My name is CC well that my nickname. I am in my mid 20's and i have been though so much in my short life marriage, divorce, taking care of a child, moving, dropping out of school, doing drugs, living with family that use bad drugs, jail, boyfriend hitting you, and the list keeps going but the one thing that is different from me and most people is they don't no how to get past it or get to the point were it dose not bother them, and that's why i am here to help you because the things i have been though i have come out strong and there are a lot of you that are going though them now and want help and you no as well as anyone else you can't take advice from someone who has never been there because they don't no what it feels like
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Location: nebraska
Member Since: April 15, 2010
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I'm 15/f
So this guy barely turned 18. He's a senior, I'm a sophomore. I'll turn 16 in a couple months. But is that a big age difference. About 2 1/2 years?
And dating isn't against the law even if he's 18? Not doing anything sexual. Thanks! (link)
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age is nothing but a number really all that really matters if you care about the person and if they make you happy and if the answer to both of tho's is yes then don't worry about the age. the only time i have thought it wrong to be with someone a different age as you is if you have kids that are the same age or older then that person but you guys don't lol, o and let me give you a little bite more advice before i go females mature fast then males its a fact so if you want to be with someone that on the same level as you it always better to date someone that's a little older. i hope that helped and hope everything works out cc
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SO i emt this guy like last february 2009? and i kinda ended up falling in love with him to an extent? he moved this year and he is visiting on may 1st and wants to hang with me and my best friend. i want to kiss him super bad and for him to like me (he has before) how can i do this please help i kinda need this? (link)
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well if you really wanna kiss him just do it as far as how to go about giving him a kiss there are a bunch of different ways you could go to give him a hug and when your letting go just slowly move around and kiss him or you could just kiss him but i would try the hug because it always works. wish you the best of luck and hope that helps cc
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16/f
So I am dating a new guy, we'll call him Seth. Due to my current relationship, I don't want to rush into things like my last relationship. I'm cool with everything but sex, I want my relationship to last and I don't want that so soon. So we've already been to third base you know, fingering oral and such. So I want to make things a little surprising and exciting, I want him to be surprised when I pull something out of my sleeve. What's something I can do to really make him go crazy or really like. Something he won't expect? (link)
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well a lot of guys go crazy when girl dress up in a little outfit like a nurse or something like that and depending on what you dress up as you could just roll play with him like say you dress up like a nurse you could have a blow of water next to the bed and tell him its time for is sponge bath and take off his shirt and wash him down and start kissing his neck and stuff at the same time. hope that helps and good luck cc
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heres the story.im a very happy girl i love to dance but my boyfriend hates when i dance with guys he says he feels disrespected even when im dancing a foot apart..he always accuses me of cheating and tells me im gonna leave him one day. he tells me how id rather hangout with my friends than him and i should just admit it.did i mention he has two tattoos of my name and is planning to do a third i can see he gets a bit jealous when i hug my guy friends and he always tells me im his(but i guess thats normal right?)he always asks who im going with and where..and when i dont answer he gets extremely upset..i already stopped talking to two of my guy friends because of him:(.i know im a very bossy girl . i always feel the need to have at least 85% controll of the relationship and i would hate if he danced with another girl as well(so is that good or bad) do u guys think hes controlive??...PLEASE HELP! (link)
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i think you need to sit down and talk to him tell him that dancing is a big part of your life and you don't wanna give that up. and i have had guy say the something to me about the your gonna leave me or cheat on me and i normally just tell them look am with you because i wanna be not because i have to be and you telling me all the time how am don't want to be with you is making me mad and making me think twice about being with you so stop it and normally they get it through there head that you wanna be with them and stop saying it now about everything else am not sure that he is controlling he sounds more like he is head over heels for you i don't no mine guys that get 3 tattoos with a girls name but the answer is simple none the less you need to think about everything he is doing that bother's you wright down and then talk to him relationships are about give and take so when you are talking to him about the problems try to come to something you both can live with. example you love to dance but he dose not like it when you dance with other guys then ask him to dance with you more or see if he is OK with you dancing with other guy if he is there. i hope that helps and wish you the best of luck cc
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So im a 16/f
ive been with the same guy for 4 years. he moved to florida which is across the country. he is however moving back. I dont know what to do. He is bi-polar, and one second he tells me we're soul mates then next he says we shouldnt be together. Im so lost. (link)
