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"People who ask our advice almost never take it. Yet we should never refuse to give it, upon request, for it often helps us see our own way more clearly."
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I met this guy on myspace. He's really nice and hes my age. He was sweet, and he asked for my number. I said maybe tomorrow. He lives far away, like theres a few states in between us. He told me he liked me, and there was something about me. I'm nervous, and I just have mixed emotions and I just dont know what to do right now. Please, any advice.
Personally, I would feel a little skeptical about this guy. If you don't really know him that well, don't feel pressured to give him your number. If you decide not to rush into anything yet, especially because of the long distance relationship, tell him that you'd like to get to know him better first. Once you get to talk to him and learn more about him, then maybe you can talk to him on the phone and become closer. I wouldn't rush into anything yet because this might turn into something more complicated than you bargained for. Who knows? It might turn out that you two were "meant to be," or it might turn out that it's best to keep the communication strictly online. I can't tell you what to do. If I can give you one piece of advice, it would be to think for yourself. What's most comfortable for you right now? Do you really like this guy? Most importantly, what do YOU want to do? I hoped I helped somehow, sorry if I didn't. Good luck!
I have a hard time getting a boyfriend. I'm not sure if it's just me because i have a lot of friends and i'm pretty nice. I dont get it!!! Any advice to get an HONEST and SWEET boyfriend???
I'll rate high for good advice.
Wow, what a question. I'm sure it's not you, but isn't it possible that guys DO like you, but they're afraid to confront you about it? I'm a firm believer of taking matters into your own hands, so if you like someone, ask them out yourself. It doesn't necessarily have to be a "date." You can say something like, "My friends are planning to go to the movies tomorrow, would you like to come hang out with us?" Just something casual to see if he's interested. If he says no, don't get too disappointed or you'll seem too desperate. As for the honest and sweet boyfriend you're looking for, I'm sure many girls would want one. But in reality, not everyone can have someone sweet and honest to go out with. If you just be yourself, someday a guy will see you for who you are and like you for it. If nobody can see that now, then that's THEIR loss, it has nothing to do with you. They might find you intimidating or something, and are scared to be rejected by you. If you're really bummed about not having a boyfriend, remember that you have a lot of friends, just like you said. They like you for who you are, and if any of them are guy friends, maybe they can become something more than that in the future. I'm sorry I didn't really answer your question, but I hoped I helped somehow. Good luck!
I was dating someone and he just stopped talking to me after I made a mistake. I keep telling myself that it's over and that I'm over him, but then something happens like a song comes on that we used to listen to all the time and I start thinking about him again.
I've tried talking to him, just trying to be his friend so I could get over him, but he doesn't want to talk to me. I gave up on that, but I still think about him and I miss him, because he was part of my life for a period of time and now he's just gone. It's really hard just to try to adjust your life without him in it.
I still have a few texts on my cell phone that he sent me, but I can't bring myself to delete those either.
He brought out the best in me, after I was depressed on and off, cutting myself, drinking, he changed it all and I think that might be the reason I can't just let him go.
Do you have any ideas how I can talk to him again to thank him, or should I let go?
You don't have to let go if you're not willing to, but you need to give him some space. If he's angry at you for this mistake that you made, then he has every right to be mad. If you really want to talk to him to thank him, but the feeling's not mutual, then you should write him a letter. That way, you don't have to confront him, but it's not too impersonal. Tell him how you feel and how he changed you for the better. When you see that he's moved on, then that MIGHT be the time for you to move on also. Everyone lets go at different rates, but when the time is right, you'll know when to let go. Good luck!
ok here is the thing....
i went to my boyfriends house the other night and did somethings i have never done before and then he went and told his sister(my best friend) and then broke up with me....
what can i do to feel better about this and to get him not to be mad at me and to keep him talkin to me.....
i really like this guy alot........
so dont tell me to quit talkin to him
please and thank you.....
