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well my boyfriend wants to have sex and im only 15 and he is 17 and i wouldnt want my parents to findout and if they did they would KILL ME!! and i dont know what to do bc i have been with him almost 4months and i love him alot! please help me!!!

If you dont want your parents to find out then do it somewhere they wont find out..My opinion though 4 months is not long enough to be together before you have sex..you wanna make sure he will still be with you after you guys have sex..make sure you also feel comfortable with it..dont let him convince you to do it. hope i helped

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this is gonna be kinda long..sorry but me and my boyfriend have been together for almost a month! and went out last year off and on for a while! but anyways..there was this girl that was suppose to be my "friend" over at my house the past 2 days! she has done nothing but bad mouth my boyfriend and say how he treats me like crap and i always have to tell her to stop and it got to the point we'd start screaming cause id get so mad! well then today she decides that she thinks its ok to sit there and send my boyfriend all these pics of him..and i would think if she was my friend she wouldnt! but i was upset and called my friend well she didnt answer..so she calls me back and was like whyd u sound upset and i told her because that girl was trying to send my bf her pic and i didnt like that! well i guess my "friend" that was hear heard me and got all mad and started cussing at me like crazy! and telling me how she was leaving and how my bf treats me like crap and everything else! so we really got into it then and shes sitting there laughing go just wait im gonna mess up your relationship and make ur life miserable and lie and everything else! i told him about all this but the thing is im so scared that hes gonna believe her..i love him more then n e thing in this world and ive never felt like this before! and i wouldnt lie to him ever again ( ill admit i have in the past but i never would again) this girl is just sayin how shes goin to mess it up and have her friends say stuff to him when i know none of her friends cause they r all like 12-13 cause she got held back twice and i dont even go to the same school as her and im 16! my question is..what do i do about this? i dont wanna lose him and im so scared of it..does anybody have any idea on what i should do? i love him more then anything!!

The most you can do is talk to your boyfriend about this so he knows that you to got in an argument because what she was saying to break you guys up. Then tell him that you think shes gonna try to break you up some other way your just not sure how..Tell him not to listen to her..and if he really trusts you he will believe you..For the friends get rid of them..they cause drama and you dont need that in your life you need friends that are going to support you. IF he doesnt trust you theres no relationship..

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Well This Is Goin To Be Long. I'm 15 a Female...and me and my ex just recently broke up we dated for a 1 yr and half..i did 1 thing wrong. i was drunk and selfish didnt no wat i was doin and we broke up..i swear up and down that i love him..he said were history were through he never wants to talk to me again...well i got a msg on icq last night..sayin him and his sister is after me..so i msged him back..and he threatened me and *ALL MY FRIENDS* which is pretty much the hole county. and he said for us to show up at his house and if we didnt we was pussys..well we didnt show up..cause we didnt have a way..and because half of my friends is on vacation. so now his sister said that she gets her liscence monday..and that i have it coming. and shes gonna stomp my ass..and she said for me to watch my back..well she said that i threatened her when i didnt..the only thing i said is if u come up to my house and try to fight me youre gonna get it..she goes thats gonna look great in the police records..well shes 18. and shes already been in jail once..and her brother (my ex) beated me and everything..what should i do???..bout the hole thing...the fight and gettin threatened..should i take a compliant thingy out on her and her family for threatening me..

PLEASE HELP

ill rate ya

Go to the police if shes allready been arrested once then she will prolly get arressted again people now a days take threats serious..or even if u want let her hit u , your a minor she can get in so much trouble for that..youd have to go go court an everything but its every thing worth it just make sure you got whitnesses.

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I really think my life is worthless. I'm nothing special and i feel like such a waste. The only person who i can talk to, who keeps me going, who i have spent 3 years of my life being dedicated to, and loving .. could care less about me. I

f i can't have him i don't want any body else. I feel no point in living. I truely love him and he's the only reason i get up in the morning. I feel like just ending my life now, but i could no way do it, and i would never. This sounds immature and child-ish. But it's not. My feelings will never change.

What can i do to make everything better?

