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okay just warning you this could get kind of long, so I met this guy and for some reason immediately he just sparks my interest you know catches my eye however you wanna put it so I start getting to know him better and he's probaby like the funniest person I ever will meet in my life so Im starting to really fall fast for this kid then he asks me out at first I kind dont want to rush into but I think about it and I realize that im not willing to risk the chance of losing him by saying no. so I said yes and by doing that I did exactly what I didnt want to happen. We went out over the summer and broke up for well some really stupid reasons I couldnt trust him because he lied to me alot and would tell other people everything we did. to me that was our personal business and i didnt want everyone knowing about it so after i talkd to him and he cont'd doing it i broke it off he told me he didnt care and that he hated me and he never wanted to speak to me again then he made the next few weeks hell for me but then one night i got really upset and i was talking to one of his good friends about it and i was trying to explain how i just couldnt see how i could be so stupid to think he ever cared about me when he obviously didnt, well his friend cut me off right there. he told me that me and my ex were two of a kind, we were cut from the same block however you wanna put it, my ex had said that same thing about me when i broke up with him and he even cried but made his friend promise not to tell anyone. now that i know this happened i think i might of made a mistake i really loved that boy and i miss him everyday, i pray everynight that one day ill get him back and i know how pathetic that sounds esp. since he just got a girlfriend today they dont really know eachother too well though and i heard he still wishes me and him would someday work everything out but i dont know it seems like everythings in too big of a mess and that no one would ever be able to fix it.. i feel like an idiot for letting him slip away. he wasnt perfect, he was far from that but i loved that about him cuz he knew it and he'd always let it shine through and he could always make me laugh. i need some help though what should i do to even be on just good terms with him? or what should I do to possibly win him back or am i just as screwed as i thought.. i know this is long and probably annoying and your probably even laughing but thanks for at least reading it an please respond if you have any ideas cuz im really hurting right about now

-virginia (link)
i know how you feel to a point i am going through some weird situations now. But your best thing would be try to call him and ask him if he thinks you and him could be friends and talk. Thats the best way to start, then yall can go from there and if you and him wnat to give it another shot after yall talk for a while then you can and you never know it might work out.


I'm 17 and I've been dating my boyfriend for 6 months! I adore him so much! I took his virginity which I promised myself I would never do! Sometimes I think about breaking up with him because of stupid reasons but than I think about all the good things about him! I love his company and the way he treats me but I just don't know how I really feel about him! lately all he wants to do is sexual things and I've talked to him about it and he said he would calm it down, but I have yet to find out if he will! I really don't know what I should do! I also have another twist in this! I am talking to another guy! Like he is fun to talk too but he is totally crazy and I would never think about breaking up with my boyfriend for him! I just like to talk to him. Ever since I started talking to this kid my boyfriend has been asking me all these questions about him and like if he should fix what he is doing in the relationship! It so overbearing and I don't know what I should do! Please help me! I'm so lost! p.s I don't want to break up with him! (link)
The best thing that i can think of that might help this whole thing is sit down and have a talk with him. Ask him how he feels so you will know before you tell him how you feel. That way he wont try to pull it off and play you or anyhing. But i would advise talking to him and telling him whats wrong as far as what he has been doing and let him try to correct his mistakes. And if he dont correct hisself then you will have to decide whether or not you wont to keep things going between yall or not.


my boyfriend and i broke up a couple weeks ago. i think i might like my best friend but i'm not sure if it is just a rebound thing so i'm not going to say anything because he has a girlfriend anyway. plus, if it is, i wouldn't want to realize it once we were going out and hurt him and ruin our friendship. i am also interested in another kid who my friend also likes (she told me if i ever went out with him..or even to ring dance with him, she would never talk to me again.) he seems interested in me, but he has never really had a girlfriend or expressed an interest in anyone. he is the guy all the girls think is really hott (because he is) and really nice (because he is).

i just need someone to make up my mind.

should i:
1. keep liking my friend.
2. try to start liking the other kid more
3. find someone else to like.
4. like no one.
5. flirt with a ton of guys and jsut have fun. (link)
If it was me i would try to talk it out with your best friend if you relly like that one boy she dont wont you to date or anything. And let her know that you and her will still be friends long as she dont backstab you but you would relly like to go out with that boy. And if she still says no you would have to pick between whats more important to you and go from how you feel deep down. If you feel it will be worth losing a good friend then go for it, but if you want to keep your best friend i think it would be better to go out with the other boy and just be friends with the one for now.


