I'm a fourteen year old girl looking to help you people out. Leave me questions and i can try my best to answer them.
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how do i tell someone that is cutting themselves that what they are doing is very dangerous, without a confrontation? (link)
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tell them how much you love them, and that you hate seeing them in pain and hurting themselves. Tell them that you will do anything it takes to make them better (but you have to stick to that. you can't just make that an empty promise) and that you will get them help. Make it clear that they're not just hurting themselves, but they're hurting everyone they love.
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I am always always depressed. I find myself constantly upset and moody. I have very little self confidence and right now I am in a rocky patch with my friends so I feel even worse. My boyfriend and everyone around me tells me that I am pretty and people like me but I don't feel that way. (link)
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sure feeling pretty is always nice, but thats not really what is causing these feelings now is it?
Depression is caused by a chemical inbalance that you can't control. It's not wrong to be depressed. There are medications you can take but they have to be prescibed by a doctor.
To make yourself feel better, find something you love to do, and hold on to it with all your might.
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I have a pretty hard life, it's not easy in this town. I always have alot on my mind, but since last year I've been counting on beer to clear my mind...I wanted to know why a little alcohol makes me think about nothing...even when I'm not drunk? (link)
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well because it destroys your mind. sorry that sounds harsh, but alas, alchole is harsh. it seriously kills your brain cells. theres honestly no other explanation for it.
it may also be caused by the addiction. like you know when you drink a coffee and for a while afterward, you are really really hyper. well its kinda like that.
the best thing to do is find some other way to clear your mind. a lot of people say jogging and yoga are good ways to achieve that. i personally prefer writing.
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My father is the closest person outside of my house family to me. I love him very much but all of a sudden he has developed a mental illness and doesn't remember me. Sometimes when I walk into the room to visit him he shouts things like "Killer!" and "Why did you have to hurt my leg Barbara?" although that is not at all my name. I'm not sure if there is a way to help him remember me, but it's hard to cope with the pain of him thinking that I have hurt him in the past. What should I do? (link)
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i'm sorry that this kind of thing happened to you and your grandfather. my grandfather had ahltimers (spelt incredibly wrong) and it sounds very similar to what your grandfather is going through.
you just have to know that he loves you, because when he did/does remember you, he knows he's your grandfather and that you mean everything to him, like he means the world to you. i know it hurts a lot, i really do, but you know that there were better times when he was (excuse the wording but) lucid.
its always very very tough when a loved one doesn't remember who you are. its the worst thing in the world. just remember the good times, and try and tell him that you love him every time you visit him. try and tell him about those memories you have. maybe (and i mean with a miracle maybe) he will remember one of those times too. sometimes, sufferers have moments where everything is clear to them again. those moments are precious and few, but they do exsist.
well you know you're not barbara, so some one named barbara caused him pain. it wasn't you, and some day, maybe he'll realize that you're not barbara and you are *your name.* you know he loves you, he just doesn't remember.
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ok i have a BIG problem and im sure that it happens to a lot of people.. but whenever something happens that makes me mad i always want to kill myself and its scary cuz sometimes i almost do.. i dont no wut to do and i need some help before i actually do!!! does this mean im like mentally ill or something?? should i see a doctor or anything?? thanks..
xox manda (link)
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yes you do need to see a doctor. we do all think those thoughts, often, well i do anyway, but really, thinking it isn't really that big of a deal. its that whole actually planning it that is. that's when you need to see a doctor.
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My little brother suffers from an extreme case of obsessive compulsive dissorder and a short fuse. How do I deal with his upsetting behavior? (link)
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love him. thats all you can do. love him despite his faults. he's your brother, and maybe you can get him some help if he doesn't have any already. its tough and i'm sorry that this happened to you.
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My friend told me tht she caught her sister cutting....Can ne1 tell me wht tht is? I asked her wht it wuz and she looked @ me like I wuz crazii...Wht is it?! I need 2 no!! (link)
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alright, cutting is when someone deliberately slits there wrists or cuts themself.
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when i was really little, like 4 or so, my babysitters son sat me on his lap and showed me his thing. he told me to touch it and when white stuff started to come out he wanted me to clean it. then he told me to leave his room. well me being young i did what he told me. i didnt kno it was wrong. then i told my mom and she was like dont say anything to anyone. and she didnt do anything about it! i am now gonna turn 14 in october and it has been bugging me since then. it hurts that my mom let me stay there till i was 9! nuthing else ever happened but i mean still. wut could i do to take my mind off of it? i am really happy now and stuff but when i stop and think it just pops in my head and thats the only thing that really stands out in my memoery. i remember it like it was yesterday. (link)
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ok, talk to a school counsiler if you don't have money for a therapist, or a if your the religous type, like a paster or something. see i'm not that religous so i don't know if like theres someone you can go to at a church, but if you are, look into that.
you can also try self hypnosis. heres a site i think can help with that
http://www.geocities.com/thinkwellcorp/
it can sometimes block out memories and stuff. good luck to you and i'm sorry it happened to you.
