My name Is Kittzen, i have a fresh personalty and i never get old on you. i enjoy to have fun and i will love to help you with your life. got any questions for me just ask and i will answer. i have no problem being myself and i love to do anything crazzy and wild but always have time to be serious. don't worry I'll do my best to help you and i will never try to let anyone down. think what you want about me but that doesn't always make you right.don't let these pretty pink words fool yaa, i am no girly girl!
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k my mother met this guy some time through a friend but i never met him. while we were in memphis she was going to go out to the club with him and spend the night at his house and she didnt even ask me if i was ok with it ( i was going to stay with my cousins). then the next night she was going to stay over there again but i got sick so she didnt go. and now he is coming into town and staying at our house and im not ok with it at all. i mean she divorced my dad when i was six and i cannot have some strang man sleeping in my house. i'm not ready to meet him yet at all so i volunteered to sleep at my grandmas but my mother said she was going to have him sleep in his truck after i suggested it. my question is if she says they are just friends why is he going to be sleeping in our house. and why do i feel like i cant trust a man in my house at night. ( i tend to stay up until they leave then go to sleep) i hope you can help because i know this question probably made no sense i am just so uncomfortable right now (link)
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If i were you i would try talking about this to your mother this may help. i think you have a problem with guys staying over in your house because you don't know them or what they would do. so buy a lock and put it on your door and even try to get to know the guy first hand. this may clear up the trust problem with them. try to think back to when you first got this problem and why, thinking back could help you find the problem and a easy way to fix it.
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I know it's a weird question. But I have a summer assignment that asked me that. But my family hasn't really impact my life. I need some ideas. How have your guys' family impacted your lives? (link)
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well every family impacts a person's life. it just hard to see or realize. when your young your family shapes you into the person you are good or bad. if their not are around, around to much, or very controlling that changes your life just a little in some way. but like i said it's hard to see.
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19 year old female
my name is Rachel and my mom and i are not getting along very well right now in fact it seems like we are always getting into verbal fights so to keep from fighting with mom i moved into my 38 year old cousins home and here's the problem i have now even though i moved out of my mom's house we still end up getting into fights over the phone so here's what we are fighting about now. Iam learning disabled and i have some physical disablities that disable me from working i was in special edecation when i was in highschool i have graduated last may. i will give you a small description of what some of my disabilities are.
1.I have attention deficience disorder and i also have attention deficeience hyperactive disorder.
2.I also have bipolar which cause me to get angry and upset over very little situations.
3. I also have a disorder that is called an essential trimmer which causes me to shake when i get upset.
4.I also have poor motor skills and i have a hard time handling small objiects.
5. I am very disorganized.
6 I also cannot multitask very well.
7 It's also very hard for me to put what i want to say down on paper i can do it better verbally.
8.I also have a hard time maninging money.
I get a social security check becouse iam not able to work becouse of those physice and mental disabilities and my mom is responsible as my payee over my social security check.
I have to have a payee becouse of the fact that i can't manage money very well if i were the one over my money i would blow it all on stupid stuff and wouldn't buy any of the important stuff i needed to survive so anyways my mom is over my check and i asked her for the $300.00 rent and she fussed becouse she said that was too much money even though i explained to her that it was for bills, rent, food and everything that i would need so i told my cousin that my mom wouldn't give me my money for the rent so she said i wouldn't have to pay rent if i helped her with her autistic son whenever she needed a sitter even though he is 17 he has the mind of a 2 year and can't be left alone at all and if i also helped clean house but i feel bad for leaving in her house for free what should i do? (link)
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well you should get your payee signed over to your cousin if that is possible so she can mange your money and you could pay her rent.
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Long story short: I got kicked out of my house for a lip piercing in April. A week later, my mom begged me to move back in. I asked her if I would be able to come and go as I please because I'm 18 now. She said yes, so I moved back in.
Now, in July, she has made so many rules that go against what we agreed. I can't leave the house past 11:00pm, I have to be home by 1:00am, and I can only stay the night at someone's house once a week.
I'm not taking any classes and I can't work (don't ask why, I just can't), so it's not like I have to wake up early for anything. I'm not involved in drugs or sex and she knows that. She just went against everything we agreed on.
What do I do? My friends are tired of leaving clubs early to take me home. And I want to spend the night at people's houses. (link)
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I would talk to her. i would remind her of what you two agreed of, and i would also tell her, her terms are way to tied down. Work out some sort of agreement that you two can work out easily. Also remind her that you are 18 years old and can move back out again.
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13/f
my parents got a divorce when i was like 2 years old and when i was 4 they where both married again. so ive always been close with everyone even my stepparents. my dad has 4 kids and my mom two
i live in florida with my mom, and my dad live in louisiana with his other 3 kids.
ive always been a daddys little girl, but once i started to mature which was in like 5th grade, (now im in 9th) ive been slowly loosing our reltionship. i havnt been able to see him as much as i used to because of the sports im in, but of course i make an effort to see him.
i think he thinks im growing up too fast, or something like that but,
i dont want him to feel like im loving him any less, nad i dont want to feel that way about him either. but somehow its happening!
can anyone give me advice to keep our relationship going? (link)
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If i was in your possession, i would send letters, call him at least one a week and really make an effort to get the message a crosed. E-mail, text, things like that. And see if you can get practice schedules and things like that earlier so you can arrange to see him with in that time that is perfect for you both.
