Hey. I recently recovered from depression with my medication. Still comes back sometimes, but im not really cutting any more. Im 15. If you have questions about anything, hell, ask me. I've been thru depression, I've been a cutter, I go to high school. Shoot.
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My interests are philosophy, photography, writing, theology, and animals. My family is more then a little disfunctanal so i know how that feels. I value honesty. Sometimes Im blunt, but i try to help. Im not shocked easily. I definately dont try to be a perfect daughter, person, or anything else. I dont claim to. my morals are.... flexible. I do what i think is right by me. And sometimes im amazed because that ends up being higher then plenty of peoples.
The world would be a better place if everyone would just stop preaching at each other and do something useful like donate some money to homeless kids. Kids would learn better if teachers cared more about teaching and less about controlling everyone. Lying isn't necessarily always a bad thing. Killing someone nearly always is. Its impossible to draw a distinct line between good and bad, actions are not people, dont be cruel to animals. Think before you stick a loaded gun into your pocket. Dont buy your wife a vaccume for her anniversery. Dont feed cows meat, you'll start an epedemic. Like i said, Im not god. Its just called Common Sense, people.
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i apologize for this being so long, but i really need to cover important facts so you can help me out on this 1!!Please read very carefully so you understand.
Last year, my bf asked me back out, then in the same sentence told me he had to take another girl to homecoming (as a favor to a friend)(i said no to a guy the year be4 because this same guy and i liked each other, and i didnt want to hurt him)!anyway, I was very hurt and said no. We both cried! He left shortly after, and from that night on, my bf turned into the biggest jerk ever! In less than a week, i found out (months later) he screwed a 14 yr old (he was 17)the 2nd day they hung out. I was so distressed, I didnt want to live! (him and i had a thing for each other since we were in 7th grade, but didnt go out until our soph. year)we had a very physical relationship months later, but not sex! We were totally "IN LOVE" ! Hes been with this now 15 yr old for a year. All he did was brag about what him and her did in the bedroom and say nasty things about me. He was verbally/emotionally abusive towards me. He told me he doesnt like rejection, and thats why he did what he did. He wanted to hurt me so bad, and i pretended it didnt bother me, (but it was killing me inside) 3 months into their relationship, he told me that he loved me and didnt want me to hurt him, he still missed what we had, he dreams about us, thinks about us all the time, and misses crying on me! He even came over 2 times, but i never let on that i still had feelings for him.(he has a gf, why would i, and he screwed her, i just couldnt get that out of my head) I dont talk to him at school, but 1ce in awhile i do online. He never IMs me. Hes not the same with her as he was with me. We loved each other so much, that we cried on each other. He has NEVER cried over her, even when shes broken up with him. He would tell me 50 times a day that he loved me, then we would argue who loved who more. He rarely tells her 1st that he loves her. He will say he loves her when she says it 1st. We were on a field trip and theyre were 5 buses going. We could sit wherever, and i sat on bus 3. He came on shortly and we made eye contact. He sat right behind me. We got off the bus, and we enter the theatre single file into the seats. I ended up sitting right behind him (not by choice) He told his gf that i was stalking him, and that when he sat on the bus behind me he didnt realize it was me until we were half way there. Of course she believed him.(i know youve heard this be4)so i get blamed for everything, He would always put "I LOVE YOU"(then my name)ALWAYS&FOREVER his away messages and profile.(stuff that came from his heart) the stuff he has now about her, comes from his head.Never changes it! Never has it said always&forever with her. Sometimes his away messages say "with s**" and a kissy face, thats it!!! Even after all the shit hes put me through, i still love him! It took me years for my love to grow for him and its a deep love i will never feel for any1 else. I have tons of guy friends, but thats all i see them as, is just a friend! I dont know if i should just let things be, or if i should slowly somehow tell him my feelings for him now after a year. He still wanted me back 3 months after he was with her, but now its been almost a year. Im so confused, but i know deep down inside, i want to spend the rest of my life with him, its just i dont know if things could ever be the same between us again! I want older and wiser people to help me out on this. 18 and older please! Im taking this very seriously, so i dont want stupid advice!! If some1 out there has had something similar, id love to talk! Thanks for you patience and understanding!!! (link)
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Honey, you think that you'll never feel this way about anyone else, but your wrong. its called Love, and it takes a long time to get over, to heal, and to feel whole. But it WILL pass and one day you will fall in love with someone totally sweet and mature, who loves you for everything that you are and will never ever hurt you.
For one thing, this guy seems totally immature and cruel... I can understand that you cant CHOOSE who you fall in love with (you cant) but by being with someone who is verbally/mentally abusive isnt worth it. i know that right now he feels like your whole world, but he's not. You need to know that you deserve so much better, and one day you will have that.
