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So this guy always tells me im hot, beautiful, pretty and cute. But hes waiting for me to get off my period so we can have sex but I've only known him for about 9 days or so. me and him only were aware that we each exsisted but never talked and nine days ago we started talking and hanging out. but he is nice to my parents and very polite and hugs my mom hello and good bye. And than last night he was talking to my friend Whitney about drinking and smoking and how they should go do it. do you think he could be putting on an act for my parents and things and really just wanting to have sex and using me, or actually have interest in me? i know thats prob not enough info. so ill say a little more, he also doesnt mind kissing me or anything infront of my cousin brittney or my cousin brianna, and i think his friends know that we have a thing going on cuz i read his text the other day and it said "so your with nina right?" (yes my name is nina) so its not a complete secret. But if you can help me distinguish what he wants from me that would be great.. (link)
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I have to be honest with you, it really sounds like it's an act. If he's wanting to have sex after only really talking to you for a little while, it's risky. You could end up regretting it. My advice, tell him you're not ready and you want to wait to get to know him better. If he is willing and actually does wait, then go for it.
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I don't think I've ever felt love before.. of any kind. I mean I like my family but I feel towards them what I would feel towards a stranger or looking at a wall. Sure, I tell them I love them occasionally but I guess everyone just says that. I don't really have the best relationship with my family but not the absolute worst. That's probably because I don't like to spend a lot of time at home. I'm usually at a friends or when I am home I sit in my room away from the rest of them. And that's okay because it keeps me away from the bitching they do. Just is it normal to not really feel anything special? Is it like a mental thing? Or do you sincerely feel something? Maybe I'm jut thinking about it to much or expecting to much.. I dunno.
I don't think I've ever felt a lot of emotion before and I am just lately realizing it. I'm young, I know.
Also, just another little side question for fun.
Don't you think the worth of "love" kind of decreased like everyone literally tells everyone "I love you" whether they mean it or not. Makes it not as special, yanno? (link)
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Love is a feeling. The problem is this answer has so many possible answers because there are so many different kinds of love. You can love your family, friends or be in love with someone. Actually being in love is the most intense. For me at least, I am in love with my husband. And for me, that means I would do anything. Anything for him. I can't imagine the world existing without him in it let alone my life. To be quite honest, I would die for my husband.
And yes. For a lot of people, 'I love you' doesn't seem to hold much value. I personally was never able to say it to anyone but my husband. I couldn't say it until I knew it was true but most people aren't like that.
Hope this sheds a little light.
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15/f
This is going to be a very confusing story, please bare with me haha.
Ok, so last weekend i hooked up with this guy John. John and I had been sort of a thing for like a couple weeks and this was the first time we've hooked up. Things were like fine between us for a few days but then he started excessively calling me and i got really annoyed and decided it was time to move on, though he doesn't know that yet. This past saturday we were all out and john and i werent talking that much because he was in a pissy mood and i didnt want to deal with him. so i just flirted alot with my good friend james who i like now, and he likes me. later that night he called me upset and blamed it on me, and i felt really bad. i have absolutely no feelings for john anymore though. I have no idea what to tell john or even to follow through with things with james. what should i do?
ps. sorry its so confusing if you need me to explain further let me know. thank youuu (link)
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I've been in this situation so I know it's not easy. I dealt with it by just telling my boyfriend I was sorry but that we just didn't click the right way. That's really all I said. As for following through on things with James, I'd just keep hanging out with him for a while and see if you have really strong feelings or if you want to give it a shot. Hope this helped.
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Ok so my boy friend Dylan is really a great guy and I really do like him...The thing is that i don't have those "butterfly's" any more about him now all he does it piss me off all the time and what really makes me mad is that he said that he doesn't care if I'm mad because it doesn't effect him and he just treats me like crap all the time and I really do lie him I just feel like he is using me for sex.... like we haven't done anything yet but he is always wanting to make out and he is always hinting about it but I pretend that I don't know what he is talking about... like he said that "we are going to have fun when we turn 16...." and that "hopefully I want to too or will accept".... "but he has to wait until I'm 16 because that is what his dad said" and I turn 16 this month on the 20th and I don't know if I'm ready to have sex yet.... and I have a feeling that if he doesn't get what he wants from me that he is going to leave me..... well I talked to my best friend about this and we decided that I should deny him if he tries anything once I turn 16 and to see if that is all he wants from me..... but it makes me sad if that is all he wants because we have been dating for like 4 months now.... but yeah so like I don't really know what to do... so help me and give me your opinion on all of this.... (link)
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HUnn, it's simple, like you and your friend discussed, if he tries when you turn 16, you deny him. Besides the legal age in most places is 18, not 16. Anyway, if he leaves you, that's all he wanted in the first place and, as hard as it may be to hear, he's not worth crying over if that's all he wanted from you. Srry to tell you that.
