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Constant fight in my mind
This is the story..(in short)
Sinds I have had problems with my mother in law(mother of my bf)She thinks I'm not ideal for her son ...(She is extremely jealous about her sons)We don't talk to each other anymore (I feel like I hate her )She went around gossiping about me and lie things about me just to keep his son away from me....I left all this behind and I'm really trying to get over this but sometimes i feel really quilty that the relationship between my bf and his mother has took a strange turn just because of me although my bf tells me that she did this types off things with his ex too.But now everytime he goes to see his mother I get like worried becuase I think maybe his mom would lie worse thiings about me or critize me to let my bf dissapoint in me..
This is not all beside this his ex is trying to get back with him...And I'm really worried about this too.., because I really want to be with him ...We have 1 year and 5 months togheter(realtionship is great)
I have a constant fight in my mind ..I feel like I am constant fighting for him...I supossed it is great to fight for someone but.....to be in a constant fight (this is what I feel)It's not good neither
Palese help me .....I don't want to feel this way anymore
I will rate high
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Unfortunately, there isn't really a lot you can do here. It's fairly natural for mother-in-law's to dislike the man/woman that has taken their child from them and once they have made their mind up about this, there's very little you can do to change it. You could try the very mature option of sitting down and trying to talk to her about it and explaining how you feel about her son...but she may be too stubborn for that to work, in which case it's best to leave well alone and let her come round in her own time. Also, I wouldn't worry about what she says to your boyfriend. If he really cares about you, he won't let any poisonous words from someone upset the relationship. You just need to trust that he will care for you regardless of what she says and that, most importantly, he's defending you when you're not there.
As for the ex, the situation is much the same. If he wants to be with you, you have no reason to worry. The only thing you can do is take comfort in the fact that his mother probably never liked her either!! Seriously though, all you need to do is be there for him and show him how you feel about him. Do anything different and you risk chasing him away. He's with you because he cares about you and he obviously broke up with his ex for a reason.
Trust him. Everything will be fine and as for the fighting in your mind? Give up the fight. There's no point stressing about it because if you don't have a stable relationship, nothing you do will make a difference. However, if you have a stable relationship, as it sounds, he's not going anywhere.
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your boyfriend's mother is NOT your mother-in-law..just thought i should inform you of that
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Honey, you are worrying a lot about something you don't have control over. Your boyfriend is going to think and do what he wants too and his mother isn't going to *make* him think a certain way. His ex-girlfriend isn’t going to *make* him like her either. He is free to choose.
Right now, he is choosing to be with you! He doesn't care what his mother is saying and he doesn't want his ex back. He has chosen you! You don't need to fight! You've already won.
Stop worrying so much about other people, you can't control what they say or do. If your relationship is truly great you need to believe that your boyfriend loves you and isn't going to stop loving you just because of what other people say or do.
Love him back, be the best person you can be and stop worrying yourself sick over these silly people. Your boyfriend clearly knows not to listen to them.
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If his mother can talk him into breaking up with you or if he leaves you for his ex you don't want to be with him anyway! He would be a real jerk to do something like that. It seems to me like you're not going to have that problem. It's been over a year and nothing has happened yet. That's a good sign. I think that he is very loyal to you and nothing outside of him is going to change his opinion that you are the best girl in the world for him. A guy's parents aren't always going to like you and vice versa. My mom hates my boyfriend. So far that hasn't influenced my opinion of him one bit and I've been going out with him just about as long as you've been with your boyfriend. Just as long as he likes you that's all that matters. Look up the lyrics to the song "Perfect" by Sara Evans. That may help you feel a little better. I wouldn't worry too much about it. Good luck!
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