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I'm just an average person. I love to help people out :) it makes me feel better about myself. I've been in a lot of situations so I can most likely relate to a lot of your problems. I know what it feels like to not have anyone to talk to about your problems, which is why i'm an advicenator. I'm ready to help people and be there for everyone who needs advice or just a companion to speak out to. I'm always here if you need me, don't hesitate to drop a question or even just a vent/rant note about a problem to my advice column inbox. I respond to all of them regardless of the topic. I'm upfront and abrupt about my answers and never sugarcoat. Take my advice or not, but i'm just doing my job :)Played volleyball for over 10 years, also a coach. I love to try new things. Currently I'm trying the new sport of tennis and learning about my passion of photography.
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okay i know not that long ago i was saying my boyfriend (h.m) was hanging out with jerks and stuff well i tried some of it and it didnt work....hes been avoiding me so tomorrow imma break up with him...but i dontknow how i should do it... help before tuesday
Say you need to talk to him about something and was wondering when you two could meet. Then when you see him face to face, just say that you aren't happy with how the relationship is going and want to see other people. Be honest about it and say how you feel. Also, make sure you give him a chance to speak and make sure you listen to what he has to say.
Sorry for the length in advance. I'm 16/f and over the past few months I keep catching my ex boyfriend looking at me. when we walk past eachother we always have awkward eye contact and when I walk into a class he always looks up really quickly, realises its me then and realises I'm looking at him, then looks down again. We did have a 'thing' going on some months before but he stopped talking to me. He always used to text me first and when he stopped I didn't text him because I thought he'd gone off me. Then a few months later he tweeted that he hates texting girls first because it makes him feel unwanted and I wondered if that's what he felt with me or whether he did actually want to stop talking to me? If he doesnt want to talk to me anymore, what is with all this eye contact!? I'm so confused!
He probably feels just as confused as you. Imagine if you were in his shoes.. still interested in your ex, so you text them all the time, but then you get confused because maybe it seems like he doesn't want you back.
I'm guessing that's what he felt. He probably wanted you back but wasn't sure how you'd feel about it.
There's that saying that goes "if you love something, set it free. if it comes back to you then it was supposed to be".. well maybe he "set you free" by stop talking to you. If you text him back, you "came back to him" because you made the effort to talk to him.
my parents are treating me like im a 5 year old because my boyfriends step aunt called and said i was acting like a child and now i am no longer to be with my boyfriend and im 24 and i love him a lot and he loves me to. i dont think that they are being very fair! my question is how do i tell them i want to stay with im no matter what?
well you are 24... in the united states you are legally an adult when you turn 18. so since you're an adult, you control your own life. you make your own decisions for yourself. if you're 24 and you still have your parents telling you what to do.. then its time to act like an adult and stand up for yourself. Talk to your parents and tell them you're an adult and you can do whatever you want, without having them tell you what to do, how to do it etc.
if they don't like it, then thats their problem. when you're an adult, you live your OWN INDEPENDENT life.. yeah sure your parents are still a part of your life, but they don't have a say in what you can do anymore.
ask them, "did your parents still control you when you were 24?"
if you don't have the courage to say those things, then say you want to improve your lifestyle by making your own independent choices, and you feel that your relationship with this guy is a decision that YOU need to make, not them.
good luck!
hey im so sorry for getting back at you so late! everything you said its so true. guess what? that kid does have a girl. I just cant believe it after all the things he told me that he didn't have a girl well he actually did. I feel more bad for her because he denies her. but oh well life goes on and im happy. the last time we talked was on December 25,2011 and today he called me, I dont know why. im still curious but i didn't picked up because i was showering. Im not going to call him back because im not going to hurt myself again.!
good for you :) it sounds like you know exactly what you want and you don't need him or anyone else to stop you :) keep on living life and have a blast.. let love find you. in other words, don't go looking for another guy. just let it happen and he will come to you :)
Have fun and be happy :) you're only young once so liveee itt uppppp
Absolutleylove love this advice. Did you ended up hanging out with him?I don't understand guys halfof the time but we just have to deal with it. I tested this guy and he never wrote back. .it's been 2 days already!! I'm just going to let him be. He called the other day but I didn't pick up. Before that I had told him I used to see his calls but wouldn't pickup. Because he asked why haven't I replied to his texts! I'm confused and disappointed :(
unfortunately, no i did not end up hanging out with him :( he said he was "sick"..
I cried myself to sleep that night, but the next morning I woke up with a smile. You know why? because he showed me that I can find someone better than him. i can find someone who will WANT to hang out with me, even though he is sick. He showed me that I can do so much better.
