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I'm Christina 25 years old I give very good advice when it becomes to being questions about being married,babys,pregnancy,abuse,career,adhd,depression,life,ectIve been through a lot in my life 14 years of counseling and sex therapy my life wasn't always perfect i was adopted by my grandmother as a child didn't find out til i was older my mother was living with us and she got away with things when i had my daughter at 20 I had no choice but give her to a family my mother was abusive to me yelling at me i was taking care of my grandmother but i was living at home i was engaged to be married but every thing didn't turn out right the man i loved lied to me so I had to change and not be life my family be mature move on and get away some family can be controlling that it can ruin your life that the best thing you can do get out get counseling I I graduated high school in 2003 and then i went to art school at art instruction school and dress making design i became a plus size model help from a friend I might have not had help in some ways of life but friends were the best in my life i looked at their life and that what i wanted my grandmother was just getting old when i reach a certain age my mother did drugs that one resin I left my sister were the same I wanted to to be their they wanted me to be like them well i did not want to be white trash so i toke some lady classes to be classy,graceful,independent this made me more of a women of my image and people like you when you have good manners good taste and can carry a conversation and can get along if you want to change you can god is one of the people that help me through every thing I might have had to give up on things but some times you have to make them better you might end up with nothing but along the way you get the things you need but things do not come free in life and you just cant sit their let in come to you. you have to get out and do it your self or you will not live the dream. god gave us all a talent live it do it become it never give up . my mother killed her self and overdosed on pill i was their and my grandmothers deathbed at least I seen her before it was time for her to go she was a good women she gave me good advice she and her husband owned a bar my grandmother was married twice but her first husband died then she was widowed and was poor then a man came in her life she lost her son at his age 13 my grandfather past away also but my grandmother was hard working women she would get work done if you didn't she could do any thing Im like her she didn't go to art school her dad wanted her to. but she got married instead well i did the art thing for her i got it from her her teaching me and showing me as a child as i will always love her never give up the people that showed you life and love its the main key to life I grew up having adhd still l have it to this day dosn't mean your dume it mean you got talent and you always have ideas running throw your head walt disney,the guy who mad charlie brown all had adhd woppie goldberg,mary kate and ashley,ect no ones is alone in some we we are the same but we all different image is nothing never compare you self to ant one be your self be healthy exercise eat healthy and you'll be happy thank you for reading this have a good day. my webpages myspace/ANNAIKA my email chrissibug@yahool.com
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I have a sadness in my heart and I don't know why I cant seem to feel more positive about myself. I wanna be a great mother to my children but fear I am not strong enough to endure all. I love them more than anything in the whole world but that just isn't enough I fear. I don't want to fail them as a mother, I want to be a better person for my partner and I feel lost because I am not happy with myself so how can I make someone else happy. I feel he does not want me anymore. I feel so judged and hate it. I am tired of being so anxious about everything I want peace of mind. Sometimes I want to just live in a bubble and never leave. Why do I feel this way? What is wrong with me? What are steps to improve myself for my family.I have no insurance and unable to seek professional help so I am turning to the web for any suggestions. Thanks
it look like your not getting time with your self mabee and your inpressing ever one else and sacerfice for other mabee it time that you did somthing for you. like get your nails odne od somthing new if you dont take care of you you not going to be happy, mabee you need a night with the girl night out with out kids some time mother need that men get to do so can women hope this helps.
Hi. 14/f long im sorry, please read though ;(
Ok, I made a lot of mistakes. I lost a respect from a best friend,(cierra) i told something she told me in confidence to my other best friend(shaila). I shouldn't have and i regret it so much, we are trying to start over again, it's so hard though because both cierra and shaila hate each other. They are fighting, and shaila she is my best friend now because she helped me threw a lot. Threw the fighting with cierra and with a guy who really hurt me(i will get to him soon) I really regret telling Shaila but i could trust shaila, but cierra can't. She never gave shaila a chance though, she's really a good person. I hate her criticizing her, she's also mad that she's my best friend now, but i can't help that. She treated me horrible, i didn't treat her right either though. Now, on to the boy. You see he was the guy i really thought "loved" me. He made me feel good, he told me i was pretty, hot sexy and all of that. He said i love and i want to hold you and stuff.We met last summer and i liked him and he liked me to, i found out that he liked this other girl to. I didn't like the idea of that. He used me, because the other girl lives all the way in Florida. We talked like dirty to each other and all that, he actually got me to do that.I decided to forget about him than he came back, i was stupid enough to take him as my boyfriend. I really thought we would last. Than the thing that i regret the MOST is, i sent him a pic of me nude. Not fully only one breast.He convinced me, by sending me a picture of his.. you know. So, i thought we were the real deal? That we were really together and he really cared about me, but the next day he broke up with me, telling me that i was CHEATING on him?!!! So, we were over. I moved on off of him, i have someone else, but i feel so horrible and i really need some help. I feel sick all the time, i vomit every morning on my way to school because im so stressed because of all of this. I don't eat as much as i use to. I'm so depressed. Please someone help me, how do i forget what i did move on? I know what i did was wrong, i asked god to forgive me of my sins, but i still feel like a horrible person. Shaila tells me that i'm not, im the best thing that ever happend to her, im the only friend who gives her repsect, and she doesnt want to lose me. Please don't criticize me more please, just help alright?
Thanks for listening sorry it's so long.
boys will come and go but friends will will always be thier. yes friends get mad at each other. take a break let them call you. people get mad over stuped resions if theycant escept who you are who your friends with them they shouldnt be in your life yuor you no one can control you.if they got a problem they can talk but no one wants drama in thier life. fighting dosnt solve anything.some times yes we have to go to are friend because we dont no whats wrong could be stress some one died in thier family. all you have to say is. im here for you for good and bad and the ugly times but why you got to chose what I do tell her you dont do it to her controling me just makes use fight.what happen to the shoping the girls night out just tell her you miss her we need to talk but if she still a snob then go your way and shel lgo hers thier more friends out thier just like boys lol hope this help bye now.
When i was young i rememember being sexually child abused a multiple of times it was by friends of the family, it must have started from when i was 5 to i was about 8 i mind being held down by this one man.then his foster brother used to do it too, the man that held me down on table to rape me still talks to my parents and his foster brother was murdered 10years ago and i cryed with glee more than greif at his funeral im now 23 and its been in my head for years ive never spoken to now, im so sure my sister was abused too tho im afraid to mention it too her even tho we are close because if it didnt happen to her then i no she will go straight to him and bring everyting up again, i dont want to cause conflict in my family as there has been enough tho i wish to a speak about it to clear my head, i find it hard to get close too people because of this and have never lasted long in a relationship, although i now have a gorg little girl of 10 motnhs and i am very protective over her i dont let her out of my site, i dont wish to be a mother than can't let her child have freedom, tho in this life u can never trust people around a child.
counsling can clear yourmind because what you say stay with them, yes you cant keep it in your mind forever you want to get out but you dont want to.abuse can afect your life if you dont talk about it you have to clear your mind and move on. my father abuse me a a child I had to go throw counsling. some time it good to talk to a stanger but some ones that has been throw same thing but a counsler a mentor can help you need to do this because every time you see somthing thatreminds you it starts the crying you odnt want to be around people or you dont trust men. you need to be free try some new goals to help you hope this helps good look.
