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the names Kassidy. im 16. i go to freedom high. i love running. && hanging out with my friends. oh... im VERY loud. but a FUN loud. not bad loud. : ] yeah...i definatly have blonde momentstm. but its okay cause people still love me anyways so everything is GRAND. [ha] well hopefully you love me too. ;) kaythanksbye!
p.s. im good with any advice so ask me anything or ill just help ya out!

you can take the blonde to the ranch, but you cant take the bikini off the blonde.

♥KASSIDY






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i sit next to the cutest guy in my math class. i want to talk to him, he's really nice but also everyone likes him so he's not really easy to talk to or anything. he was prom king etc.. how do i talk to him? in that class we don't do anything. but it seems like everything he says i have nothing interesting to say back to. i don't think asking questions about him works, it just makes me sound desperate and it gets boring.

try getting into his conversations. the little stuff count....you know!! tell him stories or funny events that have happened. whatever you do make sure you are happy and nice to him, then he will see you as a friendly person. i think not talking to someone who sits right next to you makes it feel pretty awkward if no one says anything. so whenever you have something on your mind just say it with a positive attitude. dont worry whatever he may be thinking because hes not going to be rude. he might find you interesting if you just make your move once or maybe sometime sooner the better. i know cute guys are sometimes hard to talk to. I sometimes get like that whenever i see a hot guy I get all embarassed. Just strike up an interesting conversation that you know he might like. You never know it could turn out to be something more like a friend, or what ever. just be confident and make your move because really hes really just a cute guy you can totally talk to him, anyone can!! =)
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This guy led me on then decided at the last minute that he liked another girl. My friend. I know by fact that he is never going to get her so i want to make shure he knows what he missed out on by not going out with him. We dont really hang out much anymore, but i do hang out in his group sometimes because they are my friends as well. There is also going to be a party we both will be attending next week. How can i show him excatly what he missed out on?!

have a lot of fun with your friends. make him jealous to show that really he has been missing out on you. if you act lonely and bored, or sad hes not going to be wanting to miss out on you. make him feel guilty that he isnt with you. show him that you are a fun person and that you really want to be with him. but when you show-off at the party dont ignore him, let him join in on the fun and then take it from there. dont forget to wear something that is bold and adorable.. like a great top with some nice jeans or something to make you feel comfortable and that can give you tons of compliments on. Make sure when you do it, make it look natural not too showy. He will eventually get it. Play hard to get 2. But once you know he's going to come to you, then let loose and have a great time at that party with him:)
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me and my boyfriend have been talking and we need a song! he likes kind of the songs by hinder and daughtry, which id ont mind, and i kind of like the more hiphoppy songs.Anyone have any suggestions??

Nickelback- If everyone cared
Akon- Dont matter
T-Pain feat. Yung Joc- Buy U A Drank (Shawty Snappin')
Bone Thugs-N-Harmony f. Akon- I Tried

my personal favorite for love song is defnitely
*nickelback- far away

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how do you get over someone? I mean, it's been amost two months since i've seen him and I miss him so much & we never even went out!!! Sometimes I just think about him and get sad because i miss him so much..
Is this normal?!?! I hate this. It's pathetic!

Getting over someone is not an easy step, I must say. Believe me it took me so long to get over this one guy who I thought was the one, but then I finally realized that I really didnt even need/want him anymore. I thought that is was just a waste of my time to actually think that we would be together. The more you grow and the more you live life to the fullest, eventually you will see in the past that really HE doesnt mean that much to you anymore. Its extremely normal, I mean it happens to everyone in the world. Think about it. Would you really want to relive what has already happened or would like to move on with it?? Because sometime and someday you will say "Ok I am so over him now." ...and know that you are over someone. So what I would do is to just hang out with your friends, have fun, maybe go find that guy of your dreams once you know you have definitely gotten over him. And then once you know you are over the guy you will feel so much more happier without him!!
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Hello...im 16/f
Ok, cutting right to the question. There is this guy i like in my class and i want to get over him. (ASAP)

We're complete opposites. I'm known as an angel, and he's the devil. He's completely dark and twisted and thinks really evily. He's also moody. Gets pissed off easily. Yet i like him. And i worry about him. (Opposites attract)

And i'm just very calm, sensitive and very innocent. Hehe, but i really like him and i need to get over him. Because i think he would never be interested in me. And i don't think anything would happen between us. =(

Any advice? Thanks in advance.

lol me too im trying the same thing with a guy I still like so heres what I'm trying to do it might help.

