My parents don't really like me because they think i am mean at times. Like what happened today was:
Mom accidentaly stepped on my foot
Me "why did you step on my foot?"
Mom "It was an accident do you even think i will do something like that? i never saw your foot, after bringing all your stuff near you, you ask me a question like this?"
me "I am sorry i just asked it came out of my mouth"
Mom "I can't take it anymore, there is too much fights going on at home, its so unpeaceful."
Me "Cry..and finds this website which will hopefully help me"
Let me assure you your mother loves you very much it is alway the behaviour you don't like and that refers to your mum's behaviour too. When she trod on your foot she should of appollogied straight away it was an accident to say nothing was rude of her and disrespectful then she gets huffy because she had to called upon to justify that. you should remind her of her manners. this happened to me-One day my little boy 6 at the time was being impudent I asked him did you leave your manners at school? pretty soon he got me back when I was being unreasonable he asked me did I leave my manners at work? I had to smile. I had to realise it works both ways. Teenagers are finding themselves it's difficult time in your life finding yourself. ask your mum to be kinder & respecful to you you need her to teach you the ways of life lead by example. If she isn't teaching by example how are you going to learn to improve on her method ask her to be a team player Your not that far away from being an adult and you need her to help with the passage from child girl to a adult woman.good luck I hope this helps
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My husband and I are FINALLY expecting our first baby and we are so excited! I'm about three and a half months pregnant now and we think it's time to tell our parents about the great news. We thought it might be super cute to take a home pregnancy test and then mail it to them! :D Do you think this is a good idea? If so, how exactly do I do that? Just shove it in an envelope and send it off to them? haha
Congratulations on the little one. You can wait for your first ultrasound at 16-18 weeks
I would take a photo of you 2 holding the test results wearing great big smiles just because you have to pee on the swatch and it may seem a little unhygenic to post and recieve. You keep your test... they will just through it away in the bin. I still have mine 18 yrs later. Good luck
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I'm only 16 years old ,I as well have a 6 year old sister.
My mom is a drug attitic and was sober for 4 monthes after a 9 month relapse,which was the worst time of life for me.
Recently she began using again,she yells at me for NO reason,throws my stuff,tells me all this bad negative stuff and doesn't understand how much it hurts me .She usually goes in the middle of the night to get drugs and it wakes me up and I end up crying all night .She never cleans the house when shes on drugs and leaves it to me to do.She blames everything on me and just thinks everything is my fault and she promises all the time that shes done and she lies about it and covers it up with some story.I'm such a happy girl,I've never smoked and never done drugs and I don't need this negativity in my life.My father used to be a drug attitic as well but he doesn't yell at me or blame me ,he understands me...yet he just doesn't do anything.He lives with his mother now,so I can't turn to him.
She's gotten close to hurting me before ,but she hasn't...yet im scared.
She thinks that when shes on drugs,that she's no different from when she's not on them.Obviously thats false.I sometimes pack my stuff and stay at a friends house,but sometimes she threatens that If i dont come home,she won't give me money for things like food,clothes,etc. So I end up coming home,even though I just wanna stay out with my friends.
Please help!,im trapped and alone
You are such a strong & responsible young lady & you should not feel threatened in your home least of all by your mum. Drug and alchol addiction is always a destructive cycle. Do you have a kids crisis line you can call? Why can't you & your sister stay with your Dad & Nanna? Your Mum needs help & you are not able to provide her with the professional help she needs. so you might have to consider tough love. She is emotionally blackmailing you to keep you under her control. Her life is out of control. I feel so sad for you & your little sister. Can you secretly video her have a video diary show her how bad your situation is show her she is too unstable to have you in her care. she not showing you 2 care she is destructive self indulgent. She should be running the house not the children. Can you seek out a trusted friend parents to guide you in this process of sorting this mess out You cannot go on like this. when you leave home your sister is still vunerable for even more abuse. Save yourselves even if you cannot save your Mum she has to save herself. Good Luck Sweetie I'm praying for all of you. Seek help from a trusted source.
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missing my sister like crazy idk what going out she is in a group home now and i hope they are treating her right
Are you able to write to her Send her a stationary set with a packet of stamps. At leas you will be communicating she'll put your mind at ease as to her welfare. Good luck
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I am a female minor of 16 who had an online relationship with a man 8 years my senior behind my family's back. I had done this once before but with a different individual and i no longer have contact with the first person. I met him at a hotel room 3 times and although we didn't have sexual intercourse i thought i was pregnant somehow and my period was late with strong feelings of nausea. I told my mom all of this and although she was terribly devastated she proceeded to take me to the doctor and tests were done. I am not pregnant and have no STI's, and now my mother and father and i don't know what to do. Only they and the man i was involved with know. I want things to go back to how they were before they knew, but i understand that it isn't that simple. I would very much appreciate if someone could offer me solid advice on what I should do now. I want to earn back their trust if i can and help them feel better and more relaxed. I am ashamed of my action but i want to do something, anything to help them feel better. I have not contacted the man since telling my father, whom i told a week after my mother. I believe that the man was a good man but I don't want to contact him any time soon, at the very least until i am out of college, so like 6 to 10 years from now. I believe my parents will press charges against him. please and thank you so much.
