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hey all how i could i convince my parents to let me get a cell phone they said when i start working i could maybe get a cell phone and it's not because so many people have cellphones i just want one i don't know what to do but now they won't pay for it now they said i don't need one i don't know what to do tips ideas etc.... thanks (link)
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My parents bought me a cell phone because if I go out and they need to contact me the they can. If you are ever in trouble eg: it's late at night and you end up on your own somewhere then you need to call home. For safety reasons above anything else it is good to have a cell phone. They don't have to pay those monthly bills you can just get a pay as you go phone when you top it up yourself.
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ok so this girls mom i know just died and my mom told me to go up to her and say something but im not sure what to say. someone please help me (link)
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The same thing happened to me at the beginning of the year. It depends on how good friends you are to what you do. You can either go and talk to her or you can write her a card. Just say how really sorry you are to hear what's happened. You have no idea what she must be going through but you are there whenever she needs to take her mind off things or talk. Say you are free whenever to go to the movies or anything if she needs to get away from it all. Hope this helps a little
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My brother died 2 weeks ago and I really don't know what to do. I lived with him because my mom died 3 years ago and my dad used to beat and rape me. He was more like a father than a brother to me and I really don't know what to do. I've been staying with my friend until I get a foster family and she is always asking me if I'm ok and I'm really not. I don't know what to do with myself. I even tried drugs and I've been drinking a lot. I just want to kill myself and I'm so scared of what's going to happen next. I love him soo much and he was pretty much all that I had and now he's gone. I haven't even cried because I just can't, does that mean that there's something wrong with me? Why can't I just cry like normal people do when something happens to them? I really think that I'm a horrible because I can't even cry for my own brother. Please help me (link)
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Don't worry that you haven't cried yet-it's perfectly normal. It will happen at some stage but because your body is probably in shock still it won't happen yet. By drinking and taking drugs you are numbing out the pain and emotions you are feeling and trying to make them go away. It might help in the short time but honestly it will make the healing process take much longer. I am so sorry to hear about your brother and what you have been through. It's cases like this when you have to think about the positive things your brother brought into your life. Imagine if you never had a brother in the first place. For the time he was with you he tried to help and make you overcome your fears and problems and try and bring the positive things back into your life. Try and think of the great memories you had with him and the fact that he would hate to see you being upset. Is there anyone you can talk to about the way you are feeling? There are usually counsellors to talk to when these kind of things happen. When you move to your new home try and remember all the fantastic memories and perhaps think of this as a new start. I hope I have helped x x
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i lost a parent a year ago. my other parent is getting married in the summer. how do i show this fiance that i still love my parent, but i'll try to have a relationship with the fiance.
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It's very difficult for you because when you lose a parent and the other finds another partner, you feel like they are forgetting about the parent who passed away. It's totally natural for you to be feeling this way. What you don't know is that the fiance will be just as wary about not trying to take the place of your parent. Could you write to them and let them know how you feel? Sometimes it's easier to write as then you can take time over it and get all your feelings out and take as long as you like to write it. Just let them know that no one can take the place of the parent you lost and it will just take a bit of time for you to get used to the situation you are in. Good luck
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My mom was mad at my dad because a few days ago he went to New York without letting my mom know (he works there he didn't run off). Then like a day later my mom went to go pick up my brother somewhere and my dad thought they were just going to the highschool to pick him up but then they went to another town to another town. My dad didn't know that and he had a meeting to go to so he told me to tell my mom when she came home. Well a couple hours later my brother calls and is like "Tell dad we're coming home now and that we're sorry we were so late," and I'm like dad is not here why didn't you call eailer. Well anyway I got mad and my brother put my mom on the phone and I'm like "You can't be mad at dad anymore for not telling you where he was going," and she got mad and didn't say anything so i apologized and sahe just said bye. Now I think my mom is mad at me and my question is how do I get her to forgive me? Thank you I'll rate fives just for reading this. (link)
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Ok. Your parents are arguing because they aren't seeing a lot of eachother at the moment. It's not because they don't love eachother anymore, its just the frustration with not being able to be together at the moment. I get that with my boyfriend as we study in different places and we argue just because we aren't talking face to face and its really frustrating. Your mum is just angry because she thinks you think its all her fault. You just need to let her know that you rally hate the arguing and that she and your dad need to sort out a day when they know they can spend some time together. Its also difficult around this time of year too, getting ready for Christmas etc.. don't worry, what's going on is nothing serious and if anything your Mum was probably taking it out on you because she was angry at herself for forgetting your dad had to go to work. She probably felt really guilty as soon as she put the phone down. Don't worry!!
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my mom and dad are realllly religous and they want me to be religous and i dont want to be! i need to be my self and belive what i want. i mean i talk to jesus and pray to him but i cant be saying PRAISE GOD! every SECOND!!! help i dont know what to say to them!! (link)
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You can be as religious as you want. It is totally up to you. What you have to let your parent s know is that just because they feel one way, doesn't mean you are automatically going to feel the same way too. If they are pushing you to be like them you have to tell them that by doing this they are actually pushing you away. You have a right to believe in as much or as little as you want. There are hundreds of different ways to be religious and just because you don't take part in the same things as they do religiously, doesn't mean you don't feel as strongly about religion as they do!