i am an 18 year old girl who has always had issues with confidence and self esteem. ever since i was a little kid all i did was draw. i guess the only thing ive always consistently done and been good at it is art. and now im going to school in new york for design. ive moved from los angeles to chicago, so this new city doesnt really scare me, but i feel like now that im anticipating these changes i should try and tackle the real issues about my personality.
im really easily manipulated by people in countless different ways. they always come over to my house because i let them even if i dont want to. they hustle me for money and drugs. (i do the same drugs). these people are my friends, and all of us do the same things to each other, but i feel like everyone takes advantage of my niceness and no one listens to me or takes me seriously. i feel like i have a lot to offer to people (and guys), but no on ever takes the time to see it.
ive been told that my independence scares guys and people in general. i get told i dress well and that i'm pretty, but no one even looks at me. i feel invisible most of the time. and awkward. there are some guys i would love to get to know better but dont know what moves to make without being too forceful. note, i am so terrified of rejection because all through elementary school people just called me ugly and a freak.
i need to learn to hustle hard and find my way. someone please help me use people to my advantage, and find another half.
stay away from people that do bad things find new friends if your good at art go in at fares in your town sell your art go to meetup.com dont let people walk all over you always think postive nerver negative ok do somthing for your self get your nails done your hair done no ones perfect never compare your self to others it makes you feel week say im pretty im going to have a good day ok hope this helps
16/f
ok well where do i start. i really think theres something wrong with me. that i am not noticing as much as others.
well heres the thing. my ex knows me better than i know myself and helps me realize so much about myself.
we were talking last nite and he was telling me to ignore people that get on my nerves. well i said, u know me, i cant ignore things. and he said "not being able to ignore things is a blind version of sumbody not knowing themselves, meaning no one does." and i totally agreed.
i DONT know myself. at all. and its really becoming a problem. thats part of the reason we broke up, because he thought that i was changing for him and for everyone else. which is true. but i cant stop doing it. i dont know who i am so i try to act like other people.
he also said, " i love you, but you act so different around so many people i find myself going who is she really? i was unsure of the girl i fell for." and i do it unconsciously sometimes and i no that i change for everyone. its like im trying to make everyone happy and impress them. as in im a different person to all of my friends. like when i met my best friend i started dressing just like her. (shes black) and i totally changed my style and started talking differently and acting like i didnt care about anything kind of like her. i am a really caring person but when i talk to her im just like yeah who gives a fuck, whatever, who cares. and i like the type of person she is so its not like im unhappy being like this because all this changing just kind of comes natural to me because i like impressing people so much. but it happens all the time, ive changed to be like different people many times.
i went through the jock, skater, hippie, and many more phases. im currently stuck in the "gangster" phase. maybe because my best friend and ex are black.
i dont know. but the thing is, i want to be friends with EVERYONE so i act like how i think the person would want me to act. i am part of every different cliche and i act different in every one of them. with the gangsters, i talk like im black, i wear ghetto clothes, and act like i dont give a fuck about anything. with the stoners i wear my bob marley stuff, talk really slow, and act chill with everything. with the popular people i always crack jokes, wear abercrombie, am really caring and act a little bitchy at times. i change like every month, but i still keep all my old friends, i just gain alot of new ones too but i dont think they like me for the real me, even though i dont even know who that is.
and believe me ive become amazing at this changing and i am friends with everyone in the school because im so good at doing this. but i need to stop. its ridiculous and i feel like im being fake. its become a habit and almost like a game. ive become friends with girls that my ex once dated, just so i could keep tabs on him. ive become friends with girls so they will hook me up with guys. ive become friends with guys to make girls jealous. i havnt become friends with half my friends just because i like them as a person. but i want everyone to like me and i love being so popular. i dont know what to do. like my ex said, if i dont know the real me, no one does. please helppp
you need to be your self you do no your self what stuff do you like to do what music do you like to listen to who do you have a crush on what one of your main goals in life what are one of your talents these are question to find out who you are if you wake up you have a name you parents gave it to you your parents brought you up as a baby they no you more then any one. but if you act like other you will forget your self. you are dont you want to be you yes thier are cliches in high school but yes its ok to be what you want but do it in your own way see this why you have lost your soul in your self.If your good at making people smile and laugh when you give jokes. don't conpare your self to others because every ones diffrent when you do you get stressed out and worry if i act like her will I get this in life trust me we all want to be somthing but do it the right way. you need to learn to love your self and be cofedent in your self then you will be happy with the people around you then your way been will change.and try learing manners and how to be a lady this has helped women face thier problem wth life with friends.school,career ect I have did this because of my career it was requrired. never let people walk all over you and you dont need to do somthing just because that person said you had to if it hurts you dont remeber school is about learning because ones your last year of high school every one changed the stoners and the loser pretty much make somthing of the thier self then the prepies my self was not hat popular but I still tryed but I just keep my head high didnt let any thing get in my way so it would not bother me after I got of school I went to art school became a model and a web designer because I didnt worry about what the hell people were thinking me I was thinking about my future if people cant understand you then they are not real people the main key in life never give up and when some one gives you advice take it. if you listen to people they wil listen to you its showing people respect and its not good to be bitchy this a sign no ones what to be around so you ned to work on this as you get oler men dont like bitchy women they will leave they dont put up with crap. just get invold with school activaty this wil help like drama school decarating ok hope this helps you ok.
21/f
I have terrible body image, but I also despise myself for caring too much about what I look like. I am now over 200 pounds, and I am 5'5". All of my adult life I have been around this weight. The only exception is that I lost about 30 pounds once, but I didn't keep it off. I tell people I want to lose weight for my health, but I know deep down that the majority of my motivation is because I hate the way I look.
Despite being obese, I seem to be in pretty good health. I have excellent blood pressure. I have perfect cholesterol levels. There is absolutely nothing wrong with me health-wise. I work out regularly. I drink nothing but water, tea, and juice, except for one or two 12 oz beers on occasion. I eat mostly vegetables, rice, beans, fruit, nuts, and lean chicken breasts. I cook most of my own food, and I won't even keep things like butter or salt in my kitchen. It doesn't seem to matter. I know to lose weight I am going to have to eat less and work out more. I just wish it wasn't such an emotional issue.
My questions are:
1. How can I get to a point where I want to lose weight for the right reasons?
2. Why do I have the healthiest habits of anyone I know, yet I'm heavier than all these people who regularly drink soda, eat fast food, and sit on their butts watching television?
3. How can you improve your body image and reverse seemingly irreparable damage to it? Am I doomed to be this way for the rest of my life?
this the anser i ment to give you sorry it does take some people less then a hor to lose 500 calories but your right thier are more calories hope this works better ok hope you reach your goal have a good day!!! Running is one of the best exercises you can do for your body, your mind and your waistline. While running isn't for everyone, it is one of the most accessible activities there is- all you need is a good pair of running shoes and an iPod nano (ok, you don't really NEED the nano). While running comes very natural to most of us, building up endurance for running takes time, patience, and persistence. If you just take it slow and gradual, you can start calling yourself a 'runner' in no time. (As with any change in your exercise level, you should consult your doctor before starting a new running regimen.)
