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SWEET HEART DANCE
14 FEMALE this is long but please take time to read and answer it!!
So last dance was HOMECOMING and I didn't have a date but I went with friends and it was really really fun...it didn't bother me as much that I didn't have a date because I still had one dance to fall back on and have a date. I know it isn't everything but I really wanted a date for the dance. Sometimes I get really mad because I don't and just have to cry.
I asked a question earlier on how to be outgoing and talk to guys and make other friends. I know that's why I don't have a date, I'm way too shy.
But still doesn't anyone notice me??
I know I know...put yourself out there...BUT I DON"T KNOW HOW!
Why can't I get a date?? I have only had 1 actual boyfriend he asked me, I was in 8th grade he was in 6th... I know pethetic right? But I was really happy, but that fadded and I broke it off.
Anyone give me advice on how to make myself feel beter??
I think I'm depressed about not having a date (I feel worthless)
Not having started my period (therefore I'm flat and it is hard find things for dances that don't show that I'm flat)
I feel left out
I DON'T KNOW WHAT'S WRONG!
HELP ME GET A DATE FOR NEXT YEAR (even though it is a while away)
Help me get my self esteem up about not starting my period so therefore I'm flat (I feel like that is sometimes why guys don't like me) {im not totally flat i just feel that way i do have some cush} [i have not but either so it makes it hard to find clothes] (im really really small...people tell and ask if im annorexic...IM NOT...rumors get passed around like that all the time)
SELF ESTEEM IS ON EMPTY!!!
HELP
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Hey. I'm the same age as you and I just got my period about six months ago so I wouldn't feel bad. My best friend is 14 and just got hers about a week ago. I have another friend who still doesn't have it. So DON'T feel bad about that!
You should be happy you're free and you don't have it yet and as for flatness most teens at fourteen aren't chesty yet. It's not your fault you're super skinny (which is great!) and people are probably just jealous so don't feel bad. Everyone wishes they could be that way without having to diet and excercise all the time so you are so lucky in two ways now. You have low self esteem because you're doing this to yourself. It's not that other people don't like you, it's that you don't have enough confidence in yourself.
You're not happy with who you are and I Know you're an amazing person. You said you went with friends to homecoming which is great! Some kids don't even have friends to go with =( especially dates! The girls who get dates really want that and they push for it which is why they have dates. Don't concentrate on getting a date for next year but just try to be as friendly and fun as possible and what you deserve will come to you on its own.
I know about of about 15 girls our age who have never had dates and they're some friends of mine. There are probably tons more. If you want to up your self-esteem just try looking at old pictures or vidoes of yourself throughout the years and if it helps listen to music. Think about what a great and meaningful life you've had. I do this whenever I'm down.
If you don't have pictures or vidoes just think of things from memories. As long as you're friendly, fun and nice at all times possible you will find someone you really deserve rather than pushing for a date for next year. Don't worry about it. You have so many people that love you I'm sure and who knows? There could be a guy who secretly likes you. I really hope this helped and good luck! =)
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I know how you feel. I was one of the smaller girls in my class when I was your age and was really quiet and shy and I used to feel bad about that. What always worked for me was having that one best friend to be able to hang out with and just have fun being ourselves. She of course was more social than I was and little by little helped me come out of that fear of meeting new people. And before I knew it had met some great people and even one guy who would always want to know what I was thinking when I was so quiet. So my advice... be yourself and don't let others get to you. It might be hard at first but it WILL get easier. As for putting yourself out there, try something like a study group with classmates you don't know to well and see what happens. If you're that shy it's a good place to start
:-) Good Luck
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Yes, I read it. You sound just like my bestfriend shes your same age and she is very prety but is somewhat a lil flat and everyone calls her annorexic.
Well guys are really shallow at 14 and are perverts but a lot of guys are from maybe about ages 13-18maybe over 18. Somewhere in the world there is a guy for you. Not all guys are shallow and mean.
You say you're shy now. Well i used to be like that when i was like 11 and younger. I grew out of it. I discovered I really like the attention and I am now very outspoken and wicked loud and very outgoing. But I grew out of my shyness.
You are probably prety as you are and guys may not see that now. Dont go out with any guy just because he likes you people will think you are easy and rumors will happen. For all you know some guy might have a crush on you as you are sitting there all sad.
Now girls that are tiny like you shouldnt have 2 much trouble finding atlest shirts because there are to good stores I know that have really nice clothes, Hollister and Pacsun. try those, hollister has nice shirts and Pacsun has really nice jeans from sizes 0-maybe like 14 im guessing.
Maybe by next year you will have grown out of your shyness. You will deffinatly grow out of it. Just talk to people. Say Hi once in a while to people. You are probably shy because you care about what others think of you. I know that becuase thats why i was always shy. Just ignore what people say it's very hard atfirst but you'll get the hang of it.
Say Hi and be friendly to people you never know you might get a guy. I know how i get guys is by flirting which is very very easy if you know what you're doing. Just start by asking them like how to do some math problem in school or say Hi once again. Your position is tough but you will eventually grow up and have a nice boyfriend that loves you the way you are. Oh and for the record be glad you dont have your period, its hurts really badly.
Hope I Helped :)
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