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where do i go from here
I found out today that my best guy friend that I've been crushing on years has just asked a frined of mine. Before this he kept flirting me,caring about me. Making me believe that we were more than friends. I had just work up the courage to tell him. I was going to tell how I feel on friday. Than i hear this "great" piece of news. The crazy part is that i'm not mad. I don't want to cry, i don't wanna break anything. Honestly i just feel nothing. I feel nothing, i'm numb. I don't know if i'm ok with it our just in shock to feel anything. I feel played, he really lead to me to believe that he liked me. Dagger in the heart. However, the girl he asked out. I like her, me and her our good friends. I don't hate her at all. I don't even hate him. I'm so confused. Why am I not feeling anything? However, her answer was maybe. Part of me whats her to say yes so i can let it go. The other part wants her to shoot him down cold. So what do i do now? Tell him how i feel? shut up? move on? stay in the same place? Or simpy step out of the way and ignore him.
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Hey there,
The reason you feel nothing, is because he hasn't truly shown his love for you, you are a little stunned by this, or you are still unsure about your own feelings. I think he kind of did play you if he flirted with you and lead you on, then asked someone else out. The part of you that wants to let it go, is telling you that you know he is a great guy and she deserves someone like him as well or you want to support him in his decision, but then the other part is your heart feeling the love you really have for him.
You shouldn't shoot him down cold. I think you feel this way for you are saying in your head "how could he do this to me?", But then inside, you still like him and know he is a good guy. You are stuck in the moment, which could be why you feel nothing.
I would take him aside or get some alone time with him when your friend isn't around. You should tell him how you feel, he may never know otherwise. Don't keep it inside, try not to be lost in the moment, and don't just shut him out And lose him to another girl. Once he realizes what just happened, he will come back down to your level and just be there for you and with you; At the least, as a friend to start.
I don't know if his flirting was meant to be real, maybe you should ask him how he feels about you.. if he says he feels the same way, im sure changes will be made. If it was all just for show, then support your friend. Someone better is out there waiting for you <3
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my opinion, is that you should share with him how you feel and that you like him before he and her get together. If you tell him when they possibly hook up, it'll cause major drama and make someone mad, but if you tell him before she gives him a real answer it gives him more time to think of how he feels about you. idk if he likes you or not, cause I don't know what he's done to lead you on. I wish you the best of luck and hope that i helped.
your friend, lulabell aka lulu
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