Benefits
There are plenty of benefits to a regular running routine - running can make you feel good, look good, breathe easier, more coordinated, more energized and it's great for your bones and your heart. Some people run just because they enjoy it, others run to lose weight, clear their mind, or improve their health.
Running is one of the most effective ways to manage your weight because it burns a ton of calories. When you're burning more calories than you're consuming, you lose weight. To lose one pound of body weight, your body must burn 3,500 more calories than it consumes. Since most runners can easily burn 500 calories in less than an hour, running once a day can help you lose about a pound a week (assuming no change in your diet). Of course, the actual amount of calories you burn depends on a number of factors, including your weight and how fast you run.
Running regularly can be great for your heart health as well. Running can lower your blood pressure and help give your arteries a good workout to keep them functioning smoothly. When you run, your arteries expand and contract much faster than they do normally - so you're actually improving the way your body functions with each stride! Running can also help slow down the aging process. People who run regularly experience slower loss in bone and muscle than sedentary people. Running helps strengthen your muscles and bones so they are not as susceptible to weakening as you age.
Ever heard of a runner's high? Running triggers mood-altering hormones called endorphins that help you feel happier and less stressed. These endorphins can create a euphoric feeling, which is what is often referred to as a runner's high. Running can also give you a great sense of accomplishment, and help shift your focus away from negative stressors and into the present, further enhancing your mood and relieving stress.
Notice how graceful a Gazelle looks, even when it's standing still? Running can actually help you improve your coordination, especially trail running. The uneven surface of the trail combined with obstacles such as rocks and tree roots can make trail running pretty challenging. People who regularly run on trails learn to maintain better control over their bodies to prevent tripping and stumbling while running. Running on a paved road can also improve coordination because it forces you to keep your body upright and moving in the right direction.
Running Gear
Shoes
The most important piece of equipment for running is your shoes. Finding the right shoes for you can make a big difference in your comfort, and actually help prevent injury and keep you running longer. Choosing the right shoe is based on a surprising number of factors, including your body type, foot arch, foot shape and how you run. One key issue is whether your foot naturally rolls inward ('pronates') or outward ('supponates') when you run. It's important to get a shoe that supports your foot in the right way to prevent it from rolling too much in either direction. Most running shoe stores will be able to look at your foot arch and watch you walk to tell you which way your foot rolls and what level of support is right for you. There are three distinct types of feet: flat feet, high arched feet and neutral feet. If you have flat feet (not much of an arch in the bottom of your foot), you're likely a pronator, which means your foot rolls inward when you run. You will most likely need a foot with a lot of support, usually called a 'stability' or 'motion-control' shoe. If you have high arches, your likely to supinate, which means your foot rolls outward when you run. You'll need shoes with a lot of flexibility, usually called 'flexible' or 'cushioned'. If you have a neutral foot (most common), you can wear most running shoes, but you don't want to buy a shoe that has too much stability because it could counteract your natural, neutral step. Your foot type is not the only factor that affects how your foot rolls, so you may want to find a knowledgeable running shoe salesperson to take a look at your step and help you pick out the right shoe if you have any doubt. Not all shoes fit the same, and everyone's foot is a bit different, so it's important that you try on a few pairs of shoes to find one that fits you comfortably. You may even want to run around the store a bit to really get a sense of how the shoe feels. If you've been running, it may be a good idea to bring in your current pair of running shoes- the salesperson can tell a lot from how you wear your shoes down and what parts of the sole are most worn.
Here's a Shoe Finder that can help you find a running shoe that's right for you:
http://www.therunnershigh.com/shoes/wizard/
An important thing to remember is to replace your shoes every 300 - 400 miles. Wearing old, worn out shoes can lead to injury while running. If you run about 3 - 5 miles, 4 - 5 times per week, you should be replacing your shoes every 3 - 4 months!
Clothes
One of the great things about running is that you don't need any special gear or equipment, other than a good pair of running shoes. You can wear anything that's comfortable for you to run in. Many runners prefer to wear clothing that is lightweight, loose and breathable. Most running apparel is not made of cotton, because cotton absorbs moisture as you sweat. Most athletic apparel companies make running shirts, shorts and pants out of non-cotton synthetic, or 'technical', fabrics with technical-sounding names like CoolMax, Dri-Fit and Gore- Tex that help to wick away moisture from your body. Some of the most common running apparel brands include Nike, Hind, Brooks, New Balance, Asics, Adidas and Under Armour.
Underwear One of the most underrated and important piece of running apparel is underwear. Wearing a base layer of synthetic fabrics will make the biggest difference in keeping you cool and dry. For women, wearing a jog bra and underwear made of synthetic polypropylene materials can help to reduce chafing and wick away moisture from the body. You may also want to look for a seamless bra so the seams don't dig into you while you run. For men, a pair of synthetic under-shorts or boxer briefs can make a big difference in prevent chafing and keeping you comfortable.
Socks You may want to consider buying yourself some non-cotton, or synthetic, socks, especially if you think you may be running in the rain. Synthetic socks can help prevent blisters, and keep your feet cool and dry while you run. If you are blister-prone, you may also consider special running socks that have added cushioning around blister-prone spots.
Hat or Visor If you're going to be running in the hot sun, or in the rain, you may want to take along a hat or visor to protect your face. Many stores sell synthetic hats or visors which, again, can help wick away moisture and keep your head cool and dry.
Sunglasses If you're running on a sunny day, you may want to take a long a pair of sunglasses. There are many sunglasses designed specifically for sports, which tend to be made of plastic materials and to be tougher than typical sunglasses to withstand potential shocks or falls, and stay snuggly on your face while running. By keeping the sun out of your eyes, a good pair of sunglasses can even save you energy by keeping you from squinting and allowing you to relax your face.
Common Injuries
Shin Splints 'Shin splints' is the common term for pain along the front of the lower leg, in or near your shinbone (tibia). Shin splints are most commonly brought on by running, because of the force put on your shin and the connective tissue that connects the bone to the muscles surrounding it when you run. This force can lead to painful inflammation of the connective tissue around your shinbone. Running on hard surfaces can put added strain on your front leg muscles.
Symptoms of shin splints include:
* Lower leg pain which subsides when you stop running, but returns when you start running again.
* Tenderness around the inside of the shin bone.
* Bumps around the inside of the shin bone.
* Pain when the toes or foot are bent downwards.
* Redness on the inside of the shin.
So, what do I do about it? The good news is that shin splints can be usually treated with rest, ice, proper footwear and possibly some minor modifications in your exercise routine.
Here's what you can do about it:
* Rest to allow the injury to heal.
* Ice your lower legs for 10 - 15 every 4 to 6 hours to reduce pain and inflammation.
* Make sure to elevate your foot.
* To help reduce the inflammation further, you may want to take aspirin or ibuprofen.
* Wear shock absorbing insoles to help reduce the shock on the lower leg.
