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hey everyone!im belle.
i absolutely LOVE giving advice, it has to be one of my favorite things to do. feel free to ask me anything. i will try my best, and i wont judge anyone. i know that everyone has rough times and things that they go through in their lives, as i do also. everyone is important. and i will try my best to treat you that way through my advice. if i say something that you don't agree with, then im very sorry. but remember that you are asking for advice... there isn't a right or wrong answer. it goes by opinion. and i'll try my best to make you love mine. thanks!
**BeLLe**
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this is random and whatever but like i dont get it. i hate to brag and sound like a total stuck up bitch but like, for some reason good looking guys never like me..like this year at school since im new i thought hot guys would like me. and like okay so im not popular or anything, and i dont have a group of people or anything, i just have scattered friends here and there. so anyways, i mean like..i think im kind of pretty and im not ugly or anything..i feel like better looking guys should like me..i want a boyfriend really badly. i feel like that would make me happy :] but for some reaosn the nerdy weird guys always like me. its getting a little annoying. and the guys i like never like me back. i can just tell. i want a boyfriend, but i want him to be cute so i can show him off to my friends and it will make me happy too. thats my key to happiness right now, which i need more of. i just wish cute guys would like me..and i cant think of any reasons they wouldnt..maybe because im not popular but thats so over rated. people should be able to go out with anyone they want, it doesnt matter whos popular and whos not. ive seen some hot guys but there not in any of my classes. and i can already tell there not intrsted. why is that. im not ugly! gr
Hun, looks aren't everything. You can't expect guys to like you just because you look pretty. Go talk to them, show them what kind of a person you are.
Same goes for the guys that like you. I know this sounds way lame.. but maybe give them a chance. They like you for who you are. And looks can be way deceiving. At least get to know them better first. And sometimes the good looking guys can have a stuck up attitude because they KNOW they are hot. Trust me, it's better to have someone caring than someone like that.
Just try and get to know people better. Many guys will find that they like you because you have an amazing personality! not just because you are pretty. Its way better to have them think both! :)
But don't worry about this whole thing. Sometimes you can tell when you are desperate for guys. And just make sure you aren't focusing this whole thing on YOUR looks. Looks really don't matter in the long run. You want guys to like you for who you are.
Don't rush things. Just be patient.
Someone will come along when you least expect it.
**BeLLe**
So I've been talking to this guy and he's really nice, sweet, charming. Basically, perfect. He talks to me like he likes me, he's told me that he feels a 'connection' with us.
The thing is, I feel like he tells every girl he talks to, the same exact thing. Then that makes me think that maybe I'm wasting my time or something?
Should I just let him go and forget about him or what?
Well, if you don't know for sure, then don't forget about him just yet.
Make sure you get your facts right before you let him go.
Feeling like he is telling every girl that is just an insecurity. Just don't worry about it too much. And, that being said, don't rush into anything since you aren't sure. Try to keep your emotions under control until you find out.
**BeLLe**
okay well i have this guy friend and weve been hanging out with our group of friends and i mean we just started to hang out so i think it might be to soon to tell, but i think i like him. So, how do i tell if he likes me or how do i tell if i really like him?
Well these are signs that he might like you:
**He makes eye contact with you a lot, even if it is from way across the room.
**He is really touchy.
**He remembers even the most pointless conversations you've had together.
**He gives you "the look" lol...its kinda hard to explain. But it's the type of look he gives you that really makes you think he might like you
**He tries his hardest to make you laugh or to Impress you
**Basically just any other way of flirting with you could mean that he might like you.
To tell if you really like him:
**Theres not really a certain way to tell, its just something that you feel on your own. No one can tell you that you like him, its something that your heart tells you.
**You think about them a lot
**You get butterflies in your stomach whenever you see them.
**BeLLe**
Tinkerbelle
I really need your help!!!!
so theres this guy lets call him mikey. i really like mikey, and i think he likes me. But the problem is, i dont know if he goes out with people. Hes kind of a goodi-goodi, and so i dont think he'll ever ask me out. But i feel like im in love with him, and i reallly want him to be my boyfriend. How should i know if he goes out? How should i let him know i like him?
Well, if you know any of mikey's friends, then you can ask them if he goes out with people, or if he has ever had a girlfriend. I'm sure one of his close friends would probably know.
If you want to let him know that you like him, then you should tell one of your friends that you like him. Maybe she will tell mikey or one of mikey's friends. You also need to flirt with him, if you aren't already. Make sure you talk to him a lot, and say hi to him in the halls. If you think that he likes you already, then he should be happy to know that you like him too.