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when you give a hickey like how do you do it. i mean like do you suck on the person or like just kiss it over and over again. like howw...? (link)
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It's really simple. Just pick a spot and suck on it. You don't have to suck too hard tho and you can kiss it. For a better answer, just go to google and search how to give a hickey. Hope I helped. =)
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is it legal for a fifteen year old and an eighteen year old to have sex? (link)
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No. It would be illegal for the 18 year old as 15 is still considered a minor. If anyone found out, that person could go to jail. (Not saying you actually did anything of course)
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My boyfriend and i decided not to tell anyone about us going out, and he goes to all of the other girls that he admits that he likes and blows them kisses and said stuff like hey sexy, i really like this guy, but is he worth keeping around??? I don't know so please help me. (link)
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I think the problem is that you haven't told anyone you're dating. Question, was this more his idea to keep quiet or yours? If it was his, I think you need to have a talk with him. Actually, I think you need to have a talk anywayz. Let him know how you feel.
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this girl likes me. my friend asked her out for me. but she doesnt believe that i do want to go out with her.what should i do. (link)
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Simple. Ask her yourself.
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I've been dating my boyfriend for 9 months, and last month we kinda swapped rings (we're both metal heads, so it's not like he's walking around with a heart ring :P) so I have one of his, which I know means a lot to him, and he has mine, which also means a lot to me. So we each have the others one of most valued possessions.
When my friends found out some of them said ''wtf..that's gay''
but others thought it was sweet and stuff.
So I'm wondering what do most of you think?
And we are intending to be together for a long time, I love him a lot! 15/f
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Personally, I think it's sweet. and if you do, then does it really matter what anyone else thinks anyway?
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Well I hooked up with this guy and found out he has a girlfriend the next day so what should I do, what should I say to him? does this make me a slut I feel disguisted with myself that I affilated myself with him. (link)
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Your not a slut. you didn't know he had a girlfriend and it's his fault for going out with you when he was already dating. You have nothing to be disgusted about with ourself but now that you know he has another girlfriend, I think you should dump him.
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im writing my bf a poem about how much i love him and i will miss him when i move and that i wont forget him but i CANT figure out how to start it!! there is so much i want to say but i cant get it to go nicely when i try and write it out please help me!! (link)
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I write poetry all the time. I wrote this one for a guy I really love and he thought it was so sweet. You can use it if you want.
My love for you is like a rose, beautiful and sweet but with one difference, roses bloom and die, fading from the world. My love for you is everlasting it grows brighter and brighter everyday and never fades away.
Yes, it's cheesy but he really loved it. Maybe it'll work for you to if you want to use it.
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So i like this kid; and its pretty obvious he likes me too and we talk practically everyday.
But latley hes been calling me and saying hes "bored"
I'd be like" Oh hey" and he would be like " hey . yeah i just got bored..."
-_- am i his entertainment?
boy... dont i feel speciall...
idk what does that sound like? (link)
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He's probably calling you because he likes you but isn't sure what to say. Not all guys can come out and tell a girl how they feel.
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I've always been the girl who is friends with the guys. JUST friends. And I need help on what I should do to flirt with them. I've had bfs before, but I can be kind of quiet. What can I do? (link)
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Same here. I'm quiet too and used to have the same issue. Now, sounds to me you haven't met the right guy. There's one guy that I have VERY strong feelings for and I can flirt with him. Any other guy, I can't seem to. My advice, don't be in such a hurry. When the time is right, it will happen on it's own. You just need to find the right person.