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here is what you should do sit down with him when he gets back and talk to tell him that you no he is bi-polar and you think that has something to do with the fact that one min he wants to be with you and the next he dose not tell him that you are getting really confused on what he really wants and then look him in the eyes and ask him do you want to be with me or not because am not gonna sit here and hold on if you really don't wanna be with me but if you do i need to no that way when you say something like "we shouldn't be together" i will no its just your bi-polar talking not you. it always best to talk to the person you are with about any thing that going on because they are the only one that will give you the answer you need. i hope that helps and wish you the best of luck cc
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My ex boyfriend still wants to talk to me? I dont know what to do! Im still in love with him so i think it will hurt me being friends with him :( when he asked me i said i wasnt sure, and he seemed pretty p!ssed about that because he said "we've been through a lot together" should i decline the offer of friends and move on with my life? (link)
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if you still love him and want him to be in your life then try and be friends with him and see how it works out if your finding that its to hard to be around him because you still love him a lot then let him no this is just to hard for me right now and then maybe after a period of time away from him thinks will work out and you guys can be friends. but like i said if he really means a lot and you want him to be in your life then at least try and keep him in your life
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I'm in love with someone I dated in high school, and have been for years now. I think I married the wrong woman and I don't know how to tell my wife or whether to tell her at all. Telling a spouse you don't love them romantically anymore is one of the harshest and most damaging things you can do on an emotional level but I'm starting to wonder whether I'll ever be happy again. I'm struggling over whether it's better to live in pain forever or cause that same pain in someone else.
I'm 25 and male, we have no kids. (link)
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i have been were you are and am gonna let you no right now it is going to be hard because no matter what you do someone will feel the pain you or you wife but you do need to sit down and talk to her tell her the truth on what your thinking and how you feel (honesty is always the best) and you never no you might not really have the feel's for the other women like you think it could just be your mind wounding WHAT IF witch is something all of us do man and women. but if you really think there might be something there then go for it. it's never to late but you have to tell your wife and work something out with her because am sure you don't want to lose her and then find out that other girl was not the right one, and trust me if she really loves you she will want what is best for you. i just let my husband and best friend go because he felt that there were thing he should have done before the marriage and it hurt but were still close and are hoping that we will be together again sometime in the future. i hope that helps and wish you the best of luck cc
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I am getting closed to 18 and I have never had a boyfriend. Now, it seems kind of weird, but I have no problem with it. I've had plenty of shots, but I'm not rushing anything and dont plan to waste time with the wrong guy. {I'm very picky.) My family, on the other hand, makes it seem like a big deal, when it's not. They are always asking me why I haven't brought any guys home, etc. My younger sister, who happens to be a huge slut, made this ridiculous remark that I am a lesbian. Now her and my parents joke about it. And sometimes I think they really think that. (Which I'm not. I'm totally against that stuff and they know it.) Whenever my sister and I get in fights she's always like "Atleast I've had a boyfriend." I know I'm not experienced and stuff..but there's no one I'd want to go out with at the moment. I've already explained this to my family, but they still get on my case about it. I used to be able to ignore it easily, but now it's hard. I already have a low self esteem, and they arent making it any easier for me. Any suggestions? (link)
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i think what you should do is the next time they bring it up tell them "am almost 18 years old witch will make me in adult so am going to live my life the way i want i don't need a man to make me happy" and hopefully they will back off if not remember that you better then that your a strong women who is putting her self first because trust me honey a man will change everything and you wont even see it coming. as for your sister the next time she says something about her having a boyfriend say's "am sorry you need a man to make you happy thankfully am better then that" then walk away trust me when i say its better to be single i have been with all kinds of guys and at the end of the day there all the same, your perfect guy will be there some day and you will no it. wish you the best of luck and hope that helps cc
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i am a lesbian and i am in love with my best friend. she told me she liked me a year ago and i told her i liked her too but when i asked her out a week later she told me she was straight and rejected me. We are still friends now. she has gotten over me but i still haven't gotten over her. Right now she says that i am the only person she trusts and that i am the last person she has to talk to. So even if what i should do is take some time away from her, i dont wanna hurt her and make her lose all she has left, so now i dont know what to do! Help me! (link)
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my ex-husband would be a perfect person for this question we were best friends for 4years and he fall in love with me the very 1st day he meet me or so he says but i always told him i was not into him like that and we were just going to be friends well he never gave up hope and always keep me in is heart and after what he call for 4 years of hell we got together and it was not planed no one asked the other out it just happen and i believe that was because he never gave up on me. if you truly love this girl never give up because done of us no what the future has in store for us maybe it wont work now but you never no what going to happen. i do want to tell that it wont be a easy path if you decide to stay he friend and love her from a crossed the room because when she dates other people it will hurt really bad but if you think that there is some hope for you guys in the future then follow your heart (anything wreath having is wreath a fight)