Blisters
You've probably gotten a blister at some time in your life. Those small clear-liquid filled bubbles on your foot can be surprisingly painful, and in some cases keep you from running. Blisters are usually caused by friction between your skin and your sock, particularly if your foot is wet or very sweaty.
So, what should I do about it?
To prevent blisters, it's important to minimize the friction between your foot and your sock by making sure you wear shoes that fit you properly. Shoes that are too tight can make blisters more likely, you may even want to buy running shoes a 1/2 size bigger than your normal size because your feet may swell when you run. Another way to help prevent blisters is to buy non-cotton (synthetic) socks that help to wick away moisture and reduce friction. Some special running socks also have extra padding in certain hotspot areas to reduce friction.
One of the least known, and best, ways to prevent or treat blisters is using moleskin. Moleskin is a tough, soft cloth-like material, usually with an adhesive pad on the back. If there's a place on your foot that is being rubbed by your shoe, or you think a blister is coming on, you can cut a small square of moleskin and stick it to your foot to cover that area. The smooth, soft moleskin reduces the irritation and friction to help prevent blisters. If you already have a blister, you can cut out a hole in the moleskin and place it on top of your blister to help prevent continued rubbing. This will reduce the pain and help the blister to heal more quickly.
Blisters typically heal by themselves, so if it's not too painful, you can let it take its course. If the blister is causing a lot of painful, you can pierce it with a sterile needle and drain the fluid. Make sure to put on antiseptic cream (like Neosporin) and cover it with a bandage to allow it to heal properly.
IT (Illiotibial) Band Issues
Many new runners experience pain on the outside of their knee or in their hip that is caused by a tight IT band. The IT band is a tissue that connects the top of your hip to the outside of your knee, and helps stabilize your knee. A tight IT band can rub against the outside of your knee, causing painful inflammation. The most common causes of IT band problems are improper stretching, warm up or cool down, and overtraining.
So, what should I do about it?
To prevent IT band problems, make sure to properly stretch your quads and thighs and warm up before your running, and to take the time to cool down afterwards. You should also increase your running distances and durations gradually, increasing too quickly or trying to do too much can lead to a tight IT band.
If you're experiencing problems with your IT band, you may want to see a physical therapist or sports medicine specialist who can evaluate you and give you certain exercises that can help strengthen your hip and massage to loosen your IT band. You'll likely want to give your legs time to rest and heal. You most likely can continue running, but you should stop if you continue to feel pain. Some physical therapists recommend using a Foam Roller. You lie down on a mat face down, place the Foam Roller under your leg, and move your body slowly up and down along the mat so that the Roller massages your IT band from just below your hip to just above your knee. (Warning: it will hurt, but not as much as your IT band tightening up on your when you're out there on your run). Side Stitches
A side stitch is a sharp pain on your right side just below your ribcage caused by a muscle spasm in your diaphragm. The jarring motion of running while breathing in and out stretches the ligaments that connect your diaphragm to your organs, and can cause your diaphragm to spasm or cramp. Side stitches can be brought on by quick, shallow breathing, and often occur if you've eaten just before running.
So, what should I do about it?
To prevent a side stitch, take deep, steady breaths when you run. Shallow breathing tends to increase the risk of cramping because the diaphragm is always slightly raised and never lowers far enough to allow the ligaments to relax. Having food in your stomach may increase your risk of cramping, so it's best to avoid eating 1 - 2 hours before your run. Stretching your sides may also help to prevent a stitch.
If you do get a side stitch while you're running, stop running, put your hand on the right side of your belly and push up, lifting the liver slightly. Inhale and exhale evenly as you push up. You can also try deep breathing, and stretching your sides by raising either arm straight up and leaning toward the opposite direction for 30 seconds. If the pain persists, see your doctor.
I am 16 year old girl and I don't know exactly how to say this- but I have no confidence in myself. I have no self esteem. I look in the mirror and my reaction is always like- oh wow my hair looks so bad. Or my makeup looks so ugly and dull. But then again, my friends are like- shut up you're beautiful. I am dissatisfied with many things about myself- I have a saggy ass, I have a camel toe when I wear volleyball spandex, my breasts are tiny, my whole body shape is petite. I'm tall and skinny. I have love handles, my hair is frizzy and only looks good when I straighten it and it gets even more damaged, I pick at my cuitcles/nails and bite my nails so they are ugly, I can't wear tampons still, I love to sing but I have a terrible voice. I like to dance but I'm a clutz and run into things. I break a lot of things I touch. I can't wear high heels. I've only been to 1 formal dance in my school and my friends are already going to prom. My friends are taking advanced classes and I am getting A-'s in regular classes. My parents are overly-strict. I don't eat healthy and sometimes I worry about getting diabetes or appendecitis. I am VERY stubborn. It's hard for me to make friends. I feel like no one loves me. I feel like I'm selfish a lot and when I try to put other people in front of me, I feel like they're more important. I feel like i'm too nice and I need to stand up to myself and be a little bitchy towards the people who bully me. But when I do become a little bitchy, I feel bad about it. Ahh HELP!!!!!
first of all you need to stop putting your self down.when you look in the mirror you need to tell you self I am pretty because friends say so and I'm going to have a good have a good day and i need to stop worrying how I look and think positive and move on. you need to learn to be graceful,dainty,classy.with poise and its not hard it called being a lady it just takes some work. first stand up straight breast up head up shoulders back sway your arms as you walk and the heel thing i had use this as the same thing but start with heel toe you should hear the heel then the ball of the shoe but remeber some people have to but those cushions thier clear you put then in heels i have to if you have higher arches you should it helps and you can use them over and over they stick in the shoe you can find them in the beauty supply section for you the back of your foot and toe ball of your foot and the arches thier clear so on one can see them but your first heel should be a heel thats not a pointy heels they do make heels that have fatter backs get those they are easy but if you want to really wear the 3 inch heel you got to practise try on grass first think tall shoulders back think like you own the walk way ok im a plus size model being happy with your self is the main key and beauty is not people are born with it takes hard work and what a saying ive been told lazy people are not beautiful only the ones they work in to it.to make your self happy go get your nails done go get your hair done go for a walk a run this get you to get happy and results will come you'll feel so great that you'll for get those bad thoughts. all these thing I gave you below are some thins i had to learn and im still learning it helps with friends dealing with people and solving problems that people will look up to you and say your not so bacd after all i have frizzy hair my self heres my myspace page myspace.com/ANNAIKA IM NOT FAMOUS BOUT PEOPLE LIKE ME FOR MY OLD FASHION GIRLY LOOK LOOK I LOOK LIKE ALOT OF THE GIRLS FROM THE 30S AND FORTYS I MAKE MY SELF LOOK DIFFRENT I DONT DO IT TO CHANGE ME I DO IT BEACUSE Its ME MY BOYFRIENDS A CHEF HE LOVES ME WITH OUT MAKE UP AND I USE TO THINK I DIDNT NOW SEE NO ONES PERFECT BUT WE DO NEED A PICK ME UP AND TO FIND A NICE PROM DRESS GO TO THE MALL I USE TO GO THIER TO DEBS OR TO FREDRICKS OF HOLLYWOOD.COM NICE DRESSES THIER I LOVE THEN CLASSY AND TASTFUL HOPE THIS HELPS IF YOU NEED MORE ADVICE EMAIL ME AT chrissibug@yahoo.com or chat name on yahoo chrissibug rember to read the bottom stuff ok bye.
