hey ppl ma names lizzi
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I had been into a net relationship with a boy from Aus for the past 4 years. We never heard each others voice or ever saw each other (except thru the net pics we shared).Four years was a long time to me and I could not stand the pain of being away from my loved one for so long.I desperately loved him.There was a time when he took me for granted and stopped being in touch.But then he was sorry and came back.And he really changed. But loving a boy on the net so desperately and knowing that I would not be able to see him for the next few years was a real pain and so I backed off from the relationship. He asked for a reason and I gave it to him. His answer was something like..."Sweetheart, Thank you for replying back and wish you all the success for the future. I like to walk in the rain cuz no one can see me crying... Good Bye. Yours__Michael"
It was a pain to me too but I don't think he thinks so. Its so hurting. I've been a failure in relationships even in the past and I don't feel like going for a relationship ever again.But deep down I secretly long for a person to love me.Though I have a lot of really good friends, I long for someone who'll call me his own.I know I am loved and wanted but the feeling remains.I try to distact myself by engaging myself in activities but nothing helps.And I can just not stop crying and like to stay all alone. Please help me!! (link)
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well, 4 years is definately a long time. but if you really love each other, you can wait a few more. if you feel that he doesnt believe your sorry and that your not hurt, tell him so. but unless you want the relationship to go any further dont give him a hope of continuation. as for finding someone to love you, just keep looking. never give up hope and never back down. but of course, make sure your cautious. wanting love desperately can cause you to make rash decisions that normally would take much longer. be patient and keep your spirits up. love will come to you in time, but that doesnt mean you should ever stop looking. take care of yourself, i hope i helped =]
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my boyfriend & i have been dating for almost 6 months. we love & respect each other very much. the furthest we've been is 1st, & we don't even do that anymore. i try my best to respect my parent's wishes which consisted of hugs, cuddling, & an occasional kiss. lately it seems like they're becoming more & more overprotective with this rule. my boyfriend came over last night & i had a stomachache & didn't feel good. so, he put a pillow on his chest/stomach area & let me lie on it. he spread his legs out so i could lie down while he sat down comfortably. our "private parts" weren't touching indirectly, because i know my dad doesn't like that. he was rubbing my tummy to try to make me feel better. no one told us to stop so i thought they didn't mind it. then i overrheard them talking about it today & how disgusting it was. how my "private parts" are above & below my tummy so he should never touch there. so then i told my parents later on i wouldn't do that but i just feel bad that they keep assigning random rules left & right & i feel like a bad person, because i do. my boyfriend is hurt everytime i tell him we can't do something because my parents don't approve of it, but they always feel uncomfortable telling us that. he feels like they don't trust us. & i feel the same way. why don't they? we don't do anything majorly wrong. i'm trying so hard to gain their trust. when we're alone, we do the same as when we're around them. i don't want to do nothing around them & then do more with him when we're alone [nothing past a peck] because i feel weird about that. like i'm sneaking or something. someone please help me fix all of this. i've talked to them about it many times but they just don't listen. they say they're too old fashioned. but they're really hurting my relationship with my boyfriend. we have a lot of love & sometimes we want to show it physically, but just with a hug & an occasional kiss. they're married & have sex, so why can't they understand that? ugh i can't take it anymore. thanks if you can help. (link)
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its completely normal for parents to be overprotective when it comes to their daughters' relationships. especially in todays world, alot can happen if theyre not cautious. im sure your boyfriend wouldn't try to harm you in any way, but as the people who were put on this earth to protect and love you it might take your parents a bit longer to understand that. One thing though, how old are you? maybe they feel that you and your boyfriend(especially your boyfriend) aren't mature enough to respect their wishes so they constantly make more boundries. as for trust, i doubt it's you they have a problem with. In modern times men have had much more of a tendency to harm their female partners than the other way around. I bet you theyre taking that into account. My advice: try talking to them again, but come from a different angle. Let them know that you love them and that you know they love you and that theyre only trying to protect you from any possibility of something happening. How well do they know your boyfriend? maybe getting to know him better can ensure them he wont hurt you. The first few years of dating are both hard on the parent and the child. In time things will get better. If they dont listen now, dont ever stop being trustworthy, and dont ever stop trying. Take care, and good luck! i hope i helped =]