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hey..i am g0in thr0 al0t latley..me and my bf have been fighting n0n st0p..and its scaring me..but ne ways..im almost 16..and i weigh 115..i HATE triple numbers..i want the perfect b0dy..my b0yfriend says im beautifull all the time..but thats kinda what b0yfriends r supp0sed t0 d0..i want to get down to 99..i was belimic way back in the day..but i was 0n the f0ne with my friend and i t0ld her i want t0 bec0me an0rexic..she flipped 0ut and hung up..so0oo i was like fine i w0nt d0 that..and last nite i made myself thr0w up t0 see what its like..i kinda s0rta liked it =\..well my bf said if i ever d0 ne thing "physc0" it w0uld be 0ver f0r g00d..and i was w0nderin w0uld he n0tice if i g0t t0 99..and if ne 0ne else w0uld n0tice..well i neEd helP! =(..MaNdiE x0 (link)
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16 pounds is VERY easy to notice. think how easy it is for people to notice 5 pounds. at 16, 115 lb is REALLY good. like i dunno how tall you are, but thats pretty skinny.
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Ihave areally hard time falling asleep at night night. Iget all nervous about murderer's breaking in, and it really scares me! I know thiz soundz childish, but does anyone have any advice on how to fall asleep quicker and it would help if you had advice on how to be calmer and not think every little noise in the night is someone breaking in. (link)
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ok that stuff happens to me all the time, like last night . . .
listen to your favorite (quiet) cd or song even over and over and over again until you fall asleep. ok headbanger music will not work, and neither will anything with a lively beat. read for a while too, or watch tv when you get scared.
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does anyone know of a way to get an anti-depressent(i.e. Zoloft©) without going to see a doctor??? I need something along those lines but i can't tell my parents that i need an anti-depressent for certain reasons. My depression used to be just the common teenage cliche of {boredom + no life + no friends + girl troubles = depression}. Earlier this week i realized it was a much more serious problem when i was alone(drunk + depressed) and for some reason got to thinking that i dont want to live anymore.......So i went downstairs, got a knife from the kitchen, went back up to my room and proceeded to stab myself in the wrist numerous times. It bled all over the place for a while and then i turned really pale felt really cold and also a bit numb....then i just kinda zonked out. The next morning i woke up in a puddle of my own blood, and thats when i realized that i cant do this anymore. So yea my question remains is there any way to get an anti-depressent along the lines of zoloft or ya know something like it without seeing a doctor???
(p.s.) - anyone who says "you should tell your parents" gets a rating of a 1 and i automatically dont like you.... (link)
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ok, unless there are some over the counter anti depressents that i don't know about, no, you have to see your doctor so he/she can right you up a prescription. Now, your doctor isn't allowed to tell your parents, because of patient confidentiality, and if you do chose to go see your doctor, which i highly recommend, just remind him/her about that confidentiality stuff.
its good that your looking to help yourself, but keep in mind that you might just not be able to do it alone. asking for help is not a bad thing. i'm not saying go to your parents, because thats obviously not going to work, but maybe your friends, or a trusted adult.
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I think I might be bipolar. How can I tell? And can I get tested w/o my parents knowing bout it? (link)
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yes, go to a phyciatrist. patient confidenciality.
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whats bipolar mean? (link)
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having unbelievable moodswings from really really happy to like suicidal depression
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I have an oppsetion i have to mow the lawn everyday my parents are really worryed about my problem what should i do????? (link)
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OCD, you otta talk to a phyciatrist.
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My little cousin has down syndrome, and alot of my friends always make fun of people with it and it really can hurt me, i*ve told them before and they say sorry and everything, but they keep saying stuff! What should I tell my friends? Or should I look for new ones? I dunno!! (link)
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If they upset you like that, and the don't seem to notice that you hate when they talk like that tell them for once and for all if you hear them talk about people like that it's going to make you nuts. If they keep on it, ditch them. I mean, its a pretty loosy reason to get rid of your friends, but maybe there not really your type of people anyway.
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Alright tp start this off, i`m 14/female. For about a year or so, I`ve been so down and sad/angry all the time. I never smile anymore, or things that used to be a blast too me, is no fun anymore. I don`t like hanging out with any of my firends anymore. I just like being alone all the time. Well, a few months ago my mom and dad took me to a conselour because they were concerned about me and such. They just said I needed too be on anti-depressants. I didn`t start using them right away, just recently. Well, I`m cutting myself now. I know its really bad too do and I know how stupid I am for doing it, but It just feels so right when I do it. I really need too stop or talk to somebody about it. My mom asked me what these marks were on my arm, and i told her is was eraser burns ( because they leave scars ) and she hasn`t realy noticed that more and more keep appearing. What should I tell her? I want too tell her the truth. I know she will probably understand but she`ll get really upset ( sad ) because she hates seeing me like this and i`ll feel really bad. What should I say too her? (link)
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you know you have a problem, and thats good. now you need more help. talk to your mom. Tell her you NEED help. keep taking your anti depressents though. If the conselour thought you hsould be on them, then you probably should.
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my mind is always racing so fast . im so stressed i fall asleep at like 2:00 in the morning . is this normal (link)
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Absolutely. I'm doing the same thing. Try meditating in bed before u fall asleep. Yeah i know it sounds weird, and it doesn't work that wellfor me, but maybe it will work better for you.
During the day though, try playing some highly competitive sports like basketball or football or something like that. Exercise. Swimming jogging ANYTHING!
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