**BeLLe**
Theres this boy right
and like he used to hate me
Then I guess he got over it becuase He Imed me ONE time
then at school , he talks to me if im around
but he doesnt talk to me online anymore.
Does he still hate me?
ps. before he Imed me ONCE when he hated me, he didnt talk to me in school.
Well if he is talking to you at school, then it doesn't sound like he hates you. If you want him to talk to you more, then maybe you could start talking to him! Maybe it just seems like he hates you because he is scared to talk to you... he could think that you hate him or maybe he could even like you. But with the information you've given me, it doesn't sound like he hates you. I guess i don't really know what he talks to you about or anything like that... but in general, if someone talks to you then they probably don't hate you.
**BeLLe**
i have a crush on one of my friends named *steve*. one of my best girl-friends and him went out last year but they've been broken up for more than a year now and she says she doesnt like him. but being friends me and this boy will sit on each other at parties and flirt but just in a friendly way. but now i like him. now everytime i start flirting with him my friend will start giving me dirty looks but i had asked her the day before if she liked him and she said no but she gets mad when we flirt. i know that he doesnt like her anymore but my friend will never tell me the truth about her feeling for him. i dont want to hurt her if she still likes him but i feel like she could be holding us back. how am i supposed to deal with her and hint to my friend that my flirting is because i like him?
Its great that you are respecting your friend, but if they broke up a year ago, and if she is telling you that she doesn't like him anymore, then there is no reason why you shouldn't be able to flirt with him. Tell your friend that you like *steve* a little bit, and if shes a good friend then she will understand. It is kind of hard to stop yourself from liking someone. Don't keep this from your friend... just tell her, she shouldn't mind it too much since they broke up a year ago. If she does still like him, then maybe try to help her get over him. She needs to find a new guy if she is spending her time worried about this one.
**BeLLe**
Well first of all there is this guy I like at school.He doesn't even notice me. I talk to him sometimes, but when I start to become friends with him then I want to be more than friends then everything goes out the drain. He is 5 lockers away from me and when I turn to look he was already looking at me and then he turns his head real quickly. All I want is to go out with him and it never seems to happen. I have liked him for 3 years now. (13/f)please please help me to find a way to go out with him or help me to have a relationship with him.
Well it sounds like he does notice you, the way that you say he looks at you and turns away really fast. That is a sign that he could like you. And if you talk to him, then of course he notices you.
Try and just be his friend for now. Don't make any sudden moves, just concentrate on being his friend. When he gets to know a little more about you and talks to you more, then he could decide that he likes you. But you have to give him time.
After you've been friends for a while, then it would be fine to flirt with him and all that fun stuff... if he flirts with you back, or acknowledges it, then you can keep going with it.
If you've gone this far, and flirted with him for a while, but he doesn't seem too interested... then i suggest that you move on.
You want a guy who likes you for who you are, so don't ever act like someone you're not. i promise you that someday you will find that special someone.
**BeLLe**
b/14
i like this girland i think she likes me too i always flirt with her and she blushes and smiles at me i havent hung out with her in like 2 years she is in 2 of my classes i sit next to her in both. i went out with her in 7th grade but we broke up b/c i was sort of bored i want to go out with her again but i dont know if shes going to not wat to kiss because i dont think she ever did what should i do
OMG! i can totally relate! Haha that was like scaring me when i was reading it...cuz its so much like me.
Well, i think that you should ask her out! If she is flirting with you back (which it sounds like she is) and since you think she likes you, then there's a really good chance that she could like you back. And since you already went out with her, that means that she has liked you before, which gives you an even better chance that she might like you.
About the kissing thing, maybe you could ask one of her friends if she has ever kissed anyone. I'm sure that a good friend of hers would know... girls talk about everything! But if she hasn't, then you shouldn't turn down the chance to ask her out just because she hasn't ever kissed anyone. Maybe she wants to... you never know. If she doesn't want to, then just give her some time, and it will all work out.
**BeLLe**
im in 9th grade an im a guy im only 4'10" im probabl the shortest kid in the grade. when i ask out a girl i usually get a no maybe when we r in 10th grade. i realize that means im too short i like this girl i went out with her 2 years ago i think she likes me cause when i flirt with her she blushes and smiles she is only like 5 inches taller than me should i ask her out?
Yes! you should totally ask her out! Who cares if you're short. All of the girls that turned you down because you're short care too much about what people think... and they are afraid people might say something about it. If this girl really does like you, then she won't care if you are short or not, and she will go out with you for your personality. Good luck!