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why do people lie? (link)
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people lie because they are either bored of the truth, scared of it or don't want it to hurt people.
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My mom wants me to be a total conformist and I flat-out refuse, but she yells at me because I don't wear make-up or spend years on my hair or dumb myself down for boys. Then she yells at me for not doing my schoolwork and stuff that just contradicts everything she said 5 minutes ago she wants me to do. I usually have really good control over my temper but she simply will not allow me to remain calm when we argue, so I yell at her (she's the only person I've ever had to yell at in my entire life) and she smacks me! Do you see a way out of my predicament, because I don't. 15/f (link)
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maybe if you get a boyfriend she'll clam down. or get maybe a friend that is a boy and bring him to your house to show her. let her think what she wants about him. the boy could be the answer to all your problems. also put on a tiny bit of make up. let her see you doing your hair. do your homework and everything eles she wants to see. you don't have to spend years on your hair or wear ten tons of make up just try to let her see it being done. than when she leaves or isn't watching you can continue doing the things you want to do.
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My family has molested me, beaten me, vandalised my property and homes, told lies to my bosses and co-workers, had me fired numerous times. And I'm the bad family member.
I had blocked out most of my life and has taken me 20 years to remember. During this time, I have had no control on what I remembered and when, it just kinda happens.
My question is this: Do I owe it to the rest of my family to shut up about all the crap they did and still do to me? Or should I seek legal remedy? Prosecute them for all of it? They have brainwashed my children as well.
In a way I feel like a traitor, but they are the ones who betrayed me. The "adults" of the family have lied about things since I was 3 or 4 the first time I was molested.
My mother, who is 82, vandalized the home I purchased. It was 1 year old when I bought it. She and my brother tore holes in the walls, tore up the kitchen floor, scraped the stainless steel from the kitchen sinks, tore the rubber splash guard from the disposal, tore up the carpet. My daughters, broke the top of my glass stove, tore apart a computer work station. They made sure it went into foreclosure by having me fired and calling the place I had a job lined up. They gave me 2 seperate start dates then told me they gave the job to someone else. My youngest daughter was the only person I told. I paid $103,000 for it.
It was done so I would under their control. For 7 months, she told me what I could and couldnt do, what I could and couldnt eat, they disabled my car so I couldnt go anywhere.
Oh, I'm 49 years old and am ill. I have Multiple Sclerosis, Lupus, Raynaud, Crest syndrome, I have all the symptoms for Scleraderma and Sjodrens Diseases.
I am currently living in a rented storage unit.
Please advise. (link)
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Well to me it sounds like you have no other chocie you must get away from your family, at all means. i say you grabe your kids and go somewhere, states away if you must. somewhere where they won't look for you and start your life there. you may also want to get a restraining order on them. But if you have proff or what they did to you, pictures, witnesses, Ect. and if you want this ended and want "get back" than Proecute them by all means, but a jury isn't going to beleive you if you don't have edvenice.
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what should i do if my parents get me really mad and start yelling at me for nuttin? my parents think that my lil sister is more respondisble cuz she lies and she gets away wit everything and i tend to cut my uppper arm and that but i dont know wat i should do instead of cutting my upper arm can u tell me wat i should do? (link)
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well there is always what i do and its not cut myself, but i do have my share of scars. try making a list, draw a line down the middle of the page and on one side write negitive and the other side possitive. than write all the effect of your little sister or what ever is botherin you. this can help with almost any sistution. but sometimes you can find that your answer is really not a possitive it can be a negitive and that's what you just found out about yourself. Also you should really try relaxing, try walking outside or just being alone for a while. a hobby can also relive this anger and stress. try a sport or anything that takes your time and you enjoy.
Best luck,
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My husband and I purchased a cabin in the mountains four years ago. Along with that, we purchased two ATVs (four-wheelers) to ride the thousands of acres of mountain trails adjacent to our cabin property.
We love to have our children and grandchildren visit and have an open door policy where they're concerned.
Recently, my married daughter asked me, in front of her husband, if we would be willing to let them use the cabin for use with her husband's family. We told her we would have to think about it. We discussed it briefly with them and never gave them an answer.
My husband and I had already talked about this situation because we knew it would come up. I had expressed to my daughter shortly after we purchased the cabin that this was a "family only" cabin and was not open to in-laws. My daughter told me at that time that she understood. I feel like she was put up to asking me by her husband.
My husband and I feel strongly that we don't want my daughter's in-laws, or any other in-laws for that matter, accessing our cabin. Our cabin is as personal as our home, and I wouldn't lend out the use of my home to just anyone.
Also, I'm worried about the liability issue concerning the use of our four-wheelers and also who would be responsible if they damaged them.
I also feel like if we open up the cabin to this set of in-laws, our other children would assume that they would be entitled to bring their in-laws and friends to the cabin, which rightfully so they should.
