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So i jusr got out of a relationship about 2 months ago with (guy number 1). We broke up because he was way to controlling and i couldn't take it anymore. I also had feelings for a guy in the past i dated before him (guy number 2). I have been seeing the guy from the past (guy number 2) and i felt like i had feelings for him at first but now idk for sure if i do/if it is right. Guy number 1 changed completely and is trying to get me back with me and he wont give up. I feel like feelings are coming back for guy number 1. So now i'm super confused because i like both guys. Help :( what should i do and btw sorry this is so long and confusing to follow i didn't know how else to put it. :p

Well if you like two guys at once choose the 2nd guy because if you really were in love with the 1st you wouldn't of fallen for the 2nd 1 is one of my fav quotes. Hun the guy who was controlling might of not changed he could be acting or he could even think he has. Guys can't just change you could take him back it could all be good at first but then BAM he's back to the controlling person he was
Hope I helped
Michaela x

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Hi,I'm Jazz 14/f.I'm very confused as of right now.
There's this guy named Andrew.He's two years older than me,and also my brother's best friend's.Every since I first met him last year,I've had a crush on him.I would try to go where I knew he would be.
But now,it's different since we all go to the same school.
But my two bestfriend's know I had a crush on him.
But I noticed that he was always finding reasons to talk to me,or help me.But i didn't think anythimng of it,I just thought he was being nice since I was his bestfriend's little sister.
So two months ago,the crush I had on him went away.I just viewed him as a friend.
But this month,he told my bestfriend's he likes me,so they told me,and the crush came back that i had on him.
He asked me out,and i told him i would give him an answer later,and he agreed with that.
He writes me letters every other day now,telling me how beautiful and sweet i am.
He even told me he was always trying to talk to me or help me because he liked me since we first met.
He gets nervous when he's around me,and when I hug him,he get's red and blushes.
He says he gets butterflies when I'm around,and my friends keep telling me to go out with him.
But I feel bad,because he's writing me these nice letters telling me how beautiful and perfect I am,but when I write back all I can honestly say is he's sweet and nice,because I don't love him like he loves me.I don't love him at all.
He told me to do what makes me happy.I told him that dating him isn't gonna make me happy,and neither is not dating him.So i just told him now.
But the next two days i thought it over,and decided to date him.but when we went to school monday,he didn't talk to me,he avoided me,and the next day also.I felt bad.He finally told me he started dating his bff monday,because i was taking to long.he apologized and asked if i was ok.i lied and said yes,and he hugged me,and i had to leave so i wouldnt cry.im trying to foget about him but its not working.I put the letters in his locker,but he left them there refusing to take them back.
Any help right about now would do me good.

Well I also like this guy and I also wasn't shure of anything at first like you. I just want to say you shouldn't give up on him giving up is not the best thing to do he probably has feelings for you still because you can't just stop loving someone I think you should tell him how you feel but don't lie and don't be rude because the guy I like was rude to me and the next time he saw he was nice and said hi but I just skeefed him to be spitefull and now I really regret it. You can't get advice on how to not like someone so maybe just try get him back if it doesn't work maybe try getting to know other guys and maybe you fall for them just don't try to hard just be yourself and let him know exactly what you feel for him
Hope I helped
Michaela x

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Im 12 years old my boyfriend proposed to me hes 17 we are inlove can I get engaged at my age ?

Sweetie no I'm also 12 and for a 12 year old to date a 17 year old is illegal in some places. Hun say no because he can wate if he truly loves u. I'm 12 and none of my realationships have worked out right even though I thought we were madly in love no girl its just not right. You should rather focus on your hobbies friends and school work of course you can have boyfriends but when you 12 they won't stay forever. Like me my longest relationship was a year but I try focus on my hobbies like modeling,dancing,swimming listening to music being with my friends stuff like that not getting enganged

Sorry hun but its the truth imagin what your parents will say

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Ok, so here's the story.

I'm 17, a senior in high school, and I just can't stop thinking about this girl I like.

Over the summer I was lifeguarding with her in a camp upstate, we both lived on the same grounds so we saw eachother every day. For the first week or so that I was there we seriously hit it off, we talked to eachother for what seemed like hours, went on walks to the horse ranch nearby, and so on. Then for a little while she just suddenly stopped talking to me for the next 2 weeks, I confronted her about it and she told me that I had been acting a lot like my roommate, who in her opinion was a major tool. We made up and continued being friends, just we never got as close as we were that first week we met.

Over the course of the summer I found out she kinda had this guy who she liked, and he like her(a lot apparently) but because he had strict parents they couldn't go out, I got some hints over the summer that she might go out with me, and she even told me the fact that this guy can't go out with her wouldn't stop her from going out with other guys.

I can't stop thinking about her, it's getting really frustrating, it's been about 5 months since we met and I guess we are friends(we talk occasionally, I rarely see her though), I really want to be with her, but I seriously don't wanna kill a good friendship and make things awkward.

So my question is, is there anything I can do to make a move at going out with her? Or should I just leave it as it is, and get over it as best I can?

P.S. We don't go to the same school but live in the same area, she's one grade below me(but like 3 months younger)

P.P.S. Sorry I reposted this, last time apparently I did it anonymously.

