hey im megan. im 16. i have a wonderful boyfriend i have been dating for about 8 months. i love him to death. i love to give advice. but i need alot of advice as well. alot of subjects interest me mostly relationships, family issues, mental health, sex, so much. i have experienced alot in my life, i have lost so many friends recently but it was for the better. i play volleyball for my high school team. i really dont like my family but i have realized that when something goes wrong your family is always there for you. you really dont know what you got till its gone. i love all kinds of music and i wear any clotheing that is comfortable. i am trying to grow out of my many bad habits. and hope i'll succed in the end. i love writing poetry and i hav written many and only can pick out maybe like 5 that i really love. my main topic is death lol sounds creepy but they are really good. i am emotional and im very sensitive. i have learned to not worry about what people think of me and what i do. i am a very fun person s and a very serious person at the right times. i can not trust anyone except 2 people in my whole life. its very sad but i can deal with it. life has its ups and downs and ive been threw plenty and i have no problem going threw more because thats life.
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How do you know when to kiss someone?
"You'll just know" doesn't cut it for me, k?
Is it when you stare deeply into each other's eyes and happen.. to lean in closer?
Is that the right moment to kiss?
I'm really nervous. I have kissed people before but this is my first kiss in this relationship. Usually my "first kisses" with others.. were bad.
And I want to actually remember this kiss with him.
What is better.. lipgloss or chapstick?
And what will make my breath smell good?
[I don't want to constantly pop in mints] (link)
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lol that just reminded me of my first kiss, i missed half his lip. and it was really bad because my friend like just beat me up. lol long story not important. chew mint gum before you see him( thats wat i always do) and then spit it out when you wanna kiss him. then just look into his eyes lean in and press your lips up against his. make sure you are focused and not worried about any thing else. just look into his eyes stare and after a little while lean in and kiss him gently on the lips and as long as you want to. while you are looking into his eyes a few times look down at his lips and back up. but like dont keepp doing it maybe he will get the hint and lean in himself. then put your hands where ever his hands will probably go to your waist and your maybe around his neck, but whatever is comfortable for you. do it in a nice place not in some trashy old smelly basement those arent usually rememered do it outside thats always memorable i remeber one of my kisses soo well because i was outside with him and it was so beautiful, but that was a warm summer day and not winter. but yeah do what i said and you will hopefully remember this kiss you have with him.
Goof Luck :)
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ok so me and my bf just hookedup and he asked me not to tell anyone what does that mean?and what do i do? (link)
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I hate when guys do that. But just dont tell anyone. People talk and start rumors and hes probably just protecting you and his own reputations. Dont tell anyone. And maybe later on in the relationship you can tell people.
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hmm okay so.
14/f
i really like my boyfriend and all we have been dating for about 1 month or whatever but recently at church he brought his friend who is like his neighbor.my boyfriend and his friend go to a diffrent school then me.
but yeah when i met hid friend he was really hot and funny and nice to me.he was kinda flirting with me and i liked it but i still really like my boyfriend.
when we dont see each other for a while sometimes i start to crush on toher guy but all the while i still really like my boyfriend.
uhg so what do i do? (link)
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I so know how you feel. Only me and my boyfriend have been dating for over 7 months. Well in the begining of our reltationship after 3 months a new school year begun and i found out that this guy liked me blah blah blah so i flirted with him because i couldnt help it. Now i love my boyfriend to death and he loves me and he doesnt know what i did. I eventually grew outta it. Sometimes i still flirt but dont mean too. When i came back to school i thought i liked other people too. But then i realized i never really did. You probably just think you like some of these guys and really dont. Just stay with your boyfriend unless you stop liking him or something goes wrong you'll know when you need to break up with him. Its completly normal and it happens to a lot of girls especially at this age because our hormones are going crazy. I hope you understand.
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How do you let go of someone that you absolutely love, but they don't want you anymore? (link)
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I know it will be so hard. Just please do it in person. Its always better that way. Just tell them that you love them but you feel they dont want you anymore. and say im sorry but i think we should breka up. So say it like this...
"I love you, but i feel you dont want me anymore, im sorry but i think we should break up" and I know it will be hard. I have been through it as well. If you need any more advice on this sent something to my inbox.
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So there`s this kid Nick. We`ve been really good friends for a long time and now im starting to like him. We were joking around today..and talking about making out and we were like "yeah we should totally do it tomarrow" and so I told him I would. I really like him..but im nervous since I`ve never made out with anyone and he has. Should I really be nervous? Or will everything just happen like I know what I`m doing? (link)
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It's is perfectly normal to be nervous. I had no idea to makeout but when I first did, i just did what I thought was right. And now i am really good, haha. Well he is experienced but if he really likes you he will not mind at all. Oh and please dont bite him because from what i have seen it doesnt feel to good, i know it because my best friend did it lol. Just try your best. In my opinion there is no way to explain how to do it. Just put your lips together and open your mouth he will too and stick your tongue in. Kinda like you are licking something. But not exactly. It's so hard to explain. But I hope everything goes well. And make sure you mention to him that you are unexpirenced and arent 100% sure how to. Good Luck!
