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I have been going through a really tough time. My serious relationship of 3 yeas ended. The guy ditched me just before marriage. This my 3rd relationship failure. I'm 32. People around me are getting married and kids. I don't have many friends. I'm alone ans cry everyday. My confidence is shaking. I don't hv anyone to share my deepest feelings. I regret many things in life. I feel anxiety thinking about
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Hey I completely understand. I just turned 30 and my boyfriend and I broke up a couple weeks before my birthday. I have been thinking that I’m never going to meet someone and marry the right person and have children. It’s hard, so I get what you are going through. For depression, anxiety and stress I went through my dr and they prescribed me bupropion which kind of helps, but what I’ve noticed has helped me the most is going on long walks and finding things about myself I want to work on and focusing on that. I’m told when you stop looking and focus on yourself, sometimes people come into your life and supervise you. Idk if that helped at all, but I’m here if you still need someone to talk to.
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Hi,could anyone explain the meaning of, 'you should have known me by now' as he says. We're fiends by the way, only known for a month. We joke around and when I don't understand his jokes, he goes and say, I thought you knew me, you should have known me by now' and I say I do but I don't get your jokes and we just laugh. I feel like he's trying to say something. Whenever we make an eye contact we just laugh. I've caught him gazing at me frequently and he always holds that gaze when I'm talking. am I on the wrong side here? Am I thinking too much? Thanks. (link)
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Maybe you could try sitting down and talking with him and explain to him how you feel. You may overthinking it, because honestly that's pretty common for a girl to do.
I have a best friend who I still don't really know, but I know a lot about her. We've been friends for almost 2 years now.
Maybe you could approach him with these words by saying, you are a little confused and unsure when he's actually being himself. It takes more than a month to really get to know someone.
I hope I kind of helped.
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I found out today that my best guy friend that I've been crushing on years has just asked a frined of mine. Before this he kept flirting me,caring about me. Making me believe that we were more than friends. I had just work up the courage to tell him. I was going to tell how I feel on friday. Than i hear this "great" piece of news. The crazy part is that i'm not mad. I don't want to cry, i don't wanna break anything. Honestly i just feel nothing. I feel nothing, i'm numb. I don't know if i'm ok with it our just in shock to feel anything. I feel played, he really lead to me to believe that he liked me. Dagger in the heart. However, the girl he asked out. I like her, me and her our good friends. I don't hate her at all. I don't even hate him. I'm so confused. Why am I not feeling anything? However, her answer was maybe. Part of me whats her to say yes so i can let it go. The other part wants her to shoot him down cold. So what do i do now? Tell him how i feel? shut up? move on? stay in the same place? Or simpy step out of the way and ignore him. (link)
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my opinion, is that you should share with him how you feel and that you like him before he and her get together. If you tell him when they possibly hook up, it'll cause major drama and make someone mad, but if you tell him before she gives him a real answer it gives him more time to think of how he feels about you. idk if he likes you or not, cause I don't know what he's done to lead you on. I wish you the best of luck and hope that i helped.
your friend, lulabell aka lulu
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okay this is really wierd, but whenever me and my boyfriend have sex i always end up getting really wet.. and like idk are you suppossed to get that wet. dose it make sex feel better for guys when girls get like that ? idk i just dont want sex to suck cause im like a waterslide down there. (link)
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I normally dont answer questions like these...and i've never had sex but i was told in sex-ed that it makes things alot easier for guys when you're wet down there.
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OK so i like this guy and he is one of my best friends.i have known him sence 1st grade. his dad and my dad work with eachother so i get to see him kinda a lot.
i dont think he likes me but then again you never know.I really want to ask him out but i dont want to ruin our friendship. should i just keep on being friends with him? being friends with him is really fun because he is really nice and all theese 7th graders like him. i really dont know if i should ask him out or keep being friends with him!!
please help!!
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ask him to hangout sometime....the next time yall hangout just ask him what he thinks of you. Ask him if he likes being friends with you and if he says ya, then ask him if he could see it going further than just friends. If he says no, then say alright. Tell him you like him a little more than a friend, but if he wants to just be friends it's cool. I've been in the very same situation as you girl and it's gonna happen a lot. if he starts talking to you less after you say you like him a little more than a friend, give him some space for a while.....if things dont turn around then i suggest to move on and make better friends. If he enjoys being your friend as much as he says he does he'll stick around...if he doesn't stick around then that shows he really doesn't care that much. Alrighty girl, hope i helped.
Your friend, lulabell aka lulu
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19/female. usually i'm a confident girl, that is only when i KNOW i look good. if i'm having a bad hair day, or my make-up doesnt turn out, if i don't have anything cute to wear it has an effect on my self-esteem.
& the real problem is with this guy i like. well i have mixed feelings, i'm really attracted to him. all the girls love him! me and him are kinda close friends and so he's seen me with no make-up on and my hair NOT done, and i felt so ugly! everytime i feel good, i never see him and it seems like everytime i feel horrible, i see him! and it's not helping the situation.
why can't i see him when i look hot!? hahaaa.
it's ruining my game!(: (link)
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Ask him if he wants to go out and eat something sometime or go see a movie...anything. Most guys don't care if your wearing makeup at all. It's actually been scientifically proven that more guys today would prefer a girl to not wear makeup than wear makeup. I do know how you feel....I can't leave my house without wearing makeup and my boyfriend says he thinks i'm hot without any makeup on. You need to be you all the time. Don't let the entire makeup thing bring you down. Anyways, if you have anymore questions i'm here for you.
