My name is Ashley I am 22 years old. I love giving advice to anyone about anything so ask away. I live in california I am a receptionist.
E-mail: askashleye@yahoo.com Gender: Female Location: California Age: 22 Member Since: January 23, 2006 Answers: 23 Last Update: April 15, 2014 Visitors: 3377
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So me boyfriend and i of almost 2 years are nottogethher anymore. He broke up with me for the second timebecause he said he felt like we were friends with benefits because when we see each oter once a week we usually do somewhat sexual stuff that isnt sex. And his friends told him they didnt think we would work out cause his reason for getting back with me tthe first time wasnt strong rnough and the reason was that he thought we could work out. I called him right after the break up and he actually sat there listening to me. Then i texted him after the call asking him why he would do this. And then left it at no contact for two weeks then texted him saying i want to see him once more to see if those were his true feelings in person. He said no saying that hes clearing the bs off his life like i cleared the bs off my walls refering to a snapchat story inpostedd of my wall being free from his posters. Which is weird that hed be mad about me taking down his posters when he roke up with me!! Ad then he ignored my last text that day and so i waited a week more only to text him saying that i want to find closure and see him once more. And he ifnoreds me for two days so i wait and text him while he was online on facebook and simply said hi. And he still ifnoress me. My friend told me that hes not worth my time since he even broke up with me two times already!! But idk i still mosss him... Im like halfway out the door to moving on bht im just hesitating. What should i do to get him back permanantly or at the very least and most important get him to just let me see him in person one last time?! I aldo noticed that he always checks my snapchat story alll the time! But refuses to text me back (link)
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Dear Writer,
Your question caught my attention because I have gone through something similar to this. My advice
to you is to tell him once more that you would like to speak to him face to face one more time to get things clear so you can move on. Most likely he will say ok if not than I would suggest to just move on because if he can't give you a valid explanation than he isn't worth your time. Ok so if you do get him face to face you need to tell him to give you an actual reason other than his friends giving him crap for being with you, and if he truly cares about you than what his friends are saying should not matter it is you and him in the relationship not you and him and his friends. I am not sure how old you are but this sort of happened with me and my now husband he let his friends opinions of me get in the way of our relationship. He even broke up with me because of it to and started seeing some other girl, but I honestly just acted like I didn't care anymore and we talked and we got back together after being broken up for a month. Now everything is great. So you have to decide if this guy is worth your time if you truly want him back if not than move on girlie you sound like a good person who deserves to be treated right hope I helped and not rambled too much lol
sincerely ~~Measachick51~~
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I met this guy about a month ago, we went out once, and I keep casually asking him if he wants to hang out again but he is often busy, so I figured I should let him initiate from now on. I can't figure him out, though. If I don't text him all day, he will say, "I don't like that we didn't talk much today!" but HE is the one that stops answering me! One night he told me that he feels like "I don't like him sometimes," since I've started to back off. I told him that I want to hang out with him, and he responded that he is nervous to hang out with me again, so I think he is just shy, but he also makes me feel like I'm bugging him, because he stops answering me. What should I do? (link)
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Dear writer,
The best answer I can think of is to tell him whats on your mind. I can tell you like him and it seems he likes you guys are just so confusing lol so I am thinking to just be honest with him and let him know what your thinking saves the hassle of worrying about it and if hes saying I feel like we didn't talk to much today tell him why. ~mesachick51~
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I've liked this guy for a few months and I've finally gotten up the courage to get his number. When I asked him for it (on Wednesday) he blushed and while telling me he forgot it for a second then remembered. I texted him on Thursday (today is Saturday) and I still haven't gotten a response. He talked to me in the hallways on Friday and walked me to my next class which is weird since we haven't talked much since school started. So anyways, since he hasn't responded, I don't know what to do because it doesn't seem like he's ignoring me purposely and I don't think he'd purposely give me a fake number. He either: 1. Got his phone taken away (I asked him for his number while he was on his way to detention so that's a possibility) 2. Accidentally gave me the wrong number 3. Is doing some psychological thing and waiting awhile to text me back.
I don't know if I should ask him if he have me the wrong number (I'd wait until maybe next Wednesday) or if I should wait it out. If I do ask him how would I do it?
Sorry if this is confusing!
