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I'm SarahI cheer (it's my life)
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I will be attending Yale, Wharton, or Brown in 2010.
I'm not a bad kid.
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I've been through my fair share of delinquency.
so i know how to deal with it.
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i'm 17, i'm a guy, i've never been kissed, i've never had a girlfriend, i really don't have any kind of friends, i have speech problems, i've got social disorders, my face is a wreck, i don't leave my room because my face is a wreck, i hate 95% of the people in my school, i hate society and the nature of human beings, my life is trash and i'm completely nonexistent in the world. thats not the worst part though. the truth is, i really am one of the nicest kids you will ever meet when i'm not having to battle with my social problems and i'm a good looking kid too when i don't have acne. when i was acne free girls that i never met before told me that i look like johnny depp's twin but the acne won't go away and it has alot to do with me wasting away my high school years. over the last few months i had been talking to amazing girl and getting kind of close with her. seriously, she's better than anything i could have drawn up. she loves metal, in fact metallica, pantera, and tool are some of her favorite bands, she's got dyed black hair, wears black all the time, she's quiet like me, absolutely perfect but recently i messed that up completely. any color i had in my life has faded away and gone and i find it hard to believe that i can get it back. does anybody have any answers for me? i don't know where you would possibly start butany advice would be helpful.
I know that it seems like everything is going against you right now, but it can get better. High school is tough (trust me I know) but you have to make the best of it.
It all starts with the attitude that you have (yes, it sounds corny, but its true.) Try to view everything optimistically. Find the good in bad situations. It will make you an overall happier person. It sounds like a waste of time, but i promise it will help. Try it.
I also think it would help to be more active. Find a hobbie that you are interested in. It doesn't have to be a sport or something that you have to devote your life to, just something you enjoy doing with your spare time. Like a school club? Pick something and actually stick with it. You will meet lots of people like this and won't feel like your wasting your time.
You could also try volunteer work. You will feel great about helping other people and will meet nice people in the proccess. Wake up early and go feed the homeless. (it's way more fun than it sounds, surprisingly)
You can get involved in more events going on in your community, like walks for certain causes. These are always a good use of your time. I don't know if you already haev one, but if you don't, get a job.
Try to spend as little time as possible locked up in your room watching t.v. If you have some downtime and have absolutely nothing else to do, go for a walk or a light jog. The excercise will make you feel better.
Something really important to keep in mind is to always be nice to EVERYONE! Even those people who you hate at your school. Even if you don't want to pursue a friendship with them, being nice to them might come in handy at some point. Be outgoing. Stop caring what people think. Talk to people. It might be hard to do at first, but what do you have to lose? So what if a few people say mean stuff to you, brush it off. Eventually you will find people that you are compatible with that don't judge you.
Always look on the brightside, and remember that things could be worse. As for the girl, even if you can't have a relationship with her, try to mend your friendship. Apologize for whatever you did and I'm sure she will come around at some point or another.
And if you need anyone to talk to, or if you have anymore questions, I consider high school my specialty =)
Feel free to drop something in my inbox whenever you want.
Good Luck!
Sarah
I'm not sure what's wrong with me, and wheather it's paranoia, or OCD, or something else. This is really hard to explain but i'll try my best.
In my head while i'm doing something, i'll make like, a 'bet' with myself. Like I have to do something or else i'll die. It's about really stupid thing, too, but it's just become a habit ie: You have to fast forward through the opening credits of this tv show, otherwise you'll die. I found a way to kind of 'derail' it, by instead of saying,"Otherwise you'll die," saying something like, "otherwise beyonce will gain a pound," But now saying that has because an obsession. I used to do something kind of like that, but with music videos on MTV. And whatever music video I saw last before I went to bed I thought would be a representation of the next day. Sometimes I would stay up for an extra hour because I was so paranoid that if i saw a video like, 'It end tonight' I would die. I've developed this stupid habit of looking at the clock and creatingf math problems. If it were 1:01 i'd say to myself, "Addition," and "Subtraction,"(because one plus one is zero and same goes for minusing). I'd also do things like that for multiplication and division. And it's become obsessive. Like every time I look at the clock I HAVE to name a math problem, or else somthing bad will happen.
Lastly, I have this nervous tick where i'll count out the sylables to everything on my hand really quickly. And for some reason it has to either be ten or five sylables. And since th phrase,"otherwise beyonce will gain a pound," is ten slables, i find myself almost always involintarily counting out sylables.
(I don't have an obsessionover beyonce, or anything, I just said it once and it stuck)
What on earth is wrong with me? And what can I do to just be NORMAL? Please help me
i was actually really surprised when i read this because i used to do the EXACT same things, especiallly the clock thing. i had it really bad though, it would take over my life and i couldnt hardly function because i couldnt stop thinking about weird little things like that. i got tested and i had OCD. it wasnt that big of a deal i just went to a schycologist and talked to him. it sounds like that might be what you have. its nothing to freak out about though, i got prescribed some medication that eased my mind and made me stop being paranoid. my life was so much easier once i got the medicine. my advice would be to talk to someone about it because it sounds like you have OCD. i hope that i helped