Your situation is a little confusing because he hasn't texted or called you in 2 days, which shows that he is uninterested. But he asked why you didn't reply back, which means he was thinking about you and is curious whats going on.
He is playing mind games with you. I suggest trying to find a way to talk to him in person and discuss how you feel and ask him how he feels about you. it seems like he's uncertain what he wants. Do yourself a favor, save a heartbreak and find out what his emotions are by talking to him in person. If he doesn't feel the same way about you, he isn't worth your time and you can find someone so much better :)
I have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years and we have hit a dull spot and now all we do it fight and I have tried to give him space but its not working it just seems he is pulling further and further away what should I do?
Think of a relationship as a 2 way street. There's 2 people, that have 2 parts. If one of you isn't doing your part, it just gets messy and complicated. You or your boyfriend aren't doing your part in the relationship and that is why you guys aren't getting along right now.
My best advice is to just let things happen by itself. Give him space and if he does pull further away, then let him because it wasn't mean't to be in the first place. If you give him space, and he pulls away but then realizes that he wants to be with you, then it is mean't to be. Key note- just let things happen and don't try to force a relationship to happen.
Try talking to him and see what's bothering him. Solve out your issues one problem by another. If the situation starts getting tense like you are raising your voices, take a deep breathe and remind him that you need to talk about it and not argue.
Good luck!
hi we have been dating for a years and everything is going good. my question is, when we have sex my boyfriend asks me to finger his bum hole and as i do what he says because i love him. so, guys does this makes him what? i don't understand or is this just a normal guy thing? thanks.
it probably means he's gay and wants a dick up his ass hole..
My boyfriend and I have been dating for 7 months, and next fall ill be attending college while he is at home. I feel like him and I are going in different directions with life, and that I'm going to end up finding some different in college, because my boyfriend and I have had our differences. I feel like I'm going to end up breaking up with him then, however its going to be harder considering we'd be dating for a lot longer. Should I break it off now? Or am I in the wrong here?
This is entirely your decision... but I was in the same spot as you and here's my story- we dated for a year and he was a year younger than me. I went off to college while he stayed back for senior year in high school. We tried to make it work the first 2 weeks but after those weeks it just went downhill. Eventually we started questioning each other and not trusting each other as much. I went to parties and he was always suspicious of me drinking and being with other guys. I was always suspicious if he was with other girls. Eventually we decided to call it quits (it was a mutual thing) because we just didn't think it could work anymore.
Oh and here's a little statistics for you.. Out of my 8 friends that came to college with a boyfriend, only 1 of them still has that boyfriend. Everyone else broke up already.
soo... take that into consideration that other peoples relationships don't necessarily work long distance or if one is in college and the other is not. However, your relationship could be different depending on the chemistry between you 2. But one of my friends dated this guy for literally 5 years and they broke up after a month in college because it was too difficult for them to handle.
one more thing, if you are already questioning about breaking up with him now.. then it sounds to me like you've already made your mind. If you are truly in love with him, you shouldn't be questioning this.
good luck and inbox me if you need more help
The same thing keeps happening when ever I get into a serious relationship
I'm a 19m by the way
We have sex and it consumes the relationship
I can't really talk to my friends about it
I have no reason to complain I have an above average sized "package" about 9" and I have sex atleast once a day I live the mans dream but it isn't a relationship and that's what I really want any advice would help
Hey I kind of know where you're coming from..
I'm 19 too and when i was in a relationship with my ex, all he ever wanted was sex and it seemed like our whole relationship evolved around that. Yeah sure he would do a few sweet things for me like take me out to a movie, but I'm the type of girl that looks for more than just sex.
So in a way, we're kind of in the same boat. All you can really do is just ride the wave and let fate bring you to someone who matches your personality. Thats what I'm doing. Its not like i've given up.. but I'm just done looking. There's a saying that I always go by- Don't look for love. Let love find you. Thats why its called falling in love, you just fall..
Maybe try talking to girls about it and say you're looking for something more than just sex. If they don't agree, then they're not the one for you.
Good luck and inbox me if you have any more questions or comments :)
My boyfriend loves me but hes afraid to show it. How do I get him 2?
showing someone you care about them and have feelings for them is called PDA (Public Display of Affection). PDA is a part of every relationship.. unless you 2 are uber shy and never want a social life and only spend time with each other and nobody else (and literally i mean nobody else) then you're gonna have to show PDA in some way.