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I think I might be a lesbian, but I'm not sure. I'm 17/f, and I find myself thinking about girls and how they would look naked. I find myslf looking at the girls in the locker rooms. I find myself wanting to have like sex with girls and kiss girls and make out with girls. Are there any websites for girls like me? (link)
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Honestly, I don't think your a lesbian. I had the same issue. It's not called being a lesbian. It's called bi-curious. It hits us all at some point most people just don't admit it. As for websites, try google but I don't think you need websites if you wanna know the truth. Hope this helped
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Okay, so i am in a bit of a situation. There is a guy that i am dating and its been like a month and a half and he is so prude. He hugged me like 5 times and held my hand twice. And i like never make the first move...i dont know why i just dont. And i am torn do i break up with him or do i just keep the relationship going? But he is like a really nice guy and everything, its just i dont know. Help me?!?!? (link)
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alright, well, if I were you, i'd talk to him first. Maybe the problem is that he's a nice guy. Usually nice guys are shy. I dated a really nice guy and he wouldn't even hug me or hold my hand at first because he was so shy and, like you, I don't make the first move. So, after hoping he would get comfortable enough and waiting forever, I just hugged him and it went from there. Give him a few hints and push him in the right direction. I don't think being shy is any reason to get rid of him. Talk to him. Hope I helped.
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ive known this guy for about 5 years and hes my best friend. i never used to think i had feelings for him until now. but things are getting confusing now, when we hang out he'll do things like put his arm around me or cuddle and i dont know what to think. im starting to feel things for him but i have no idea what he feels about me. i dont know if i should ignore these feelings because i dont want to ruin the friendship we have. any advice would be helpful. (link)
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Chances are he does like you, as for the second part I can tell you what to do but the final decision is up to you.If I were you I would talk to him, just don't lay it on too heavy.
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I don't understand what I DON'T have that guys (in middleschool) would want! They are always going out with girls that are completely outgoing! I'm not COMPLETELY outgoing, but I am a little crazy sometimes. I wouldn't say I'm ugly or anything. I mean even my friends who are ugly get really cute and nice guys. I have a few guy friends, but I don't really know them even THAT well. They only open up to the outgoing crazy girls! WHAT IS WRONG WITH IMMATURE GUYS IN MIDDLE SCHOOL?!?! (link)
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If you are trying to hard then they will ignore you. They hate it if you try too much.
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this guy that I like wants me to hang out with him and a couple of guy friends. he told me to bring along some of my friends but the thing is i dont really have any and i dont knwo what to do its embarressing. (link)
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Just say they couldn't come. But were I you I would just tell the truth, NOT in front of his friends though.
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I am 13 and a girl who has never had a boyfriend and I think think this is my chance.There is this boy who has gone to mostly every school I have gone to(were in the same grade).But I think he likes me.Its like he has been drooping clues like he stares at me all the time with this serious look on his face,he saved me one time(if thats what you wanna call it)because I was walking and I wasn`t waching where I was going so I was about to bump into the wall then he said somthing to me then that made me look up,and his friend keeps on looking at me.So how do I figure out if he likes me without talking to him and can you give me information on how to tell if a boy likes you.
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some of the signs are him teasing you gently, following you around and of corse catching them staring at you. There is also another... they could act really nervous around you. I think from what you told me that he likes you.
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over the course of this school year, ive finally met a guy im comfortable with and has led me to believe he feels the same. although neither of us have come out and admited our feelings, we both have mutual signs/flirting that gives an obvious clue that we're into each other. he told me he wanted to hang out this summer and we traded cell numbers and everything, except im a bit new to this.
1) we're both going to be at camp/away this summer.. and i dont want to get all in his face about when he'll be home.. so im not sure when to expect him to come around
2) should i wait for him to contact me? or no?
3) if we do end up wanting to hang out.. ideas on what to do/where to go [id like some varied answers if possible]
thanks for your time, and i hope everyone has a great summer (link)
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Wait until he contacts you but if it takes him too long call him first. Don't return his calls the second you get them it will make you seem like you have nothing better to do then wait for him to call. Don't call him every 2 seconds either (same reason) Also you are right you shouldn't get in his face when he gets back he might get annoyed and last but no least go to a theam, park (if you have one near you) the movies, out to dinner or to the beach if ther's one close.
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