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I am a 18 year old girl, and i have been dating this 20 year old. we have been together for 2 months and when we first started talking he wouldnt let me have a day to myself, he always wanted to be around me. All we do is party or after work one of us will go to the others house and we watch movies. Now that i started school in the mornings and i work in the afternoon i get to see him twice a week. last night at new years everything was fine, i wake up this morning and everything is fine and hour after he drops me off at home he says "we need to talk" and says that i am being too clingy and that im getting on his nervous. I see him twice a week how am i clingy??!!!??? I dont get it.
Sounds like he's just trying to make an excuse not to be with you. You have other things going on and he can't handle that. Don't you dare give up work and school for such a loser. Because you are doing other things other than being with him, he's not willing to put up with you anymore. I say send him packing, there are plenty other men out here.
I have a crush who doesn't like me. He doesn't even talk to me. And I'm just too shy to talk to me. He is part of the "gang". And the gang makes fun of people, like me. My Crush won't even add me on facebook. Theres nothing really that I love about him, except that he's handsome. Not really handsome. But Joe Jonas is way handsomer. :) If my crush won't even talk to me, add me on facebook and be nice to me. Is he a good choice? Because I only like him because hes handsome. And I also want to stop liking him. There are other guys in my school who are kinder than him but not so handsome. Any ways I could stop liking him? Im really obsessed by the way. If I see a letter of his first name...I go crazy! I also tend to stare at him a lot (which was last year) but now I hardly look at him. I don't show that I like him. Just so he likes me more. But seriously I love him!!
First of all, I think you know this answer. If this guy isn't paying you any attention and treating you bad, leave him alone. Why should you chase someone like that? Have a little self respect and esteem. Love yourself before you try to love someone else.
i was in love...scratch that...i AM in love.. completely head over heels...and i know it wasn't infatuation, it was love. and to top it all it was my first love. this guy was amazing and treated me like a princess...like it sounds corny but i felt like i could fly when i was with him. we dated for over a year then like a couple months before we broke up, he just changed...he would blow me off to do absolutely nothing...then he dumped me because he said it wasn't fair to me, which i agree...but i have this hole in my heart and it won't go away...and its been 3 months since we broke up...
he also tells me he doesn't believe in love lasting forever. his parents are getting divorced so i could see where he's coming from, i think this is a big thing to do with it but i don't want to seem desperate for him back...but its so hard....i've already tried talking to him about it but it seems like he's made up his mind that he doesn't want to be in a relationship...advice? anything will help ...thanks.
Give yourself time to get over him. Some people take longer than others to get over someone they love. There are plenty other guys out there for you. Take some time for yourself. The right guy will come along in due time. But whatever you do, please, stop trying to talk to your ex. Let him be.
Ok, im 18 and a girl and there is this one really cute gy that i work with, hes kinda my brothers friend but they never really hang out. he's 2 years older than me and i like everything about him especially his personality. i just dont know if he likes me or not, we recently just had a class together. he did talk to me a few times but they were about our college class, i dont really know how to tell if he likes me or not, please help
I've always liked the direct approach. If it were me, I would just ask him if he would like to go out to the movies or dinner. Sometimes the only way to find something out is to just ask.
I really need to move on from my last relationship. It's been almost 5 months and I still can't. I went out with him for more than a year, and he is over me completely while I am not.
Also, we have a baby together. He was just born, I need to know how I can meet people if I'm always stuck at home?
I don't go to public school, and I have lost contact with a lot of my friends :(
I really need to know how to meet new people, also if you have any stories at all similar to mine please tell?
Thanks
Maybe for now, you need to focus on raising your child. You are in school with a baby. Concentrate on your school work and becoming a good mother. You'll have plenty of time to meet someone. Just be patient, the right person will come to you. But you must be careful in deciding who is right or wrong for you. You have someone else to think about besides yourself now. There are a lot of sick people out here, be carefull; and please, make sure you are comfortable and know as much as possible about someone before introducing them to your daughter.
17/female
i've been going out with a guy for a little over a year. were best friends and have an amazing relationship. the only problem that i have though is that his mom is really overprotective. i haven't seen his room..ever and he has a relatively early curfew. it's frustrating for me because i hate to see her treat him like he's in 5th grade. she's really nice to me and loves having me around, but i think what she does is ridiculous. what should i do?!
You do nothing. As long as your boyfriend is at home with his mom and she pays the bills, he has to abide by her rules. Like it or not, he is not grown... yet. You should keep your thoughts to yourself unless you can provide a place for him to stay and food for him to eat.
I am an 8th grader he is a 9th grader and he is definitely not the goodest guy to like. He smokes weed,drinks,smokes,sex and shit like that.I am not no goodie goodie.But yah what do you reccomend? stay away or what
What I think you should do is concentrate on your school work. Read a book, talk on the phone, go to the mall. You are too young to be thinking about boys, especially boys who are into weed and sex. Enjoy your childhood while you can. And watch the language next time, show some respect. You ARE a child.