There are different types of PDA. Putting his arm around you or even holding your hand are the small types of PDA. Bigger types would be kissing in public, making out in public, or getting it in.. which is very provocative so be careful with that..
talk to him man to man and say "hey i know you're afraid, but every relationship goes through something like this and its normal. Nobody is going to care if you put your arm around me." then tell him how you feel.. like "I would be so happy if you put your arm around me because it lets other people know that i'm only yours and you're only mine".
just be straight up honest with him, and if he's a little whimp who is too scared to hold your hand, then he needs to grow up and you need to find a man.
I meet this guy a month ago. he is very nice and very outgoing. the past few days he started changing, he tells em im going to call you but he never does, i invited him to a party but he never went. he decided to go with his friends somewhere else. i wrote to him telling him how i dint wanted to see him again because he is a lier. he told me he wanted to see me tonight to talk things out but guess what? he never called me to hang out and talk. I came to a point where i cant handle this anymore. I was catching feelings for him but i guess that's going to start fading. Im so dissapointed tho :( I don't know what to do. what will you do in this situation? (by the way he is a taxy driver)
hey. I am in the same situation. So while I am helping you, in a way i'll be helping myself too :)
here's my story:
I met a guy through some mutual friends. we really got along and after 2 or 3 weeks I started to fall for him. We had a thing going on for about a month and a half, until he started changing. He wouldn't text me back, he didn't want to hang out as much, and it just seemed like something was always wrong with him. I was so upset that I convinced myself to fall out of love with him and move on. So that is what I did. It was a tough journey for me.. and it still is. I still think about him all the time and wonder "what if". Him and I are starting to get back into touch. we're talking every now and then. Actually, we have plans tonight to see a movie. Everytime we made plans to hang out, he's bailed and done something else. So I'll see tonight if he sticks with this plan. If not, then I'm calling it quits because I don't want to keep waiting for something if it might not even happen.
So here's my advice to you. I know its tough but you really should find a way to move on from him. Life is only so short.. so make the most of it. One of the biggest things i hate is wasting time. Nobody should ever have to waste time for someone else's sake. He isn't doing anything for you, he's not calling you back, not wanting to hang out, he's not even staying true to his words... so why should you put all the effort and time into something that he won't even do himself?
Try doing other hobbies and activities to get your mind off of things. I started photography which takes up a lot of my time. its really fun, I enjoy it, It makes me happy, and takes my mind off him and the stress. I also hang out with friends more and I make a lot of new friends whenever I can. After a while, he will soon be out of your mind. Its hard, but its possible.
Just keep your head held high and know that NOBODY should make you feel this way. you don't deserve it. Do what makes you happy, and then let the rest happen by itself :)
good luck and inbox me if you need more hep!
Ok, I been with my boyfriend basically for 4 years. we broke up because he went to the Dominican republic and cheated on me with someone else. we were off for 1 yrs and 2 months then When he came back he apologized and now we're back together. I still believe we have 4 years even though we weren't together the 4 full years. my boyfriend is 18 and so am I. There is this guy he is 23, I meat him 3 weeks ago, he is cute, and nice to be around with. He likes me and last night we ended up kissing. I really don't know what to do. I'm sure if i tell my boyfriend he's going to break up with me. there is no doubt about that. But I also like the other guy. I'm so confused right now. I know that i have to stay with only one but i don't know with which one :( can someone bare with me here and try to help me out. I will really appreciate it. thanks in advanced
You need to be hones with him AND you need to be honest with yourself..
when i say "be honest with yourself" i mean this- you do not love your boyfriend because if you did, you never would have even considered kissing another guy. If you truly loved your boyfriend, you wouldn't be considering breaking up with him. but since you are considering breaking up with him, you might as well do it.
You should talk to him and tell him the truth. see what happens. if he gets mad, you need to understand why he is mad. He cheated on you and i'm sure you were mad.. so you have to realize that he will probably be mad too. don't get mad at him for this.. its how he feels.
another thing to keep in mind.. if he cheated on you, and you cheated on him.. well that pretty much just says you both are thinking about other people. might as well break up so you can date other people without having to hide it.
good luck!
You know there was a girl that he used to flirt with her. I told him to stop and he did. But now i saw a comment that she wrote and he wrote on it. He asked her for her number and she said she didnt had one. uh im not going to tell him about this because i already talked to him about this. i dont know what his.problem is. I think im just going to take a break with this relationship. I need respect and this just breaks my heart :(What you think about this..?
If you feel like you need a break from the relationship, then take one! There's no reason why you should have to feel pressured or forced into having a relationship if you feel like it's not working out. Take a break from him and if he makes changes or efforts, then you'll know he's worth it. But if he does nothing about it, then he's not even worth it. Good luck and Inbox me if you have more questions!
i like a boy but he thinks i like him as more than firends
you have to be honest with him and say in a nice way "hey I like you as friends. We get along great and you're fun to be around, but I don't like you any other way besides friends."
good idea, thanks so much !! :) Im going to do this. Hopefully it works out.
no problem! Good luck! If you need anything else, don't hesitate to ask :)
So this guy... (Matt)I like him.