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hi i am 20/f and i have a problem i been with my boyfriend for about 3 years now and our relationship was perfect when we first started going out. well i think it was perfect before because hes a year older then me and we met in high school and he graduated a year before me. we did not really see each other all the time like 24/7 but when i graduated we would always hang out and went to the same college and we say each other like 24/7 and then our relationship started going down the drain and we always began to fight and i talked to him about it then and things started becoming good for a while and then i needed a job and he got me a job at his work which he is a security guard at he got me a job as a adminstrative assistant and then we were seeing each other even more because we worked together and we would always argue and fight over the little things in life. well after working here for about 2 month (i have only been here three months) this guy started working here. i did not find him attrative at first but i knew he was into me because this one time i was standing outside the building and he was standing there with his friend and when i was walking inside he opened the door for me and i didnt say anything but thanks and then a week later we were in the break room and he was looking for a drink and i was looking for a drink and he started a converstaion with me and we sat down and began talking. we became friends and we exchanged phone numbers and he called me and we would talk about things and one day he sent me a text message telling me that he was beginning to like me and he knew i had a boyfriend and then he started telling me when im going to break up with my boyfriend and things like that and then i stopped talking to him because my boyfriend was being real sweet and nice to me so i was feeling guilty becasue i was leading that guy on and i didnt want to do that and then i stopped talking to that guy and i just saw him yesterday and we had lunch together and he told me he still likes me and i been seeing a lot of him today also and i know im beginning to like him now because i think about him when im with my boyfriend or i will hang up with my boyfriend if hes calling on the other line. i dont know what is going on im so confused. do you guys think im feeling this way because i am having problems with my boyfriend and i just need someone to be there for me like that guy? or am i really beginning to like that guy? please someone help me . i need advice on what to do. should i stop talking to that guy again? please help me!!!! (link)
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ok. at your age there is no such thing as the perfect relationship. you can find a guy whose sweet and wonderfull and whatever but in the end you're gonna think, "hes great but i wonder if that guys even better? maybe THAT guys even nicer or that guys even more honest" youll wonder what else is out there. you need to give yourself time to experience all different types of guys before considering settling down. as for the fighting, in my past experience ive found that talking to someone TOO much, even if you care about them, can lead to catastrophe. its like you're mentally saying, ok im getting sick of this, but at the same time your thinking that evrythings ok since your talking to that one special guy. but since your only mentally saying this what comes out later is argument. and all the argument truly is is annoyance. give each other breathing room. as for the other guy, like i said before you're gonna want to see what other people are like. its like bargain shopping, look at all you're options before makeing any major decisions. as for now, you're at a crossroads, basicly which comes down to which guy you like better. you could even just say you want to "see other people" but still date if you know what i mean. i hope you made some sense out of my 14 year old ramblings. take care =]
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I'm 18 he's 21. We are thinking about getting married after 1 year together. He has a lot of sexual fantasies of being with other girls but says he can try to forget about having sex with more people and settle down. Is he REALLY ready for marrige? (link)
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first of all, being together for a year doesnt seem long enough to think about marrage, especially since you both are still so young. from my experience guys dont truly mature until theyre almost in theyre 30's(this might sound horrible but if you think about it you'll see what i mean) anyway, every young guys dream is to experience a bunch of different women, and if you tie him down now, theres no way to be certain he wont be unfaithful. my advice: wait a few years. let him do whatever he wants in this period, let him get all of his wild fantasies out. if he loves you, he'll wait, and if you love him you can do the same. i hope i helped =]
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