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I'm BLAiR, Im a SENi0R this year, Finally! I have waited 4 years for this! I would like to say I'm enjoying it, but I think its one of my most challenging years yet. Im so excited to go off to college and meet new people. I hope to go to aTm! I love polkadots and duckies too. I have been through a lot with guys and relationships so shoot!
NO QUESTION IS STUPID!
♥BLAiR

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heyy.
ok. here it goes.
theres this guy at work..angus..who i like and he apparently likes me. well he liked this girl at work Jose for ages and she had a boyfriend of 11 months. then he met me and he started liking me and jose dumped her boyfriend to go out with angus but angus was like 'I waited too long for you its too late i like ana now.'
and basically he just left her for me
and he did that to another girl before jose.
and now he likes me and hes full like Ana i love you blah blah and he hardly even talks to me.
and he wants to ask me out but all the girls at work are like Dont go out with him he is gonna screw you over and do what he did to jose he will just go off with another girl when he meets one and that he is a player etc etc and i told him about it and hes like Dont listen to them why would i do that to you etc etc
and the day before yesterday i went to visit him at work and he finished at 9 and so i went and came back at like 8:50 and then i asked the people where he was and the manager was like He left like half an hour ago and so i texted him and im like Yeah thanks .. full ditched mee. and so i told him to come yesterday at 3 before i start work and he was like okay and that morning i asked him if hes coming and he didnt reply so i just went at 3:40ish (i started at 4) and he was there with his mates. so i just went right past him.
then when i came out he was like Hey ana! and im like Hi thanks for telling me you were gonna come and hes like Im sorry ana please ana whats wrong .. ana i care about you. why are you angry at me..then hes like i promise i will come at 8 when you finish i promise blah blah. then he went away and then after i finished work i was waiting for my mum and he runs to me and goes to me ana im sorry for always dogging you ana please im sorry i really like you..you can think i dont like you but i really do. i love you ana i love you!
and then hes like i have to go somewhere with my mates
so basically i just saw him for like 2 seconds
how does he expect me to have a relationship with him when he NEVER has time for me? i basically only see him like 1 hour a week..
so i dont know what to do :(
xx

One thing I go by.

If he will do it WITH you to another girl, he will do it TO you with another girl.
but its your choice
♥BLaiR

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16/f
alright so, ive been dating this guy for 2 1/2 months, and i dont love him is that normal? like.. if i dont love him by now should i brake up with him.. what would other people do? everyone around me is saying to brake up with him.. i do like him a lot i just dont love him..


thanks.

You might not ever love him. Love knows no time. It can happen soon or very distant future. If he is what makes you happy keep him until that isnt true for you anymore.
Good luck
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Okay so i have been dating this one guy for over two years now, and I really love him and care about him. In the first year of our relationship I ended up cheating on him with this one guy who was a good friend of mine, we had ended up making out..well he then left for the millitary and recently i have thought about him and he came home for a christmas leave the other day we met up and ended up making out again. this guy says he really cares deeply for me and wants me to give it a shot with him..but the thing is i love my boyfriend i trully do, and i am not telling him this time around (last time i did and we worked through it) However, i feel like i do have some pretty strong feelings for this other guy and its like i have lost some for my boyfriend because he has been taking his anger and tired-ness out on me a lot and we get into these really bad arguments and sometimes i get scared deep down that he will hit me..but he never has...WHAT DO I DO?!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

PLEASE HELP ME..do not bother if your going to insult me or call me a horrible person.

This is a tough one. Im not quite sure, all I can really say is go with your heart. I was in a similar position but I never took the action with my ex and I wish I would have broken up with my boyfriend at the time and went back out with my ex because my boyfriend then cheated on me. So I really dont know what to say, Go with what your heart is telling you. Mentally make a list of the pros and cons for each guy. Dont just settle for your boyfriend just because the guy you think you might have deep feelings is in the military, dont settle for second best is what I have to say. Hope I helped in some way. If you need anything else you know where my inbox is =]
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What would you do if your boyfriend of a year and 2 months stole money from your house.. but denies it and you know they did it.?

do you break up with him?

or not?