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By BeInspired, eHow Member Rating
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Do you lack confidence? Then learn how to activate the power that's already on the inside of you. There is a divine power within you. A power that can cause you to accomplish the impossible. A power that can cause you to live such a phenomenally confident life that it will seem hard to believe! This power can only be activated by you, it can be developed by you and it can be increased by you.
As you use these life keys, you can learn how to use this power to help you achieve and live the best possible life!#
Learn to take action! If there is something you desire to do, then making a decision to just simply take action can cure your fears. Identify and isolate your fear and then take steps toward the action so that you can move beyond your fear. If you choose to doing nothing about your situation it only strengthens your fear and destroys your confidence.
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Step 2
Make it your goal to think only on positive things. Don’t foster negative thoughts. Negativity only amplifies unpleasant events and situations. Simply refuse to recall unpleasant events or situations. Think on GOOD things! Think Positively! Positive thinking will move you toward building your confidence!
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Step 3
Don't let others affect who you are. View others from a proper perspective #
Remember, people are more alike, than different. Others are human beings created by God just like you. Even though people bark, very few actually bite. Hebrews 13:6 we say with confidence, "The Lord is my helper; I will not be afraid. What can man do to me?" NIV
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Step 4
Practice doing what you know to be right. Doing what’s right is a very practical rule for any type of success. Isaiah 1:17 says, "learn to do right"! Revelations 22:11 says, "let him who does right continue to do right". As you continue to do right things, and you know they are right - it gradually builds your confidence.
Make everything you do reflect, “I’m confident!”
Phil 4:13 I can do all things through Christ which strengthens me.
Think yourself to confidence!! To think confidently, act confidently!
To act confidently, practice confidence boosters:
a. Be a front seater- sit up front.
b. Practice making eye contact – body language is everything.
c. Walk faster and feel more confident. Good posture projects confidence. Psychologists link bad posture and sluggish walking to unpleasant attitudes towards oneself, work and the people around us. They way you can actually change your attitudes by changing your posture and speed of movement. Watch, and you discover that body action is the result of mind action.
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How to Walk In Confidence
By BeInspired, eHow Member Rating
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Do you lack confidence? Then learn how to activate the power that's already on the inside of you. There is a divine power within you. A power that can cause you to accomplish the impossible. A power that can cause you to live such a phenomenally confident life that it will seem hard to believe! This power can only be activated by you, it can be developed by you and it can be increased by you.
As you use these life keys, you can learn how to use this power to help you achieve and live the best possible life!
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1.
Step 1
Learn to take action! If there is something you desire to do, then making a decision to just simply take action can cure your fears. Identify and isolate your fear and then take steps toward the action so that you can move beyond your fear. If you choose to doing nothing about your situation it only strengthens your fear and destroys your confidence.
2.
Step 2
Make it your goal to think only on positive things. Don’t foster negative thoughts. Negativity only amplifies unpleasant events and situations. Simply refuse to recall unpleasant events or situations. Think on GOOD things! Think Positively! Positive thinking will move you toward building your confidence!
3.
Step 3
Don't let others affect who you are. View others from a proper perspective. Remember, people are more alike, than different. Others are human beings created by God just like you. Even though people bark, very few actually bite. Hebrews 13:6 we say with confidence, "The Lord is my helper; I will not be afraid. What can man do to me?" NIV
4.
Step 4
Practice doing what you know to be right. Doing what’s right is a very practical rule for any type of success. Isaiah 1:17 says, "learn to do right"! Revelations 22:11 says, "let him who does right continue to do right". As you continue to do right things, and you know they are right - it gradually builds your confidence.
5.
Step 5
Make everything you do reflect, “I’m confident!”
Phil 4:13 I can do all things through Christ which strengthens me.
Think yourself to confidence!! To think confidently, act confidently!
To act confidently, practice confidence boosters:
a. Be a front seater- sit up front.
b. Practice making eye contact – body language is everything.
c. Walk faster and feel more confident. Good posture projects confidence. Psychologists link bad posture and sluggish walking to unpleasant attitudes towards oneself, work and the people around us. They way you can actually change your attitudes by changing your posture and speed of movement. Watch, and you discover that body action is the result of mind action.
d. Speak up. Actively participate in discussions. Say something! Join Toastmasters so you can learn to feel at ease talking with people and to people.
e. Smile more – it’s proven that a smile is an excellent confidence booster.
How to Be More Graceful
There is grace in disposition or acts and there is physical grace. Here we will discuss the latter and how to be more graceful. Natural physical grace isn't something everyone is born with. Many of us tend to rush, slouch and move with less grace than we'd like. You can be more graceful by being aware of your body and training yourself to move in a more self-assured manner.
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Stand tall. Bad posture is the anathema of physical grace. Practice standing tall, with your shoulders back and abdomen pulled in. Not only does this make you appear more graceful, it elongates your body and has a thinning affect.
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Step 2
Slow down. Many of us rush through our day moving quickly from task to task and place to place. Slow down and become aware of your surroundings. Graceful people don’t rush into a room looking harried, they move slowly and purposefully. Slowing down will also help you avoid falls, spills and other less graceful mishaps.
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Step 3
Get stronger. Graceful movement is much easier when you have strong muscles, particularly core muscles. Consider strength training routines that focus on making your muscles stronger and more flexible. Pilates and yoga are excellent choices for strength, coordination and balance.
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Step 4
Watch your stride. Stomping or walking heavily is not only anti-graceful, but it’s not particularly good for your joints. Adversely, small mincing steps do not denote grace either. Adapt a self-assured stride. When you walk, walk with a purpose and be aware of your stride.
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Step 5
Consider dance classes. Dance classes are great for helping people become more graceful. Individuals with dance training tend to have more coordination, flexibility and grace. It’s never too late to take dance classes. Many community centers or gyms offer dance classes for all ages.
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Practice makes perfect. When you practice slower more graceful movements, the idea is to incorporate these movements into your daily routine. As with any training, the more you practice or use new techniques, the more likely these changes will become habit.
How to Overcome Procrastination In Graceful, Flexible Ways
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Goals and procrastination do not work. Hitting the bad traits of procrastination are excuses, laziness, avoidance, blame, stress, anxious, poor attitude, guilt, fear, unorganized, frequent failure
and lack of directions.
The magic key is to invert all the bad traits to find your desire and passion to make you complete the task in joy and ease. Once your emotions are uplifted, the procrastination will disappear and
you will find the limitless energy in you to achieve your goals.#
Write down the list of tasks or goals your need to accomplish. By writing them down, you have send out many signals into your subconscious mind. You have created a contract of intention to achieve your goals. You can plan your priority by having the whole vision of your many goals of the list in front of you.
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Let us move to one task or a small goal first. Choose your goal and close your eyes for a few seconds. Now picture in your mind a series of process leading to your end result. This will help to create desire and faith of achievement. Power up the imagination of yours.