~kashia
:( i wish i could die
Since your ex is your best friend's brother, this certainly puts you in a difficult position. There's really nothing you can do to make yourself "feel better," but to cherish what you two had together and remember the good times. I know it sounds cliche, but you can't always dwell in the past. If you're not sure EXACTLY why he broke up with you, ask him. If you're not up for it, wait for a while to let him settle down and cool off. If he agrees to "start over," then you two can be friends, and someday build something more than that. If you decide to confront him now and he tells you to back off or that he needs more space, then do so... You don't want to seem too desperate. I'm assuming that you trust him since you like him so much, so trust that the decision he made to break up had some good in it after all. In these cases, you just need to trust your instincts. If you see him on the streets and your conscience tells you not to chase after him, then don't. If you're at a party with him and something tells you to start a casual conversation, then go ahead. You can't hold back with something if you know you're going to regret it. Then again, don't do something dumb that might ruin the appreciation that he possibly has for you. I hoped I help a little, sorry if this wasn't what you were looking for. If he can't see how hard you're trying to make this work, it's his loss. You have nothing to be guilty about. Good luck!
I have a crush on my best friend (opposite sex) i mean hes not my omg best best friend but hes my best guy friend and i like him. I really want him to know how i feel but im don't wanna lose the relationship i already have with him because the last guy i liked wouldnt talk to me at all so i feel really lucky to likesomeone who will talk to me and all. i know that if i tell him im shy so i will start acting weird around him then he probably will too
Wow, I've been there before. I didn't want to risk a chance of going out if it meant ruining our wonderful friendship. I decided not to go for it, because I was happy with what we have right now. If you really think things will be better if you reveal your feelings, then go ahead. In these situations, you need to trust your instincts. Don't do something you know you'll regret. On the other hand, isn't it possible that he feels the same way about you? You never know unless you ask, right? TRUST YOURSELF! Good luck!
im 14/f and i have never had a boifriend. i am really outgoing around my friends but whenever i'm around guys i get shy especially around guys i like. and it seems like all the guys at my school only like the sluts and nobody else.. what are some ways to get to be better friends with more guys and how to not be shy around them? thanks.
I used to be shy around guys because I never knew what to say what we started talking. When I meet a new guy, I usually start a conversation myself with a compliment or a casual question. For example, I would look for something we have in common and being it up. It can even be something as simple as wearing the same color shirt. It might not guarantee an instant friendship, but it's definitely a smooth start. Just remember to not underestimate yourself and swallow your fear. If you hesitate, just tell yourself that a minute of talking can change your life. In this situation, it's better to take action than to wonder "What if...?" for the rest of your life. I'm sorry id I didn't help, but good luck! Stay strong!
Ok well i ive been in a relationship for about 2 months now with one guy and things are getting kinda boring and well his friend i really really like him he is just funny and pretty cute hes not bad at all and well.. I dont know what i should do i dont even know if I might be cheating on him I think I am like ive kinda been talking to his friend alot and flirtin with him so what should i do dump my boyfriedn go out with his friend
or w8 a while im so confused help!!!
OMG, I've been in your situation before and I had no idea what to do! I didn't want to talk to anyone about it because I was afraid that they'd think I was betraying my boyfriend. I really liked my boyfriend, but I wasn't feeling it back from him, so I started to talk to his friend more. I started to get feelings for him and I was afraid to choose between him and my boyfriend. Before making any rash decisions, talk things over with your boyfriend. Tell him that things might not work out if there's nothing exciting going on. If you decide that you don't like him anymore, then you should break it off with him (after careful thinking.) Continuing to date him will only hurt both of you if your feelings for him aren't there anymore. Furthermore, if you decide to go out with his friend, you should make sure that no one gets the wrong idea about you and label you as a "player" or anything like that. If your boyfriend cares about you right now, he should be able to understand that your relationship will be better as "just friends." The rest is up to you, I'm sorry if I couldn't help. The decision you make will be the right one if you really know what you want and consider all the consequences. I'll be here if you ever need anything. Good luck!
heres the thing...i have this boyfriend and i REALLY REALLLY REALLLY REALLY REALLY like him. i think i might even love him. i mean im only 13 and i shouldnt be in love yet. but i think i am. i think about him all of the time and my heart beats fast when i get a phone call from him. i went to the pool with him and i just loved it. every time he said my name i got this feeling like i needed to scream.
