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Hey everyone. My name is Rachel, and I am fourteen, fifteen in June. I need help. Well, I have a HUGE crush on a guy at school. He's incredibly handsome, and hilarious. (My two need-haves, when it comes to guys.) But, here’s the problem. I'm a freshman he's a junior. He's 17 in May. It's not a problem for me, and he has a few Ex's in my grade, so it's not a problem for him either. But my mom is a whole other story. Well, I had transferred to my school at the beginning of the school year, and my mom had casually asked if I had any boys on the brain. I told her about... Well let's call him "T", and she said, "Well, you know he's too old for you, right?" I had no reply to that. That made me a little mad. I mean technically there's only a year in between us. ALSO, my mom and dad are married, and my mom is 42, my dad 48. Don't you think that's kind of hypocritical? I mean, I'm not being disrespectful, or I don't mean to be anyway, but I don't think that's very fair. If you ask me, I don't think T and I have that big of an age difference. But, if mommy says, Rachel does. If she tells me I can't date him, I won't, no questions asked. But if I convinced her otherwise and she said I could, I'd be content in doing so. So, lying and sneaking around is absolutely out of the question. But, I need a few tips on how to convince her that the difference isn't that large. Any ideas? Or even if you think the difference is big, give your opinion please! I will not judge or anything. Any advice will be accepted. Thanks~! J (link)
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Im 15 and me and my boyfriend are 5 years apart. So I kind of have an idea what you are talking about. My parents dissaprove about this and make big deals all the time that im dating him but they know I love him!(: You just just tell her that hes a nice boy and that before shes going to be judgemental she should get a chance to meet him ; he could be a good guy (:
Shes probably going to say something like well why would a 17 want to date a 14 year old anyways? Just explain to her that she cant judge you guys being together or him without meeting with him and talking to him about his future plans and stuff. So she knows he's going somewhere with his life! Hope I helpeddd!
If you need anymore help at all im here ;;
send me a message so I can talk to you personally(:
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i feel stupid saying this..but what are the bases. like when you get to first base or second...? thanks i rate high! (link)
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Haha it depends relationship bases are as I understand it
1- kiss/ makeout
2- like a little bit of touching
3- sex ?
Ha I think thats it.
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I am 13 and a girl. I really like my best friend, we went out but i still have major feelings for him.He knows but really doesnt care. How can i stop or get him to like me again ? (link)
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15/F
Well I mean if he doesnt like you than you cant really force him to like you. Things like that just happen. Maybe you should just give him his space you guys are bestfriends remember you dont want to wreck a good friendship for a relationship chances are it wont work out and your going to miss having that person as your bestfriend(: You said he doesnt really care, if he doesnt care maybe you should try and realize that you need to move on and find someone that actually cares that you have deeper feelings for them(:
Goood Luck! (;
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Like when im at the mall, i see hot guys and stuff my age,and i do look older then my real age (13) and like, how can i get them to talk to me? are they like shy? (they dont look it) i mean, should i talk to them what should i do? (link)
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15/F
Well usually for me I let the guy come and talk to me. I usually never talk to a guy first(: It makes it fun and sometimes hilarious when you watch how they approach you and the things they say. But I mean if you want to approach a guy you should just be yourself ; just start casually talking to them or flirt a little bit from a distance (; Like touch all over your stomach and wink and act like you dropped something(:
Haha it makes them go crazzy.
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okay thing is, this Guy whoe I think I have feelings for, but thing is that I blew it and let him go, He wanted be with me over the summer, thing is that i been advoding him, and we always be best friend, and been 3 weeks he haven't even call plus he want me call him sometimes but i don't know what to say, how to have a casul coverstion, he hase gf and i don't feel wel lu know. (link)
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You seem kind of young so my best advice is not to stress it. Hes a guy there is many other guys out there and alot of growing up for them and you too do!(: And if he has a girlfriend then I would just let them be as hard as it might seem. You will move on eventually and find someone betterrr! (:
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Have you ever seen someone and felt like wow i want to go talk to them partly because of looks but then again parly because it is just this strong feeling and you dont know why. Well, im feeling like that and im shy and dont have any idea what to do. i really really like beyond belief want to talk to his kid. what should i do to talk to him. his sister is on my sisters soccer team and thats where i see him. what should i do to talk to him i dont want to just walk up to him and be like "hi whats your name?" because to me that would just be weird. Aslso hes always around his mom or dad because he doesnt know anyone there he only talks to them too and sometimes his other sister when shes there. How do i get him away from them for time to talk without it being awkward? im really shy and scared to look like and idiot in front of him and him think im a loser. please help me!!! (link)
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15/F
If im really into a guy and I dont want to look like an idiot just walking up too him I usually wait till noone is really around and then I creep up and just say something like Hey! you are a really good soccer player. Guys like it when you give them compliments no matter what you say they liked to be praised even if your lying. Kind of like they always Have to be right! Dont be shy hes just another kid if he doesnt laugh along with you or start up a convo. then give it time dont let it get akward ask him questions like
1)how long hes been playing soccer
2) what school he goes too.