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Step 3
Before you start your process, take in a couple to deep breath. Deep breath have great benefits.
They are an immediate energy booster plus you find yourself instantly in more relax state.
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Wherever possible, have some relaxing music playing in the background. This will power up your RIGHT brain up and bring your brain waves down to the ALPHA level for you to work faster.
You will be only focusing on the completion of your goals and nothing around you matters.
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Step 5
When you are relaxed, you are now in the solution focus state and you are gaining the power to take action. You will be able to search into your subconscious mind to find the needed solution to complete your process. All you have to do is to surrender and take actions when needed.
How to Look Graceful
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There are people in the world who are truly beautiful but born clumsy. This fact can cause some of us to feel self conscious or have low self esteem; but there are ways to cover looking inept and look beautiful, graceful and balanced instead. Looking awkward can be avoided. You just need to know how to look graceful even when you’re not. Try these steps to attain that graceful beauty we all desire.
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Laugh at yourself. Not only does laughing make a person look beautiful, but laughter is contagious and brightens a person's day. When you make someone laugh that is how they will remember you, not as a lumbering ox.
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Step 2
When you run into a wall keep going, don’t stop and make a scene. Chances are witnesses will simply smile and forget about it.
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Take dance, yoga or ballet; anything that will help with balance and coordination.
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Step 4
When you drop something remember it isn’t your clumsiness they’re considering, it’s your butt, so stay in shape and take your time standing up!
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Step 5
Make up a funny story about how you dropped that cup of water on purpose. If you manage to make a joke of it they will laugh at the joke and not at you.
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Step 6
Always appear confident. Remember, confidence is attractive. Grace and beauty are in the eyes of the beholder.
How to Be a Lady
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It is likely that every girl hears "act like a lady" from their mother at some point in life. It involves a number of well thought-out mannerisms and actions that might not come naturally. A few simple steps can help anyone be a lady.#
Be polite. While traditional guidelines suggest that women should act as shrinking violets, being a lady does not necessarily mean being submissive. A lady, in all her wisdom, should keep a cool head under pressure and outwit her adversaries with meaningful, well chosen words.
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Maintain a well groomed appearance. While women should not feel that they need to dress up every day, grooming is a sign to the outside world that a woman is ladylike. Instead of throwing on tattered sweats, choose a nicely fitted jogging suit to run errands. Instead of leaving the house with no make-up, try a quick 5-minute face in the morning. Carry your sense of the ladylike throughout your wardrobe.
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Educate yourself. Today's proverbial "lady" should be educated and able to hold up her end of a conversation. By staying on top of world events and keeping your mind active through reading and meaningful television viewing, you can carry on a conversation charged with intellectual heft and interest.
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Be independent. In a drastic shift away from traditional ideas of ladylike, the contemporary woman is considered a lady if she can stand on her own two feet. Women hold down careers, raise children or live the single life dependent upon their choices and preferences. An independent woman is the pinnacle of ladylike.
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Nurture kindness. Perhaps the most recognizable sign of a lady is kindness. Whether a woman is kind to her parents, friends, lovers or the community at large, hardly any other characteristic is as valuable and contagious.
How to act Like a Lady
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Acting like a lady is a skill that takes time to learn. Most ladies learn their ladylike behavior from the time they're little girls. However, you can learn to act like a lady later in life too. A few etiquette classes and practice will get you on your way to ladylike behavior.
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Observe other ladies to see how they act. Watch old movies, and actresses like Audrey Hepburn, to get a good feel for how a lady should conduct herself.
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Enroll in etiquette classes. Many times these are geared for younger girls; however, most etiquette teachers will teach students of any age.
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Keep your voice down and never yell because it makes you look unattractive and unladylike. Keep your curse words to a minimum and maintain your composure.
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Step 4
Learn to walk. Ladies don't walk like they should be wearing overalls, they learn to walk, and even run, in high heels. Also, learn how to sit and exit a car properly so you don't show anything the world shouldn't see.
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Step 5
Dress like a lady by not showing too much skin. Dressing ladylike requires you to toss out your micro mini skirts and fishnet stockings and opt for a flowing skirt, silk stockings and pearls.
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Read up on the latest trends and fashion as well as classic literature and poetry. Being a well-rounded person will help you act like a lady in many situations.
How to Walk Properly and Gracefully in High Heel Shoes
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There's actually a reason that high heels make a woman so attractive. High heels visually lengthen the leg and force the calf muscle to pop out. The higher the heel, the more the buttocks and breasts are pushed out, creating a stunning silhouette. The good news is anyone can look great in high heels. The tricky part is learning to walk properly and gracefully in them.
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Difficulty: Moderately Easy
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Buy the right size shoe and make sure it fits comfortably. This is essential for walking gracefully in any type of shoe but especially if you walk in high heels. If the shoe pinches or hurts, there will be no hiding the pain and your walk will suffer because of the need to compensate for that pain.
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Step 2
Begin with lower heels and progress into higher heels at half-inch increments. Although it may not seem like a lot of height, it's stressful on the leg and walking incorrectly in high heels that you're not accustomed to can cause damage.
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Step 3
Pull your abdomen in towards the spine, making sure not to arch the back by keeping straight posture. When you walk, look straight ahead and keep your chin level with the floor. Although it may feel like you need to lean forward, concentrate on standing straight; you won't tip over.
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Step 4
Lift your foot and point your toe straight ahead rather than to the side, which may be more natural. Place your heel gently on the floor, aiming for the mid-line of your body position.
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Step 5
Keep your legs close together, pointing toes forward and placing the foot straight, essentially creating a straight line when walking. The motion should be heel-toe with the weight placed on the ball of the foot. Walk in short strides when wearing high heels.
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Step 6
Allow your hips to sway from side to side. This is the natural compensation for being tipped up on your toes. This natural rhythm when you walk is part of the allure of wearing high heels.
How to Have Manners
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In today's society, manners seem to be on the way out. Children don't always have the best manners and many adults don't have a clear understanding of manners, either. If you want to be respected, you need to give people a reason to respect you. Developing manners is a good place to start because good manners give people a positive impression.
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Remember to say "please" and "thank you" for everything. Those two words are the stepping stones of manners.
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Speak to people respectfully. Keep your tone positive and upbeat, and phrase your words so they do not come off as insulting.
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Listen to others. It's proper manners to listen to when people are speaking. Let them know with a nod of the head or other body language that you are indeed listening.
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Shake hands with people you're meeting for the first time or who you're just acquaintances with. This shows you're friendly and respectful.
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Step 5
Consider others feelings by being receptive of their thoughts and opinions without forcing your own upon them. Being rude to someone shows you lack manners.
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Accept others for who they are even if you don't agree with them or their decisions. Accept apologies from people who offer them; it's the polite thing to do.
How to Have Basic Table Manners
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How to Have Basic Table Manners
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The most basic of table manners are the most important. Yeah you should know what fork to use when or the proper side to serve on, but without the basics you've got nothing.
Brush up on your manners and your dining companions will surely appreciate it.