Your friend, lulabell aka lulu
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PLEASE ANSWER ASAP.....!!!!!!!!!
okay so my best friend just told me that one of our guy friends has a crush on her and thinks she is hot ... but he moved away to somewhere like 17 hours away. BUT THE PROBLEM IS.... that he said "i think you are hot" (to my friend) and then he said "but your other friend ___(me)___ is not, i never thought she was hot" SO NOW... i am totally depressed cause i think that i am ugly and i feel ugly. i know that one persons opinion means nothing really especially since i dont even like this guy. UGH .... so now i have really low self esteem and i am kinda mad for my friend to tell me this .....it is kinda like bragging. so now i am kinda mad at her for saying like that he thought she was hot and i am ugly. so what do i do cause i dont wanna be mad at her and i am losing confidence in myself :( ANSWER ASAP!!!!!
thnxs :) :( (link)
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okay, this is what i say...if she's your friend then she should of been careful the way she told you about what happened. My opinion on girls is that every girl is beautiful. Guys do have different opinions and tastes on girls these days. I don't really understand it, but you shouldn't really care what this guy thinks about you. just be happy that a guy thinks your friend's pretty. I don't know you, but i'm sure you are much prettier than i am. Just be yourself and put some nice unique you style into your life. Guys like girls who are themselves, so just do that. I know you can do it girl. :) Hope i helped atleast a little.
Your friend, lulabell aka lulu
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My boyfriend of over 4yrz cheated on me, he was drunk and kissed another girl...Do you think I should forgive him??? He been crying and is truly sorry he said, and he said he was drunk and it didnt mean anything at all..I found out becoz the girl told me..this was over 1 month ago...Now he is not friends with her and wants nothing to do with her at all.( they used to be really good friends) thats all that had happen a kiss. (link)
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so if it was a one day thing, then i say forgive the guy. Everybody makes mistakes, and thats okay...but if he's under 21 he shouldn't be drinking in the first place. Stuff like that really messes you up.Anyways, I'm glad to know that he hasn't cheated on you....cause then that shows a great commitment. Anways if you ever need to talk, i'm here.
your friend, Lulabell aka lulu
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Well I like a couple girls but I like one more but I dont know if they like me a all I can say I'm not the best looking but I'm also not the worst. Any advice. (link)
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Okay well i'm just gonna let you know that girls like a nice smelling guy, so get some cologne and spray it on baby. I'm not saying that's gonna change everything, but you just need to be yourself. A girl likes a guy who can be himself and maybe crack a joke from time to time. if you need anymore tips i can give you some. Hope i helped.
Your friend, lulabell aka lulu
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Theres this guy i really like and he likes me too and we were gunna get together but he kissed one of my best mates and it was werid so nothing happened. thing is its been 2 month and we still both like each other only he likes my mate and there both goin my party on friday and im affraid there gunna kiss and ruin my party for me! (link)
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First of all if this guy so called likes you, he wouldn't be kissing some other girl. If he does though and he really did kiss another girl, talk to him about it. Ask him why he did that. If they're both coming to your party, make a rule for there to be no pda. Or simply ask them both to control themselves. If i were you i'd feel terrible as well and i understand sweetheart. So this is my advice to you, find a guy who is willing to pretend to be your party escort or date and let him know whats up. When yall are at the party together and he happens to kiss her or the other way around, you do the same. I don't normally give advice like this, but my friend told me this and i thought it was a cute idea. alright hope i helped.
your friend, lulabell aka lulu
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ALRIGHTYY! So I'm dating this guy, and he's pretty cool. It's only been like two weeks that we've started dating. I just have this really iffy questionable feeling about this whole thing. He has a real good personality....buuut i'm really not that physically attracted to him. I know people say "looks aren't everything" but in my opinion that is complete bull shit, because hell they matter to everyone at my age! (16.) We've hung out like four times, we've done like everything "sexual" to do except sex and oral. That doesn't matter. But I don't know,when he left my house last night and my brother told me he looked like a rat, I really quickly thought i'd break up with him. I know, sounds so terrible! He's a real cool guy, a good personality. It's just I have other guys talking to me, and I feel at this age I shouldn't be tied down to someone that I have an iffy feeling about in the first place! But then again, I'm worried If I break up withh him the next day I'll totally be regretting it. I don't know, so confused! Can anyone help me out here? (link)
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give it a couple days more...and girl it's not all about the looks. it's especially not about the sex. who cares what other people think. ya it's nice to have a good looking guy in you're life, but what matters is if you can have a good time and be yourself around him. I just want you to know something i've learned in science is that more people are attracted to guys with a better personality than there actual looks. I hope i didn't affend you in any way, but i also hope that i helped you out. If you ever need anymore help i'm here for you.