I like Rick. He met one of my friends today and he thinks shes hott. Her name is stina. but she told me that he is too short for her. but he really wants a girlfriend. Then my other friend who im not really friends with said that stina was riding her bus home from school and she would talk to her for him. he was all like cool! and i didnt say ne thing. maybe i should have but there were other ppl around. i would rather talk to him alone. so i didnt say ne thing. any help on how to tell stina that i like him w/o
1. getting the word around before i tell him.
2. not getting stina mad at me
3. letting ashley know. (shes the one who is going to talk to stina.)

also, what do i say to Rick? i want him to know that i like him and that when i say i love you i mean it. We are good freinds and he says i love you all the time. but what i want to know is does he really love me and what he thinks about me. any suggestions?? I rate hi!! (link)
One thing i can suggest that might get you the information you need is to have him meet you somewhere like in the cafeteria in the hall where ever and then you and him talk and express yourself to him then.


hi everyone, my name is steph and i have a really really big question to ask ya'll...my boyfriend dumped me at Mcdonalds at school registration...i'm only 14, but i somtimes cry myself to sleep thinking about it, the problem is...his friend is really mean to me and i think he pushed him to dump me...but still i cry about it all the time like today i was bawling....is this pathetic of me not to be over him yet....especially since it was weeks ago??? pleaze answer my sad question.....
~Steph~ (link)
No it's not pathetic...the feeling you had for him can always play a role cause of how deep they were. Specially if he is one who you cared for and really loved then boom just like that he hurts you.


I've been dating my current boyfriend for almost 5 months. We live an hour apart and honestly, I've never had such a good relationship with a guy. My relationship with him is the kind that I could only dream of & hope for. And maybe for other people too. Everything seemed to be going along smoothly, no problems, and then out of the blue, my feelings just change. I all of a sudden didn't care to talk to him on the phone so I haven't talked to him in a couple days. I don't know, things just changed drastically & I don't know why or how. I know in my heart that I want to be with him more than anything & that I could never break up with him just because of how good our relationship is but I hate feeling like this & I want it to stop. Is there any way this can change? (link)
If it was me i would just stick with him cause that feeling could just be where right now you either dont know what to say to him or just could be tired of talking to him for now. Take a break. Specially if deep down you care for him I'd try my best to stick with him


Ok..I dated this guy back in june and we had sex but I cheated on him and we broke up..but in like august he called me and he was like you should come up my house and chill, so I did. We ended up having sex that day and I left and he didn't call me for like a month..and like a week ago he started calling me to come up his house and "chill" but I don't know because my friends think he's just using me for a "booty call" he called saturday, sunday and today but today he just wanted me to come down his work but I turned him down all times... I don't know what to do..is it a booty call? or does he wanna start things back up? IM so confused..plz help..i'll rate fives!!!!! (link)
To me it sounds like a booty call if he realy liked you he would of kept in touch i would think instead of waiting a month to call you


okay well me and this gurl were best frends for 7 years... we got into a few fights but nothin 2 big. but she started dating this guy who we'll call "D" and me and him became rlly good frends and could talk 2 each other about nething! well 1 nite we were talking and he asked me if she liked ne other boys and i wasnt about 2 lie.. so i said yes and well a week later she broke up with him and then called me saying how she hated me because i told him those things. well now this gurl is ruining everything! shes always saying to the guys i like not to date me because ill just brake their heart. and idk i told her to stay outa my business and we need to go separate ways but i dont think its working. so wat can i tell her to make her stop and leave me alone and move on with her life? i rate high! (link)
Tell her the truth say well as far as me and you we no longer will be friends. Tell her she has pissed you off to the point you aint taking no more and if for some reason she wants to try coming back and talking to you say hey its not my fault you like to be so nosey and ruin everything for somebody. Try that and go on abouts things. If you have to give her the cold shoulder and ignore her. And as far as these people you like it would be your best bet to go talk to them face to face and say look she is talking trash bout me and i want to tell you how i really feel bout you and see what happens from there


