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My boyfriend and i have been together for 7 months. we are pretty much inseperable and are in love. the only thing that i feel hurts our realtionship is how jealous i constantly get.
i always let him know that i get jealous. we plan on moving in together this summer so i know things are going well.
but a week before we met he used to "see" this girl, who we can call jaime. now he and her stopped talking ever since we started dating officially and i trust that. but last month she came in the picture again but just as a "best friend". they havent knonw each other much longer than he and i have, so idk how the best friend name comes about.
anywho - we went to jaime's town and hung out with her. he said she was pretty, but once i saw her i honestly was offended that he would call that pretty. she seemed cool yet a bit immature, and i kind of didnt like her from the start because of jealousy.
now i cant comeout about my jealousy for her because he would just stop talking to her and i would feel like i have him a bit whipped, and dont want that. but she always tries to get with him now that she and her current boyfriend broke up, and she even asks to have threesomes with us because i guess she wants to get with him. it makes me uncomfortable, yet theres nothing i can really say about it. today i found a naked picture of his phone of her, from a while ago when they were "seeing" eachother. but it made me uneasy that he still had it. i know he isnt cheating because im with him everyday and she lives far. i just dont know how to get over the jealousy of jaime because she always tries to get on my good side and get very close with my boyfriend. what should i do/say? (link)
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I went through the exacts same thing with my last boyfriend and his ex's/"bestfriewnds". I would get very jealous too.
I didn't do much about it, but I dropped subtle hints to my ex. I'd say "Oh yeah, well you and so & so seem really close" And he'd tell me "Yeah well, we're just bestfriends." but they didnt hang out at all either. And he had a few of these bestfriends. blah.
I'd just try to keep it in, because if oyu know hes not cheating on you, then there is not point causing unwanted drama. Tell him that you saw that picture, and that he should have deleted it a long time ago, and that it hurt you that he still had it.
Just try not to think bad things, or assume anything.
-hopeIhelped
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Im 14 almost 15 and I havent had my first kiss yet. Is that okay. I understand that a lot of people have had their first kiss like younger or sumthing. Is it okay that I am waiting for that right person. I dont want the guy I have my first kiss with to be all like wow you havent had your first kiss yet and all. Anyway Its okay not to have it yet right??
Thanx I rate High (link)
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It is totally fine, better actually, in my opinion. Don't waste your first kiss, like I did. I got mine when I as I was turning 15. It sucked, because I didn't want him to have it, but he took it anyways!
Well, just wait untill you really like someone. remember, you don't have to be in love just for a kiss.
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ok, where to start?.... ok i met this guy he started working at my job and in the begining i hated him abd wanted nothing to do with him, then he started showing intrest in me but at the same time my best friend too. he ended up asking me out one day and we hit it off. that nigh he had asked me to be his gf! i had said yes and everything was fine we were son into eachother and spending every second with eachother, soon he started throwing how my best friend was more his type and that he wanted to be with her but be with me at the same time! i told my friend that she was not to do anything with him but of course i cant be there 24/7 and i ahd later found out that they had did stuff! so i broke up with him. but i still had all these feelings for him. so about three weeks later he had asked me to be his a again and i accepted, like an idiot!! he started using me for my money and lieing to me but everytime i tried to break it off he would have a really good reason and we would try it again till he would dump me! then the same crap would happen again. like now he dumped me yesterday, cold and blunt just kicked me out of HIS HOUSE! and now im sitting here in pain wanting him back! i dnt know wats wrong with me i have never let any guy use me like this! i have such ddep feelings for him im scared to let him go cause i think he might change! wat do i do! hes gonna call me soon i know it! and im gonna give in help i dnt wanna be in the same position i am now! pls! thankyou (link)
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Oh jeese.
Well, I think you need to realize what kinda guy he is now. Don't think of who you WANT him to be, think of who he really is. That's what I do with guys, I fall in love with this made-up person I wish they could be, when in reality, they are not. Just remember how much he's hurt you, and all the times he's broken up with you, used you, lied to you, cheated on you, and try as hard as you can to realize that he is a loser, and doesn't seem to be changing one bit.
I would blow him off, don't even answer the phone, and try to get over him asap.
Go out and meet nice guys, and think of how much happier you'd be with someone who treats you right.