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*NAPKIN GOES ON YOUR LAP* First thing when you sit down at the table put your napkin on your lap. That's just incase you drop food (hopefully you don't) that it doesn't end up on your clothes.
*Unless your five please do not tuck your napkin in the collar of your shirt, thanks*
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*ELBOWS OFF THE TABLE* While your eating your elbows should not be on the table. Elbows take up space and knock things over, so keep them off.
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*CLOSE YOUR MOUTH WHEN IT'S FULL* Chew with your mouth closed & no talking with a mouth full of food. NO ONE wants to see the food in your mouth it's just gross. Speaking with a mouthful of food will pretty much guarantee that your spitting your food too. Just like chewing with your mouth open will guarantee that your making that yucky, smacking noise. Please close your mouth if there is something in it.
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*DON'T USE YOUR FINGERS* Unless your eating finger food, your fingers should not touch your food. Do not push that last little bit of rice on to your fork with your fingers, your knife will work just as well.
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*USE THE NAPKIN IN YOUR LAP* Do not, I repeat, do not lick your fingers, or wipe them on your clothes. Use the napkin, thats what it's for.
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*SIT UP STRAIGHT* Don't slouch down closer to your plate. You're dining not hovering over a trough. Sit up straight and bring the food to your mouth, not your mouth to your plate. Leaning slightly in so your eating over your plate is encouraged, but your face should never be next to your plate
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I take Vyvanse for ADD and it works pretty well. It does give me side effects. I definitely get mood swings from it, which i guess is normal on that kind of drug. Has anyone else experienced the same thing? What about dry scalp and skin? I've been having that and since its not one of the main side effects, it's harder to find info on it, but i did find a bit. Also, my toe will go completely numb for no reason. I wont be sitting on it, im not cold and it goes completely numb. I tried warmning it up and stuff like that, but it wasnt cold, so i really just had to wait it out. It was like an hour and 45 minutes. Can any of that be related to Vyvanse?
Thanks
adhd meds can make your skin dry i have adhd my self but all i get is dry lips all the time you might ned to change your meds i take concerta it does have less side efects but i also take a antidepression pill ask your doctor if its ok to change the meds you need to tell them if its bothering you ok
im highly pessimistic. i can never like a guy for more than 2 weeks because i always think of the flaws. I never think anything is good enough, i definitley dont think im good enough and lack self confidence. im not very happy anymore.
so how do i obtain a positive attitude...focus on peoples good points... not care as much what other people think of me... be less judgemental... stand up for myself... be happy and satisfied with what i have... and HAVE MORE CONFIDENCE.
HELP ha im all messed up
well your puting your self done ypu need to look in the mirroe and say im a good person and you need to get out thier and do things do somthing for your self get your nails done go for a run this will help you feel good a bout your self dont put your self done this will make you feel bad think good thoughts ok hope this helps
how can i stop being depressed.
All i want to do is sit home
and listen to music..and imagine if i was thinner and prettier..
i havent had a boyfriend in 3 years and my mom told me today that she thinks im wasting away the best years of my life
i dont want to do anything..i think my weight is holding me back im 5'3 and i weight 176 pounds..
i have been gaining weight left and right because i dont want to do anything..yeah sometime i go out with friends and with my family..but right now they went to see the miley cyrus movie..and i didnt want to go..my mom said that i need help and i need to snap out of it..but i dont know what to do..HELP what can i do..i dont think i can afford mental help..!
dont compare your self to others be your self be cofedent that the main key go for a walk go to the gym with your mom get a hobbie do somthing this help get a bost in your life eat heathy make some goals hope this helps
I feeling mentally unstable and im only 15. My mom was very mentally unstable and I dont want to bring the family more grief now that shes well. For example, I'm getting paranoid like her, about irrelevant things. Second, I think im a mild sleep walker and im definetly a sleep talker. I dwell on negative things that dont matter too much and I talk to myself when i think of something stressful, in like an outburst. Its really weird and I didnt used to do this until stress came into my life. I dont have as many friends as I used to, im a little boring, and I used to have it all, kind of. I come off as confident and fun and most like me but inside dont feel the same, all the time at least. I know im really pretty but I use it to feel better about other things, for example, me saying im prettier that some girl whos skinnier than me but has a boyfriend is my escape from the pity of my singleness. I've only had one real bf and he wasnt amazing, never made out either, but this was my awakening this morning. I wet the bed. I dreamt I was peeing all over a toilet when i was peeing all over myself. It wasnt a full blown thing but still visible. I havent done this once in 5 years, embarrasing enough, and I didnt have to go badly- I can go to sleep having to pee badly and wake up fine. I never had sleepovers with friends, and at one many years ago with my cousins i wet the bed once. When I go out of state I sleeptalk more often, and I don't want to reveal private information. I've slept away at a 3 day camp once when I was ten with my friends and nothing bad happened, so now im going out of state for 4 days, and I want to be more normal. I want to know whats up with my in my many ways, and how to fix things so I can be closer to the old me. Great things happen to me that would bring most tons of happiness, but i really want a ton of good, real friends at school, and maybe a boyfriend and less enemies, because i don't do anything to offend anyone. That would make me happier than being the homecoming princess
worring can bring alot of stress on your self and make you worry about every thing. its normal to be stressed but thier are ways to help you have to find the ways like getting a hobbie reading a good book. but god can aslo help with problems with this I was going throw some tuff time with every thing with my family and my life so I had to change I had to get all the wrong things out tell your self in the morning when you wake up im going to have a good day Im not going to let any thing get to me. when something upsets you you need to get away get some air go for a walk go to the park. if you want real friends its not hard show the real side of you you seem like you have grown up you use us mannerly words like unstable, but unstable means you don't take care of your self and means you cant do any thing your not unstable don't let that get to you OK her is something don't compare your self to other girls this well stress you out be you that what confident is keep your life bizzy go to the library go to the gym pool do something make some goal and never give up. worry about your education do something different with your hair. ask your mom if you can try to wear heels trust me I had to take lady lessons this helps with image and people appreciate you better image is not every thing but manners,being graceful,poise,and dainty this helps be social and experience every day as you get older these tips will help you they did me its not making you different just a new change making more friends a new boy friend better career in your future etiquette but if you get more stressed getting a counselor helps to I went throw counseling for 14 years and therapy pf my life got on some depression pills for a while and it helps so I could be happy.
How to act Like a Lady
Acting like a lady is a skill that takes time to learn. Most ladies learn their ladylike behavior from the time they're little girls. However, you can learn to act like a lady later in life too. A few etiquette classes and practice will get you on your way to ladylike behavior.
1Observe other ladies to see how they act. Watch old movies, and actresses like Audrey Hepburn, to get a good feel for how a lady should conduct herself
3Keep your voice down and never yell because it makes you look unattractive and unladylike. Keep your curse words to a minimum and maintain your composure Dress like a lady by not showing too much skin. Dressing ladylike requires you to toss out your micro mini skirts and fishnet stockings and opt for a flowing skirt, silk stockings and pearls. Learn to walk. Ladies don't walk like
6Read up on the latest trends and fashion as well as classic literature and poetry. Being a well-rounded person will help you act like a lady in many situations. they should be wearing overalls, they learn to walk, and even run, in high heels. Also, learn how to sit and exit a car properly so you don't show anything the world shouldn't see.