Am I being too possessive of "my cabin"? I don't want to alienate my son-in-law, but, again, I don't feel I have any obligation to provide his family with a weekend retreat. I'm afraid if we allow it "just this once" that it will become expected that they can use it any time.
Please advise. Thanks
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well i would say that you have already commited yourself to this property and you should stick to your commitment. you told your daughter no some time ago, but tell her it will be okay it both families got together with you present. this will make you feel better and your not hurting anyone's feelings by doing this. Everyone wins!
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hi so my mum saw some girls clothes in my room and thinks i have been wareing them (i have not worn them they are my gf's she left here) what do i do or say to my mum
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hey boy,
listen i think you should tell your mom the truth and say that your gf left them there and your not gay. also this may leave to why her cloths are in your room. so be prepared to awnster so other questions as well.
Kittzen
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i have a problem. im the oldest, and of three younger girl sib. and my second sister always gets all the attention from the other ones. i feel left out. and shes like my best friend. so everytime i try to have fun i cant because shes allways the center of attention. even though they are supposed to be looking up at me not her. ehmygawsh. :( what should i do about this? (link)
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hey, look sister arn't sospote to compete to be dady's favirte and their not sosposeted to compet to be the center of attention around each other.
here's what you have to do since life ain't made that way, you need to flatter them with ideas and talk to them more than she does understand their problems and try to help them out. give good advice to them and just be their best friend as well as hers.
you don't want to push them to liking you more just let them come to you themselves.
best luck beging sister number one,
Kittzen
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I just found out my grandfather will be passing away soon. I cant think of any songs to listen to about losing someone special like he is. any ideas?
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Kittzen's talking,
Gewww... I am so sorry, if i lost my pap that would be murder on me. what you need to do instead of listing ot songs os spend as much time with him as possible. also if you want a song what is his favirote type of music and let him pick it out that way it's even more special to you.
So Sorry,
Kittzen
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so ive asked questions on here before about my stepmom and family sit or whatever but here I am again. so..
Im supposed to be going to my dads in Nevada in like 2 weeks. im way excited because i love my Dad and miss him like crazy. I also love my stepmum but havent been real close with her and want to be. any ideas of some fun stuff her and I can do together? My mom is still being nasty about mhy dad as usual but after tlking with a skool councelor and stuff i know she acts this way because she is kind of jealous that my dad has remarried and is happy and she hasnt done that yet so i just ignore her. any ideas for stuff to do in that area? thnks! (link)
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Hey kittzen there,
Listen are you a girl or a boy, whatever dosn't matter. think of fun ways to get both of your intrest in like you can go shopping or talk girl talk. Or if your Step moms a tom boy take her to the race track do some fun little things that make you both happy also it's a good idea to go alone with her leave your dad out of the picture when you spend one on one time with each.
It is also a good idea to you know get your dad and her to gether and spent time with both of them don't be afrid on the subject just talka bout them, talk about yourself and enjoy the time you have.
Spend time with each,
Kittzen
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Im 13 i dont have a dad he left 4 years ago. Im not close with my family no matter how hard I try to be. Things are getting bad with my mom. Shes compulsive. Shes obsessed with her house. For example if i need something (clothes, things for school which i dont ask for these things alot) she always says she doesnt have the money yet she bought a $3500 floor & now shes getting our entire outside of the house done. And she just got a new floor 3 months ago and the outside of the house redone last summer. Shes just blowing money she claims she doesnt have. I cant live at home cuz she yells at me for everything. If i walk on the carpet after she vacums i get yelled at & its the same thing if i get finger prints on the mirror. its stupid. And im sick of being yelled at all night and day. Sometimes she starts with me at like 2:00 in the morning. I cant live with her & sometimes she comes into the room yelling at me & doesnt tell me wat i did wrong. My friends agree that shes compulsive. & i dont know who to turn to cuz my entire family always takes her side. I dont know wat to do. She hits me sometimes but not all the time. I cry in a closet frequently because things are getting worse by the day. i try to stay at a friends house but she yells more. i dont no wat 2 do now. (link)
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Kittzen's speaking,
Listen sweetheart, i don't have a dad either never met him and don't you say i am luck cause i am not. i don't have a mother either i disowned her after all the terrible things she did. but it seems to me you got to find that father or yours and see if you can live with, but if he's on her side to thatn that won't work or amybe it will i don't know i never met you family.
What you need to do is get a summer job tell her you're doing this to take moore responsible and all that. that will keep you away from her and it will give you extrat cash but, the real and very important thing you need to do is try to understand why she is doing this.
See it from her point of view, very hard to do but try. that you got to sit her down and talk to her one on one don't let her get up and leave, don't let her push you down and make you cry this time tell her it all and make sure she listens. Or write her a letter and tell her everthing. remember showing some tears can wake your mom up.
Also just try to make her see it from your point of view, your mom might also be lonely so do as much for her as possible, but what ever happens just try to be yourself and tell her the truth.
Best wishes on this and if you need more help come to my colum,
Kittzen
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