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i need some ideas as to where to go on dates. and dont say the movies.. thats where i always go & so does everyone else. it gets old & boring after a while. thanks a bunch =] (link)
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-minigolfing
-fun restaurants
-go karts
-random places you see, that look interesting or completely dull, you can make it fun by goofin around and stuff
-carnivals/ local festivals
If I think of anymore I shall be back!
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i have this boyfriend ... but me && him are going to break up soon cause i know its not going to work out` okay well i like this boy && one of my friends like him ALOT && it would just kill this girl if i ever went out with him.. well the boy i like REALLY REALLY likes me && he said he would never go out with the girl whose my friend that likes him cause he doesn't like her. Well i really wanna go out with hm && me and him are really really close.. well i d k what to do ! i wanna go out with him but my friend will probally never talk to me again what should i do ? (link)
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I kinda just went through a VERY VERY similar situation. And now, I am dating that "boy". Well, you and your friend can talk about it, and share eachother's feelings on the situation. If he likes you better, your friend needs to realize that you two could possibly have a future, tell her you value her friendship, but you really want a chance with this guy. If your friend stopped talking to you because of a guy, she's not a good friend.
Talk things out with her before anything happens.
HopeIHelped
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thanks your advice helped me and i thought about that to like if he likes me why wont be break up with her and i have asked him but hes like well he mom likes me and trusts me alot i waz like well who do u wanna be wit hes like you i waz like then break up with her hes like i dont wanna hurt her so i dunno wat i sud do (link)
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I deffinetly think that you should try to find someone new who is willing to make sacrifices for you, if your willing to make some for them. This guy sounds like a scumbag, so I'd find someone who treated you better, or atleast cared.
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how do you make out i have alwasy wondered how! (link)
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When you make out it's just more passionate/or lustful kisses. You just go with the flow, and the two peoples tongues touch, and go inside eachothers mouths. After a while, sometimes you bite eachother's lips playfully (Don't hurt them ofcourse) It's really hard to explain in writing, but it really does just happen when you do it.
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hey my names melissa fatato in 14 years old theres this kid chris that im like in love with but he has a girl friend and he likes me but he doesnt wanna break up with her so he wants to cheat on her with me but i cant do that because i would hate it if some one did that to me but i cant stop thinking about him what should i do?!?!
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Well, I think cheating is pretty much one of the most disgusting and disrespectful things.
Ohkay now, If this guy isn't willing to break up with his girlfriend, then obviously he's not worth your time. You can't go on liking someone who is taken, and even if he says he likes you back he might not be serious because he's not willing to be with you. He's not worth your time. And, if he's willing to cheat on his girlfriend, what makes you think he won't cheat on you?
-think about it before you do anything, this guy sounds like a scumbag =]
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alright so, me and my bf have been together 2 months. . . im falling in love with him.. you may think oh thats really fast, but then again you cant help who or when you fall in love.. ok but i dont know if he loves me to.. my best friend tells me he does.. that it takes two people. and im scared to say it cuz i dont know what he will say back. . . so what should i do basically (link)
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With my experiences, I would wait longer to make sure everyone's feelings invovled are completely justified, before busting out the L word. You may feel like you love him, but just give it time. I thought I was in love with my ex boyfriend of 4 months, the only problem with saying things, is that they can be taken back. Be careful with what you say, because you/he may not mean them.
I would wait a little while longer, or whenever you feel the moment is right. In the end, it's your heart and your decision
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Hey well theres this boy Ryan, hes kind of popular and stuff and im not really popular but im friends with some of the people so im kidna of "cool" stupid but whatever.. so some of the popular jocks just are dicks and dont like me, im sure everyone knows what i mean. well Ryans in my spanish class so i left him a comment on his picture on myspace, and he IMed me on aim and said hey thanks for the comment and i said yup no problem. later on he IMed me and didnt say anything he just said I LOVE YOU and i was like who doesntt ( thinkin it was his assholefriend) and he was like yep haha and i was liek this isnt ryan! and he said yeah it is then put an away message on a couple minutes later. he smiled at me during class the next day and i talked to him online that night and we talked then he ahd to go and said bye see you tmra and then he sed "luv yah" so i was like what the hell?.. i talked to him today and i said maybe we can hangout sometime and he saidd
ryans sn: yeah sure i dont care
ryans sn: just calll me
ryans sn: *** *** **** ( his number)
and i said i dont wanna make you if you dont wanna ! and i gave him my number and he was like ok cool are you goin to the football game tomorrow?