**BeLLe**
but he hangs out with his friends so i cant
umm well i'm not exactly sure which question you put before... and what i said. But if you are talking about a boy you like, then:
it doesn't matter if he's with his friends or not, you can still go talk to him! Who cares what anyone thinks, don't let it affect you. Even if he is with a group of friends, you can still go up and make an effort to talk to him. Maybe you could even ask him and some of his friends to go hang out with you and some of your friends. Then you could get to know him better, and you would be more comfortable being around him and his friends.
**BeLLe**
Well there is this new kid in my school and is soooooo hot or if you want to call it cute. Well his name is Victor. and like i really like him and i dont know if he likes me back!!!????
I know his name and last name but he doesnt even know i like him or my Name!!!!!!
from,
Confused
Well how do you know that he doesn't know you. You never know... he could like you. But chances are that if you've never talked to him or anything, then he doesnt. That is why you need to put yourself out there and go talk to him. As soon as he gets to know you, he will figure out what a great person you are, and maybe then he will like you back. That way, both of you can get to know each other a little better, cuz it sounds like you dont know him too well either. Hope i helped!
**BeLLe**
oke i have a boyfriend and its my bestfriends brother and so we have been going out for bout a week and i want to talk to him hold hands with him but i dont know what to do i dont know what to talk about so will you answer my question as sooon as you can?
thanxxxx
felicia
Just talk about whatever is on your mind. Maybe you can talk about a class you have, or what you did over the weekend... you can talk about pretty much anything. Me and my boyfriend talk about almost everything, even if its something really stupid. About the whole holding hands thing, just do it! If you hold his hand or hug him, or whatever it is that you want to do, then he will know that you're comfortable with it... and he will know that it is ok for him to do it to you. Don't be afraid, he likes you and theres not going to be too many things you do that make you look stupid in front of him. When a person likes you, they concentrate on more of the positive things about you. So there's no need to feel embarassed about anything. Its time to break the ice! Good luck!
**BeLLe**
ok i am in need of aboyfriend my love life has taken a dive and i can't really find anyone i'm not horrible looking and i have been told that i am pretty but i want a guy to tell me that and i just can't seem to find one please give me advice on how to find a boyfriend.
Well, the answer is simple: F-L-I-R-T. You can't be shy... bring out your inner self. Most guys like outgoing girls. Get out of your comfort zone. It takes guys time to decide they like a girl. So all of this will take patience. Don't make this all happen in one day, it takes time. But just work on flirting with a few guys, and it will all come to you soon. Im sure you're a very likeable person, people just need the chance to get to know you.
Here's a website with a few flirting tips, along with a few other things throughout the site you might enjoy:
http://www.links2love.com/
Hope i helped!!
**BeLLe**
Okay I like this guy he dosn't know I like him but he's had a couple girlfriends and one just broke up with him not to long ago. He's real nice and I want to tell him but also I don't because of the last time everyone found out right now my bestfriend knows. Do you think I should tell him?
Ok, so I'm going to turn this around a little bit.
Say that you find out this guy likes you.. you aren't quite sure if you like him or not. So then what do you do? You start to notice him more. That brings out the positive things in him. So then you decide you like him more.
Ok now lets try this the other way.
You really like this guy, and you want to tell him you like him, but arent sure if you should or not. So you decide to let him know. (Don't go up and tell him... have it go through a friend, and make it subtle. You dont want to freak him out). He starts to notice you more, and starts to notice all the positive things in you. If he doesn't like you already, then he could start to like you more. And with a little bit of flirting on your part, you could very well have a boyfriend fairly soon.
**Just remember:
-Dont be too forward about anything. That can be a huge turn-off.
-Don't tell a ton of people. Just stick with that one friend knowing. Let her subtlely tell this guy that you like him.
-Keep him wondering. You don't want it to sound like you're obsessed with him. It will just make him like you more if he spends his time trying to figure out if you like him.
Hope everything goes well for you
**BeLLe**
What do i do if this boy acts like he likes me around certain people, but then he talks about me really bad around other people. Should I just forget him?
YES... just forget him. There are plenty of other guys in the world... ones that will actually care about you. If someone really likes you, then they wouldn't be talking badly about you. He isn't worth your time. I am sure that you can find someone WAY better than that. Good luck!
**BeLLe**
What should I do if i like this boy and we hug in the hallway and i have his number, but I am scared that he will not like me if we start to be friends? What do i do?
EDIT: Well, I would say to just call him and invite him to a party or somewhere with a whole bunch of people, since you aren't really sure if you are friends or not. Just invite him a few times. I am sure that he would want to go. Like I said, i am sure he wouldn't mind being friends with you. If he doesn't consider you a friend, he is probably just using you for the hugs.