Simple things. If you feel it getting akward you should just be like well it was great meeting you good luck on your next game ;or something like that. Dont act nervous guys like confident girls(:
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ok so theres this guy that i went out with this summer and we brokeup. i still really really like him and i talk to him still and were fwb(friends wiht benefits)and everything and he tells me how much he really really likes me and im all he thinks about and he says he wants to be wiht me but his sports, work, and school get in the way for him to have a girlfriend. and he doesnt want to hurt me again well the past week or so he hasnt really called and when icall him he is always hey can i call u back and he never does and ya i dont know if he still likes me or what but i dont know if i should wait for him or i should move on!!
please let me know soon i have wanted to knoe for awhile (link)
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15/F
If I was you I would give him space maybe text him or write him a message on myspace or facebook and just be like Hey! when you arent busy we should hangout sometime. Or something like that. He probably likes you ; you said hes always busy with sports and work and school maybe he is really busy. If I was you I would wait till I know I can get him alone and he cant be busy. Maybe around 10:30 - 11 ish call him or text him and just be like hey! how was your day or something. Ask him how everything went you dont want him to stop likeing you because your clingy all guys like a chase. Give him the chance to call you or write you when hes not busy. Even if it takes a couple days if he really really likes you eventually he will make a move(:
Hope I helpedd!
Im here if you need anymore advice
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Ugh. He was perfect, but ended up cheating on me with his ex.
I just can't get over him. I broke up with him last Saturday and EVERY night I dream about him-- us getting back together, arguing, or being happy together. I know he doesn't want me back because he HASN'T called or anything. I can still smell him (in a good way, lol), I can't get his kisses out of my head or the way he held me or the laughs we had, and especially his smile. This is my first heartbreak it SURE hurts a lot. I'm SO SICK of love songs, every song reminds me of him. I'm athletic and try to stay busy, but nothing is working. I do NOT want to talk to any other guys because I'm not over him/I'm scared of getting hurt again. I don't know what to do!
What should I do? I just want to be done with him. (link)
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If you want to be done with him cut yourself off from him for good. Delete his number, his myspace, his facebook, messages you guys had together, pictures you had together. Dont let yourself change because of this guy. Go out and enjoy yourself do what you normally do. Act strong around him even if you are about to break. Act like you are better then him and you are obviously he cheated on you, you cant get worst then that. Hes low. You need to go on with life,do things that keep your mind off him ; there is other fish in the sea(;
Hope I helped(:
If you need anymore advice im here
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Ive liked this girl for a really long time, all through school since middle school and now at the end of HS, but she doesn't like me back and i know this for a fact so why can't i let it go and move on? I try and try but something has a hold on me. What should i do? I know i should find someone else but its hard. (link)
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Maybe you should try your hardest and try and find someone else. I know this is going to be hard and im sure you have heard this before but there is other fish in the sea(: You have to tell yourself that she is not the only girl out there that you will ever really like. Your ending HS; you still have many many more years to go(: And after high school most people go their seperate ways anyway. There is another person out there for you , you just got to find her(:
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okay so i was afraid to tell the guy im in love with.. that i'm in love with him!! well i did..
theres a big age difference.. but before i told him the news.. he told me that he loved me as just his best friend.. that he loved me as his girlfried. its been four years that we have been this close... when he told me he loved me i said please dont.. that i had convinced myself i didnt love him like that anymore.. but i came clean and told him that i loved him and that i always have and always will. then i said forget i said that because i didnt want to lose him but he said dont be afriad to say that!!!! he didnt say that he loved me back.. but he lives far away.. and he has a girlfriend... am i to late? should i just run to see him when i turn eighteen?? i dont want to lose him..but im afraid he will now that i said the words I'M IN LOVE WITH YOU!!
