My sister has loads of anger problems and for the past six years she has caused a lot of tension in our family. During this time I've always been the 'good one' but recently my Dad has been taking things out on me more and more. I admit that I'm not always as well behaved as I should be, but it's not like I'm worse than any other average teen. Now even when I haven't done anything wrong my Dad will be unreasonable and start shouting and swearing. I always try and be mature and walk away from the situation then come back and talk things through calmly later but 9 times out of 10 he will refuse to admit that he has been wrong and usually he won't even listen to what I have to say.
I know that he's under a lot of stress from work and my sister which has also put his relationship with my Mum has been put under strain but I'm finding it increasingly hard to deal with it. It's got to the point where I'll say something completely politely and innocently and he'll start yelling and cause a huge family argument for no reason.
What can I do? I've tried talking to him, my Mum and my sister many times but it makes no difference. We've also completed several sessions with a family counciller but that only made things worse.
you should not be so harsh in your rating
we are trying to help you
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When i was 6 i was put up for adaption..and i lost touch with all of my brothers and sisters. Well one of my 5 siblings was also put up for adaption after me. I recently found her on myspace and i sent her a message..and im nervous like she was on today and i sent her a message but she dosent answer its like she dosent even care..what should i do??
much lovee
lila
you never mentioned she was put for adoption when she was seven, so i hardly understand why you thought it was okay to wreck my rating.
whatever it's not that big of a deal. good luck with your sister. she was probably just set back a bit so give her some time and be patient, and you know how myspace is maybe she didnt get it.
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ok so this is part of a im that me and my bf had:
cutisammy:i think we should take somee timee off..
jeffinthe313:nope.
cutisammy:wut do you mean no? you cant just say no
jeffinthe313:i mean if we break up i will kill mi self so no
cutisammy:umm..sorry that you feel that way but uhh i really think we should have a break
jeffinthe313:bitch if you break up with me ill kill u then me..so dont fuckin think twice!
jeffinthe313:r you still breakin up wit me?
cutisammy:i g2g
woah. he like flipped out on me and he never did that before..i dunno what to do and im not goin to the po po (unless i really have to so please dont say that i should!)
ill rate 5s for anything!!
mucho love
oh yeah and my sn is CutiSammy and his is Jeffinthe313..lol just so you know!
Before you reject my advice i want to tell you that i once had an abusive bf. And he was absolutely wonderful all the time, unless i upset him then he went off the wall. First it started off when i got mad and tried to break up with him, he verbally abused me and i thought about telling somebody or really getting away from him but i remembered he was always really good to me before this so i blew it off, he said he was just upset. RThen overtime if i upset him, it got worse. He would threaten me, verbally abuse me, but he always appologized and promised he would never hit me or hurt me. Then one day he tried to push my off of a high railing and when he failed, pushed my down 2 stories of stairs. I broke my arm, anle, and had bruises all over. I was 15. [im 15 now still, but it happened 8 months ago] So please do not think this will not happen to you, that he is always sweet, if he really meant this then he has issues you have to separate yourself from, because these issues are real.
this really is not normal, in fat it is downright scary. But before taking any action be sure to talk to him in person and ask if he is serious, or tell him again you want to break up with him or "take soem time off". observe his reaction and if it is the same, you an't help him. To really mean that means he has serious mental issues and it is important that you understand that you cannot help him. It is important to take this conversaton as proof and go to the social worker's office at your school. This is the only thing you can do to handle this safely. But remember, before any course of action talk to him in person, eye to eye.
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I just got in a huge fight with my sister. It started out as me being jealous of how she looked in her bathing suit. (really good! which I do not look) But then she started being really mean to me anyways. What should I do? And please don't tell me to tell ym sister I am soooo sorry and that I love her because she is not the mushy type at all. Thanks! -twistedsister17
leave her alone for a while and let the fight fade, don't be in her way but if she talks to you then don't ignore her! if she says something rude, don't respond. offer her ice cream on you or do her a favor (like do some of her chores or something) i'm sure it will all work out and be back to normal soon. good luck*
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i just got my nose pierced and i dont like it. how do i turn this around and make it look like it was my moms fault?
you can say you weren't sure but your mom convinced you
you were just kidding but then she actually took you!
you lost a bet with your mom
you were tryin to get back at her but she actually let you ???
you didnt want to but you thought she already paid and you didnt want to make her think you were a wimp, peer pressure!!! hahaha.
she makes you insecure so you wanted a change?? psh i dno this is very hard.
i hope i helped, lol sry i couldnt give you more
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i really hate my dad.
no, really.
i sincerely dislike the man.
i am incredibly opinionated and very vocal about my opinions, which he hates.
i know i am smarter than him, he hates this also.
he yells at me for no reason often. condemning my use of the computer. stating that i'm on it too much.
my sister, on the other hand, watches TV all the time. he says i lack social skills because i'm on the computer "too much."
he's not around when i'm not on the computer and doing other things.
but yet i am still on the computer too much according to him.
i fight back all the time, but i hate it. i hate him.
i cant stand this anymore.
i want out.
due to his working situation i dont see him except for some weekends. (my parents arent divorced).
when he tries to punish me, he fails. he really cant. i have more power than he does in our family.
i'm 14, extremely mature and intelligent, if i do say so myself.
i dont want to kill him (in my head i do, on paper it doesnt look so good) but i'd like some way to come to peace with him.
i am NOT going to shut up and stop being opinionated however.