Assuming you know FOR SURE, I would. Dont you need TRUST in a relationship? Lying is not acceptable. =[
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if you could say just one thing to that one guy you've though about for years, who meant alot but you meant nothing to what would it be.just one short sentence

Its always been you.
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Well i was just wondering if it was ok to have sex with my girlfriend when she's having her period if i wear a condom?

Its okay, I imagine it would be messy though.
Keep it safe =]
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Ok well my bf is taking me to the book store and hes buying me a couple books but i dont know what to get him and I am going to a hockey game with him so idk i guess our gift is just spending all day with each other. We actually arent dating yet but we r best friends and have taked about dating (we can talk about anything :] ) and i think hes going to ask me out before the game at his house anyways so bascially im calling him my bf in here. Back to the question: i asked him if I had to get him something and he said no of course not i dont care if you do and i told him i want to write him something instead. he knows i looove to write (want to be an author! i've already published a couple poems!) so i told him i was going to write something instead. i wanted to write him a note and the words to 'our' song. Does that sound ok? he sometimes just tells me when hes listening to it and loves it and that he loves me and so i thought writing him a note and the lyrics would be a good idea. i want to show him i care and i dont think a gift would work. plus im terrible at getting guys gifts! also is giving him one of those big solid hershey kisses cool too? its not the huge ones but the bottom is like 2/3 the size of the palm of my hand. and then maybe give him a real kiss? thanks SO much and if you have any other ideas PLEEEASE share! :] and he always wants pics of me so maybe a picture too? again THANX

Yes I think you are on the right track. With the letter, write it out then write the lyrics all the way around the page, if you know what I mean.
Sounds like you really have something. Good luck.
♥BLAiR

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so, theres this boy i like a lot and we might even date. but the pronlem is that all the relationships i've been in before weren't that serious, maybe a hug or a kiss sometimes but not much really. and now that im older im kinda worried because i know when your older and in a relashionship you make out or go further, and i've always worrid about that kinda stuff. i really want to do this stuff but im scared ill mess up and embaress myself, help!!!!

You cant mess up because theres no right way to do it. And if he cant handle a mistake, hes not worth it anyways
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my boyfriend's birthday is the 30th.
i have literally no money, so as my present for him, he's going to come over to my house and hang out for a while.
i plan on watching a movie of some sort, but since he's picking it out, i don't know what type it will be.
and i know the type it is will set a mood too.
but the point to all of this is, i want to kiss him (we haven't kissed before.)
i'm more nervous than i should be, and i don't really know how to go about it.
i'm kind of shy (getting a lot better though :] ) and he's a little shy too.
any advice helps at all, thanks.
(:

Aww. Just look at him during the movie and see if he looks back, you are both probably thinking the same thing. Or if you are laying on him look up at him and smile and see if he looks down at you and go for it. Good luck.
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My boyfriend and I live about 40 minutes away and usually only get to see each other two or three times a week because we're both so busy. Sometimes its a stressful realtionship but its worth ever single moment.

Last night when he came over he gave me my Christmas present saying he couldn't wait any longer. It was a diamond necklace. An extremely expensive diamond necklace. Let me just say here that he's only a junior in highschool and has a part time job at Staples.

I was having trouble before trying to think of what to give him. But now its even harder. What says I love you without being too much? And how can I compair with his gesture? I'm not saying this is a competition of who can get who the better gift its just a matter of me feeling that I should get him something as amazing as what I got me.

Any suggestions?

I dont think its the money that counts but the feeling it gives him. Give him something sentimental. Like a framed photo of you two together so when he misses you he can look at that. You could also get rings engraved with both of your names and dates or something. Hope I helped a bit.
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recently at a party..my brothers friend was like flirting with all my friends. he is like a total player and just wants a girl pretty much. especially when he is drunk haha. well i got a little drunk that night, and he was helping my up the stairs and stuff, then he slept in the same bed as me..we didnt do anything, but like major cuddling and stuff..and he tried to kiss me, and i backed off, im pretty sure, but i was a little buzzed at that point so idk if i did back, but i dont think so. anyways, i kept telling him to leave, and when he didnt i had to walk him to somewhere else to sleep. i feel awkward now, and i am really nervous for when my brother brings him over again. ok so what should i do..like just act normal? avoid him? its gonna be so weird! please help, and please dont give advice if your gonna say im horrible for doing that, because all i did was no more than kiss, if that even happened. and if not, it was just cuddling and stuff. alright thanks! im almost 17 if it helps by the way!