You should really tell her don't worry about it getting in your friendship trust me I was friends with this guy and we dated and broke up horribly and we still friends then he asked me out again and I said no and we still good friends. All girls need to hear is that u really do want them trust me
Hope I helped
Michaela x

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I think I have feelings for my friend. We've only known each other for 3 months, but we've become pretty close since then. My issue is keeping my cool around him when we're out. I always either avoid him completely or act standoffish. He's a flirt and that bothers me which I really wish it didn't! I need to learn how to just go out and have fun and enjoy myself without constantly looking over to see who he's flirting with or what he's doing. I feel like I turn into a crazy person when I like someone and that's not what I want to be nor my intentions at all. Thanks.

Act how you would act when you with your friends since he was your friend before you liked him(I'm guessing)anyway just stay cool and like the other person said act like you one of the guys but still girlish don't worry about the other girls there just be yourself
Hope I helped
Michaela x

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So..
Theres a guy in one of my classess I like. We've only spoken twice and the last time was 6 months ago now!
He's shown sign of liking me (looks at me, laughs at things I say) and I overhear him say things to his friends about a girl-the things could easily apply to me I you get what I'm saying.

So, bearing in mind I'm really shy and he's two years older than me, is it abit random to add his as a facebook friend? We have no mutual friends on facebook either :/

Well shure! People add each other on facebook a lot even if they don't have mutual friends. I added my crush on facebook and we started dating so you should totally give it a try doll

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13/f
okaay, so everyday my boyfriend kisses me and hugs me everyday b4 we get on the bus to go home. but today he didnt. i asked him why he didnt, and he said he just wasnt himself, because his grandmothers dog dies, and he was really close to it. i felt bad and sent him a frowney face, and he never answerd me. i sometimes feel like he doesnt like me. or love me in our case. we've been dating 2 weeks as of tommorrow...but i feel really bad for him, and he wont answer me. i'm scared to text him again because it makes me feel pushy. do you think was wrong for asking why he didnt kiss me? and should i text him and tell him that sometimes it seems as though he doesnt like me and tell the truth?

Okay look doll I'm 12 and I've been in a smiliar situation. Don't ask him because u guys have only been about 2 weeks and even by a month it shouldn't really be "love" after u date 4 a long time then shure it is. But maybe tell him its bothering you but be careful about over doing it because if you carry on about it you can make it turn out badly. Maybe just send 1 message telling him it feels as if he's lost interest in you and you would like to know if there's anything you can do to help him through this tough time if he doesn't reply don't send annother message wait for him and if he does reply well I'm shure you know to take it from there

Hope I helped x

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ok so I'm a 12 year old girl and I met this guy on facebook he said he's 13 and we never met but ya he started like talking to me sexualy but then he said he's 15 and I didn't mind and he got my number and asked for naked pix and I sent them well after a while he said he's 18 and stil I didn't mind and he started sending me pix and stuff and he said he's 20 then 25 and now he wants to meet up but I'm scared he's older and say now he's like a really old perve and rapes me ! Flip I'm scared must I go and trust his age? How do I know how old he really is?

Everyone I know her and she got it sorted it sorry she didn't know how to like make people stop posting on here since she doesn't have a thing and all so she asked me to right it on here please stop posting answers on here because all of it is sorted out thx x

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I think I'm in love not only with my 'official' boyfriend but also with another guy who turns out to be only a friend of mine,what can I do?please!!I don't wanna cheat on my partner,'cause I do love him very much!!!But why am I feeling that I have a crush with this other guy??no abuse please!!!I need to sort this out!!thanks!

Well I've heard that if you in love with 2 guys at the same time choose the 2nd one because if you really loved the first one you wouldn't of fallen for the 2nd one

Good luck xoxo

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16/Female
So I thought i fell for my bestfriend about a month ago and now im not sure whats happening. We are basically in a relationship, (we hang out a lot, kiss, cuddle) and its been fine, we are both happy. since we have became more than friends he has changed. he isnt fun and doesnt joke around anymore, he has become really quiet. im confused because i thought i liked him but im never excited to see him or talk to him. i want to kiss him but when we do its nothing special. i know its normal for some people not to get butterflies in their stomach when they are around people they like, but the other two guys i liked before always gave me butterflies and i was always so happy to be around them...can someone please tell me if its normal to like someone and feel this way or if i just dont like him like i thought i did?

Well I was friends with this guy once and we started dating and then I started acting differently I thought if I say 1 stupid thing he'll dump me and maybe that's what your guy thinks and maybe the butterfly thing is cause he isn't acting the same anymore maybe tell him that you want the guy you fell in love with not him

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I am a 13 year old girl and i am outgoing and funny. me and this guy have a had an on and off :thing" all year and just started going out on valentines day. he put a flower in my locker then asked me out later that day and i said yes. the thing is though is that we dont talk. i mean a casual laugh or we talk in a group of people but not just one on one. he was my best guyu friend before we started going out and now he acts different around me. he talks to other girls like he used to talk to me. this is also both of our first real realationship. does he not like me anymore??? im confused!!! we used to talk all the time and when we started going out we dont. it has been 4 days now also. does he still like me?? how can i make it less awkward with us?? help!!!

Hi I'm 12 and I probably can't give you the best advise but I have had a lot of realationships and me and my first real boyfriend dated for 2 months and all of a sudden he stoped talkin 2 me 4 a week and well I didn't know what was going on and thought he didn't like him but I asked him what was going on and he told me he was just going through a tough time and he didn't wanna annoy me with it maybe just ask him what's going on love hope everything works out

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