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Im melissa and im 16 living in Illinois. I'm very good at advice and i will try my best to help you as much as i can! I will give you advice that i think is right and appropriate. I will answer any question of any category.(: Thanks.
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first of all thanks for helping me on this!
im not sure about talking to my mum about cos she doesnt really like talking about it much...otherwise i looked in a phone book and i think i found their number so i secretly called it and a woman picked up and said hello "mrs.smith(this is not their real surename)speaking"so i kindda panicked and said it was a wrong number so i hung up.should i call back?btw i really want facebook but my mum doesnt want me to but i think i might create a secret one.also they live in france(my mum is french)and i live in the uk so i dunno...
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i am so sorry but i answer a lot of these a day and im not sure what your story was about again! can you please refresh my memory and resend the question! im really sorry about thaat!
& i will be willing to help! thankss!:)
melissa.
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its all started out of my mom saying that I'm not a perfect daughter to her, and i told her so many times that i cant be a perfect daughter to her.
she got mad at me and after a couple of days i apologize to her, then went to green bay with my boyfriend.
I'm guessing she got mad at me, she was thinking that i only apologize to her so i can go with my boyfriend, but its not true.
she is trying to break my relationship with my boyfriend and I'm not liking that.
i know my mom is worried about my past because i was married once, but i mean if she except every guy that i date is going to failed me, then why am i even with a guy.
that's what makes me so mad at her is because she doesn't understand me at all.
i apologize to her because i loved her and didn't want that awkwardness between us, but i guess she didn't understand that.
so not she is not talking to me and i was fine not talking to her too, but she cut off my cell phone line cause she pays it.
i mean i don't know what to do, right now I'm having evil thoughts saying that i should pay back because i don't want to talk to her either.
i know I'm not that mean towards my mom and i don't plan to do anything to her.
but right now i felt like she hates me so much that she is willing to take away everything from me.
what do you think i should do? (link)
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i know this is going to be very short haha but if you want me to just message me and i can go into complete detail or message me if you have any questions...
but what i would do is everything you wrote on here, tell your mom, but in a nice way. if shes being mean to you and starts yelling DONT yell back and DONT give attitude, just truly listen and shake your head and continue on what you want to say and try to come to a conclusion!
thats what i would do if i were in this situation! :)
hope i helped... at least a little!
good luck!
melissa.
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I found out yesterday that my aunt had a miscarriage and that she was in the hospital getting the fetus removed. I know it's been really hard for her especially because she had some trouble getting pregnant before that. I really want to do something to comfort my aunt because I know she needs it. Is there anything that I can say or do that might make her feel a little better? (link)
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DON'T keep bringing it up! right now it would probably be best to comfort her and be there for her, in a way that makes her laugh. try to tell jokes (not about pregnancy or anything) but maybe blonde jokes or something really funny, tell your family you guys should all go out to eat or do something together. try to get her mind off of it. the worst thing you can do right now is to keep bringing it up... it might make her feel even worse.
i hope i helped, if you have any more questions just message me!
i hope everything goes well, and i hope your aunt feels better! im truly sorry for her loss!
God Bless her! :)
melissa.
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ok well my mum grew up never seeing or knowing her father because when she was born he father left her mother and her mother remarried.as a kid she never got told that her mum's husband wasnt her real father.she found out when she was twelve and saw her real fathers name on her birth certificate.she met up with her real father once but isnt in contact anymore.her father had 3 other kids in which 2 my mum has contacted years ago but has never seen them.all of them also have kids(my step cousins!)and one of them is the same age as me...
i really want to meet them or atleast be in contact with them!they're my cousins!
how can i find a way to contact them?? (link)
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well maybe ask your mom if she has your number and ask her how she met up with him. ask her your wondering on meeting her dad and your cousins! just let her know how you feel.
maybe try finding them on facebook or something and adding them and chatting and try to find time to meet up and get together!
i hope i helped! good luck, hope everything works out. if you haver anymore questions just message me
melissa! :)
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Melisa123 my sister Tori is 6 years old and she is really bad. She hits me, kicks me, bites me and alot more. What do I do. My family and I are sick of it. She has been like this forever!!!! I need help. I tried to ignore but that just make it worse! I need help!!!!!! I am Taylor. Age 10 and I am a girl. (link)
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well if i were you i would talk to your parents about it and tell them to punish her. yell at her and try to scare her to never do it again! give her a spanking or something or pretend to do something really bad if she does it again!
she is little and she doesn't really understand things like that!
if she des this to you give her a really dirty look and DONT do this put pretend your going to punch her or slap her to frighten her. once you scare her, she wont do it again! :) (but dont hurt her! spankings from your parents are fine but none other!)
hope i helped! if you have any other questions just ask!! :)
melissa123
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growing up not having my dad around really messed me up. he never told me he loved me and as a result to that I have been on a search for love ever since. Ive been with all kinds of guys who abused me mentally physically and emotionally. I have been heart broken so many timetimes... How do I get over the whole "i neef love" phase ?
