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okay like,me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 months and 2 days. and i absolutely love him with everything i have. but i feel like he's becoming too attached and serious. i'm 15 and he's 17 about to turn 18. ((thats beside the point)) but like last saturday ((march 5th)) he asked me if i would promise to marry him and he gave me a promise (("pre-engagment")) ring. well of course i said yes. because it's what i was thinking at the time. but now i'm having second thoughts. i mean i'm only 15 i have the rest of my teen years to live. i just dont know what to do. i wanna tell him were getting to serious, but i still love you and wanna be with you.
eck..someone please help! ...=]...i ratteeee!!!
--in<3butconfuesed--
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ok all you have to do is ask him if you all can wait awille you can get engaged but i would finish school first. my mom is turning 38 on march 9. and her bf well soon to be husband,is only 21 ( 22 on dec. 5). he dropped out of school and now he has to pay $400 to get finished w/ school. so DONT quit school just b/c of love!
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Hey- i think maybe you should tell him that you 2 should lay off for a while. You are only 15! So if your love for eachother is really that great, then maybe when you are a little older... (20?) you can see if you still love eachother that much that you will always want to come back to eachother. But i think it is so sweet that he gave you a 'pre engagment ring.' i hope everything works out! :) x0
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JUst tell him so. Tell him that you do love him, and that you really do think your getting to serious in such a short amount of time. Explain to him that you love him, want to be with him, but aren't ready for a "promise ring" because you have so long untill you even consider marriage, but you want to be with him and that you love him.
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Well tell him that you think you guys are getting to serious..dont keep that all in jus go on and tell him.. and tell him to give you more time bout those kinda things cause you only bee together 2 months and 2 days.. you probably still want it hun.. you probably are jus all the sudden actually thinkin bout it and you probably jus freaked out thinkin bout it..so um jus tell him all that and everything should be okay..much luv dez
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your way to young to make such a huge decision. your right, you do have the rest of your teen years to live and you never know there may just be someone even better out there, there's so much more that you have to expirence. Tell him exactly how you feel and if he can't respect your feelings on the situation then maybe it wasn't meant to be.
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thats wayyy to young.. you guys may think you love eachother but you never know what will happen. tell him that you want to be with him now and that you love him, and that youll think about marriage later, when your older. hope it helps
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I think that if you really love you and he loves you back as much as you think he does, then if you tell him that you think that yall are gettin to serious to soon then he will understand were you are coming from. if you do tell him that you are going to have to make sure he is going to listen to you completely, and that he is going to hear you out. It is prolly going to be really hard but if that is truely what you want to do then you need to follow your heart. If he loves you and cares about you then he will listen to your thoughts about this and he will understand.
Hope I Helped!
Good Luck!!!
signed:~DeSy~
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inlovebutconfused -
The best way I'd approach a situation like this is to tell him how you feel but at the same time reassure him that you love him and that you do want to be with him. He should understand, reassurance is key here. Like the columnist below me said, there isn't a nice way to really tell him.
If he overreacts, tell him that if he did really love you, he would respect what you'd have to say. It doesn't mean that the relationship is off, just that it's moving too fast. After all, you're telling him this in order to improve the relationship in a sense where you both are on the same level. Also tell him (if he overreacts) that open communication is key to a good long-lasting relationship, and that's exactly what you're doing.
Hope this helps and good luck!
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Ok... him offering the ring and asking that of you was mistake number one... he cannot expect you to realistically follow through - waaaay to young to make that kind of commitment. He wasn't thinking.
Mistake number 2: you accepted. Of course, you were put in an impossible position. That was horribly unfair to put that sort of pressure on you at an age when you have no clue what 3 years down the road is going to hold for you.
You've only been with him 2 months... that's nothing. That is a single drop of water in the bucket o' time...
You are absolutely right to have second thoughts. He cannot expect a commitment after only 2 months, and you being only 15... and him only nearly 18 at that. Love is a nebulous beast that changes constantly - you have no clue how long your relationship is going to last with him. I would highly question why he gave you that ring so quickly. Yeah, sure, it isn't a "real engagement ring", but it is still asking for a commitment... is he that insecure that he feels he need to try to lock you in as quickly as possible? That just seems really, really odd to me.
You state that you want to tell him that you're "getting too serious"... well yeah, this is too much, too soon. I don't know that there's a good way to say that to him. I wonder if he's rather insecure about love in the first place for him to make a move like this.
I'm sorry you've been put in such a strange and awkward position. Good luck.
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