Ignore him whenever you see him, like if he talks to you just pretend you didnt hear him exactly. He will get the feeling that you dont like it when he talks to you.
Never look at him in the eyes.
Think about like 10 things that you hate about him (maybe each day). Instead of thinking how great he is.
Advoid where ever he goes in your class dont follow him around. Stay away from him as much as possible.
Hang out with other guys who you are comfortable with.
Make sure he's happy so you wont have to cheer him up if he knows that you dont like him.
Remember the more you see him the more you are going to rem-mem-ber special stuff or even more situations with him. So make sure hes not around.
As hard as to stop liking him just try but dont crush your heart for him. You cant help it that you like him, but if you really think that your relationship with him would never happen then you do just need to listen to yourself, and find some other guys to enter your life. Hope I helped! =D
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okay so i broke up with my boyfriend of 2 and a half months. and i feel sooo bad about it. well hes 18 and im only 15. and i got this feeling that he was getting WAY to attached. so i told him that we should stop seeing eachother. the thing is is that hes gunna be moving to cali next yr and i told him that thats why we needed to brake up becuz i didnt want a huge breakup then. but in reality i found another guy who is gorgeous and amaazing to me. does this make me a horrible person?! please help.
thanks. :]

you did the right thing so please dont think you are a bad person because you are so not. its better to break off the relationship before it goes any further. it was the best thing you could do. because if you did it any later he would be probably heartbroken. =[ he would miss you even more when he moved to CA. you know long-distant things never work out. as hard as a choice you made, you followed your heart and thats what truely matters. dont feel bad about it....just think what if you did it right when he was ready to move? would you feel bad about it then? maybe so.
you have met a new guy and he sounds good for you so what I would do is to just go for that guy. forget your ex now hes all in the past. it will take some time though. right now you have a new cutie lol. focus on him!! =]
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ok, so im 14/f and theres this guy whos gonna ask me out tomorrow. hes my first bf, (gonna be), and how do i say yes??! also, what do we talk about in class, and how do i act?? thanks!

just say
yeah sure I would like to go out with you.
or just a simple clear yes would be good.
just talk about whatever, it doesnt really matter as long as its not boring. never say "what do you want to talk about?" always think of things before you speak. observe what is around you and talk about that. or ask him questions about him self to know that you are really interested in him. act yourself, CONFIDENT, he doesnt want to think your shy. act like you know how to be a good girlfriend to him. dont act dumb. just be who you are around your friends except treat him special since hes going to be your first bf. dont worry you will probably stress out about this being your frist boyfriend but you will get the hang of it. its completely natural. relax and dont forget to be happy!!
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Hi, im going to ask a girl out tomoro and i only see her once a week. can someone gimme some tips on asking her out? im a bit nervous please supply me with any information asap!! thnx!

Be calm and confident. If you're sweating and stuttering, that girl will feel nervous about going out with you. Girls want guys that are confident, but not cocky. Practice talking to her. If you feel uncomfortable talking to her, you probably aren't ready to ask her out.
Being relaxed and confident is the difference between a comfortable silence and an unbearable silence. It's natural to have breaks in the conversation. Don't sweat it. Last and certainly not least, have fun. No girl wants to be with a guy who is boring.
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13/f

alright. um..

i like this guy A LOT (we'll call him bob). he has a girlfriend & they've been going out for like more than a month. the thing is, they don't do anything. i never see them talk & they have only hugged like once. that's all the farther they've gone. my bff has been going out with this guy for 3 weeks & they hang out a lot, talk evweryday, are constantly holding hands, & have kissed like 4 or 5 times.

my problem is, is that i don't know if i could ever go out with someone like that. someone that doesn't act like a boyfriend should. so my question is, should i move on? should i wait for him? if i do & we end up going out, is he gonna act the same way? i just don't know what to think or do.

help?

so hes not really boyfriend material huh? some people do that maybe because they just want to be casual when other people are around. but you never know maybe they could act all romantic when they are alone. i dont think you should move on you could get a chance with him. they could break up anytime and then there comes your opportunity to get him!! so you should definitely wait for him. Ok maybe he might act the same way, but he might not even like the girl he is going out with. thats a good reason to wait for them to break up. Im pretty sure hes going to act differely if he goes out with you. and if he doesnt then he could learn from you. you could be the one in control for the realtionship and flirt with him, he will eventually do the same! but yea just wait until time goes by and see if his door gets to be the one opened!
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my boyfriend tells me he loves me but sometimes im not so sure. i love him but i do not know if he says he loves me because he thinks he has to so i will not feel bad. girls has this happened to you? and guys if you love someone how do you know?

