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Hi, My name is Bailey. I am 15, and I know that is young, but I think I can offer good advice, or at least try my hardest.


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okay so its been a over a year and a half and im still having flashbacks about when i was raped at a party and they dont seem to be getting any better. i think in the past week i've had all my teachers come up to me and ask whats wrong and some even went as far as to tell the guidance department. my friends have also been telling me that i have been "zoning out" and i dont hear a word that they say to me. i mean im not trying to look upset (in fact im trying to look happy) but its just so hard with the rape like repeating over and over again in my head. i cant sleep anymore and im even starting to fail some subjects in school. i thought that it was supossed to get better since its been so long but it seems like its getting worse. maybe im just over reacting and should just try somehow to get over it already but its just so hard to forget. i dunno?

whats should i do to try t get rid of these especially during school
thanks

ps. im already in counseling.

Hey,
I am sorry that happened to you...but I know how you feel...I was raped over the summer and I have extremely horrible flashbacks...and they are horrible, and you probably know what I am talking about.

I am also seeing a councelor,and we are trying to work through it...and she told me that really the only way that I could get the flashbacks to go away is to work through it..through couceling and just talking about it.

The main thing really is to just talk about it, because I had never told anyone until about 2 months ago, and before I told anyone I was having more intense and more numerous flashbacks, but when I started talking and thinking about what happened things really started to cool down a bit.

Really I think the only thing that you can do is just give it time and talk...just don't hold anything inside, just get it all out.

I know you probably know all of that, but I just figured maybe it would help to hear it from someone who is going through the same thing.

Well, I really hope things go better for you, and if you ever need anything just drop it in my inbox.

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13/f. Every day, I feel so lonely. It's like I'm an inanimate object. Nobody ever even seems to realize I'm alive. Nobody cares about me at all. I have no friends except my parents---that doesn't count. I try to make friends, but nobody ever gives me a second thought. In fact, I haven't had a single person at my house since I was 9. Nobody ever considers my feelings; if anyone has seen "Chicago," I feel exactly like the person singing "Cellophane." I cry like crazy every single evening at bedtime. It makes me want to do something outrageous just to see if someone would notice. Sometimes I wonder whether anyone would notice if I died. 5's to anyone who seems to emphathize...

Ok, I am 15 now and I have been through that before or at least a similar situation. Really there are people out there who do care about you, but you probably just don't even notice.

About making friends, ya people can be pretty mean sometimes, but it is hard getting along in life without friends. Trust me on that I know. But you probably have just decided for yourself that no one will ever like you so you have given up trying, and that will get you nowhere.

You probably think what I am saying is stupid and what everyone else will say, but it is true. By saying that you will never have any friends you have basically decided that you never will so you won't even attempt anymore to try and have any friends.

Now I am telling you right now that doing something "outrageous" will not help you at all. It will just attract negative attention to you, and you do not want that. I have done a lot of stuff, and trust me it is not worth it at all.

So I hope everything works out for you, and you make the right decisions, if you ever need anything just drop it in my inbox.

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I have a chance to be on the Oprah Winfrey show. She is looking to interview people with a mental illness and I have schizophrenia. I have been published in other magazines before for how I have managed to live with my condition; but have never been on television.
Some of my friends are telling me to go for it; but I don't know if I want this much exposure. Does anyone have any reasons why I shouldnt go on the show? And Pros or Cons? I havent made up my mind yet!

I think that is a great idea for you to go. It will be a chance to tell people about what you have gone through and people will be able to understand the condition more..so I really think you should do it. It is also an amazing opportunity that most people will never get to experience!

Well I hope you have an amazing time if you do it!!!

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Hi, this is going to make me sound really messed up. Sometimes I laugh uncontrollably when a situation doesn't call for it. Today for example my parents were fighting, and I just started laughing. I didn't find it funny at all and I was really upset about it, but I couldn't stop it. It also happened once when my friend told me her mother died.. I laughed as I told other people, even though i felt awful about what happened..
Is there something wrong with me? I hate not having control over my reactions like this.

It is your way of reacting to a bad situation.

It happens to a lot of people...I mean laughing when your friend's mom dies, is a bit extreme, but it is just a way with dealing with a bad situation.

It is not your fault, but you just need to try your hardest to hold it in..

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Ive never really told anyone this but here goes... I am 13/f and I like hollister, abercrombie, etc., I have alot of friends, I have a boyfriend, all the usual. Anyways I dont know how to explain this but I feel like a boy. I wear girl clothes, and I like boys and stuff(im not lesbian) but inside I just feel like a boy. I think its really weird. I used to wear guy clothes and stuff but that was when I was younger. Do you guys think this is weird or what? Is there like anything I can do to fix this annoying problem? Or at least I hope im not bi...

....From that I am really not getting the vibe that you are bi.

Just because a girl wears "boy's" clothes, does not automatically mean they are gay...

You are worrying toooo much about this...it is not weird at all and, there really is not a way to "fix" it. Just be how you want to be, don't be what other people want you too...but that is how society is, so you probably won't even listen to that.

But I hope I helped.

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i can't describe these annoyances that i experience daily so i'm just going to give examples of what happen

*yesterday my mom came out of the bathroom and the door closed behind her but i could only here that it hit the door frame and didn't like lock all the way so i'm sitting there holding myself against the couch until i couldn't stand it any more i had to go and pull it shut

* my brother asked for some gum (it was orbit) so they have rows of gum right? well i was having the hardest time deciding which piece to give him.. i just closed my eyes and grabbed one and it happened to be on the back row... well after i handed it to him i had to take the last one from the front row and fill in the missing space in the back ?????????????