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okay well i'm 13 & the guy i like is 16. is that bad?? like he gives me signs that he likes me too but all my friends are going "laura, he's 16." & i go "so?". i just want to know if that is too much of an age difference. (link)
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Noooo. Me and my boyfriend are 3 years apart as well. Ignore your friends. Probably they are jealous that a 16 year old likes you. If he likes you and you like him i say go for it. Your friends are just
jealous. But make sure he's a nice guy and wont hurt you before you decide to give it a try.
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i've been going out with this adorable junior for 4 months now. at first, i never thought it would work out because im the freshman girl who is shy and has never been with a guy before. but since the first time we met he took my heart. things have been going great, but im afraid he dedicated himself too much to me?
To me, it just doesn't seem right. He's Mr. Popular, quarter back of the football team and like abercrombie model looks; and im just the freshman girl. we've gone as far as oral but in the past month i've really wanted to have sex with him. i ask him all the time about it but he said he doesnt want to. (He already had sex before by the way.) He said he doesn't want to take the thing away from me that is most precious unless i love him.
You dont understand though, like i WANT to have sex with him so bad, but he doesn't want to take it away from me at such a young age unless im sure i love him. He tells me he loves me but it's hard for me to say "i love you" back and really mean it.
Does he not like me anymore? It's just he's so nice and i know for a fact he never cheated on me before or is seeing another girl. Should i drop the whole sex subject?! PLEASE HELP! (link)
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He has a great point. He shouldn't take this away from you unless you really truely love him. If you are having difficulties saying "I love you" then you really shouldn't. You are getting horny and its sometimes hard to fight it but please dont have sex. Another word for sex is "making love" which means in my opionion you should only do it if you LOVE him since you know you would be "making love." I say drop the whole sex subject and wait till you are able to say "i love you" and mean it. Maybe by then you will be ready.
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14 FEMALE this is long but please take time to read and answer it!!
So last dance was HOMECOMING and I didn't have a date but I went with friends and it was really really fun...it didn't bother me as much that I didn't have a date because I still had one dance to fall back on and have a date. I know it isn't everything but I really wanted a date for the dance. Sometimes I get really mad because I don't and just have to cry.
I asked a question earlier on how to be outgoing and talk to guys and make other friends. I know that's why I don't have a date, I'm way too shy.
But still doesn't anyone notice me??
I know I know...put yourself out there...BUT I DON"T KNOW HOW!
Why can't I get a date?? I have only had 1 actual boyfriend he asked me, I was in 8th grade he was in 6th... I know pethetic right? But I was really happy, but that fadded and I broke it off.
Anyone give me advice on how to make myself feel beter??
I think I'm depressed about not having a date (I feel worthless)
Not having started my period (therefore I'm flat and it is hard find things for dances that don't show that I'm flat)
I feel left out
I DON'T KNOW WHAT'S WRONG!
HELP ME GET A DATE FOR NEXT YEAR (even though it is a while away)
Help me get my self esteem up about not starting my period so therefore I'm flat (I feel like that is sometimes why guys don't like me) {im not totally flat i just feel that way i do have some cush} [i have not but either so it makes it hard to find clothes] (im really really small...people tell and ask if im annorexic...IM NOT...rumors get passed around like that all the time)
SELF ESTEEM IS ON EMPTY!!!
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Yes, I read it. You sound just like my bestfriend shes your same age and she is very prety but is somewhat a lil flat and everyone calls her annorexic.
Well guys are really shallow at 14 and are perverts but a lot of guys are from maybe about ages 13-18maybe over 18. Somewhere in the world there is a guy for you. Not all guys are shallow and mean.
You say you're shy now. Well i used to be like that when i was like 11 and younger. I grew out of it. I discovered I really like the attention and I am now very outspoken and wicked loud and very outgoing. But I grew out of my shyness.
You are probably prety as you are and guys may not see that now. Dont go out with any guy just because he likes you people will think you are easy and rumors will happen. For all you know some guy might have a crush on you as you are sitting there all sad.
Now girls that are tiny like you shouldnt have 2 much trouble finding atlest shirts because there are to good stores I know that have really nice clothes, Hollister and Pacsun. try those, hollister has nice shirts and Pacsun has really nice jeans from sizes 0-maybe like 14 im guessing.
Maybe by next year you will have grown out of your shyness. You will deffinatly grow out of it. Just talk to people. Say Hi once in a while to people. You are probably shy because you care about what others think of you. I know that becuase thats why i was always shy. Just ignore what people say it's very hard atfirst but you'll get the hang of it.