now on the other hand if you don't think she will ever come around then try and then your feelings go but not your friends a good friend is hard to find and it sound like she is one and you mean a lot to her. wish you the best and hope that helps cc
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Well first of let me just say i am lesbian.I've dated 4 girls in my life time an im only 18. Im probably one of the nicest an most understanding person.But i cant keep a relationship for more than 2 months i really dont know what i do wrong.I treat my gf's very well i never fight with them an we always have fun together.I recently dated a girl who kept bouncing back an forth between me an another girl who hurts her alot.She dates me for like a week then goes back to her.I really do like this girl an im really trying to fight for her, her family an friends love me like im part of the family.She tells me she has never been so happy with someone an says she cant live without me i actually feel the same about her. Idk if shes worth fighting for.I've known her for so long an i really enjoy being around her.I just wanna know what am i doing wrong that i cant keep a girl for more than 2 months? Should i fight for this girl or let her go? (link)
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well first off you have got to stop think that it you because you don't no that your the problem with your past girlfriend it could have been anything maybe they just don't want a long term girlfriend. and as for the girl your with now i think the first thing you need to do is sit down and ask her how is more important me or your ex-girlfriend let her no that you don't want to be the rebound and only be there when something go wrong with the other girl because that kinda what it sounds like you are teller how you feel and lesson to what she says if she would rather be with that girl then you have to let her go (if it's meant to be it will be)and if not trust you will find happiness. wish you the best of luck cc
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hi everybody! My boyfriend and I have been together now for almost 2 years and I want to make in the calendar for next year that has a different reason why I love him for every day of the year. I know this has been done before, but I think that everyone should do it so here I go. :-)
unfortunately, I am suffering from writer's block now! I got up to 164 reasons and I just hit a wall. I know there are a lot more reasons why I love him and I am just not thinking of them right now or I have never really considered them before but I know you probably have reasons that apply to us as well... So, could you please list as many reasons you love your significant other as you can? I will use the ones that apply to us. It might even make me appreciate him more than I already do. :-)
The calendar is called 365 reasons why I love you, not 164 so I really need your help!
Please and thank you!
Tonya (link)
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if i was doing that here are something i would put
i love your eyes
i love your smile
i love that you can cook
i love when you kiss my four head
i love when you hold me like you never wanna let go
i love you because you make me laugh
I love the way you look at me
I love when you play with me hair
I love you because you think am smart and make me feel good about my self
I love you because u pick me up on a bad day and make it better
I love when we reseal
I love that u have a good cents of humor
I love you because you are happy with the little things in life
I love when I lay in your lap when driving
I love when you play with my tummy
I love that you r sweet
I love that you like to try new thing
I love your eyes
I love your body
I love your lips
I love your hugs
hope that help them are just what i would say
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I just started going out with this guy. He knows a ton of people and is always giving like 10 girls hugs left and right everyday. And sometimes he even kisses their heads/foreheads and tells him he loves them. I'm guessing he's just really, really good friends with these girls, but a lot of girls like him and he does this with so many. Is it wrong for me to get mad at him for this? I don't see anything wrong with hugs, but it just seems like hes all over some of them..and he does this right in front of me. I'm new to relationships, so I don't exactly know if this is considered acceptable? (link)
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i have a lot of guy friend and am going to tell you not one of them kisses me the hugging is OK friends do that all the time and i will say i tell some of my friends i love them and i think that's OK to if you have but friends for a long time you most likely do have some love for them but the kissing is a no go i would sit down a talk to him tell him how it feels that you don't like it and you want him to stop if he wont you then your better with out him. there a more then enough men in the world. wish you the best of luck hope everything works out cc
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me and my girlfriend is far away she lives in texas and i live in north carolina and we really love each other but we have no way to see each other we did web cam and pics but now we want to be together so like what should i do we thought about me hitchhiking to texas but we dont know and like are parents dont allow us to get jobs so we have no money for buses and are friends charge us like $300 for a ride so we dont no what to do we really want to see each other plz help :( (link)
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i think the best thing for you guys to do is maybe try and get job explain to your parents and if they wont lesson then try and get one with out them knowing i know that sound bad but parents don't always understand right away and even though all they want is what is best for you its your life and you have to be the one that lives it. thing have away of working them self's out trust me on that and even though this is most likely the hard thing for you right now it will all work it's self out in the end one way or another you just have to stay strong for right now and get though the hard part.