then i had to go and i said byee ttyl and he said bye luv ya.. so what do u think? what should i do because i can be shy expecially when i might think they might be mean or a dick cuz theyre like popular.. if hes at the game tmra what should i do? help pleasee thanks (link)
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If you see him at the game just you know smile and walk over an talk too him and stuff. Try not too be shy, even though it might be hard. Maybe bring a friend with you that's a little more outgoing so she/he can help you out if you get tongue=tied or your not sure of what too say. I think that he probabaly wants to get too know you and saying "I love you" well, alot of people say it as a friendly way, so don't get your hopes up but don't let that crush your confidence, for all I know, he could be totally in too you. Just find out what he likes too do, what kinda music he's into, all that happy stuff, and maybe you can ask him too chill sometime outside of a game or school. Don't let popularity scare you or intimidate you because I don't think their really is such thing as being "popular", but that's besides the point. so just try too be confident, and too be yourself.
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I am 14/f (freshmen in high school) and going out with a 16 year old guy (also a freshmen). He has had his first kiss before and made out with girls. I have never had my first kiss so i am afraid that i will do something wrong or not know how to do it. Any tips i should know? (link)
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I thought I would be like that too. But it kind of just comes naturally, with kissing at least. Making out, well, sometimes it's a different story, it depends on what the guy does. Just go with the flow and don't pressure yourself into doing anything you don't feel comfortable with. =]
Hope I helped
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well theirs this REALLY hot guy who me and him both wanna make*out, im scared im not good enough for him =/ i need some tips on making out and exactly what to do to make my kiss MEMORABLE =) i rate really high!! ((top ratings for everyone)) (link)
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hey im a 14 year old guy..ok theres this girl who lives in a different city who i met thru some friends who i LOVE! she is so aweosme! and she loves me too, which is great. but theres a girl at my school who really likes me and i kinda like her..and i might want to ask her out in the summer, but i wouldnt be able to flirt with the girl i love and she'd never forgive me or trust me again. but its hard cuz the long distance, even tho i visit her a few times a year. should i ask the girl at my school out or stick with the girl i love? i rate high for good advice (link)
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My advice.
Don't leave someone you love for someone you like, because they'll eventually leave you for the person they love.
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this guys keeps calling me prude. i just dont want to waste my first kiss on someone i dont care about. do you think i should just kiss someone and get it over with or just keep waiting for the perfect moment and the perfect guy. i am 14 years old. please help. (link)
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A kiss is just a kiss, unless it's with someone you really like. If you wnat to wait for the perfect first kiss, then wait. It's your decision not his, and what he thinks of you shouldn't matter, just tell him to shut up and to leave you alone. If you wana wait for the perfect kiss, you may be waiting a long time, plenty of people come and go before you find the *perfect* guy.
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ok i really like this guy, he makes me happy smile, and just feel good about myself and all that junk. but i'm fourteen almost 15 in less then 5 months and he's 18. My parents wouldn't want me to even date him, or even be friends. But ontop of all that, there's my ex. He still likes me, and we just had a relationship a month ago, and he knows i like him, but he doesn't want me to go out with him. Everyone says i should go out witht he 18 year old, just beacuse he makes me happy and we like eachother. But im not sure, any advice?
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There is always that whole thing about him being 18, if your parent's don't aprove they can press charges and you have to make sure you both don't get into trouble with the law and all that.
And with your ex, it's not his place to make you decide who to go out with or date.
If you think that you both won't get into any trouble with the law, then go for it, if he makes you happy. But your parent's will have a problem with it...so maybe tell them that he makes you happy and feel good and stuff. Parent's may not understnad it though..so I don't know about that part. sorry.
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well i like this guy people think hes a geek but i don't know why. well he is really smart like he loves to read and stuff hes not popular but i am and people have found out that i like him and there laughing at me. i really like him and i could really care less what people think but i just don't want to loose my friend over something like this( that is if we start to go out) i am 13 years old an i'm a girl. please tell me if i should go out with him or just try to forget about him and keep my reputation. thanks a lot! (link)
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If you really like him, then it's none of other people's business and you shouldn't care what other people think. And if you seriously lose friend's because of it, then they aren't true friends and aren't worth the aggrivation. So if you like him, go out with him, screw what the other people think if you do really like him.
