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k my mother met this guy some time through a friend but i never met him. while we were in memphis she was going to go out to the club with him and spend the night at his house and she didnt even ask me if i was ok with it ( i was going to stay with my cousins). then the next night she was going to stay over there again but i got sick so she didnt go. and now he is coming into town and staying at our house and im not ok with it at all. i mean she divorced my dad when i was six and i cannot have some strang man sleeping in my house. i'm not ready to meet him yet at all so i volunteered to sleep at my grandmas but my mother said she was going to have him sleep in his truck after i suggested it. my question is if she says they are just friends why is he going to be sleeping in our house. and why do i feel like i cant trust a man in my house at night. ( i tend to stay up until they leave then go to sleep) i hope you can help because i know this question probably made no sense i am just so uncomfortable right now
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My parents divorced when I was about 5 or 6 as well. When I was young and after the divroce, my dad starting dating this lady who seemed nice at the time. Ofcourse I was young and thought everyone was nice. Well, he is still dating the same woman after 10 or so years and she (my now step-mom) is my worst nightmare, I'll tell you. Literally, Wicked Witch of the West. Now, I restrict my mom from dating men because I don't want a step-dad who reminds me of the male version of my step-mom. Wouldn't that be rough.
See, I believe the reason kids are so skeptical of their parents dating other people is because no one else is good enough for them. For example, maybe you think no one else is good enough for your mom except your dad.
I love my mom (and I'm sure you do, also) and I don't want to see her get hurt. I mean, she had her chance to get any man on the block when I was very young and thought everyone was magnificent. But, now that I'm older, I'm going to pick out the bad things in every guy she brings home.
I think you need to try and realize how your mom feels. She probably feels lonely and needs someone to sustain her. You should talk to your mom about your feelings and I'm sure she'll hear you out. I understand how you feel completely and know where you're coming from, and I think it's something that you and her can work out and set aside so you won't have to worry.
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If i were you i would try talking about this to your mother this may help. i think you have a problem with guys staying over in your house because you don't know them or what they would do. so buy a lock and put it on your door and even try to get to know the guy first hand. this may clear up the trust problem with them. try to think back to when you first got this problem and why, thinking back could help you find the problem and a easy way to fix it.
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