Well it sounds like he already considers you a friend if you hug and you have his #, so there shouldn't be anything to worry about. But if that isn't the case, and he doesn't like you when you start to be friends, then just don't worry about it. One person's opinion doesn't matter... besides, you dont want to worry too much about someone that doesn't even like you back. So if this happens, then go for someone else. But i doubt he wouldn't like you if you already hug him and he gave you his number. So don't worry too much.
**BeLLe**
the guy i like, we were getting along so great!!!! he even treated me like his girlfriend! well now something is going wrong. all of a sudden he hasnt been talkting to me for the past 2 weeks. just like that. click! i dont get it. i didnt do nuthin wrong. we had so much fun together. there are 3 and a half more days of school left and i want to talk to him real bad but im afraid to because im afraid he doesnt want to talk to me for some reason and hell get annoyed if i do or something. i always walk past him and stuff. we never make eyecontact anymore and we never talk and before i had this gut feeling that he liked me too before but now i dont feel anything. my question is what can i do to get him to talk to me again. just like to start a conversation. i did it the first time im just afraid now. thats how the whole thing got started. we were switching classes and all of a sudden i talk to him about my groups project and everything was fine from there. can i get some tips on what i should say to start a conversation. to get things fired up again. im also afraid to tell him i like him or call him. what would i say for that? i always think negative. so what can i do to talk to him or get him to talk to me?
Well you can't really control how he is acting, but i am sure that he wouldn't mind if you just started a conversation with him. If you want to talk to him, then just talk! If he thinks you're weird for it, then just move on to some other guy. One person's opinion doesn't really matter. If he thinks you are weird for talking to him, then he is just insecure about himself. There is always going to be some person in the world that doesn't like you, and it doesn't mean that you did anything wrong, it is just because they are insecure and they have to find some reason to hate you. Just be friendly and start talking to him, he shouldn't mind... and if he does, then just don't worry about it and move on to someone else. You will probably regret it if you don't talk to him before school gets out, so just do it! You might as well... it's better than being depressed about it all summer. Good luck!!
**BeLLe**
Okay so now that I have flirted with him I have been trying to find sighns of if he likes me or not so when I am with him and his best friend and me and my friend its just the four of us we are totally chatty and he compliments me and it all works out great and he smiles and looks me in the eye but when we went and hung out in a large group he was totally flirty with this other girl and it felt like he didn't really notice me but he did it was wierd so should i give up on him or what??
Well its lookin good if he's smiling and looking you in the eye. He could just someone that flirts with a lot of different people. You just don't really know what his feelings for the other girl are. I wouldn't give up on him yet... it isn't like it is going to kill you if you keep trying to flirt with him. But it might make you sad if you really like this guy and you just give up on him. So why not give it a chance. Keep flirting with him.
Here are some signs to tell if he likes you back:
*When he is around you he is always in a good mood/ smiles or laughs a lot
*He touches your shoulder or hand, or playfully pushes you
*Whenever something happens, he looks at you to see what your reaction is.
*He's stares over at you a lot/tries to make eye contact a lot
*Brings up things you have talked about days ago
*Nervous around you
Just act totally ditsy... guys like that because it makes them feel like they need a strong guy in their life to help them out.
Good luck! Don't give up on him!
*BeLLe**
ok.. well i like this guy and he is morman, im christian , and well i was wondering what i can do or not do around him and what the differences are?
thanks
Well you can do whatever you want around him. It just depends how he will take it. Mormons aren't totally goodie goodie like everyone says... I mean there's tons of people that are mormon and that swear a lot and stuff too. I know someone who's mormon and they have made out with someone else. That isn't mormon standards... but it just depends how their morals are with their religion. Why not ask him about it... i am sure that he would be glad to share some stuff with you about his religion. Don't treat him differently than you do with anyone else, just because he is a different religion. Just act like yourself, i am sure that he will respect you for that... If he doesn't like you for who you are, then there isn't much you can do.
By differences, I am not sure if you mean, what what mormons do... or what.....but if you want me to sort of explain the mormon religion to you a bit then you can just send one in my inbox and i'll tell you a little about it...but if you dont then dont worry about it. I just didn't want to give you all this information you didn't want. Hope i helped!
**BeLLe**
kay theres this guy and he likes me. but he doesnt want to show his feelings and hes playing hard to get. i need something that i can say to him thats short and quick and will make him think twice about playing hard to get. idk what to say to him but i really need help!!
You could just tell him to stop playing hard to get, if you're that outgoing. But if you aren't, then just sort of give him signs that you don't really like it. Maybe even do it right back to him, that might teach him not to.
**BeLLe**