any advice on what i should do?
well, since you have stated you have more power then him, he feels threatened. your intelligence scares him, knowing his little girl doesn't look up to him and need him anymore. your opinions are proof of this. do not stop speaking out, it is his issue if he doen't like it. it's america, speak your mind. also, you being online is feeding you mind of more knowledge, he may not be completely comfortable with that. but yet again, his problem, not yours. but maybe have friends over on weekend when you see him, fun for you and he is assured you do have a social life. you knowing that you are smarter, although, may be true, shows arrogance. many people absolutely intollerate arrogance and find it annoying, toning down the "im smarter then you" will definantly help. but most of all, ask him for help on your homework one day if he's not busy, although he probably won't show it because of hi stupid pride, he will feel needed and maybe cut down on the hateful words. your dad obviously has issues, and never blame yourself for these. and by the way, killing him will never solve your problems. you are smart and have a future, murder will wreck any chance of a life for you. i hope i helped, and good luck.
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Ok so when I was six (i am 18 now) my mom died from Multiple sclerosis (MS), I never really knew her because she suffered alot of the years when I was young with MS and she could hardly communicate and move and do things, I have a few vivid memories of her but nothing really happy. (one memory was she asked me to get her something from the cupboard because she was in a wheel chair and to weak to do it and i couldnt hear her or understand and we both ended up being mad because of it) Well for my whole life I have never really had a motherly figure or knew how to be a girl like the other girls my age , like i try being really girly and do make up and such but i cant do it, my older sister was never really around much to help ... like i get upset all the time and I feel that I am never going to be a normal person because I was "abandoned" like... when I have children i will have NO idea what to do, like my boyfriends sister just had a kid and i was trying to change his diaper and a 12 year old but in and was like "this is to big of a job for you" . I am always upset over the fact that I have had no mother and am totally jealous of everyone who has had an easy life growing up with a mom. I guess i am asking what should i do to gte over this? And please no one respond with "get over it loser" blah blah... i dont want to hear it, i just want to know what someone else would do in this situation.
Not everyone with a mother has an automatic sense of girliness. you are not abnormal, many people are just like that. it's ok, there are always classes you can take before becoming a mother. But for now, be yourself. you shouldn't try and change for others. and if you truely want to be gilry, ask a friend to teach you how to put on make up, or ask a girlfriend to go shopping with you to pick out some cute clothing. i learned all my make up tips and clothing style from my friends, and so can you.
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When I was 8, my grandfather died of cancer. It is now 6 years later and I still am extreamly upset about it. I was very close to my grandpa, I always remember him joking around with me. He'd always tap me on the head when I wasn't looking and then I'd turn around and he'd be looking around pretty much making it obvious that he did it. He'd always give me money even if I didn't ask for it and he was just a very happy grandpa. The night I found out he died, I was devistated. I was in my room listening to music and I heard the phone ring but didn't think much of it. My mom called me and my brother into her room and she told us to sit down. She looked a bit shakey but I still didn't think much of it. She held my hand and looked at me and said Papa (that's what we called him) just passed a way. And I looked at her in disbelief. I was in too much shock to even cry. Once I started crying I coudln't stop. I fell asleep crying, I woke up crying and I cried for the next 4 days straight. This happened six years ago and I'm still upset about it. Everytime I go to my grandma's house and I see his pictures I cry. Can anyone help me? It's been 6 years and I'm still not over his death. Please help.
there is absolutely nothing wrong with this, i personally am not over my great grandmother noni's death. but here are some ways to cope: do not think of him as "gone" but more as in heaven
he didn't leave you, he is there, watching over you always. Also, you need to realize he doesn't want you to still be dwelling over him, he led a good life. he wants to see you enjoying life as he did. do you really want him looking down to see you are wasting your life on his account? well, i wish you the best of luck,
PinkLady4863
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Well my sister for the first time met my boyfriend and then when we were all talking (my sister, my boyfriend, and me) he touched my hand, *not a big deal right?* well to my sister it was so. . . that night my sister went on aim and told him not to touch my hand infront of her my sister is 28 and shes acting WAY over protective!! help please what do i say to her to not make her feel im making my self like "older" then her!!!!!! i'll rate high
calmly sit her down and tell her,"i know you care bout me, but you need to loosen your chain a little. I'm getting older, and i would never do anything stupid you know that." explain if she doesnt loosen up, you won't be able to trust her or tell her stuff anymore becaus you feel she won't understand
lotz o' luv,
PinkLady4863
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Okay, I have been sick for almost a week now, I have really bad diarrhea and I can't keep any food down! Everytime I eat it comes up, I even took three bites of a yogurt and it came up. My mom refuses to take me to the doctor and I am starting to feel weak. i usually get dehydrated really easily and now when i drink it doesnt stay down either. My mom keeps an attitude towards me when i tell her what is going on and she says she cant afford to take me to the doctor, WHAT DO I DO?
you need to sit down and calmly tell your mother, you don't just have the flu, you are seriously sick. you need to tell her that you are dehydrated and beginning to feel extremely weak. (exagerate if u need 2) tell her that a simple dehydration could easily lead to death and other serious illnesses. explain that if you don't see someone, you may die or be internally harmed! just ask her if your life is worht the money. She will most likely brush it off, but dnt let her, tell her it is serious!
get well soon,
Pinklady4863
P.S. you could try n' raise money. i will certainantly make a donation if you truely need it.
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