Have confidence.people who kill them elves are just taking the easy way out..with no adventures..try telling him how you fell..and always remember that no guy is worth loosing your life over..you have to live for yourself an belive in your self if you cant do that you dont have anything..you cant count on someone to make you happy...you have to makre sure you can make your self happy..before you can be together with someone an get committed

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im going to a birthday sleepover party tonight for my friends (they are twins: one boy on girl) and after their parents go to bed the guys are going to hang with the girls and play a game called seven minutes in heaven.

my questions:
what the heck is that?
how do i play it?
and what do i do in the seven minutes?

WILL RATE

BTW: im 13/F

Seven minutes in heaven is a game where you go in a closet for 7 mins with a guy an you let them do what ever they want to u..make out, finger you, touch u in any way they want..it goes both ways..

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Do you think that it is wrong to talk to an ex while dating someone else? I am with this guy right now and he doesnt trust me so he went into my cell and checked my text messages and found that an ex had been text messaging me. We are in a big arguement now about weather or not its ok to talk to an ex. Please help

its fine to talk to an ex you guys broke up for a reason you arnt meant to be..if he cant trust you talking to him hes jelous an things are just gonna get worse..Theres no relationship if theres no trust..try talking to him an if it doesnt work get rid of him

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How do I make my ex-boyfriend jaulose so he would come back to me? or should I just want untill he comes to me what should I do help.

Try your best to look prettier then u usually do..hang out with guys and just always have a smile on ur face when you are around him..

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Okay, I consider myself kind of pretty. I have had guys admit to like me but I have never had a guy ask me out! Why will the openly tell me what they would like doing to me (sexually) but never have enough courage to ask me out?

You should try asking them out.. show them that theres nothing to be afaid of

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me and my girlfriend we are at a water park today an d we were kind of in the mood to be like naughty i guess you could say so like we didnt have sex, but i kinda slipped it in. we were in the pool. and like it barely went in, but should we really worry about her getting pregnant i mean like ive never had sex before so im kinda like ahhhh, i mean i know precum can get you pregnant please tell me if you think i should be worried or what we sould do

I wouldnt be worried..because its hardley likely shes pregnant...but then it could happen if it keeps bothering you get a pregnancy test..her her take it

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my very close friend who is 13 years old has never had a boyfriend nor does she want one. but she flirts with like every guy she meets and makes them think they have a chance but if they want to go out with her she says no. this really bothers me because so many guys are interested in her. is she a tease? how do i let her know shes a heartbreaker without getting her upset?

Shes prolly scared to date anyone because shes scared shes gonna get hurt...Ask her why she does this..an see what she says..then tell her how you fell an tell her maybe the other kids, are gonna get the wrong impression on her

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My boyfriend wants me to do more with him than just making out. I guess I'm kinda prude & clueless. What else is there to do besides having sex/oral?

jerk him off..or oral sex

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Does everyone find someone that they love and that loves them?

In a mattter of time yes..you never know when its gonan happen tho

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Okay let me warn you this thing will be like 2000 characters, but let me start by saying i met this girl when i came to missouri to visit my grandma, we like eachother, well we love eachother, i dont feel like i could live wtihout her...we dated last year and broke up and then i tried for a year to get her back and finally did, however i found these questions asked on advicenators..about her ex..while we were going out:

*well my ex boyfriend is coming over tomarrow and i made him a scrapbook of all our memories cause i want him to know how much i still care about him! he has told me 3 times since we've been broken up he loves me and hes said he misses me all the time! but theres also another girl that he likes and im trying to pretty much win him over..but anyways..i was just wondering if you had any ideas on how i could do like a scavenger hunt kinda thing to lead him to it cause i want this to be special!!! please help asap! thanks!*

i knew her ex was coming over to get the scrapbook but she said that was it and that she didnt have feelings anymore and what not...but the most painful is the next one...