i hope everything works out for you and my advice helped cc
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My boyfriend broke up with me about a month ago. He was going through a depression and cut off all connections with everyone. He says he needed time alone and that he was no longer happy with anything. First he stopped talking to his best friend. Then all other friends, then he broke up with me. I tried to still be there for him and told him to call me whenever he needed me. But after a couple of weeks of roller coaster emotions and not being sure if he was going to call or not, i decided to end the whole thing. He kept telling me that he will come back one day and that I just need to be strong and move on for now. So thats what I told him that I needed to move on and not to call me anymore unless things were going to be different. he told me he didn't know if he loved me anymore. because he doesn't know how he feels about anything anymore. He said that his depression was getting worse and needed to find jesus. So we said our finally goodbyes last week and haven't talk since
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we were really in love and didn't have a bad relationship. Even planned marriage
he was in a depression when we were both in freshman year. He stopped talking to all of friends then too and then later regretted it and tried to get back in contact with them a year later when we started dating.
we are both seventeen and are in our junior year of high school. We were together 9 months but have know each other for 4 years. We liked each other freshmen year but he became very depressed because he was backstabbed by his friends and his first love cheated on him. He cut off all connections with everyone at school then to. He moved schools our 10th grade year. We didnt talk all school year but I texted him out the blue during summer and we began to have a relationship. He tried to get back in contact with the friends he cut off because he regretted doing that to them.
I REALLY MISS HIM AND IN YOUR OPINION DO YOU THINK WE WILL EVER TALK AGAIN?
he was my best friend and i was his. We talked about everything
Please do not tell me i need to just move on. Because i am doing that. When i am ready to date again. I will do so. But I just really want him in my life again... .. or do you think it would be weird if i wait a couple of months give him his space... then call him to check on him?
i will do anything to have him in my life again... even if its just as friends
& please excuse any misspelled words and my grammar I wrote this in a rush..Thank you in advanced (link)
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i can understand what your going through because believe or not i have been there i married my best friend and kinda the same thing happened he got to a point were there was nothing anyone could do to make him happy and he wanted nothing to do with me and it was hard because i loved him so much and we had been friends for 5years and married for almost 2years and he said a lot of hurtful thing to me about how i need to move on and get over him and just different things and i will tell you if he has a big place in your heart it will be the hardest thing you will ever do and it gonna hurt but in time you will be strong and move on as for your question if you should call or not i think your best bet is to wait he has been though this before and came back from it and am sure he will again you just need to give him sometime i would one of to thing 1) if you really want him to be in your life in the future then maybe call/text/or e-mail his one last time and say "look i no your going though a lot right now and i understand am going to give you the time you need. i just want you to no if you ever need anything am here for you" and leave it there then maybe in 4 or 5 months send him a message saying "hey i was thinking about you and wanted to say hi and see how you were doing" when you do both of theses what your doing is letting him no you care without pushing him over broad. 2) now the 2ed thing i would say is just leave everything alone for now and in 4 or 5 months send him a message saying the same thing "hey i was thinking about you and wanted to say hi and see how you were doing" and just see what happens. and the reason i say 4 or 5 month is because if give you a chance to move on a little were your not think about him all the time and it gives him the chance to get outta his funk and get back on his feet. i hope that my advce helps you out and every thing works for you
cc
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