Say Hi and be friendly to people you never know you might get a guy. I know how i get guys is by flirting which is very very easy if you know what you're doing. Just start by asking them like how to do some math problem in school or say Hi once again. Your position is tough but you will eventually grow up and have a nice boyfriend that loves you the way you are. Oh and for the record be glad you dont have your period, its hurts really badly.
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do girls like giving blow jobs, or is it just something that girls do cuz the guy asks them to? (link)
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I have recently giving my boyfriend head (another word for blowjob incase you didnt know). I did really really liked it at first but when i did it a second time and i was grossed out. Now i will only do it if necessary. It really all depends on the girl really. Personally I dont hate them, but they arent the funnest thing. I will do it to please him once in a while. But in my opinion and in other girls blowjobs for girls arent so fun. It really all depends on the girl
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Hello
Well it just always seems like when I meet a new boy I have a crush on him and I don't get it I can't really tell if its true or just my stupid slef wanted a boyfriend so I tell myself like him you can get him like him! Err I don't know I'm confused so I don't know if its a real crush or just a "fake crush"?! (link)
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Oh that used 2 happen 2 me. Yeah i have a boyfriend and it sometimes still does. I realized i never really liked them i just thought I did becuz every guy I meet i think they are flirting when really they are being nice. You may not "really" like him but maybe this time you do. Give it a chance maybe you really do it you cant get him off your mind and if you really care about him maybe you do really like him. Give it a few days. Your may have something here
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Okay, so I like, well not like but LOVE this guy named Jake. He is sooooooooooooooooooo cute. Here is the problem, he is shorter then i am! Everyone is so short! I'm begging for help. mainly because he is comming to my house to finish a project and i don't know what to say! (link)
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lol yeah im really tall and when i was growing up i was taller than ALL the boys i liked. thinking of something 2 say is easy. I mean if he didnt like you then why else would he go 2 your house? He is probably just as nervous as you. try not 2 worry 2 much. Just ask him how his day is going, is he does any sports how is he doing in school wats his favorite hobbies. Don't get so personal though becuz he might think you're weird soo be careful of what you say.
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Alright so. I have an amazing boyfriend who I love so much and would do anything for him... We have been dating for 6 months.. But theres other guys who like me and I still talk to them.. Like a lot of guys try and flirt with me and all and I don't want to be like STOP IT and sound all rude, but my friends say I kinda lead other guys on. I mean all guys know I have a boyfriend and that I am off limits, but it still doesn't stop them. (link)
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Oh my godd! lol i can soo relate 2 you. Yeah that sounds just like wat im going threw there is really nothing you can do except either ignore them, walk away, actually say stop or just keep flirting and/or flirt with them. But however that isnt very fair to your boyfriend. So just try not to flirt and maybe they will go away or unless you like the attention then w/e. Its mostly your decision.
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im 14/f
yes.im afraid of breaking up with my bf. i mean, i have all this support from my friends but im more concerned about his feelings.i have perfect reasons for wanting to break up with him, but at the same time i dont. and when i do i dont kno if i shold call him or message him, or what.im scared hes gonna get sad and ill be the bad guy. what should i do (link)
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Well hun, breaking up isn't always easy ecpecally if he's sesitive. Normally guys won't be happy about break up unless they did it or unless they were gonna do it soon anyways. try not 2 worry about his feelings to much... if being with him is not wat YOU want then break up with him. Do it in person its not always easy but its the best way do it nicly and not mean. Don't wait any longer or you might feel bad or even more than you already do. Just be nice do it in person and well that's really all i can say. He probably will be sad but he will move on.
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I am in love. I love my boyfriend soooo much and he loves me. We are both 16. We have been dating for 6 months. I know he loves me but sometimes he doesn't believe I love him. He is a year older and will be off to college soon. I don't want him to go but I don't want to stand in the way of his dreams either. He says he still wants to see me through college but we both know it will be hard. We BOTH end up in tears when we start talking about it. I want to do something really sweet for him on Valentines day but I don't know what. I need a way to tell him how much I love him b/c saying it doesn't always work. I need him to believe me. I don't know how to make that happen. Any Ideas?
Thanks!
~Eli (link)
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I know exactly how it is. If you truely love him maybe you should show him like physically. Buy him something he really likes or like show him physically, i sometimes think my boyfriend doesnt love me because well saying it doesnt always mean as much as actually procving it by doing something and me and him have been together for 6 months too. But buying him stuff and having sex with him shouldnt make him feel so loved because saying it 2 him should be enough or hold his hand kiss him hug him for a long time and even when he tries and pull away pull him back and dont let go show him how much you care about him. Maybe he will realize it.