I'm a female, junior in highschool if that's any help! He's the same age as me. (link)
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Dear writer,
My advice would be to wait a couple more days and if you still haven't received a text from him I would ask him about it your probably right he may have gotten his phone taken away so when you see him just tell him I sent you a text and wasn't sure if you had gotten it. Than you'll get your answer I hope I helped :) ~mesachick51~
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I'm going to say that I'm 16/f and I'm very ashamed never to have had a boyfriend or ...never to even have been on a date =( V_V. I just do not understand. It drives me CRAZY. And the thing is. On places like myspace and facebook...guys joke around and flirt with me! While chatting, they flirt with me as well! They just never seem to make an attempt to want to have a relationship with me :| And I cannot believe that I'm saying this, but I'm desperate for a relationship x_x The worst part is...that guys tell my FRIENDS that they like me! But they never tell me! =( I'm quite an intelligent person ( I think so, anyways )) and I'm thinking that could be a turn off? Help, please ;_; The worst part..heh...is that my friends...who I think aren't THAT attractive..they almost ALL have been asked out! I don't understand! I'm nice, and I have a nice personality...but whyyyyy??????? ;_;
Thanks. ;_; (link)
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Dear are guys avoiding me,
I don't think guys are avoiding you. Everyone is different. I know this is dumb to say but its true your time will come don't worry. There is nothing wrong with being intelligent. Guys are weird around that age dont worry everything will turn out fine. I hope I helped
~MESACHICK51~
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I really like this guy. But i dont know if i can trust him. we've been going out for a year, and whenever we hang out he shows me pictures of his other girlfriend naked. We do threesomes sometimes, and dont get me wrong, she's really nice, i just dont know... is it normal for me to be jealous? im crying because i feel like im not as special as she is. I admit she looks better naked and has a vagina that tastes really good, but i feel really left out. what can i do to win him over? i really love him and he's really good at doing stuff to me. and i really dont want to let him go.. advice?
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Dear 3 some,
my advice that I could best give to this would be to leave him alone. He seems like the type that is only intrested in one thing and that would be to get into your pants,and yes it is ok for you to be jealous I would be to. I would never share my bf with someone else but if you want to continue on like this than go for it, but if not dump him and find someone who wants you and only you.
~MESACHICK51~
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Ok so i have known this guy all my life! well a few years ago he moved ..but we still kept in touch occasionally. and also we have always considered each other bro and sis, well he moved back this past summer and everything was ok and all but now he calls me at a minimum of 8 times a day! and every weekend he is with me. now dont get me wrong i love the boy to death but he comes with me and my frieds on our "girls night outs" and then staurday nights he comes to my house then sunday he is hear to! and i dont want to be mean and i have even tried saying things in the past liek well why dont u go do this or that...and even trying to be mean dont work because he doesnt take me serious! please HELP ME i dotn no what i am going to do. and the other problem with him he tells me who i can and cant date..he doesnt liek me are anything he is just..i dont even no how to explain it. and GUys want talk to me alot becaus ethey think im dating him or there afraid he want liek him. (link)
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Dear Frienship/guys,
Sit him down and explain how you are feeling to him let him know that girls night out is just for girls and that he can't come. Let him know though that you like him around but that he is around way to much. You have to have a voice to him or else he won't take you seriously. If he starts to think you are kidding with him tell him that it's not a joke and that you are being serious. I hope I helped. ~MESACHICK51~
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my name is mark im 19 and im a male ... im dating a girl we dated for 2 years on and off we broke up over this past summer and over the summer she did stuff thats bothering me now in our relationship she had sex w. a total of 3 guys multiable times and messed around w/ 3 other guys she told me everything b4 we got back together and it botheres me alot i dont know whwat to do i talked to her about it and shes there for me and all but i dont know what to do i need some advice the only reason im w/ her is because i really love her anyother girl i would tell leave me alone but i need something that will help over that break up i only messed around w/ 2 girls but we didnt have sex or ne thing like that i dont know what to do help me out please (link)
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Dear mark,
If it is really bugging you there is two things you can do one ask yourself if you really really love this girl and can go on knowing this. Or two you can tell her that this is really bothering you and that you don't know if you can still be together with her after knowing this. Another thing you could do is the two of you sit down and try and work this out try and find a way the two of you can feel comfortable around one another. I hoped I helped. ~MESACHICK51~
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ok so here's the deal. . . i really like this one girl (not so sure about vice versa) and we talk every day. . i mean all the time. . . and i wanted to ask her out this weekend. . it's just that i don't know what to say. . . i'm not good at that kind of stuff. . . advice on what to do with her would also be of great help. . . .i am in great need of help over this. . . i've known her for years and just started having feelings for her. . .i just need some help. . .
by the way, i'm 13, she's 14 (link)
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Dear writer,
The first thing you have to do is find out if she likes you. Which she probably does cause you sound like a cool guy. You can find out if she likes you by asking her yourself and telling her how you feel about her or you can ask a friend to ask her and have your friend tell her how you feel about her. Treat her really speacial. About asking her out you just have to go with your gut and be brave and just ask her. Ask her if she would like to go and do something sometime she will get the hint. I hope this helped let me know how things work out. ~MESACHICK51~
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Alright, I met this guy named Peter almost 9 months ago and i was dating his best friend at the time. But yeah after me and his friend broke up we started dating. And we dated for about 7 months and then his mom died and everything changed. We had a terrible break up. He started dating one of my friends and he even carved her name in his arm... I dont understand. It makes me feel like i didnt exsist...What do i do?!