HELP ME!
I'm not sure if you love him, only you can answer that yourself. It'll take some time to find it withinself to face the truth, whether it's just a strong attraction or true love. I once had a boyfriend that I really liked and I got butterflies everytime I saw him or heard his name. You never stated your problem, unless the whole "going crazy about him" was the problem. It's common, don't worry, especially if it's a new relationship. You say you think about him all the time... That's the factor that might become a problem if it interferes with your life with your family, friends, schoolwork, etc. If it gets to the point where you're so obsessive about him that you can't absolutely concentrate on anything, I suggest that you talk to him about it. Keeping a daily journal about your feelings around him might help. You can read over it once in a while and identify what it is about him that you're crazy about. One of the things I'm concerned about is how HE feels about you. If he doesn't feel that way about you as strong as you do, that's ok. As long as he truly cares about, your relationship will be fine. I'm assuming that you're happy to be his girlfriend by the way you're talking about him, but it might scare him if you're "too happy." Do you get what I mean? I'm sorry if my answer isn't what you're looking for, but I'll be here if you need anything else. Best of luck to your relationship.
It has been awhile since me and my ex broke up, but im still madly in love w/ him and i want to talk to him desperatly. Sadly he has a girlfriend who i happen to be friends w/. Im really scared to call ... any advice?
THANX
That is not a dumb question at all. Don't let anyone get to you. I've been in your situation before (both the girlfriend and the ex)... And it was devastating to hide my feelings and put on a smile for him and my best friend. Isn't it possible that he might still have feelings for you also? Even if he has a girlfriend, he can just be in denial. It's good that you don't deny loving him. First, I think that you should talk to your friend that's dating him. If she's truly your friend, then she'll understand and it won't ruin your friendship. There might be hard feelings at first, but she'll realize that it's not anyone's fault. Ask her to remain open-minded and understanding before telling her about your feelings. Also, if you're not quite ready to tell your ex, make sure that your friend can keep a secret. Be honest, but don't make it seem like you're pressuring her to break up with him so you could be with him. I can't tell you how she'll take it, but I hope she's as understanding as my friend was. When you're ready to reveal your feelings to your ex, don't let fear and doubt take over you. You'll feel much better after admitting it. It's going to be hard, no doubt, but it'll be for the better. If he's mature, then it won't ruin your relationship with him, whatever that may be. If he doesn't take it well, then that's that. Some people might say that he's not worth it, but nothing can change how you feel about him. If you truly love him, but he doesn't feel that way and is happy with his girlfriend, then you should be happy too. To tell you the truth, I still haven't told my ex yet. It's not that I'm afraid that I might regret it, but because I like what we have now. We're really good friends, and although I wish sometimes it could be something more, I'm thankful that we were able to get over the "awkward after-breakup" phase. There's so much more stuff I can tell you about my experience, and you might be able to learn some things from it, but I need to know specifically what your thoughts are. Remember, you should keep in mind about other people's prespectives. I'm sorry if my answer wasn't what you were looking for, but I'll be here if you need anything. Best of luck to you.
K see me and this guy just started dating and all for like 3days now and hasen't called me yet i gave him my number. But see i want him to go with me to this fourth of july thing with me what should i do to get in contact with him???
Do you have his number, e-mail, screen name, etc? Any way of communication is fine, don't think that e-mails are too impersonal. If not, you can ask his friends or go see him in person if it's possible.
How can I show my boyfriend that I REALLY love him, but not by making out?
Most importantly, you have to let him know that from the bottom of your heart. Anyone can say "I love you." but it takes a lot to say it and truly mean it. Many people say that the timing has to be perfect and all, but it really doesn't matter if you really do love him. Sure, it'd be nicer if it was a romantic and appropriate setting, but when the moment seems right to you, that's the time to say it. Spend more time with him and take notice of when and where he's most comfortable. Also, it's critical to show him that you care about him. Support him in every way that you can, that will show him that you have a sweet and kind nature. The rest is up to you... I'm sorry if I couldn't help you.