it and lately i've been wishing I'd never see him. He always seems busy, and when hes not he always seem to be judging people, and mostly me. He won't let me have certian piercing because he think they will make me a bad kid ... he honestly said that! He also said he'd be embarresed. I've just started to learn he doesnt realize im growing up, I just can't stand him sometimes, he makes thing seem like there always my fault, and I just feel really uncomertable around him, like I can't be myself, and he doesn't know me so hes always asking me questions about drugs and stuff, I just don't know what to do, ive tried to tell him not to judge me to get to know me, and i've told him im growing up and he needs to accept it, i evenasked him to respect me because he didn't act like it. And after he seemed like he felt bad, but it didnt last long. Any advise would help thanks aton! (link)
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Hi. Well i my parents recently went through a divorce and i was in the opposite situation...i had problems with my mom...the same problems you have with your dad...and what helped me was to know that my dad would always be there for me to talk just like your mom WILL ALWAYS be there for you...she loves you...and your dad does to...you just cant see it right now...but dont get to frustrated...you might say something you will really regret later in life...just remember he loves you and try to talk to him calmly and ask him if he can let you grow up and tell him that you love him even if you dont think you do...i hope that helps
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