Dont put up with him. Everytime he puts you down he gets something out of it. You need to get out, have fun, flirt with other people, make your highschool years really count. Put him in the past. Block him on your buddylist. Laugh when he insults you. I know its hard, and i know it hurts, but the best way to find happiness is to love yourself before you love anyone else. healthy love is the kind that makes you feel beautiful, intelligent, unique, amazing. Its out there, waiting, it just takes time. If he keeps bothering you maybe you should report him for herassment. There is no reason for him to make you feel badly about yourself. Good luck XoXoXo
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ok,my best friend has a boyfriend and i'm kind of jealous (they're perfect and i'm single). Him and i are friends but i like him a little bit more than that. they just started going out this week. she knows him better then i do and she's liked him longer too. i told her that i like him. now do i tell him that i like him or would that ruin the realtionship between the 3 of us? what should i do???
any help is great.
~~~Chelsey~~~ (link)
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Stop. Think. Do you really want to be the kind of person who goes after your best friends guy? Its ok to have those feelings... but its totally selfish to try to justify acting on them. You both liked him. He chose her. She sounds like she deserved it, since shes had her eyes on him first. What you need to do, is get over it. There are tons of other hott, sweet, caring guys. Get used to seeing them together. Try other things, to get your mind of of it. Remember, crushes only last for a little while. Friends, reputation, and ultimately your own self worth last much longer.
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So i've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half.. i once broke up with him for two months and he cried.. ALOT.. then we got back together and now all he does is go out with his friends tell my i'm stupid, call me names, and forget about me. He tells me all the time how he doesn't care about me and that really hurts my feelings.. what should i do? (link)
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God, who cares if he likes you or not? He's a jerk, an asshole, someone you definately dont need in your life. He takes you for granted, and he wants to hurt you... he sounds like a sadist to me. i think he' trying to redeem himself for crying when you broke up with him, and show that he's better then you. You dont need that trash. Just by staying with him, your honestly disrespeting YOURSELF. Put him where he belongs... the garbage disposal.
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OK, well im 14 and still havent had a b/f yet. Is there like smething wrong with mme? Im affraid I wont have a b/f the whole 4 years of highschool. Thanks! (link)
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Theres nothing wrong with you, but if you want a boyfriend your probably not giving off the right signals. Do you hang out in a group of all girls? Because i know for a fact its hard to get a boyfriend at all if you dont hang out with any guys... also if you have a certain guy[s] in mind, you have to look interested, not just be interested. You have to be open. Guys look for clues that girls really like them before they ask them out (to minimize chances of rejection). So, if your shy then you probably wont pick up any guys like that! Just be wild, flirty, open, and ultimately yourself. And hey, just for the record, you dont NEED a boyfriend. If your single, and your happy, then just enjoy it. You shouldnt get caught up in the dating as a fad thing, only go out with someone because you are geniunly interested in him...
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ok so there is this guy that i REALLY like..and i talk to him online a lot and tells me im really pretty and stuff..and i think he's really hott but i dont know what to say back to him? because instead of telling me im hott he says that im pretty and beautiful and stuff which i really like because its not insensitive like saying im hott is..so whats a sweet way to tell him he's "hott" or fine or whatever?? (link)
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say some sweet shit like 'aaawwww. Youre so cute.' Unless he's like super emo or thinks hes to hard core for that. but most of the time guys like it.
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well it this me and my girlfriend have been dating for about 1 year and i asked her is i could kiss her and she said no but she likes to take it slow and i said ok and that was about 2 mounths ago should i kiss her yet or wait and if we kiss should i use tounge and is there a special way to use tounge
please help i need it in the next few days
-rockfan23 (link)
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how old are you? if your older then 12, and you've been going out for a year then you definately should be kissing. And if your gf has a problem with that, then im sorry to say, the relationship isnt going to work out. When a girl says that she wants to take it slow, that means respecting her privacy, maybe a WEEK without tongue action (or a little more, ok), and no sex at all untill farther notice, so dont even ask. Thats all normal. The situation you are describing is not.
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Okay well there's this guy I really like and I want him to be my boyfriend but the thing is that one of my friends likes him a lot too. So when I told her I liked him she made me promise that I wouldn't go out with him. I think it's kinda stupid for her to make me promise that so I told her that if he asked me out I was gonna say yes. But then she got mad at me and I think she told him that I liked him because he has been avoiding me ever since. I wanna talk to him about it but I haven't gotten a hold of him lately. And since he's avoiding me we aren't really hanging out. I'm really sad since I've liked him on and off the whole year. And I'm kind of jealous of my friend cuz he's been flirting with her a whole lot. So what do I do? Do I talk to him or her. . .Or both of them? Was it wrong for me to not promise I wouldn't go out with this guy since my friend liked him too? (link)
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Ok hon, thats not what you call a 'friend'. Thats what you call a jealous-would-be-girlfriend. Im glad to here that you didnt give into her pressure and stood your ground. If he's avoiding you, then there may be a good chance that she told him something negative about you that wasnt neccesarily the truth. maybe you should try to talk to him about it, and clear up the subject. If he is simply avoiding you because he thinks your interested and doesnt want to be tied down, then the best thing you can do is forget about him and let him go. There are other fishes in the sea, right? In any case, i suggest you corner your friend and demand an explination. Who knows, maybe this guy isnt worth your friendship after all. Ask her how she would feel is he asked her out and she wasnt allowed to say yes? Explain to her that you care about her friendship, but not enough to deny what you truly feel for anyone else. who knows, maybe you might get her to see your side of the argument.
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