The probelm... I don't know if I stand a chance.
Background: Matt is seventeen, a senior. I'm sixteen, a junior. Freshman year I dated one of his best friends. It ended reeeeally badly on the last day of school. Through out my sophomore year, Matt and my ex drifted, and Matt and I grew closer. But I was kind of in between liking Matt and another guy so it fizzed. But I would go out to lunch with him about once a week, and we'd talk when we saw eachother, always reallly flirty. And he wanted to ask me to prom, but the other guy asked me first... (That's when it fizzed). Over the summer we said we would talk alot but he was out of town (visiting family) for like a month. And the thing is, he hates being on his phone. Like, he doesn't like texting, or even calling. So though we used to hang out one on one, we don't really anymore and we don't have a lot of mutual friends. But recently, it seem's like he's been making an effort to see me more or text me more, but it's reallyyyy not much. I just don't know what to do. I really like him. And I think he likes me, cause he IS really flirty (slaps my butt, telss me to go to all his games) and his friends all think he likes me cause apparently he doesn't "go out of his way this much" for a girl before. But I've never met a guy as confusing as this... So what now??
it doesn't sound too complicated to me.. I think he was just jealous/intimidated because of the other guy who asked you to prom. But now since that guy is out of the picture, he maybe has more courage to talk to you. One thing you should know about guys is that their friends know more than you do. If his friends say that they've never seen him go out of his way for a girl but is for you.. then take that as a complicated. It means that he is really fighting for you. Its good to play hard to get, but don't lead him on. Right now he's fighting for you, give him some reward :)
If it doesn't work out.. then it doesn't work out. You gotta risk it to get the biscuit. Just relax and enjoy the ride, because this is what life is about. taking risks and living life.
Hi I'm 15f I'm still trying to get over this guy I liked for about a year so I'm trying to distract myself from him and try to look at other guys and flirt. I know to be myself and confident blah I'm doing that but I need more tips. I don't have anyone specific to flirt with except maybe this guy in my math I can't tell if he's just bored messing around or flirting or he allways does this... Like whenever I answer a question he either says nope nope your wrong or good job and says this name that's similar to mine but not really.and he sits like diagonal 2seats behind me now so idk like is that flirting bc the guys in my school are confusing they say all that stuff and turns out he never liked you a bit. Idk just flirting tip helps thanks :)
the key is to flirt but don't make it too obvious. Because that way, when/if you find out that he never liked you in the first place, you won't be ashamed of flirting.. but you'll still get the practice. get it?
try to surround yourself with guys that are interested in YOU.. not girls in general. Try to stand out and make yourself unique. That way guys will notice you more, and the ones that like you will make a move, and you'll know they made the move because of you, not because you're another girl.
try getting a little personal with guys. instead of talking about something in general like math.. bring up something personal like a fight you had with your parents. ask for his advice or something. it turns a boring conversation into something special. Next time it will also give you an excuse to talk/hang out. If you get more personal, then you can become friends and hopefully more.
its true :) well i have noticed that in the mornings he goes on facebook but when i check my phone he doesnt text me no good morning text. in the night when he leaves my house he doesnt even text me a good night text!! not even an "i love you" but he does goes on facebook and i dont even know who he be talking to in there :( I dont wanna talk to him about this because then he is going to think im bothering too much and that im jealous. if it was you what would you do ?
I've had a similar problem like this. First, try making the first move. YOU text him good morning and good night. Maybe he's just dealing with stuff and hasn't had the time to do it. If you make the first move, he might start making moves too. If that doesn't work, try ignoring him for a few days. Make him wonder why youre not talking. Make him curious and want to talk to you. If none of those work, then you need to talk to him about it. Just be honest and say you miss getting texts like that from him and wish he did it more.
Good luck!
I was wondering, how do I turn my boyfriend on through kissing? We have been going out for 8 months and I'm 16.
try using your tongue a little. lick his lips and bite his lips. run your fingers through his hair. kiss his lips and make a trail of kissing going down his neck. nibble his ear a little. just try new things
Why dies all my relationships ends abruptly?
well obviously something isn't working out in the relationship.. you need to figure out whats wrong in the relationship and fix it. there could be numerous problems- maybe the person doesn't trust you. maybe you're too clingy. maybe there was a miscommunication. talk to the other person in the relationship and be open and honest with them, otherwise you won't solve anything.