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well if you think about it... life isn't all about love! your only 18 and you still have your whole life in front of you! don't go after guys just because you miss your dad or you miss his love. if you lived without him however long or he never said "i love you" to you, im sure you can live with it more! it may hurt, but he doesn't know what he's missing!
you're his daughter, his little girl! i'm sure he will always remember that!
when my mom was little, her dad never showed up! he always said he would be there and my mom would watch out the window waiting for him and he never came, until she just forgot about it! yeah she missed him and wondered why all of this happened... but you can't change it!
my mom dies when i was in 2nd grade! yeah i used to cry but if you really think about it.. no matter how much you cry, it's never going to change the fact of what it is!
if you know where your dad lives or anything, take him out to dinner or something and talk serious about all of it! tell him how you feel. tell him EVERYTHING! i really hope everything goes well!
but im sure A LOT of people love and care about you!
good luck!(: hope i helped
if you have any questions ask!(:
melissa.
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We want to do a party for a 15 year old but she really doesn't care about things so we don't know what topic type party we should give her. (link)
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any favorite colors? you can maybe put the table clothes a cute color that you think she would like. tomboy colors if shes a tomboy or girly girl colors if shes a girly girl. and then just decorate with cute happy birthday and 15 year old signs and make homemade signs also. maybe put her picture up saying happy birthday or something haha.
hope i helped. good luck!(:
if you have any questions askkk(:
melissa
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So my uncle has me watching the children for the week because they don't have to go to summer camp. Problem is he won't let me put them in front of the TV. All day so I need to know what to do with them. They were 8 and 6 (link)
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play a board game, make an ice cream sundae for them, sing and dance and act goofy and funny to entertain them, tell funny stories, take a walk, go to the store and buy them something, if one of them is a girl, paint their nails or do their hair, go on a walk and somewhere nice take pictures of them, bring them to the pool, buy a slip n slide and have them play in there, water balloons fight, a little pool, .. haha theres a lot of things to do with them!
have fun, hope i helped, good luck!(:
if you have any questions feel free to ask!(:
melissa.
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In the past few years, I started listening to many types of music including hip hop and rap. I found out that I really enjoy listening to Eminem, but my dad is especially close minded about him. I know that he has some bad songs, but I believe that he is still a good person and does have some meaningful songs. How can I get my parents to understand my point of view of Eminem even if I am a Christian? (link)
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i was the same way! i dont really listen to rap, my sister does though. maybe try to talk to your dad and say something like i know you dont like him but i do, can i listen to it if you dont hear, maybe go in your room with the door closed or something.
and if he doesnt like you listenng to it period, then you will have to listen to him because then he will just get more mad,
good luck, try to talk to him and i hope everything goes well, hope i helped(:
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My mom and I have always had a friend relationship and she has always left me for someother guy and doesn't ask to see me that much and she alway text me about her life and hardly asks about mine and just a few days ago me and her got in a fight and she cused at me calling me a B**** and that I was a spoild little brat and all I said is that I was made cus she left and has non of her kids and she still calls herself a mom and she always lied to me and tryed to play it off and i am feed up with it is it ok to hate your mom for all the shit she has put me in? Please help the more help I get the better.
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well she is your mom and you should try to respect her no matter what.
if i was in your position i would bring my mom out to dinner or something and talk everything over but dont tell or give additude because it will fuel the fire even mmore.
tell her how you really feel and dont make a joke about it. have good points on what you want to talk about, but no matter how much you talk you can NEVER change a person, be respectful and tell her how you feel.
i hope everything goes well, good luck!(:
maybe say something like this to her:
“The word “mommy” is not defined by whether or not a woman has a biological child. You can never produce a child and be a mommy, likewise you can have 20 kids and never be a “mommy.” A mommy is a woman who cares for a child’s both physical and emotional needs ahead of her own. A true mommy is hard to come by, but a truly special thing.”
i know i dont have much on this but i hope i helped, good luck!(:
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I'm twelve years old and my sister is fifteen years old. I also have two other sister.Me and my fifteen year old sister are always fighting she always teases me and then I yell at her. We just never seem to get along. How do I stop? I don't want to be hating her when I'm and adult. (link)
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i have the same problem as you but i learned how to deal with it. when your sister says saomething bad about you, i wouldnt even give a smart comment back, i would ignore her and walk away, dont yell back because if you do, shes going to know your getting mad and do it even more.
f sshe says something like " your ugly" then just laugh at it and say "thanks" and walk away but dont be rude and dont let it get to you
and thers always karma.
dont let her get to you and ignore her, you guys are 3 years apart, if she keeps bothering you and teasing you, shes the baby, be the older person and ignore her.
hope i helped and good luck!(:
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Is it ok to love your cousin? I dont mean everyday love love i mean like in love with him?Would I ever be able to have a normal relationship with him? (link)
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in my opinion i dont think it's right to love your cousin in that kind of way. he's family... you know? i would stick with nonfamily relationships.(: hope i helped.!(: and good luck try to stick with non family haha.:)
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