Your parents should press charges... A 24 yr old man intermate with a 16 yr old girl, clearly you were naeivene & trusting. However, He knew better end of story. If he was serious about you why was he deceptive & secretive. instead of being open & honest? Because he knew better. Learn from this the Feds can intercept cyber preditors so if you want to press charges you have all the evidence in the hard drive. Good luck
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I have a nine month old daughter and i'm 19. I am married to the father of my baby. When we got married 11 months ago i told him that i wouldn't marry him unless he stopped smoking weed. since then, he has stopped and has done many good things, such as get his GED and be a great dad and show a desire to go to school. recently however he told me that he didn't see a problem with it, and that it wouldn't hurt anything if he smoked weed 4 times a month. I told him that it would hurt me, and he said well if you don't love me enough to let me do it then i guess we can't be together. I need to know if I am being too strict and i just need to deal with it, or if I do need to leave him. Please help me.
Smoking Weed is not appropriate. If it's upsetting you then that's your validation. You cannot bring up child/children in this environment. If you love him you'll let him do it LOL. How selfish is he. I called the cops on my son that fixed him. My home, my rules. I do the cleaning and rearing of 3 sons I have a voice. Being stoned is irresponsible, self indugence & a finacial burden not to mention ILLEGAL. 4 times a month that's the start of an addition that could turn daily. You put him straight you don't have to put up with his destructive selfish choices.
your not being too strict your taking responsibilty for yourselves. he has to take the same responsibility. He's not a delinquent. Good luck.
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okay so im 16/f and just within the past year or so, i have had about a handfull of adult relatives and family friends die. one of which was my grandma whom i was very close with. now that i have gotten over the initial greeving, i am now dealing with a bit of paranoia. everytime i go to do something, i guess i shouldnt be doing (smoking weed, drinking, having sex) i feel like my dead relatives are like watching over me or are in the room. i know it sounds crazy but i cant get it outta my head. and it honestly freaks me out, and worrys me. if anyone out there has dealt with this same sort of thing, can you just let me know about it and if you found a way to get over this. any help would be awsome. thanks in advance!
by the way, i dont smoke weed that often, for that to be the root of my paranoia. and usually my worrying about them watching is bad leading up to doing it, not so much after.
and also i dont want to hear about how you think drinking, having sex, or smoking weed is bad. i dont care.
You said:- and also i dont want to hear about how you think drinking, having sex, or smoking weed is bad. i dont care.
@16 you should care about more about yourself.
It's just the age your at 16 you will grow out of it. You have suffered terrible loss over & over The guilt is because you know better & your subsconcious is loud & clear as to your behaviour choices like if you were doing something positive you would feel a sence of pride & joy and not dissapointment and humiliation of being watched by your deceased family & friends whom have definately crossed over. You have suffered a terrible loss many times. Everyone in life has loss & is part of growing wiser. you will come out of this far wiser than your years. Don't loose your way remember everyone fondly they are in a better place not hanging around parties watching you get wasted. O.K. turn your adversities into a positive.
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For weeks I have been iffy about even writing this.
I am young 18 and just got married in August. I am pregnant that is not why we got married but I think we rushed into it. We were planning the wedding already had my wedding dress before i found out I was Pregnant.
Sometimes I find myself regretting getting marred My reasons. I wanted to work days and go to school nights. It would be tough but id be able to better myself for me and my family he through a fit and didnt support me at all. told me either work or go to school but advises me to work because we need the money. Being pregnant I have my mood swings like most if we have an argument its all my fault he will yell at me and blame me then make me feel guilty by saying oh its always all my fault i forgot your so perfect. sometimes he makes im crap. If i feel nauses or sick at night or anything and he wants sex he pouts and acts like he is mad by not saying a workd until he gets it then goes to sleep. he goes hunting, fishing, baseball teams and tournaments etc. anything he wants and i dont argue about it i just let him.
I have asked a million times to look harder for a job. he works 2 days aweek at a sale barn doing something he likes i work full time on my swallon feet 40+ hours a week and come home exhausted and tired. its like he dont care he doesnt want to even try to look he put an app. in at burgerking one app.. in 5 weeks? we live at my dads. which i dont feel is save but dont have a choice. hes lazy
and to top it off he always wants to spend money. i used to get food stamps which just stopped but hed want a gallon of tea every 2 days. go out and buy food he wants all the time because hes to lazy to cook one thing or wait for it to get done. as soon as he gets paid he goes and spends most of the money on garbage food and gets mad when i tell him i dont want it id rather eat food i cook at home.