I like it. It is true. A gentleman would want a lady How to Walk in High Heels
Heels do not need to be long and thin to be considered fashionable. But no matter what the length of your heel, take extra caution to keep your balance and place the least amount of strain on your muscles.
How to Be a Lady
It is likely that every girl hears "act like a lady" from their mother at some point in life. It involves a number of well thought-out mannerisms and actions that might not come naturally. A few simple steps can help anyone be a lady
1Be polite. While traditional guidelines suggest that women should act as shrinking violets, being a lady does not necessarily mean being submissive. A lady, in all her wisdom, should keep a cool head under pressure and outwit her adversaries with meaningful, well chosen words.
Maintain a well groomed appearance. While women should not feel that they need to dress up every day, grooming is a sign to the outside world that a woman is ladylike. Instead of throwing on tattered sweats, choose a nicely fitted jogging suit to run errands. Instead of leaving the house with no make-up, try a quick 5-minute face in the morning. Carry your sense of the ladylike throughout your wardrobe.
Educate yourself. Today's proverbial "lady" should be educated and able to hold up her end of a conversation. By staying on top of world events and keeping your mind active through reading and meaningful television viewing, you can carry on a conversation charged with intellectual heft and interest4Be independent. In a drastic shift away from traditional ideas of ladylike, the contemporary woman is considered a lady if she can stand on her own two feet. Women hold down careers, raise children or live the single life dependent upon their choices and preferences. An independent woman is the pinnacle of ladylike.
5Nurture kindness. Perhaps the most recognizable sign of a lady is kindness. Whether a woman is kind to her parents, friends, lovers or the community at large, hardly any other characteristic is as valuable and contagious.
How to Look Graceful
There are people in the world who are truly beautiful but born clumsy. This fact can cause some of us to feel self conscious or have low self esteem; but there are ways to cover looking inept and look beautiful, graceful and balanced instead. Looking awkward can be avoided. You just need to know how to look graceful even when you’re not. Try these steps to attain that graceful beauty we all desire.
Laugh at yourself. Not only does laughing make a person look beautiful, but laughter is contagious and brightens a person's day. When you make someone laugh that is how they will remember you, not as a lumbering ox.
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2When you run into a wall keep going, don’t stop and make a scene. Chances are witnesses will simply smile and forget about it.
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3Take dance, yoga or ballet; anything that will help with balance and coordination.
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4When you drop something remember it isn’t your clumsiness they’re considering, it’s your butt, so stay in shape and take your time standing up!
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5Make up a funny story about how you dropped that cup of water on purpose. If you manage to make a joke of it they will laugh at the joke and not at you.
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6Always appear confident. Remember, confidence is attractive. Grace and beauty are in the eyes of the beholder.
How to Be More Graceful
There is grace in disposition or acts and there is physical grace. Here we will discuss the latter and how to be more graceful. Natural physical grace isn't something everyone is born with. Many of us tend to rush, slouch and move with less grace than we'd like. You can be more graceful by being aware of your body and training yourself to move in a more self-assured manner.
Stand tall. Bad posture is the anathema of physical grace. Practice standing tall, with your shoulders back and abdomen pulled in. Not only does this make you appear more graceful, it elongates your body and has a thinning affect. 2Slow down. Many of us rush through our day moving quickly from task to task and place to place. Slow down and become aware of your surroundings. Graceful people don’t rush into a room looking harried, they move slowly and purposefully. Slowing down will also help you avoid falls, spills and other less graceful mishaps. 3Get stronger. Graceful movement is much easier when you have strong muscles, particularly core muscles. Consider strength training routines that focus on making your muscles stronger and more flexible. Pilates and yoga are excellent choices for strength, coordination and balance.
Watch your stride. Stomping or walking heavily is not only anti-graceful, but it’s not particularly good for your joints. Adversely, small mincing steps do not denote grace either. Adapt a self-assured stride. When you walk, walk with a purpose and be aware of your stride. Consider dance classes. Dance classes are great for helping people become more graceful. Individuals with dance training tend to have more coordination, flexibility and grace. It’s never too late to take dance classes. Many community centers or gyms offer dance classes for all ages. 6Practice makes perfect. When you practice slower more graceful movements, the idea is to incorporate these movements into your daily routine. As with any training, the more you practice or use new techniques, the more likely these changes will become habit.
How to Develop Poise
Having poise means you display self-confidence in any given situation. People look to you for leadership and guidance in tough and highly charged situations. If you want to be the "go-to guy" during when times get tough, develop poise to give yourself that strong and steady appeal.
1Take up a competitive sport. Sports helps you develop poise by putting you in high-pressured situations2Participate in modern dance, ballet or yoga. These types of activities help you relax. Center yourself through dance and maintain your focus. Relieve your stress through stretching and rhythmic body movements. When you feel less stressed overall, highly charged situations are less likely to frazzle you while you maintain your poise.Volunteer for community organizations. Find your cause and ask to serve in a leadership position. Give yourself a sense of purpose. Taking on big responsibilities gives you a feeling of accomplishment and builds your self-confidence. Develop poise and help others at the same time Control your emotions. React to situations objectively, regardless of how tempted you are to respond emotionally. If you want to develop poise, maintain an even keel. Show that you have the self-confidence to deal with the problem first. Learn to deal with your emotions after the problem is solved
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How to Walk in High Heels
By eHow Fashion, Style & Personal Care Editor
Step with your heel down first, then let the sole follow quickly and smoothly.
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2Walk with your toes pointing straight ahead or as close to straight ahead as possible.
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3Swing your arms as you walk for balance.
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4Keep your legs straight, close and parallel.
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5Take smooth, even steps; consider shortening your stride a bit.
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6Avoid walking on ice, slush, mud, grass, sand, gravel and grated surfaces, on which you can slip or sink. When in doubt, take off your heels and carry them across such questionable surfaces in your bare feet.
so ive binged.. and "purged" three times before. the third time tonight. i ate a lot of bad food and ive been workig out so much i felt like i have failed myself i dont want to get fat so i after i ate i panicked and threw it up. the first two times i did it i said id neverrrr again do that to myself. but i did, again tonight. im saying again to myself i wont do that again! i know its horrible. but now that ive done it a third time could this be a serious problem? what can happen if i keep this up? is doing it 3 times harmful or only if i continue? how do i stop?
I know you think skinny is like what you wanna be but really. I'm a plus size model but yes being healthy is good but binging is bad you can get yellow teeth and your skin will sag look their is a way to healthy eat RIGHT LIKE FISH RICE eat small portions and exercise three times a week you run 3 moles you lose 300 calories what you see on magazines and in the malls they want you buy and want you bee like that we all cant be the same be you no one can mold us in to perfection being confident and being happy is the main key to life.if you don't eat they will force to put you in the hospital you being eating out of tube in your stomach and you'll have a scar from the tube look I'm not trying to scar you but that the truth you body needs food protein eat a banana for breakfast their no fat in a banana make some goals some good ones go to the gym with a friend or something or go for a walk go something right. hope this helps bye now.