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dear writer,
You should sit your ex boyfriend down and talk to him ask him what happended to you guys and how come you broke up. Tell him how you feel. Don't worry this is really common people who lose someone so close to them tend to not want to have things around that were around when his mom was alive. It's not you it's just he probably thinks about his mom when he is with you so don't be sad. There will be others girl. I hope I helped let me know if you need anymore advice. ~MESACHICK51~
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okay well.. i was gonna tell this guy how i feel about him, but i got nervous. could you help me think of a way to tell him?
~ASHLEY~ (link)
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Dear Ashley,
You could start out by saying hello to him and ask him how is he. remember smile. Than just be brave and tell him how you feel about him the worst that could happen is he laughs or something but if he does than he doessn't deserve you. Be brave and tell him you never know you could be his next girlfriend. So I say to you go for it. I hope I helped. ~MESACHICK51~
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im the shortest kid in my class and i like the tallest boy. Everybody know i like him and are always saying stuff like "yeah _ go get your girl" but im always like "shut up" and he acts like he doesnt here. The other day i was asleep in class and when i got up to do my work i looked up to glanced at him and he was looking right at me smilling and well im very say and turnd around really quick and it looked like he got mad or somthing cause he moved his seet and like facing his back at me and now hes wird all my friends say i should talk to him about that but i dont want to look silly talking about that and asking him if hes mad at me how can i talk to him about that with out starting with what happend so i wont look silly or what can i do?????????? (link)
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hey,
ok well you should talk to him but it doesn't have to start out by you asking him that question yet. Start the conversation by saying hi. Than ask him how he is doing than say can you a question. If he says yes go for it ask him the question and tell him that when he looked at you that you were just surprised that he was looking at you and that you liked him looking at you. Also remember to smile and be brave you can do it. You never know you two may end up hooking up. I hope this helped let me know how it went. ~MESACHICK51~
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hm ok,im gonna change the names around for reasons.
so there this kid named... *dj for instance and he likes me. but he also has a girlfriend named *lisa. we were at the library and *dj had me sit on his lap and he put his hands down this hole near the top of my jeans cuz they were hollister ones and then me and *dj talk online and he mails me on myspace calling me sexy well his girlfrined *lisa found out and i guess she really likes him and doesnt want him to break up with her.. and i was like do you like me? and hes like ya but i dont no what do to about *lisa. and i was like well its your choice, and *dj wants me to call him tonight.. so we can "talk" should i like him and wait for him to dump brittany or move on? he always tells me he loves me, and when i call hes on the phone with *lisa but he hangs up with her and talks to me........ i need help. i rate gooddd! (link)
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Dear complicated,
If this guy really likes you and you really like him I say go for it. He seems like a really nice guy. It's not your fault if he likes you and is over his girlfriend people do move on. So call him and tell him you like him to. Just remember if he dumps his girlfriend for you that it's not your fault you can't help that he likes you and you can't help that you like him. I hope this helped let me know how things go. ~MESACHICK51~
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There is a guy that I was friends with 8 years ago when i was little and i moved and since then i hadnt talked to him or seen him... up until a week and a half ago. i dont know why but i seem to have feelings for him already even though its been so long. We've talked every day in the past week and a half and hes a really nice and sweet guy and he told me he sorta likes me too... hes supposed to come to visit so i can see him again soon. i dont know how to act and even if we did really hit it off he doesnt think it would work since hes lives 5 hours away by car.. it really sucks and im supposed to be going down to my grammas(that lives 2 minutes away form him) this summer for 3 weeks and were planning on spending time together and other times between now and then but i have no idea what to say or how to act when i see him again for the first time and im really nervous. help please (link)
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hey,
you should get to know him again because since it was 8 years ago he probably has changed and has new interest's find out what they are. You two could have a long distance relantionship but it would be hard because I know that when you are with someone you wanna really be with them and be able to kiss them and stuff like that. That would be the hard part about it. One thing you could do is call each other a lot so you two could talk that would give you a sense of closeness. When you go to your grandma's just act normal you know the way you act around him. Just be yourself don't try and be anything you aren't because guys like when you be who u are and not something different I hope this helped let me know how it goes. ~MESACHICK51~
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im 15 and me and my boyfriend have been going out for over 5 months..we had unprotected sex but he pulled out before he came..im really worried that i am pregnant, and i could never tell my parents..i have been gettin pains in my stomach, but it could jsut be me worrying..or my period is coming..what should i do..i cant keep the baby..and im jsut really worried..is there ways i could get an abortion with out my parents knowing?..like the morning after pill
please give me some adivce what to do before i go insane (link)
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Hey girl,
There are ways to get an abortion without your parents knowing, but you should tell your parents what is going on they deserve to know. Trust me I am going through the same thing as you. I told my parents and everything turned out fine. Also if you tell your parents they can take you to get checked out. If you don't wanna tell your parents you have to tell someone you trust to take you to get checked out because the longer you wait the worse it will be. Espicially if you are pregnant. Well I hoped I helped you out. Sincerly Mesachick51
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