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im highly pessimistic. i can never like a guy for more than 2 weeks because i always think of the flaws. I never think anything is good enough, i definitley dont think im good enough and lack self confidence. im not very happy anymore.
so how do i obtain a positive attitude...focus on peoples good points... not care as much what other people think of me... be less judgemental... stand up for myself... be happy and satisfied with what i have... and HAVE MORE CONFIDENCE.
HELP ha im all messed up
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well your puting your self done ypu need to look in the mirroe and say im a good person and you need to get out thier and do things do somthing for your self get your nails done go for a run this will help you feel good a bout your self dont put your self done this will make you feel bad think good thoughts ok hope this helps
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Hello.
Confidence comes with practice.
Remember if you don't believe in yourself then who will?
People love you for being you, you should realise that.
Look in the mirror at least once a day and remind yourself of all the things you like .... your hair, maybe you have eyes every boy wants to look into.
Considering you can get a boyfriend you must not be doing anything wrong, as I said people will love you for being yourself and that's what matters most. That is what you should do when you meet a boy, don't notice his flaws notice his good points. For every ONE bad point - notice TWO good points about them, and jot them down if it helps you remember when you are in doubt (but make sure he won't find where you wrote them).
Let me know how it all works out.
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You need to understand that no one is perfect. You're never going to meet a perfect person or be a perfect person. You need to give yourself and other people a chance. Everyone has strong points and weaknesses. Don't immediately size people up the second you meet them and search for negative things about them. You'll never be an enjoyable person to be around if you keep that pessimistic attitude.
The next time you meet somebody, give them a chance. Write down all the positive things about them AND yourself in a journal of some sort. Don't write down any of the negative things. When you do notice negative things, as long as they're not extremely negative, just push the thoughts from your mind.
If the negative things are trivial e.g. they talk too loud, they chew with their mouth open, they brag a little bit too much, just let it go. If the worst thing you can think about somebody is something that really doesn't matter, don't let it affect your potential relationship with them.
It will take work, but you'll be able to retrain the way your mind processes people as a whole. Right now you immediately notice the negatives. But if you keep trying to push those thoughts away and focus on the positives, soon your mind will notice those good things first automatically.
Reminder: This is not to be confused with true negative points. I know you most likely have enough common sense to know this. But if someone is hooked on drugs, is a player, is violent, etc.. That is of course something to be concerned about and would be a good reason not to further your relationship with them.
Hope this helps!
Darby(:
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