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Ok I am 13 and in the seventh grade.There are some guys that like me but they wont ask me out. (I dont like them though) And every sigle person in my school has had a bf or a gf no lie. Except me I like some people but they wont ask me out and its kind of embarrassing. I sont know how to act or what to do. I mean I am so popular and all serious. But soem times I wish I wasnt bexcuz I think that guy dont want me if I am.
there is only 54 more days of school and I havent had a bf before.. plz help (link)
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1) Not everyone has a b/f or g/f, even though it may seem that way.
2) If you like a guy, take a chance and ask them out, Honestly what have you got too lose? It's not like it'll be some huge crushing blow, you'll get over it.
3) It shouldn't be embarassing, you'll have a b/f when your ready, or something like that. SOOOO many ppl don't have b/f's or g/f's.
4)And a guy not "wanting you" because your "popular" doesn't make any sense, too me at least.
So my adivce is too pick a guy you like, flrit and whatever, and then if things go well, ask him to hang out or something.
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There's this boy I REALLY don't like, but he fancies me =( His mate keeps coming up to me and saying, "Hi Lauren, Mark fancies you by the way". All the time, and it's really annoying. The boy I don't like who likes me (he's called Mark) is kind of.. well. Immature, and I don't like him, I certainly don't fancy him! My friends are also immature, and they're always saying stuff like, "Here's your girlfriend, Mark", and pointing at me. Now everyone thinks I'm going out with him! I've said I'm not, but they don't believe me, my friends are stirring it =( He keeps coming near me, and his friends say he wants to talk to me. I don't WANT to talk to him! I know I'm being really mean and ignoring him when he comes near me, he said "Why do you hate me?". I said I didn't, and now my friends REALLY think I fancy him, when I wouldn't even know he existed if Sarah (my friend) didn't keep talking about him and asking me if I wanted to go out with him. She can't get it into her miniscule brain that I DON'T like him. AT ALL. It's so annoying =( Sorry it's so long, but please help =/ (link)
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I HAD THE SAME PROBLEM!!! And all of my friends did the same, so I got pissed at them and they EVENTUALLY realized to shut up and stop with their immature crap. If you don't like him, next time he asks "Why do you hate me?" say something like "I don't hate you, but I don't 'fancy' you either." And if your friends don't shut up, then tell them they're pissing you off, and if they were your real friends then they should stop.
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OK this is for everyone!
I have never had a boy friend! Is that bad?? And I want one, but no one wants to go w/ me! Cause i am a tomboy! I like to skate and stuff like that! I personally think i imtate boys! Cause i can shoot a ball into a basketball and i play sports! Is this a bad thing? I am 13 and i have a lot of boy friends! I have one that is my bff and i like hima lot is that ok? Plzz i rate high!!
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I used to be like that, when i was like 9-12. You shouldn't change they way you are to make guys notice you. And I had that problem too. I just got more girly I guess over the years, but I still kick ass in gym class and play sports, and I'd skate if I wanted too. That's deffinetly niot a bad thing. ALot of guys probably want a girl who will shoot hoops with them and not worry about breaking nails. And I haven't had a b/f either and I'm 14. So I think you should just be your self with a little flirting towards this kid you like. And see hoe things work out from there.
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okay like,me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 months and 2 days. and i absolutely love him with everything i have. but i feel like he's becoming too attached and serious. i'm 15 and he's 17 about to turn 18. ((thats beside the point)) but like last saturday ((march 5th)) he asked me if i would promise to marry him and he gave me a promise (("pre-engagment")) ring. well of course i said yes. because it's what i was thinking at the time. but now i'm having second thoughts. i mean i'm only 15 i have the rest of my teen years to live. i just dont know what to do. i wanna tell him were getting to serious, but i still love you and wanna be with you.
eck..someone please help! ...=]...i ratteeee!!!
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JUst tell him so. Tell him that you do love him, and that you really do think your getting to serious in such a short amount of time. Explain to him that you love him, want to be with him, but aren't ready for a "promise ring" because you have so long untill you even consider marriage, but you want to be with him and that you love him.
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