it sounds like you need to be serious with him. yes this has defintiely happened to me. and you know what whenever you guys say bye i love you. why dont you pop the question and say do you really love me? because i do. then you will just know. love is to hard to explain you will just get this powerful feeling with no other person. OR how about you make a plan to see him at whatever time (in a romantic area) and tell him he needs to be there b/c you have something very important to ask.
trust me set the mood, and everything for it then say I LOVE YOU! and he might too. ok! hope this helped!
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ok, i have this friend who is really outgoing and confident, and she gets ALL the guys. I get so depressed becuase not really any guys ever like me becuase she is always hogging the limelight. she also can really connect and talk to guys, and i can and everything, its just that there is nothing ever to talk about. Any advice on how to really outshine her and be able to talk to guys well?
thnks =]

you know what, one of my friends is exactly like that. what you need to do when she is not around is to have fun flirt with all the guys. you know do what she does. then when you are practicing when she is obviousley not around you will be ready to show-off your talent when you see her. so start practicing. i know it may be hard to cope with her but you need to understand that you guys are friends, and just accept her for WHO she is, NOT what she does to make you mad. She is your friend and she probably doesnt know that you are jealous or whatevs. Just be happy and share the spotlight with her. As everyone says just be yourself. And when you are out-going and confident she will see what a great person you are!:)
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im naturally firty when it comes to guys, and so far its worked pretty well. Im 15 btw.I always thought guys were pretty much the same when it came to what they were looking for in a girl. But ive noticed lateley that the "typical" thing that a guy wants in a girl is different than what i previously thought. i mean, they're all different, so they all like different qualities, not all of them want drop dead gorgeous girls, but in general, can anyone tell me what they've noticed that guys like in a girl. oh and if ur a guy, your advice is appreciated!

some guys like shy girls..you know the cute ones who are different from the "annoying" ones who are always loud. thats what the one guy told me which i never forgotten!! it was a compliment even though I was just shy around him because I liked him so much. but...
they like paitence ones. while, other guys like fun and out-going girls who are very friendly, CONFIDENT, and popular and sporty type. And who get a lot of attention. It ranges from guy to guy. The like whether she smiles or not. Trust and honesty is very important too.
But I know that most guys hate the kind who are really hyper and weird. oh my gosh. So if you have a boyfriend, or a guy friend ask him what he likes about you. And he'll be honest about what he really likes about you.
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how do i get guys to notice me w/o being slutty and showing a crap load of skin? and a question for guys ! wen yall look at girls and your not lookina ther goodies wut traits do you see that seem to draw you to her and make you like her and not just the way she looks?

Just be modest. Wear clothes that flatter you. Like bold clothes. Not cheap ones you can find at target. Look confident. Work out to get skinny, guys like girls who have nice body. But dont show off so much skin so that they get distracted. It's the attitude that guys like. Guys like girls with attitudes. Use extreme body language if you please to. Just have a balance in everything. (Since Im a girl i cant do the other part of the prob.)
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this is from: How long did you have to wait?

People been telling me to wait, for her respones, so i wait and basically she didnt responed.But only by body langunge (for exmaple) flirting, teasing and leaing on me for no reson. is that a respones? or teasing with my emotions?

Not all women have the same body language.
that is a response. its not teasing with your emotions.
Well, It is often said that in face-to-face communications, the words we speak actually account for less than 10% of the meaning, while body language accounts for more than half of our message (our tone of voice supposedly communicates the rest). Body language is important, and if your words say one thing but HER body says another, the person you are speaking to is more likely to believe the message your body is communicating.
so basically yea she is telling you just watch her body language. She must be telling you, that she likes you. Make her prove that she likes you:)
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Okay if someone likes you and shows alot of body lang of liking you, why is that when we are with our friends she grabs my attention and flirts. but then when its the two of us and no one around she is not like that. Why? (me 20/f, her/21).

