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he kicked me out of his house and i still want him back
ok, where to start?.... ok i met this guy he started working at my job and in the begining i hated him abd wanted nothing to do with him, then he started showing intrest in me but at the same time my best friend too. he ended up asking me out one day and we hit it off. that nigh he had asked me to be his gf! i had said yes and everything was fine we were son into eachother and spending every second with eachother, soon he started throwing how my best friend was more his type and that he wanted to be with her but be with me at the same time! i told my friend that she was not to do anything with him but of course i cant be there 24/7 and i ahd later found out that they had did stuff! so i broke up with him. but i still had all these feelings for him. so about three weeks later he had asked me to be his a again and i accepted, like an idiot!! he started using me for my money and lieing to me but everytime i tried to break it off he would have a really good reason and we would try it again till he would dump me! then the same crap would happen again. like now he dumped me yesterday, cold and blunt just kicked me out of HIS HOUSE! and now im sitting here in pain wanting him back! i dnt know wats wrong with me i have never let any guy use me like this! i have such ddep feelings for him im scared to let him go cause i think he might change! wat do i do! hes gonna call me soon i know it! and im gonna give in help i dnt wanna be in the same position i am now! pls! thankyou
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You poor thing!! He's really got you down hasn't he?
Here's the thing. Men like this will NEVER CHANGE. He might be better to start with but soon enough, he'll be back to his old ways. I know that you have feelings for him but he is scum and you really need to snap back to it and realise all this!!
Let's sum this up. You hated him to begin with (there MUST have been a reason for this and normally first instincts are correct!). He asked you out but then he wanted to see you AND your friend at the same time!?!? You object so he betrays you to see her behind your back and now he keeps dumping you and taking you back like a yo yo and you STILL want to go out with him?
I get it about bad boys. There's something about their self confidence which is alluring but you have to get a grip and some self respect because he quite clearly knows that you are at his beck and call. Whenever he wants you, for whatever reason, he knows you'll take him back. You need to remember the whole 'girl power' thing and let him see that he cannot treat you this way.
Normally, I would say you need to give him an ultimatum. Either be faithful or be without you but this won't work on this guy and he's not worth you wasting your heart on. So next time he comes back, you need to put him in his place and say that you want nothing to do with him ever again because you deserve FAR better than the cheating, lying scumbag that he is. Then leave it at that.
You are much stronger than you think you are. You just need to remember that you CAN say no to him and that you deserve to be treated far better than he would ever treat you. You will be fine and you will get over him. Most of all, you WILL find someone who deserves you.
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Oh jeese.
Well, I think you need to realize what kinda guy he is now. Don't think of who you WANT him to be, think of who he really is. That's what I do with guys, I fall in love with this made-up person I wish they could be, when in reality, they are not. Just remember how much he's hurt you, and all the times he's broken up with you, used you, lied to you, cheated on you, and try as hard as you can to realize that he is a loser, and doesn't seem to be changing one bit.
I would blow him off, don't even answer the phone, and try to get over him asap.
Go out and meet nice guys, and think of how much happier you'd be with someone who treats you right.
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omg! that really sucks! Any way, you just have to think to yourself if you could live w/o him, but if you are still mad at him, just start new activities to take your mind off of him, and maybe you'll even meet someone even better. Don't try to do anything stupid to get him back, it's not worth it, he'll probably just turn on you again. And if you think he is missing out on you, he's not good enough for you anyway. So go look for other activities, like bingo night(lol not really),going to the gym(prolly really hott guys there), bike riding, going to the park, just anything pretty much. Hey! you'll also begetting exersice! Good luck! And remember don't wat your time on someone unworthy.
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I'm sorry to hear you've been so horribly used by this man. However, you need to start taking responsibility. You know, rationally, that this guy is scum and you should steer clear of him. So start standing up for yourself and take charge of your life.
Only you have the power to save yourself here. Be resolute. Do not take his calls. Change your number if you have to. Do not see him. Do not allow yourself to be tempted. I think you already know deep down that this is what you have to do - he's not going to change, and even if he did, you have no reason to forgive him and let him back into your life - he systematically mistreated you, played you and cheated on you with your best friend. Even if he never did it again, he still betrayed you massively. This is not, and will never be, a good foundation for a realtionship.
If you find it helps, write down all the things he did that hurt you. Put that list by your phone so that you see it if he rings or you are tempted to ring him and be reminded why it is you are fighting so hard to stay strong and stay away from him. At the moment, he has you under a spell and you need to break free of that. The hardest part is breaking out of the cycle of going back to him. Once you've done that and successfully steered clear of him for a week or two, things will get easier. In the meantime, keep yourself busy and distracted - surround yourself with good friends who understand and will help you out if you are tempted to contact him.
I know it hurts, but the way to make it hurt less is to be strong and not keep going back to him. In a situation like this, weaning yourself off him slowly is not going to work. You need to do this 100% and not let your guard down and be seduced by his charms, because you know deep down that it isn't good for you.
Good luck, and all the best.
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