hey! well me and my ex boyfriend mike went out for 3 months..i know its not a long time but we talked and dated for like 4 months before that! well anyways we have been broken up for almost 6 months now and we both have went out with other people!i have always asked him if he liked me and if wed ever get back together..well he never would answer the whole like you question but he would always say i dunno if we will ever go back out cause i dont normally go out with ex gfs so i thought ok fine whatever! well i tried moving on ya know and i finally got to the point i thought i was over him! i even had him over like 4 weeks ago..i could kinda tell he had feelings for me cause he would keep asking me for a hug and hed like put his arm around me and he gave me a hickey and we had a total blast together..but it kinda felt like we were just friends so i thought well maybe i am over him but yet i still missed him! so i went on vacation and didnt really talk to him for 2 weeks..the day i get back he ims me and was talking to me and said he liked me so that kinda made me feel good but then i also realied that maybe i wasnt quite over him and he had also asked if he could come over next week so i thought sure! well so the next night we stayed up til 3:15 in the morning talking and he had said he still loved me and always had, he missed me, and itd be great if we eventually got back together but he didnt want that right now and he wanted to keep things slow for right now! then the next night it was a repeat we stayed up til 3:30 and he said he missed me and my picture was his background on his computer and what not! well then things just kinda seemed weird! i just had this feeling it wasnt gonna be a good day but i kinda tried letting it go past me and i wrote his xanga past memories and i told him i still loved him..so i guess that was a bad idea cause he totally flipped and was like omg i cant believe u did that , you know i dont like my friends knowing everything, blah blah blah! so i was like ok im sorry and i showed him how to get rid of it! so then he wouldnt say i love you but he said i miss ya and your pic is still on my background so i was like okay maybe things arent that bad! but he also told me he didnt know if he was going to come over next week now because i made him upset and he couldnt believe i would do that which seemed kinda weird to me! but the thing is i want him to come over cause i wanna see him and talk all of this out in person and i even made a scrap book of us cause i want him to realize how much i really do care! well then theres this girl melissa that has liked him for about a year now! well hes always told me they were just friends and things like that! and the other day i said something how hes always with girls and calls them hun and stuff and hes like i hate when your like this cause you always think i like these girls when really we are just close friends! and i want to trust him but its so hard! and then like today i read his xanga and melissa signed it saying i cant wait to watch fire works with you tomarrow and then it had this quote that was like seduce my body blah blah blah seduce my soul and ill always be yours! and im so clueless on what to think about that! i know they both use to like eachother and they went to a dance together after we broke up and all he ever tells me is they are just close friends but he is with her all the time! and i dont know what to think of it! i just dont know why he would sit there and say all of a sudden out of no where that he loved me and missed me when for 6 months he wouldnt say a word to me! PLEASE HELP ME!

sent while we were going out yet again, i love her with all my heart and i dont know what to do, i finally won her back and i dont want to let her go but i feel like its just a game and she is playing me. Should i keep her or let her go? any advice?

~D3vY

OK it sounds to me that maybe shes afraid to be alone. or she just doesnt know what she wants. I think she loves you, just maybe the distance is a little much for her( if u guys have a disstance) or She still has feelings for him and shes now relizing that shes better off with you.. it sounds to me that the guy shes trying to get back with only wants her for sex..Try talking to her about it..tell her you find those an you are worried about loosing her..see what she says..Maybe shes trying to see if you pay close attention to her..I hope everything goes good for you..Write me back if you need any more

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I'm going out w/ the greatest guy ever, but unfortunately he lives like, 45 mins. away. so anyway, there's this kid, matt, at school who's always kinda had this crush on me. well 2day in school, i hugged him like usual, cuz we're such good friends, and he gave me a kiss on the cheek. i just wanna know if this is ok, cuz i would never wanna cheat on my bf.
thx
Erin

I dont think its cheating/ I mean you giyz are good friends, some countrys kiss when they greet each other. I mean talk to your boyfriend about it an make sure its okay. But it really should be if he trusts you. If he doesnt trust you then maybe the relationship isnt worth it. Trust is everything.

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ok u people here on advicenators r my last help! not even my mom understands wat im goin through. well my boyfriend and i have been datin for a while and well now he's startin to scare me.
he's gettin very obsessive and im so scared that if i break up with him(which i want to) he's gonna do something crazy(kill himself or hurt me) the worst part is if he ever found out i liked his best friend he's gonna get very violent....i dont kno what to do!!! i try avoiding him but he gets madder and wonders if i dont like him..he told me that if i broke up with him he WILL kill himself

help me plzzz..no one understands i have no1 2 talk 2

You need to leave him. You deserve much better then that. No gurl should have to deal with a boyfriend trying to hurt her or him self. break up with him and tell someone like the police or even a school teacher or something about him saying the stuff he says to you. Chances are he wont kill him self, he might be saying that so you dont leave him. About the whole thing about you liking his best friend, Maybe you should leave that out for a couple months till things cool down between you and him. hope i helped!

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