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What are some fun makeout positions? anything would be helpful! (link)
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Oh making out is so much fun. Lol me and my boyfriend made a list of places and ways 2 make out and well you could lay down and have her on top. Your could be on top. Oh heres a fun one, you're standing up and she jumps on you and wraps her legs around you and you hold her like your hands go on her ass and she puts her hands around your neck and she has 2 lean in and then you start making out. Pick her up and put her on a table or a counted and you stand and make out with her there are soo many ways those are just a few but they are very fun and easy if you hav the strength lol.
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ok.. this is going to sound really stupid but i'm deadly serious. i'm 15 and i've never actually got in with a girl. I really need advice because if i like somone and want to kiss them, doing it wrong will probally screw up my chances with them. I'm not ugly and i'm not weird, i've just never actually kissed a girl :/
advice would be really appreciated.
thanks! (link)
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that really doesnt sound stupid i gave my boyfriend his first kiss and he was 15 and he wasnt ugly or really weird and im younger than him. I didnt know how 2 do it either but i had an idea of how 2. Make sure you do it with a girl that is nice and wont care if you do it wrong. lol my first kiss i missed half his lip. First kisses are always funn and memorable. Dont worry 2 much about it. It's simply just pressing your lips 2gether wit another girls lips and tilting your head the oppisite way as them. It's so easy that you shouldnt worry 2 much. Just find the right girl and you'll be ok. I promise.
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last night i found out i have mono .. yeh i know that sucks but anyways my boyfriend said that i could get some stuff online with his american express gift card he got for christmas. i found some stuff i wanted and i got him a sweatshirt. i didnt know the exact price for all the stuff last night when he asked so i told him id look in the morning and he asked what i got and when i said i got him a sweatshirt he got mad. we talked about it last night he said he was mad because i knew that he didnt want the sweatshirt and to get stuff for myself. but today he asked him if i cancelled the order so he didnt get the sweatshirt and you cant so i said i would go to the store and return it and then give him the money back for the sweatshirt and i told him how much the bill was and he got mad even though he told me i could use the whole card which was 100.00$ he said that im rude and disrespectful and that i dont listen. i was trying to be nice and get him a little present. i dont understand why hes so effing angry please help (link)
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awwww He sounds a little mean. Let it pass. tell him you're sorry and you wont do it again. And well if he is stil mad then ignore him until he's fine again. Don't worry guys are really weird and well i don't even understand why he got so mad but it'll all be over soon and he won't be mad anymore. hopefully
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I am in love with a guy
He used to hate me becuase of the rumors that were spread about me and him.
He got over it, and He talked to me for the first time in a longgggg time the other night.
A long time ago he said he regreted doing things that we did [if ya know what i mean]
Just the other night he said he didnt regret it and he was just angry with things.
He even said he would do it again.
He has a girlfriend , even while he was saying this stuff to me but said they were going to break up.
Since that night which was maybe 6 days ago, he hasnt talked to me.I figured he would talk to me like he used to but i dont understand
Im not going to talk to him, I dont want to annoy him.
What is the deal here?
15/f/ohio
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Yeah guys are very weird. Umm i say well don't do anything with him until him and his girlfriend are broken up. He might just be playing with your heartor he really means it but is scared 2 talk. Maybe his girlfriend found out and told him he can't talk 2 you anymore. I know that doesn't make 2 much sense but girls are weird 2. Its so hard 2 answer because i don't know him. Maybe he does drugs and he's been high and stuff like that lately. Or he could just be busy. Be careful like you don't wanna annoy him but maybe say hi and see if he's mad or something, you can tell alot from peoples voice tones, so say hi 2 him and listen carfully. Or just wait another day and see if he says something and if he doesnt then say something. He's obviously not the best guy if hes saying stuff like that when he has a girlfriend, or maybe im rong.
I hope i helped:)
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I'm a 15 yr old sophmore and i like a 13 yrold 7th grader, is this wrong? I skipped a grade so i dont think its that weird but im afraid my "friends" would if they found out. (link)
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No i don't think it's weird. My boyfriend is 3 years older than me. It's normal well kinda. If your friends are truely your friends and really care about you they won't care.
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ok i am a female 13
ok i like my sisters brother
i think he sorta likes me but he neve rliked a girl before except like celeb girls
okay, well thing is i am 13 he is 15
see age diff. and he says tht i am my friends only friend that is nice and cool.
i want him to like me the way i like him an i want to get to know him but we have ntohing in (school,projects,etc.) common so what should i do? (link)
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Heyy age difference shouldn't matter my boyfriend is 3 years older than me. You must have something in common. Getting to know people is easy. Just be yourself and ask them questions about life and anything, but don't ask personal questions. Ask him how his day was or if he plays any sports. Don't like approach him and straight out ask him if he likes you because if he doesn't you'll be sad well you might be. Flirt with him but don't make it so noticable maybe he's is oblivious so he won't notice but flirt with him and he might grow to like you and maybe some day you might be together.
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