I love my husband to death trust me and want to work things out but i dont know what to do i talk to him about it and itslike it is in one ear and out the other.
Your Husband has a lot of growing up to do The baby is not good timing but never a mistake. Sometimes you just got to take conrol of the banking go see the manager sort something out. he is very irressponsible to by junk food with a wife & child inpending on 2 days a week salary when bub comes & if you need a cessarian you cannot lift over 15 20 kgs for 6 mths, hows he going to feed you if you cannot breast feed formula is essential baby never goes hungry grown adults can.. but not bubby. I would leave him if he dosen't pull his sox up if he loves you he'll change his habits. Good luck Hope the baby is safe & well.
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My parents just got separated after over thirty years of marriage. I knew well in advance that it would eventually happen, and today I found out that my dad moved out. I know that it is for the best- they could not possibly go on with a lifeless marriage.
My dad is doing fine, and has a plan set in mind as to where he will live, what he has to do to eventually finalize a divorce, etc., My mom, on the other hand, is not taking any of this well. She was shocked, and insisted she wanted to work on herself and make things better- we all know, by the way, that things are broken beyond repair, and have been for as long as we can remember. So my concern has to do exclusively with my mom.
To add, I go to grad school out of state, and my siblings live in a different city as well. We are not physically there, so she has been calling and pleading with us a few times in one day alone. I keep insisting that it will be for the better, and that they cannot continue living miserably. But my mom (who is extremely volatile emotionally) keeps calling, basically yelling over the phone, saying how she wanted to make things better, but he left her, that she can't see why we won't convince him to move back, and that he should just live in a different room (in the same house). I keep on telling her very logical things like, the marriage was miserable for years and years, that you cannot live in separate rooms (either live peacefully together, or live separately). So long story short, she will not really listen to any of us, and wants to somehow prove that she would have made things better, and that now the family is broken, etc.,
I am very stressed out, and busy with grad school, and this is all adds to my stress-emotionally. I don't know what to do--I mean, I know in my mind that I cannot possibly make my mom see things our way, but I can't stop thinking about what she is thinking and going through. I am also stressed out about the fact that this is really it- it's done. I mean, I knew it would happen, and now it's really hit me that it has happened.
So I guess what I'm meaning to ask is, how do you deal with your parents divorcing? And how can I constructively deal with my mom, when she is being so difficult?
This is a tough one... Your Mum is in denial we all want to be sucessfull at something divorce for some is the greatest of failures. She needs to come to terms with the new direction in her life Now she is alone she needs to validate her existance join a club meet new people travel anything but ponder and perish. Offer her things to direct her in a positive & productive direction failing that she's no better suggest she see her doctor about depression anxiety issues I am sure she is quite lost right now. she will recover with guidance. Don't discuss the failed marriage change the subject discuss her future plans. get her on task to go forward. you might want to point out that her misery is affecting your grades She needs to be more conciderate of your achievement efforts Good luck with your Mum & your studies
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So.. me and my ex broke up. he fucked up a ton, but its been 7months since we broke up, and its been three months of him non stop trying with no mistakes to get me back.. My parents dislike him. they do, and right now for thre months ive been hiding that ive been hanging out with him. One time i got caught at a party with him, about 4 months ago, they FLIPPPED. like hardcore. My moms i hope your not talking to him, and back then i really hardly was. Now this time hes trying realll hard, and im thinkin about maybe giving it another try. My mom and dad do not know weve been hanigng out, and when we were together, they never let me go out or do anything and were strict cause they didnt want me going to parties or staying with him. ILl be 18 in a couple months, and hes 19. Ive been hiding us hanging out for awhile, and i dont like lying i have bad anxiety and when they do find out it'll be way worse. First off. cause now he has his own apartment.. so they'll think ive been styaing there. How do i ever tell them... once they know were talking though, my life will be cut off again, and i just dont want that, but i dont wanan lie to them
i just need advice really bad, and from any parents or kids whove been through this, itd help a lot.
O.K. firstly Do you really want a guy your folks don't like They dislike him for a reason he's not your type. So you think you know this guy o.k. well you don't. Your folks knew you before you were born. They love you & want the best for you There are plenty of pebbles on the beach. He's not the one if there is already conflict within the entire family. when you hang out behind mum & dad back you give that guy power over you & direspect your folks advise. This cannot be a good foundation for a life long relationship at it's best it's just a fling. not love it's a rocky road not one I would travel on for too long because you get hurt sooner or later you fall.
Why are kids hell bent on doing the whole nine yards before the graduate. it will all still be there when your kids are going through thier lives put yourself in mum & dads place & your daughter was doing what your doing how would you feel just like your folks I presume. Give a nice guy a chance to be in love with you darling you deserve better than this guy can provide a rented flat is not providing for you it's providing for himself.
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