* other weird stuff is like i'll be sittin gher and just HAVE to say a certain word or pronounce a certain letter.. just with my tongue like L or the R sound, not out loud just with my tongue and in my head

how strange is this? i've noticed stupid stuff like this before but now its like everyyy day!! it's so annoying! are these signs of ocd? i feel like some freak. : / please help, and if you do think its ocd.. where do i go from there? how do i like break this habit? even while i was writing this i had to delete certain letters and retype them just cuz i had to i didn't make a mistake i just wouldn't feel right if i didn't do it. : / ugh this is so stupid and frustrating but i don't want it to get worse please help!!

Well don't just go ahead and self-diagnose yourself from what people on this website say and what you thing.

I think you need to go see a psychiatrist, they will help you understand your problem and get you help for it.

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Everynight I sit in bed for about 2 hours before I fall asleep. Its not a big problem staying awake but the stress I go through trying to fall asleep is terrible. It's been going on everynight for about three weeks. I told my mom there was something wrong with me and that I needed sleep pills but she blew it off. So I began taking tylenol PM (without her knowing) and it put me to sleep within 30 mintues. But this weekend I ended up exposing alot of my secrets to her (that I have been drinking, etc) and told her about the pills. She believes me now and is going to take me to the doctor but she take forever to set up an appointment and I hate bringing it up. So Im going to probably end up taking them again. My question is, are all of these problems I've been having signs that im depressed? To me, it seems like what every kid my age does and that I shouldnt be worried.

I know exactly how you feel, only it has been happening for 3 years now, and I just recently got help for it. Actually I happen to be severly depressed, and that has lead to my insomnia, so I think that there could be a possibility that you are depressed. You should deffinately try the sleeping pils...they work wonders. And maybe suggest to your mom that you should see a councelor.

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My doctor told me i have depression. And i dont doubt it becuase im always crying and stuff. I dont know why. Like is their something that makes you depressed? Or do you just randomly feel sad about stuff?. And i really need someone to talk to. like i want to go to a physcologist but my Mom doesnt think i need to. i tell her i do and she says i could but we never get to it. idk what to do .

There are many different kinds of depression. There is situational depression, which is when you have are in a bad situation and you get depressed.Then there is actual depression, that you really cannot control. It is because the chemicals in the brain are unbalanced. That is why there is medication. I am on medication and I can guarentee you it makes you feel so much better. If you have your doctor talk to your mom she will probably be more open to having you see someone for help. Because seeing a psychologist(sp?) really does help too.
I wish you the best of luck with that.

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I've been known lose my temper easily, usually with me ending up slapping someone in the face. Usually it only happens once a week where I'll just get really angry over something stupid that wouldn’t have mattered the day before. I take my anger out on guys usually (I'm a girl) I'm wondering if I have bi polar (sp?) since I can be totally fine one second and out of control the nest. My mom thinks I need a consular since she thinks I'm "Angry all the time" and "Depressed" but I’m not sure what to think. Any ideas? Btw, I’m 14

It really does not sound like you are bipoalar. It sounds like you may have possible anger issues, or just other pychological things you need to sort through. So you should deffinately seek proffesional help. But really it does not sound like you are bipolar.

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This is the story..(in short)

Sinds I have had problems with my mother in law(mother of my bf)She thinks I'm not ideal for her son ...(She is extremely jealous about her sons)We don't talk to each other anymore (I feel like I hate her )She went around gossiping about me and lie things about me just to keep his son away from me....I left all this behind and I'm really trying to get over this but sometimes i feel really quilty that the relationship between my bf and his mother has took a strange turn just because of me although my bf tells me that she did this types off things with his ex too.But now everytime he goes to see his mother I get like worried becuase I think maybe his mom would lie worse thiings about me or critize me to let my bf dissapoint in me..
This is not all beside this his ex is trying to get back with him...And I'm really worried about this too.., because I really want to be with him ...We have 1 year and 5 months togheter(realtionship is great)

I have a constant fight in my mind ..I feel like I am constant fighting for him...I supossed it is great to fight for someone but.....to be in a constant fight (this is what I feel)It's not good neither

Palese help me .....I don't want to feel this way anymore

I will rate high

your boyfriend's mother is NOT your mother-in-law..just thought i should inform you of that

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How do you get over it besides popping the pills?

going to a councelor, or just talking to someone you trust, that is what i am doing, but i am also taking pills, and they really actually work most of the time, and along with talking it works

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Hello,

First off - I am appauled that there is no reading or literature category. If you feel you need to put in "Home Decorating" then you should put in "Literature" - the few of us cultured folk have questions too.

I went to my local book store seeking a copy of the books - Ishmael by Daniel Quinn and Cats Cradle by Kurt Vonnegurt Jr. (not positive on the spelling of Vonnegurt)

The books all together were something like $40 - which is a tad above my budget for reading material at the moment. I was wondering if anyone knew of some site online (not an ebay kind of thing - something more focused on consumer happiness than general profit) where I could maybe find a less expensive used copy of each.

Im aware I can use Amazon or something like that - but i'd prefer something different. Please only post something that you have used, or know someone has used and walked away satisfied.

I appreciate the help folks.

I work at a bookstore and a lot of time it is hard to find discounted books. i work at an independant bookstore so we are not able to discount books because then we would not make any money... but enough of that you might want to try patheticallly a wal mart.. they seem to discount everything another is you could try amazon they are always discouting prices!!

(and i totally agree about there not being a literature section!!!)

hope that helps

xOxO

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