Your friend, lulabell aka lulu
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I'm 17 years old and i suffer from major depression. about a year go i had my first love and lost my virginaty around this time. We only dated for a month but i truely did love him... everything about him scared me because i never felt that way about anyone. i got really high one day when i was with him and my mind told me i didnt need him. it was the hardest break up ever but for some reason it didnt bother me till later that day. Not even a week went by and i found out he had sex with my bestfriend (at the time). and it hit me hard. i went into such bad depression i didnt even want to get up in the morning. all i did was eat and sleep. i gained 30 pounds in a matter of 3 months (not even). and now 10months later i'm the same weight. it sucks. I have a boy in my t we're not offical just yet and everyday i think about my first and how much i wish i coudl take it back and how i wish i was still with him and how much he still means to me. i go to his myspace almost everyday and just wonder how it would of been if i was still with him. p.s. he knows i gained weight and told me i look like a cow and to lose it. that just mad me cry.... help (link)
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first of all if you "love him" i say go with heart girl. nobodies going to stop you, but from what you've said about him and what he's said to you it's not worth it. Why? because a guy should never talk to a girl like that. You're beautiful in God's eyes, and i don't know you but i'm sure youare gorgeous. You just need to be yourself and pray everyday. I've suffered from depression so much...i don't know about you're past, but i'm sure we are alike in many ways. I've been in love 5 times...and the guy i'm with now is real love. you're going to experience what you think is love, but really is lust and needyness. I know how feel girl. i've gained alot of weight to, but my boyfriend who has been with me the longest now for 1 year and 3 months doesn't care about my weight. see if a guy loves you and really cares about you, he wouldn't care about your weight or appearance. Yes he may worry about you, but he wouldn't call you a cow and force you or tell you what to do about it. my best advice for now is to drink lots of water and go jogging for atleast 25 min everyday. trust me, you will feel alot better. I find it takes alot of stress and depression off yourself. I believe in you girl, so have faith and God will be with you in every step of the way. if you need help or have anymore questions, you let me know. i'm here for you.
your friend, Lulabell aka lulu
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My boyfriend of 5 months hasen't talked to me in 5 days and I'm wondering if he dosen't like me anymore I have called him but there is no answer and he won't return my calls!Is he going to dump me?Oh and I am from Canada. (link)
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well if it's a long distance you have something t worry about. normally long distance relationships don't last. especially during the school years. i've been in 3 long distance relationships and they never worked out. my advice to you is to send him a message and let him know that you're done, so he doesn't break up with you first. Girl you need to move on and try to have a relationship with someone close to you. if this is not a long distance relationship, then go find the boy and ask him whats going on. No guy should just all of the sudden not talk to a girl in 5 day straight. That's rude and just plain wrong. My advice to you is to throw it all away and start over with something new and better. you got alot going for ya, expecially if you live in canada. Canada girls are beautiful, so don't ever think you cant just get a boyfriend there. I believe in you and if you have anymore questions, you let me know and i'm there for ya.
your friend, Lulabell aka lulu
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I have been texting and chatting it up with this guy for a pretty long time and we were getting really into eachother. We both admitted that we liked eachother. For the last six days he has not text me back or anything, but I got my friend to text him and he text her right back. Now his relationship status in In a Relationship.
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well first of all, if a guy doesn't respond within 6 days that usually means something. Maybe he's moving on. I don't know if you know this person in person, but if you don't thats probably not a good thing at all. my advice to you, is to not text the guy for the sam amount of days he's ignored you. usually guys miss the attention when girls stop talking to them all of a sudden and come marching back to you. If that's what happens, start talking again...but start asking questions. If the guy is in a relationship now, you have the right to be friends with him if you want but don't go overboard. Give him some space. Give him some time to think about things. I know there's someone special out there for you. the right guy will find you and you'll know it when it happens.
Your friend, Lulabell aka lulu
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Okay, so I am 17 years old and a senior in high school, and my boyfriend graduated last year and went to college this fall. A lot of my friends tell me that I should break up with him so we could date people that we could see all the time, but i really like him and I dont want to end a relationship of 10 months just because i miss him. Meanwhile, theres another guy who likes me that goes to my school, and i kind of like him but i really love my boyfriend. What should I do??? (link)
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okay hun here's what you gotta do....if you love this boy, i mean really love him you'll stick with him, but my advice to you today is to take a break from him for a while since he's gonna be in college. Guys in college tend to get put in risky situations with other girls. Now if you say you love the guy, but you kinda like another guy that means "problems" because i've been in that situation before myself. I've been in love 5 times in my life and the guy i'm with now is real love. I'm not saying that you'r love is real or not real, but you got to experiment and get to dating other guys before deciding you love someone. When i was 16 i had a very sweet boyfriend and everything about him was perfect to me. i thought he was everything and that i was in love with him, but i started liking another guy. You see when you're with someone and you so call "love them" you're confidence boosts and other guys find that very attractive. I say give this other guy a chance and if things don't workout, there are plenty of other fish in the sea. As a senior in high school sweetheart, you shouldn't be looking for love...atleast not yet. Give it some time. you still have college yourself. Anyways, hope i helped.
Your friend, LULABELL aka LULU
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