What do i do!!!!!!!!!!!!! i will never turn back on thoughs words.. please help me.. i wont lose him!
sincerely mickeyc! (link)
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Okay if I was you he cant be too great because hes saying I love you to you and dating someone else at the same time. No matter how you look at it he isnt being completely sincere to his girlfriend OR you. If the age difference is that huge than chances is he is experienced and hes having sex with his girlfriend. That really has nothing to do with it but I mean most likely that is what hes doing despite if he says he is or not. And also if he lives far away then what are the chances of you guys actually having a future anyways when you turn 18 by the time you turn 18 he will prob. be with someone and ready to settle down. Who knows? But I mean just watch out he lives far away who knows what kind of stuff he may do.
Hope I helped(:
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So there's this guy I like (let's call him A). He started hanging around with our friend group about a month and a half ago. The day we met, A talked to me quite a bit, made eye contact with me. The next day, everyone was saying that he thought I was really hot. However, he did have a girlfriend (G) at this point. One night after that, we were all out, a bunch of people, and it was dark and A came up to me and asked if I wanted to sit on his skateboard with him. Whenever someone asked him about G, he always acted really disinterested.
From then on, A would always smile and talk to me if he saw me at school, as well as high fiving me, staring at me a lot, and doing things like making me wear his hat. Out of school, he would always sit next to me, compliment my clothes and seemed really happy when he found out we're going to the same college next year.
Then, while I was away for a week, A and G split up. When I got up, he was the same, always looking happy to see me and hugging me all the time.
We went camping just over a week ago, and everyone told me A wanted to share a tent with me. There were actually four of us in the tent, but me and A did sleep next to each other. However, G made an appearance that night, and he did seem to talk to me less when she was around.
Then I went round his with a bunch of other people, including this girl (W), A hugged me and acted the same as usual, but I couldn't help but notice that him and W seemed pretty close. When I dropped obvious hints that I would have liked to sleep in his double bed with him, he didn't acknowledge them, and then W slept there instead.
A few days later, I was out and someone mentioned that A and W had had sex and there was something going on between them but it seemed to be a secret. It was this same day that A was constantly complimenting me, putting his arm around me and basically hanging out with me all the time. We were standing next to each other, and he just started playing with my hands and then he held my hand and didn't say anything. Later, I asked if anyone wanted to come to the cinema, A straight away said, "I'll go!" He asked who else was coming, and when I said I didn't know, he said "It'll just be me and you then." jokily. However, W showed up a bit later and then he didn't really speak to me that much.
The next day, although we didn't go to the cinema, we were both out and he kept apologising about not being able to go, and we kept making eye contact, like the kind you make when you both understand something that no one else does. But then when we were all talking, someone teased A about making a move on me (S), and A said, "No, I wouldn't make a move on S. Unless she wants me to." and then he looked me right in the eye and we just stared at each other while everyone else carried on talking :S
Later, everyone was ahead of me and A, we were walking and he put his arm around me, and then asked who I was going to prom with. I said I didn't know, and he asked me if I'd go to prom with him. Embarrassingly, I acted all shocked that he didn't have a date and asked him why he wasn't going with anyone. He said that he was going to go with G but then they broke up, and then he was going to go with W but if he did, everyone would think they were together, when they're not. So he wanted to go with me.
That night, he texted me asking if I wanted to go to the cinema the next day, just me and him. I said maybe, but then he didn't reply and the next day he still didn't, so I just went out and he did too and said that he thought I was gonna call, and then (in front of other people), "We're not gonna be alone now then..". Later he made me promise him I'd go with him sometime soon, and referred to it to someone else as "our first date."
A couple days ago, loads of people were round, and me and him slept in the same bed and we spooned and held hands all night, and my friend said he was staring at me all the time. But then the next morning W phoned him, and someone else was talking to her and said something about me and A, and A looked really worried. He also said that W thinks he fancies me, and then joked around saying "Because I do, just kidding". But then jokily said to me that him and W were just friends. Since then, we've been texting and he always asks questions, which means he must want to carry on talking, but then he always takes ages to reply.