She could just be showing off like trying to get your attention. I do that a lot when I like a guy and are with friends. She's just trying to be fun and show how awesome she can be around you. Well, whenever you guys are alone it could mean that she is not confortable. It could be a little awkward for her to be alone with you, and she is used to being together with you around friends. I feel the same way, ok like when girls are around the guy and friends they feel more energetic. But when alone, they like freak out, and just dont know how to react. Just try to make her feel that everything is ok. Just kiss her and things will be fine. Dont worry if something is wrong with her becasue its just common for most girls. Hope that helped! :)
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Did any body out there ever had to wait till that someone you truely care about came up to you and respone to your letter or something elus? how long was the wait? and if it last for more than six months and you had to ask explain what happen?

Yea I had to wait. But writing a letter isnt that great sometimes. It was usually 2 weeks. But if they dont reply instantly like maybe now or longer than 2 weeks then they probably arent really worth the time. What I wouldnt do is try to annoy the person with notes, or trying to get them to respond. If it did last for more than 6 months and you had to explain then...what good is it waiting 6 months. But it usually takes a guy more than 3 months for a guy to ask out the girl. Thats when you know if they are interested or not. hope that helped :)
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So theres this guy whos in my class, and hes a sophomore.i like him sometimes, and at other times im like "why do i like him" i dont know but i dont really wanna like him, and i wanna find find someone else that i like. :[ what should i do? cause in my mind, i know that i have feelings for him, but i somehow dont want to.

Thanks :D

I feel the same way to. You know guys arent perfect so maybe you are just seeing the weakness in him. And some other times you are seeing the strenghts which you admire a lot. But you arent sure so what I would do is just go with your instincts. If you really want him, and you really find him attractive etc. etc. nice personality. Then go with your gut. But thats what is part of a crush is, like your not so sure if you like someone. So dont think that way, just be happy that you like him deep down. I wouldnt pressure yourself though. Maybe your true feeling are just there but you dont want to know that. So just see him, and you'll know in time.... if you like him or not. If you dont then maybe its time to find someone new!! But i bet you like him for sure!!
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ok the last time i was talking to my boyfriend was monday night before i went to bed he said he would ring me the next day but he never did.his phone is turned off.its 5days now should i be worried what should i do?13/f
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Thats kinda strange. It happened to me this one time, so i just e-mailed him and started asking him what hes been doing lately. Try that. I mean maybe he might be having a rough situation with his family, or has been sick, or just forgot. Try getting in contact with him again, ask his mom, or something. His phone might have a problem. Make this pattern stop before it goes on to 6 days or more. He misses you and you might miss him. So give him a call maybe on his home phone,ask 1 of his friends about him, e-mail him, check his myspace, meet him somewhere, or call him tomorrow for easter..that might be something special!! Most guys just forget to call sometimes, but he might call you soon so dont worry.
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15/f. how do you know if a guy is trying to make you jealous? because i really like this guy, but he has a girlfriend. and sometimes i feel like he's trying to make me jealous because he sometimes talks to me about her. so my question is how can i tell if he is trying to make me jealous or if he just really likes his girlfiend and likes to talk about her a lot. thanks!

If he pretends he doesnt care about you and everything else. He has to know that you miss the attention. Basically if it seems that he is having so much fun "without" you, then he's trying to make you jealous. Like smiling, and having a great time, with great friends, or his girlfriend. Also if he hugs girls right in front of you and looks at you right in the eye (possibly his girlfriend who he might hug). He's basically like showing off right in front of you is how to explain how a guy makes a girl jealous. Its annoying. But guys are guys, he could like you, or he could just be spending time with his girlfriend and whenever something good happens your there. You never know, but if he dumps his girlfriend...then that could be a definite possibility that he might like you, and go after you!!
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14/f/ca sumtimes im walking in the mall and i see this really cute guy and i like wanna talk to him and my friend says come on hilary lets go say hi and im all like NO!! well my question is how can i be more confident when it comes to talking to a cute boy i dont know

thanx in advance

Oh my gosh that happens every single time. What I would do is take a deep breath. Think you can do this. Maybe your friend could do all the talking you could just stand there and stare at him. lol. Just talk to him, think of it as like a normal conversation, there's nothing to be afraid about. He might like it and is probably a lot more embarassed as you are. Or you could just try to get his attention for him to talk to you. The more you talk to guys at the mall or where ever the more you will be able to do it. You might even become a boy magnet you'll get so used to it. Dont be scared just keep your head up high, wave say hi, hows it going? stuff like that, its simple. Be casual. I do it all the time. He might like you after that. Try it, think confident. :)
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