Yesterday was my birthday, and i went over my boyfriend's house. He gave me a card and a braclet that i loved. Everything was going great until we started to get into a little fight about something stupid. I didn't know he would get so upset over it. He acted like everything was fine for the rest of the night. He told me that since i wasn't leaving for a while, he was going to pretend that everything was fine. We've been going out for almost 5 months now, and we broke up a few times during that. We get into the stupidest fights, say mean things to eachother, then come running back to eachother eventually. I hate breaking up, and i always get to upset over it. But i love when we get back together. I really love him more than basically anything. We both go threw stages of breaking up. I know all of his stages, he gets mad then breaks up with me, and then later on he calls acting like a moron saying all of these hateful words and things he doesn't mean. Pretending that he doesn't like me anymore. But then either a few hours, or days later, he calls me and says that he loves me and that hes sorry and stuff like that. Then we tell eachother nice things, and he wants to go back out with me. Right now, i am really upset over this and i was crying alot before. I talk to my mom about everything, she helps me through it all. But sometimes i just like to talk to people and get their advice. I hope everything works out. But i get so attatched to certain people. And it's so hard for me to get over them. So whoever is reading this, please help me with what i should do. Thank you so much.


Brooke
AGE - 15 (link)
The best thing i can tell you is instead of arguing and saying all these bad thing to each other go to him and say hey lets talk this over instead of pitching a fit and raging. tell each other what you think they did wrong and listen to them and then go from there.


okay well i really like this guy named andrew! and we are rlly good friends but i like him more then that. we were going to go out a couple of times but ended up not. well, i like him again and right now he has a girlfriend. soo should i tell him i like him or not? plz help i rate high! thnx... *megan (link)
Thats funny i am sort of going through the same thing with a girl now. But really the best thing to do is wait. When they break up tell him that you really care for him would do anything in the world for him and really would like him taking that in consideration and maybe think about yall going out.


I was on here like a month ago saying that the baby of my ex's could and couldnt be his child, well it is. I mean I am happy but it's like a feelingof insercurity. He tells me he is not going to leave me and he loves me, I don't want the baby to break us up, can someone please help me. I think about it every minute of the hour and when I think we are going to break up I start eating like a pig. Should I just break it off and suffer a longtime hurt or stay with him and see how things go please help. If you need more info or facts to help me say so. Thank you in advance. (link)
If it was me i would try to stay with him and see if it works. Cause you never know it might and not only that but it will be better in the long run cause you will know whether or not it was really meant to be for yall.


alright, i have a boyfriend. but theres this guy that i'm really good friends with that i talk to a lot. i'm not sure if he knows i have a boyfriend or not, so i don't know if i could really get mad at him for this...but everytime i talk to him he always says baby or sexy. like when he talks to me he'll be like "hey baby hows it goin" and stuff like that. he tells me he likes me all the time so i know he's not kidding around when he says those things, but i just don't know how to get him to stop without coming off as an idiot. should it really be a big deal that he says it or should i really try to get him to stop? (link)
To me it sounds like you need to just tell him say hey i got a boyfriend now. Please quit flirting with me it dont feel right. But tell him (if you feel like this that is) that maybe later on if things dont work out you might think bout dating him.


well i like this kid, but my friend is going out with him, and i would never want her to be upset if she found out. if he found out i like him, and he didnt like me, it would be really weird between us.. but i tihnk i realy like him. what should i do ? (link)
If it was me i would wait. Wait until they break up and then tell her that you really want to date him. Make sure that if you and him do go out that you and your friend will still be cool. If she says thats fine go ahead then do it. But if she dont like it i think you would be better off not messing with him. Cause believe me i know losing a friend hurts deep down.


i REALLLLLLY like this kid who lives two hours away, [but comes to vist almost every weekend] lets just put it this way- im obsessed with him. literally. my friend tells me that he likes me a lot back, but im not sure what to do! allll i ever want to do is talk to him. i sit online all day waiting for him to come on. its so crazy. someebody help me. what sould i say to him..? how can i know if he likes me back with out asking him..? (link)
Keep your eyes open and if he does act like he cares, acts flirty sometimes, then more than likely that is signs. If you knew some of his friends you could get them to ask him and see wheather he likes you or not. Another thing i know you dont wont to but sit down and talk to him when he comes over and tell him how you feel about him...be sure and tell him dont take it wrong in case he dont feel the same way. But if you can talk to him face to face that will help you and give you more of an idea about him and how he feels bout you.