He's always complimenting me, saying things like, "I really like the way you dress.", "I love your (insert item of clothing here)", "You look gorgeous.", "I think you're a lovely girl.", "Your hair looks nice." etc. and although he's a bit of a charmer, I havn't noticed him complimenting any other girls half as much. He always notices little things about me, and comments on them and asks me questions about them. He ALWAYS sticks up for me and helps me out and asks me about my interests.
I'm pretty sure he likes me, but the problem is know there's also something going on between him and W.
How can I:
get him to like me more?
move our relationship forward?
find out more about him and W
and, What do you think everything he's done means?
Please don't tell me to give up on him, because I've already decided I'm not going to do that.
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Hey that was long and king of counfusing with the letters, but ill try and answer your question the best I can(:
Alright it sounds like G is into you but it also sounds like W and G have a thing going on too. If I was you I would play hard to get. You said he takes a long time to text you back, starting now you should wait around 10-15 minutes before you text him back. I doubt G is just going to think your not interested in him, if anything I think it will make him more focused on trying to get your attention and in that case stop talking to W as much because he is so focused on whats going on with you. Dont over due it though, if G invites you to the cinema and you are free and want to go let him know that you can make it and that you would enjoy going but at the same time act 50% interested and 50% not interested ; most guys like a chase. If he comes up to you at school and tries and holds your hand just move it casually look at him in the eyes and smile. If he compliments you just say Thank-you followed by a quick smile(: And if you do want to text him one night if he doesnt before you write something simple like hey! Basically play hard to get. He will fade away from W because he is trying to get all your attention on him. Therefore he will be way more interested in whats going on with you. Leave him wanting more(;
Hope I helpedd!
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yeah i kno this prolyl is a stupid question
nyways
well my guy friends they most of them take me as a "sister"
is that better than being a friend?
closer?? (link)
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when i guy would say they see me as a sister. i would think it would just make him feel like he can tell you anything and he knos i wont judge him. he doesnt see you as anything past just as a Extremly good friend who he feels can trust you with everything. closer as love life i wouldnt think that would make him like you more then friends, if all of them see you as a sister. but thats my opinion.
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my friend wants me to hook her up with this guy and hes my x and i still like him but i told her i would but i really wanna go bak out wit hhim and i dont know what to do (link)
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well thats pretty messed up in the first place that your friend wants to go out with your X in my opinion. but if i was you i would talk to him for urself. hes your X not your friends and your friend can find another guy. just see if you and your X have a chance again. and if you do go back out with him. hope i helpeed. :D
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So I asked a question a couple of days ago about my boyfriend who was constantly hanging out with his ex (who's a slut and cheated on him multiple times) and I thought he didn't like me and whatnot. But anyway, he cheated on me, and I was extremely hurt... he told me that he'd never hurt me and that I deserved the best, and I actually caught him and his ex making out. Now I haven't talked to him in 3 days, but I've seen him and he looks extremely depressed and he keeps saying he's so sorry. And now it makes me feel horrible for not talking to him because he seems so sincere and apologetic, and he keeps telling me that he understands it if I don't wanna talk to him... but I just feel bad for ignoring him. But I was just so damn hurt by what he did I didn't even want to look at him. But I still feel horrible, he just looked so sad and I just ignored him. Am I doing the right thing by not talking to him? I miss him. (link)
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well okay, i think that if he cheated on you once unless he seriously loved you like nothing else ever before then i think he would do it again. maybe not right away. but in time maybe. im not sure what kind of a person he usually is and idk him so its kind of hard. but i think by most guys at my school they act sad so you feel bad and then when they have you and are all on you saying they love you when they think you really love them they go and do stuff again. if i was you i would talk to him, tell him how hurt you were and about that you would like to give him a second chance or if you think hes going to eventually do it again. tell him you think you guys should just be friends so you dont have to worry about him and his X. idk he might be trying to hurt his X like she hurt him. hopefully talking to him about how bad it hurt you when you found out about what he did with his X might help you out and help you make your decision about what you want too do. hope i helped. :D
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I just moved to North Carolina about 2 months ago and I don't really know
that many people and not too long ago I met this boy and he and I started
dating about 2 and a half weeks ago.