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2day my family and i(14) found out that my older sister (27) has a tumour down there, and is supposed to be haveing surgery in a week. after that they will be putting her on keimotherapy(sp?) and well if none of those cure her, she will then only have 1 more year to live..im so scared of loosing her! (link)
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First of all, the fact she is having surgery is good as it means the tumour won't have spread. They will be able to remove most or all of the tumour and the chemotherapy will kill all the cells which are likely to turn into tumours. It's lucky the doctors have found out in time and at such a young age she has a very good chance of making a full recovery.
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Ok.. hi. See me & my sister are like 9 years apart, she's 23 & I'm 14. She is always talkin bout how I shouldn't be mean to her, but she used to ditch me for her friends & crap. Ok, well, she's all of a sudden wanted to be "sisters" and I'm just like, no. She's all whiny & she's babyish. It really gets on my nerves but, when I wanna spend time with her she's always "busy". Ok well we have alot in common but she wont open up to me & tell me about her problems. She goes & tells mom (BIG mistake). Then mother goes & tells daddy & they talk about her so bad. I dont know what to do! I know I don't like her sometimes but hey, she's my sister. Please help!! (link)
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It's difficult becaus eshe's older than you and so thinks that she has more 'power' over you. You need to stand up for yourself and tell her that you will spend time with her when you want to and not just when she wants.
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I'm not sure how to explain this. For example, I'm trying to lose weight, see. And my Aunt tells me that I've lost some weight. I don't like to hear those things from her.
At first I thought it was because I fear success. But if my wife gives me an encouraging comment like that then I take it good. I feel good. I feel encouraged. And it's like that with everyone. But from my Aunt... well, with the weight thing, it'll make me feel like eating more and gaining weight to make her wrong.
It might help if I explain a little bit more about my relationship with my Aunt. She raised me and for a long time I felt like she was my mother; even after she told me she wasn't. In the last few years though I've thought like that somewhat less. I still feel somewhat like she's my mother but not as strongly as I once did.
So what could be the problem? (link)
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I think you are like this with your aunt because you don't believe her and you want to things on your own without getting advice from her or have her interfering. If my mum and boyfriend both told me I'd lost weight I would definitely believe my boyfriend and I'd feel like my mum was accusing me of something rather than being complimentary. You are not alone
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so im 20yrs old and i just had a son with a 18 yr old. hes been doing really good with coming over (we both live with our parents) anyways, the problem is that once in awhile he'll say hes coming over and then doesn't even show up or call to say what's going on...i dont understand a little bit because i had talked to him about it and he agreed that calling would be the best thing and he also agreed that he should be calling when plans change, yet somehow he still seems to do it>>he'll tell me the night before that he's coming over and then just not show and not call me until the next day and talk as though nothings up...its bugging me so much i tried talking to him now what do i do??? (link)
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The problem is that your boyfriend is still a teenager and therefore more immature than you. Are any of his friends fathers? It may be that he is trying to live a normal life and perhaps trying not to think about the fact he is a father. Could any of his friends be making him go out with them instead of coming round to see you and the baby? You have to be careful and not talk to him as if you're trying to make him choose between his friends and his baby. You should be quite stubborn and, if he says he is coming round and doesn't then next time he says he is coming round say you are going out or something. He shouldn't just be able to turn up whenever he wants. You should arrange a specific day or time when he can come over and if he abuses that by not turning up then the next time he is supposed to come over, go out with the baby so you are giving him a taste of his own medicine. I know two wrongs don't make a right but you need to let him know that it takes two to be parents and he cannot have his way all the time. Daisy
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my dad was recently laid off from work (he was the manager for the propane department of a co-op). he decided he wants to go back to the job he had before that, which was an EMT(emergency medical technician). the problem is that he left that job because he had a lot of depression problems when he couldn't save someone. should i still encourage him to go back to that job? (link)
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Is there anyway you could talk to the doctor that saw him then and ask about the risks? The problem is that unless you are really close to your Dad he might just give you an answer you want to hear. does he have any friends you could talk to about it? If you can talk to him about it then you really need to stress the implications of a recurring depression. Is there another job going in the same department that would be slightly different and therefore stop him becoming depressed again? daisy
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omg! i can't stand my retarded little sister! she whined becuase i was doing a dance with my friend and wouldnt put her in it so i tried to put her in it and let her help me practice. I was already in kinda a bad mood and she knew it. then when i tried to teach her the moves i had and get some new ones from her she wouldnt be serious for 2 freakin seconds!!! she KNOWS when i want to make a dance im serious about it and dont like to play around. its just how i am. i mean, when im hyper playing around is great. but i am tired and in a p-o'd mood and she knew it. yet she still couldnt be serious. I know it wasnt trying to make me laugh because i have known her all of her pathetic life and I can tell when its trying to make me laugh and when its not...and it wasnt. sry this is long. plz and thank you 4 any advice on how to get her to be more serious and actually help me with this. (link)
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Is she your younger sister? If so, mine was exactly the same. The problem is, and it may sound crazy but she is probably really jealous of you. She probably wants to do all the things you do and be like you so that she seems cool too. She will be doing this to irritate you because if she isn't happy then she won't want you to be either. Daisy
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