13/f
there's a guy I like a lot. I met him online. we are good friends and have a lot in common. I sorta have a crush on him. should I tell him? I'm afraid it will ruin things between us. I don't think he's into online dating and I don't know if he likes me in that way. I don't feel like I'm good enough for him. what should I do? I don't want to screw everything up but I'd luv to be his girlfriend. he's awesome. (link)
I would find out what all he thought of you. Then be straight up with him and tell him that you have some feelings for him and maybe want to date. Then go from there if he likes you like that then try it and see if it works out. If not then still be his friend and find somebody else. Even though i know it will be hard to do.


hey
i like this guy that i have known 4 about a year and i didnt like him when i meet him but now i will see him a lot and he keeps smiling at me and looking at me...so 1 of my friends went up 2 him and aked him if he liked me and he said no and he was smiling when he said it so we know he likes me. and at first i thought it was a lil weird but now i really like him and i dont know what to do......hes 1 year older then me and REALLY nice. PLEASE HELP!!!! i am goin to see him tomorrow

(link)
Take a chance, and go out with him. That is if he is serious bout liking you. Trust you instincts. If you really feel like something might happen and feel good bout it go out with him. And if you are hesistating then wait maybe its not meant for yall to go out. And if it is and you wait then yall will be that much closer and know that its meant to be.


Okay, so tonight I can either go out with this girl I could possibly be getting close to (which is saying a lot for me) or this girl I'm not that close to but would fool around a lot more with. I've already gone out with the first girl once this week (Wednesday...two days ago) and i sorta as a rule don't see a girl too often.

Who should i go see? (link)
If you got a gut feeling telling you to go out with one of them tonight then go with your gut feeling. If not and it was me i would go out with the one that i felt closeset to.


hi my name is jess ive been going out with my boyfriend for days so far. But today when i was at my friends house a kid in her neighborhood said he was going out with this other girl to. How can i find out with out hurting our relationship if hes cheatin on me.
Ps. he does have a history of cheating when he was going out with my friends.
luv jess (link)
If it was me i would confront him and say tell me the truth. If he says no. Play it out and if you catch him cheating on you them take action.


Alright, so like I like this girl, she knows it, she's not sure if she likes me. She showed me her webpage today, and one of the comments says that she had her first kiss. I don't know what to say about that. Like just a few weeks, a month and a half at most, ago. She said her current relationship is almost over, but... I don't know. Honestly. I kept reading the page, and it turns out she had had like 3 boyfriends in the last three or four months. But I don't think they really LOVED her. I absolutely positively love her and I know that she's the one for me. Judging by how she broke up with the others, it looks like they didn't really love her, they were just the guys who look for "is she hot" and all. Like one person said he didn't like it when she acted all weird. Yeah, she's spassy, but I don't give a damn, I love her just the same! I told her that, but hey. We're 13. I don't know if she believes it, or knows what true love is considering the others. But she may love me. I recently asked her to a carnival as *cough* friends, and she didn't say "ok" or "sure" or "yes". She said "I'd love to!" which made me feel that it was right. I don't know why. I just did.

I really don't want her to have others. I want to be the only one. She has no idea how much I love her, it's more than anyone could possibly love anyone else. But she's already had a first kiss... so I don't know... it was someone who she's known her whole life, whereas we only met a year ago, so she may choose him over me. I really don't want anyone else to have her... really....

And then I commented on one of the people who she talked about breaking up with on her web page. I said that he was annoying, but not in those words, if you catch my drift. About two minutes passed. She logged off of AIM. I thought to myself, "Jeez. At least say goodbye." But then I realized that it would have been the perfect time to ask her out, just after dissing her ex (she has exes =( judging by the other stories I've read, the exes will come back to her, I just know it!!!) and so I think she was waiting for me to ask her out, but then thought that I was to shallow for that or something since it took so long. Jeez, I wrote the girl a song, even though I suck at songwriting, I can't be shallow! So now I'm worrying about are our chances over, could she be with the person she kissed, what if her exes come back, maybe she doesn't like me in the first place, what if she's making a hard decision and is going to choose the person who's not me, what if one day we kiss and it's not her first but it is hers, and so now I'm spassing and worrying and I just really want to have her! Sorry it's so insanely long... I'm just going through a hard time. (link)
If it was me i would vonfront her and tell her exacty how you feel about her. Tell her you are serious and aint gonna do her wrong. let her know that you see more in her other than whats on the outside.


i go out with this kid names paul.. and he smokes weed and i dont like the fact that he dosee and hes 3 years older then me and its weird.. and i dont wanna breakup wiht him jus for that but i dont know what i wanna do right now..? what do you think i should do? pleasee help

i ratee welll! *♥hailey♥* (link)
I know this will be hard but if it was me i would ask him if he cares more bout you or more bout his weed. And tell him if he does really care for you then the weed has to go. And if he keeps on doing weed your best bet would be leave him cause all he is doing is asking for trouble.




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