The first week or so of knowing him was great..and we talked constantly
until one of us had to go. And then once we started dating it seemed like
we'd just run out of things to talk about.. I barely know him so I know its
almost impossible for us to have run out of things to talk about.
I just want to get to know him.. but i don't know what to ask him. Can you
help me come up with things to talk about? What about dating ideas? (link)
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okay welll ask him if he does sports and you can ask him how his days are. and what his favorite teachers are, and what his favorite color, subject is. if he has any siblings. or any pets. just ask him what he likes too do on his free timee. && you might be able to google something and get websites that have more things to talk about. well hope i helpeed! :D
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My bgf is a flirt and i know that. But he doesnt at least i guess not. In our bio. class he talks to a bunch of girls and kinda flrits with them and i know he flirts with other girls. Or 'overly friendly' as he calls it. Well not exactly hes just like 'im just talking to them' and im like 'sure' *sarcasm* haha But he says he likes me and acts like it so my question is do guys just naturally (well some of them) just flirt without even realizing it? i kinda do but im kinda aware of it. It doesnt bug me tho which is weird because i can get pretty jealous but i guess its because i know he cares about me. :D he does it right in front of me and then next pd will be totally flirting with me! Does he just not realize it? just like a habit? my friend was like you may not be happy but i heard he was flirting w/another girl and i was like i know he does it right in front of me so im sure he does it in front of other girls. haha but is it just sumthing certain guys do a lot? Cause hes def. not the type of guy to hook up w/random girls or anything like that. Hes very good haha. thanks! (link)
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okay well this happened with me and my mannn! okay i talked to him about it and he said that he doesnt think its flirting and i was talking to his best friend and he was like nope alex (my bf) doesnt think its flirting he thinks hes just being nice. and i was like okayy welll yeah i will have to talk to him if he is constantly doingg this stuff. so i was talking to him and he was just like "im so sorry i didnt mean it as anything, i just thought that it was being nice." and i was just like "okayy" and now he kinda stopped or he doesnt do it as much. he talks about his X constantly but he stops when he looks at me. hes like "sorry i mean lets just talk about something else" and yeah. if he keeps doing it you can just talk to himm. but yeah i guess guys just think flirting is something different then what chickks think! :D
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Does anyone know how to find out what the age of legal dating is in your state? I live in pennsylvania and I want to know if the age when
dating a minor is illegal like 17 or 18 or what.I already searched for it but I didn't really know how to phrase it and didn't get anything helpful. Thanks!!! (link)
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i was talkinggg to my mom and she said the dating age is up to the parents. not like a legal thingg. so im guessing you can date at w.e age but im not 100% positiveeeee! hope i helppped!
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okay well my boyfriends birthday is comming up i had a real cool thing picked out. a minnasota vikings jersey but with his last name on the back instead. but i guess he already had a million jerseys so that wont work.
any ideas on what to get him i can spend like 50 bucks.
he likes sports but NO jerseys.
please help ik i should know what to get him but its so soon and i thought i had it figured out now im just really in need of quick help. (link)
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well you could always ask him what his favorite store is. and thenn give him like a $50 gift card. and go with him shoppingg.
Hopee i helpped! :D
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hey everyone!!
quick question, well i really like this guy and we ride the same bus, and I HAVE NO IDEA HOW 2 FLIRT WITH HIM!!! Any ideas or advice on how to flirt with a guy on the bus? im 14/f and kinda shy
anything will help!!
thanks sooo much!! (link)
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well you could mess with his handd. and just act stupidd. sounds like a badd idea. but i do it ALLL the time withh my mann and its funn :D and it acts like your not uptight and he will probably juust laugh and go alongg with it! talk to him bout his dayy. and just look at him in his eyes. all the time. and then when he looks at you in the eyes count to 1 and then look up or aroundd. and then the second time he looks at you just count too 2 and laugh. and then mess with his hand like touch it and be like sorry didnt mean to do that. or something! andd mess with your hair. and smillee constantly! haha! havvee funn! && hope i helpeddd!
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sorry i didn't know what to put this under but, i have a problem with my makeup staying on for a long time. No matter what i do it just wont stay on for more than an hour unless i keep puttin it on, especially the eyeliner. Any tips on how to get the eyeliner to last longer atleast? (link)
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im not sure bout that. but you can keep asking friends and stuff what eyeliner they use and what stays on the longest for themm. hope i helpedd! :D
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