heyy my name is megan.
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ok well im 15/f and my ex bf is 16. WE broke up before my birthday which was april 11th. He called me to wish me a happy birthday and ever since then we have been talking. He asked me what would i say if i we went back out. I told him i would think about it. Well one of his best friends said that lately he has been doing drugs for the past month and stuff. I asked him about it and he said that he does do drugs now and he sells it now too. Well thats just not cool to me but i love him alot i mean hes the one who broke up with me i didnt want to lose him. I dont know wat to do i want to go back out with him but im not sure if thats a good idea?!? i need help thinking of the pros and cons of me going out with him if hes going to do this. Im not sure why he does this i mean he has money he doenst need any im the one that doesnt have hardly any money ever! i just want him to stop doing that shit but he told me that he wasnt and he told me that i shouldnt care because i do that shit too but i dont i told him i dont and i never will. I need HELp! please help me anyone i would like to hear alot of people's opinions and ideas. thanks :]
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You sound like me. I have never been in a situation like this, however it sounds like something i would get caught in. The thing is drug sellers/users are dangerous and bad people. Drugs affected the body and damage it. They act different and are ruining their lives and hurting people around them. Its going to be hard to make a decsion because you are in love. Love does damage and is a very powerful feeling. I beileve you are in love, only you can get someone better than that. Drug users are no good and bad people. Please don't get caught up in it. You will only be hurting yourself. It may be hard to move on, but it's the best thing for yourself. What hes doing is illegal and illegal is not good obviously.
Ask your self these questions:
Do you really love him?
Is he worth your time and love?
Do you think he's going to treat you right?
What will other people think of you?
What if he gets caught? Then what should I do?
Are you sure hes right for you?
Is there anyone else?
There are so many questions and it will be hard to answer them. Ask yourself questions answer them and judge your answer on a scale of 1-10, 10 being the best answer and 1 being a terriable answer. Ask other people about your answers and have them rate them and agree or disagree with your ratings. I would be glad to, just send me something in my inbox and i will deffinatly get back to you. In my opnion this guy is NOT right for you. And i would hate to see you go with him and maybe ruin your life. If you got into the whole drug world. You would be like everyone else on the planet. We have more followers and need more leaders. Be one. You'll stand out. You may not be able to talk him out of the drug scene. Drugs are a powerful and harmful thing he may be hooked for life. It's sad to see the young go through this. I would love to talk more about this with you. I'm very interested and excited with this. My screename is Flychicxo101 if you have one please IM me i have away messages up all the time but IM me anyways im there. Or send me something in my inbox and i will get back to you.
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OK! This is going to be pretty long. I'm a 16 female, and i've been dating this Guy, Logan, for a year and a half. Well, after one month of me and him dating this one Guy, William, kissed me. I of course told William NO, and stopped him, but I had to tell Logan. So I did. And he was mad at me for awhile, but he was over it a month later. Me and Logan fell SOOOO much in love. He came to see me everyday after work, he always said I was beautiful, he was so protective of me, and he ignored his friends if he got the chance to see me. Best of all, he was my very first at sex, and he stayed with me, it didn't change him at all, he was always there for me. But, one day, my mom found out, and kinda went Kookoo, and told me I could never see him again. Well, after that we just sorta fell even more in love with each other. We spent every second trying to be with each other. And then my mom brought that William guy back. She told me if I didn't hold Williams hand than I couldn't call Logan. We went to Missouri on a trip, and she brought him with us, and made us sleep in the same room. And I was always telling William to leave me alone, and not to talk to me, but Logan was always yelling at me and telling me I was cheating on him. And one day, I just kinda snapped, and I felt like Logan would hate me soon because I couldn't prove that there was nothing going on. And then William started trying to comfort me, and he really did make me feel good. He promised to leave me alone, and just be my friend, which is all I wanted. But then, William kissed me again, and Logan found out because of my sister. And after 2 kisses, i'm sure it's hard to believe there is nothing going on. But, Logan broke up with me...So I did the unthinkable, I went out with William. William left for the marines a day later, and couldn't get anything from family or friends for 2 weeks. Logan asked me out the night William left, saying he made a mistake. I HAD to be with Logan. He's the only thing that makes me happy. But, if I dated Logan now, i'd be dating 2 guys at once, which is absolutely not my thing. So I said yes to Logan, and sent William a really harsh break up letter, but it didn't get to him very soon. But, then I figured everything would be ok. William off to the marines, me and Logan here together, everything could work out. I couldn't be accused anymore. And everything was going fine for like another 7 months, until a week ago. Logan said he can't forgive me for cheating on him. And I don't know what to say to get him back. He's the love of my life, and I know i've accidently hurt him, i've hurt him so bad because he thinks I lied all those times. I just want the man who loves me back. I don't want to be accused anymore. I don't want to fight. I want him to come see me everyday again. I want him to tease me, and smile. I want to make him happy, but I want me to be the one to make him happy, no one else. Please help, I love this man so much. (link)
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Aww im so sorry to hear that. Well relationships are all about trust and respect (and other stuff lol) he should of trusted you when u said you werent cheating. It doesnt make any sense really, he should believe you. It was williams fault really. You did everything you could to get william away. Don't be so hard on yourself. You didnt mean to hurt Logan. And technically you didnt really cheat on him. William wasnt respecting you and just stepped in when he was not wanted. You have to explain to Logan about how you never cheat on him and it was williams fault you didnt want him with you and HE kissed you, not like you wanted it (hopefully not). Explain how much you love him and he should trust you he has no reason not to. If he doesnt except it then im not sure what to tell you. Its hard losing someone you love especially if they dont trust you for no reason. I may be confusing right now. If you want anymore advice or need anymore help with this i will try my best so just send it in my inbox if so.