16/f
This may get very confusing. Names have been changed...
I used to hang out with a guy named Donald, Donald and I hung out a LOT, and did everything together, including sexual stuff. Well I wanted a relationship and Donald didn't, so we stayed as friends with benefits. (Donald had girlfriends the whole time I was talking to him, very bad idea, but I was definitely falling for him and he knew it...)
One day Donald picks me up and he had brought his friend Brandon with him. I was always hanging out with Donald and his friends. They all knew me, and they all liked me. (They're my second family now.)
Well when I met Donalds friend, Brandon I immediatley thought he was good looking! And there was just something about him that I could tell I liked him right away. Well since I had feelings for Donald I continued to mess with Donald, and me and Brandon became good friends.
Recently, Brandon invited me to come hang out with him, and stay the night so we could drink and hang out. Well, at the time I didn't really think I liked Brandon that way..Well come to find out I definately like him a whole LOT.
Brandon kissed me, I kissed back. He asked me out, I said yes. Brandon told Donald. Donald was okay with it, but told Brandon I would most likely cheat on him, which I definately won't.
But anyways I have a feeling Donald might call me up one night, and ask me to hang out with him which will lead to sexual stuff, and I don't want to cheat on Brandon. If Donald calls what should I tell him? Because I don't want him mad at me, I still love him, just not in love with him.
I love all of them, and I don't want anybody to get hurt, what should I do?
First of all, you need to put the brakes on. You do not want to be the center of "locker room " talk. Sleeping with two guys that hang out together is so not cool. If you havn't slept with Brandon yet, be sure he is someone you love before you decide to. If you don't and things don't work out, you'll be looked at as a whore. Think long and hard about if you want to go there. On the other hand, you definately need to cut things off with Donald. Sex should be between two people with love, and a deep connection with one another, not just because it's convient.
My husband and I have only been married for a few months. For about the past month we cannot get along but maybe for 24 hours. We argue over everything. We just bought a house, and can't seem to agree on anything. I feel ike I compromise constantly because he gets so angry if he doesn't get his way. For instance, he doesn't like flouresent light bulbs and I do,, but in order to avoid extreme arguments all the fluorescent bulbs have to be changed back to regular. Also, I have a 4 year daughter that calls him daddy, and he allows this to happen. When he gets mad at me he tells me that he is not her dad and he wouldn't care if we got a divorce. AFter our fights he will come to me later that night and act like everything is okay and nothing happened. He will apologize for saying dicvorce but we never work through anything. I have tried to explain to him the need to work through our issues but he refuses. I have suggested a marriage counselor and he refuses. I don't kjnow what to do and I think that I am headed toward divorce very quickly. Any advice? I don't want a divorce and I love my husband, but I can't live like this much longer.
That sounds horrible. I'm so sorry you have to experience this. Maybe you could talk to a counselor on your own. Maybe a preacher or someone in that field could help if you go to church. I don't that's a good environment to raise your daughter in. I wouldn't want her growing up thinking love is to be that way. You could try leaving for a few days and show your husband that you mean business. If he doesn't straighten up, he'd be alone. Were things like this before you got married? Marriage brings about much stress, but it shouldn't be this bad especially so soon. Good Luck!!!
Okay so I like this guy. We danced alot at our school's Winter Dance. And then the next day at school he wouldn't talk to me or even look at me. And he kept telling people he doesn't like me, that he likes my best friend. Should I keep trying for him or just give up?
HELLOOOO!!! Are you listening to yourself? You just said this guy likes your friend. Why would you keep after him? He was probaly dancing with you to get close to your friend. Find someone else.
Ok so I'm 14 and in 9th grade. Last weekend I met this boy at a friends party. We immediatly hit it off. I told my best friend Taylor that I liked him a lot by the end of the party. She and Bobby are friends so she told him for me and he felt the same way. And at the party he was so cute we went outside. It was raining so he gave me his jacket. And then the next day he asked me out. This was over aim. I said yes and that's that. During the weekend we talked a lot and we have so much in common. We both love horror movies, like shakespear, have most of the same friends. Pretty much we agree on everything. Monday after school I stayed after with him and we watched a volleyball game. We talked and talked and he's really great because he just keeps the Convo going. Tuesday I didn't see much of him and we didn't really talk to much today. I really like him and I want this to last but I'm worried things are going to get akward. Plus everyone thinks he's gay and whatever because he's got a lot of friends that are girls. And I'm not sure if he really likes me now or at all. I want to give this relationship a good chance so what can I do? With some friends were going to the mall so I need some advice on how to get him to know I like him. We've been going out for like 3 days when should we hold hands or kiss? Help please! :) thanks so much
You're only 14. Don't get so worked up over a relationship. You've only been talking to this guy for 3 days. If you become too demanding so soon, you'll run him off. You should not be looking for a serious relationship at your age. Live your life. You have plenty of time for a "real" boyfriend later.