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Hey, so my bf and I don't make plans with eachother too often, but when we do he doesn't show. Like we planned to go to a dance together and that day I was talking to him and he randomly said I am grounded today. And I didn't even think that he wouldn't go to the dance because he was grounded. We weren't even like talking about the dance when he said he was grounded. So he didn't show up at the dance, and I was all alone. Then he said he would go to my basketball game, and he didn't go and when I called him his excuse was he was grounded. Then we were going to go to a hockey game and I called him twenty minutes before the game to make sure that we were still on, and then he was like oh yah I can't I'm grounded. So I was pissed because he wasn't even goining to call me and tell me that he couldn't go. And on top of that I asked him for his cell phone number and he wouldn't tell me. It's not like he just didn't tell me he won't tell anyone, but what is up with that. He won't even tell his best friend his number. But he told me that he loved me, and is planning on kissing me. Am I missing something??? We are going to the movies this weekend if he stands me up again what should I do I really like him. People say that I should have already broken up with him.
HELP!!
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That's the problem with guys these days, THEY ARE BUTT-HEADS! lol random. But he probably likes you hes just afraid to go places. I dont know guys are weird. If he said he loves you then it makes no sense for him to not like you. He should like you i think he does. Hes just a little weird. Maybe hes afriad your gonna call him constantly or maybe his phones dont work. He might really be getting grounded. Ask him about it. If hes mean then just get rid of him. But that's my opnion. He has no right to be acting like this. You can do better if he is lieing.
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im 13, and boys my age are REALLY immature.. so i tend to like boys that are alottt older then me.
like, i like boys that are like 16-17.
is it bad if i dated boys that much older then me?
would be the pros and cons?! (link)
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Not bad at all. My boyfriend's 3 years older than i am. I always went for guys 3-4 years older. Absoulutly nothing wrong with it. I am going to disagree with the person below me. Not all 16 year old guys are looking for sex. Not many are that shallow. Some are really perverted but not all. Just make sure you pick the right guys. We dont want anyone getting hurt in any way.
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this guy i like keeps calling me hott. what else do i say besides thanks thanks thakns thanks. im 14 hes 16 (link)
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Lol. Im just like you I never know how to respond to compliment. Just compliment him back like..."Your pretty cute yourself" or "thanx your hott as well or your cute too" lol kind of hard. But compliment him back and i know thanks get kind of boring.
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Okay, well I have a boyfriend who i've been with for over 9 months.. and i love him with everything that i have. he doesn't have the best life, and he's such a happy goofy kid. i love him mentality because he's always so carefree, even though alot of things in his life suck. for example- no father, very sick [in the hospital for years] mother, loser brother, and lives with his uncle. yet he's such a cheerful and funny kid. but, i tend to get annoyed very easily, and whenever he does something dumb, i make him feel stupid about it by saying something mean or sarcastic. and i've finally recognized that i do it, i just don't know how to control it. there have been several occassions that he almost broke up with me because i treat him so crappily. and i can't stand it. but he loves me so much, so he can never bring himself to officially leave me. and i love him too. he's the sweetest boy in the world, and my first everthing [i'm still a virgin though] and i really am the luckiest girl in the whole entire universe to have him.. but i just wish i could be nicer to him! now, i too have an advice column.. and if someone asked me this question, i'd just say- 'well if you want to be nicer, just simply be nicer' but it's really not that easy. i try so hard but i'm just a spoiled bitch. and i dont get it because i do realize what i have- the most amazing boy anyone could ever have, but i just don't act like it. and i don't want to lose him because of my attitude.. can someone please help me??? =( ♥ (link)
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Hun, I know how you feel. Im in a very similar situation. I understand how hard it is to change such a terriable habit. Just think before you speak it can be hard if you have that habit but you will learn. It's all part of growing up, you're probably still trying to figure out who you are and what you wanna do with your life. It's hard with a boyfriend around as well, you might get mad or stressed out and him being all happy and goofy will annoy you. Just when you're in moods like that stay away from him or when you're together/talking on the phone tell him your in a bad mood and he will hopefully understand. But then again maybe it's not your mood you could just be absoulutly annoyed by him at times. That's alright as well, just think before you speak/act and you should be fine.
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Good Luck Hun
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me and my boyfriend of 9 months, just broke up for good today i'm pretty sure. i can't take this. i love him so freaking much. i don't know what to do. i'm really thinking death, you don't understand. he means everything to me. he's mad cause i'm GROUNDED and can't do anything. omfg. i need help, sorry! please. (link)
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first off, i am so sorry to hear that.
i know how it is to lose someone you love.
please do not look towards death AT ALL!
death is the worst possiable answer for your situation
hang in there
you may get back together
killing yourself or abusing yourself in anyway
will NOT solve one thing
and plus you will put your family and friends through a lot of pain and grief.
once your gone
YOUR GONE!
there is absoulutly no returning
you have to live life
its okay to cry and be very sad/miserable
but you will move on
unless you however get back together
which is possiable he may relize that he made a mistake
but please do not sit around the house crying
get outside and do something
worse comes to worse go see a doctor
no one wants death happening
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Hang In There Hun :)
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