Well from experiencing other peoples situations, seems like everybody just wants some action at a party the guys at least. I say just act normal. Its only as awkward as you make it to be. And if he brings it up, just talk. It cant hurt anything.
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hey everyone, i'd really appreciate your time and input, i'll keep it short :)
there's this sweet guy i've known for about a year now, he's not like other guys i've seen: he's a great listener, very observant, humble, and kind to everyone.
we've known each other for about a year now, and have the same group of friends, didn't know him that well then. but recently he's opened up a little. i've noticed he laughs a lot at my jokes, moreso than other people do, (and they're not all that funny). it could just be that he's nice. but just recently he started to touch my arm, gesture to me, get my attn. over little things and mentions my name a lot(i'm excluding some tidbits to shorten this). a lot of girls are attracted to him, and he's known our groups of friends(who are mostly girls) longer than he's known me, so i'm wondering what this new comfortableness means. and i just found out that he's going to europe and at the end of the trip he's going to spend 3 days in paris w/a girl from school who'll be there too(but she apparently has a bf). i don't know this girl, but my friend says he doesn't poke her or anything, but then who feels comfortable enough to go hang out w/a girl he's known only for 3 months in a diff. country?have i misinterpreted these signs, does he like her instead, and me as just a friend? please help!!! thank you!

Just because they are going together and are going to hang out, I dont think it means anything, it could be with an organization that they both happened to sign up for. I would want someone that goes to my school and some one i sort of knew to hang out with so I wasnt with complete strangers. But as for all the little tid-bits, he does seem into you, him touching your arm and stuff. Why dont you straight up ask him? Or hint it to him. Hope all goes well!
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15/f
dating my boyfriend for a year && a half; hes 15 too. were serious about our relationship, dont doubt our age. anyways i really have no idea what to make/get him for xmas. i just bought him a shirt && made him a pillow that said i love you. hes not really into jewlery, has plenty of shoes, doesn't play video games.. he wrestles. but i have no idea what to make/get himm! ah help? =)

Maybe this is cheesy but I think its cute. Get a box and fill it with hersheys kisses and hugs for how many days you have been together, or 365 of them, so he can have "a kiss or hug" for each day of the year. Or you could do the 100 reasons why I love you. I know I did that and my boyfriend had a fit. (a good one) hehe.
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Say you started dating someone on September 26 and you wanted to know how long you've been dating.

Would you:

(A) Just use the day "26" of each month as another month even though it doesnt actually add up to one month.

or

(B) Get a calander and count 7 days after September 26th, use that as one week then Actually count 4 weeks out each time and not have it land on a day "26"?


If anyone understands what i'm asking I would really appreciate an answer.

Thanks =)

Aw this is cute. Yes I would use the date you started dating and use that for each month. =]
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i know my boyfriend masturbates to beautiful girls on the internet, hes even told me. im just crying right now because i looked at the insanely pretty girls he has as his favorites and who he probably masurbates to. im not pretty like them and i never will be, and it just really hurts because i feel like he isnt happy with me and would go with a beautiful girl if he could. we have been together for almost two years, and we have had our issues, but i just feel really low right now. is this normal? do i have anything to worry about? any input or experience like mine is appreciated, especially from a guys point of view!

Guys are always going to want better, most people do. Majority of guys do that regardless of how satisfied they are with you. I know my ex boyfriend did those things and he was completely happy with me and wanted to marry me! But he was just horny. I say you have nothing to worry about girl.
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heyy, uh i have a question... ok i found out that my boyfriend may have cheated on me with his ugly ex girlfriend.. i recoreded on my phone the whole conversation between me and her and i confronted him about it and he denyed it all.. i rreally dont know who to believe cause she s known to lie to break up a couple.. but her story is just so convincing that i want to believe her... i havent broken up with him yet, but with all the fighting i dont tihnk we are going to last much longer... i really really want this is work because i like him alot. i really dont know what to do if i should just end it because there is the chance that him and her did do what seh said that they did its just i want to trust him so bad. please help meee... i reaallllyy dont know what to do.

Well ask yourself some questions
-is he reliable?
-how long have you known him?
-does he seem like that type of person?
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-is she reliable?
-how long have you known her?
-does she seem like that type of person?

honestly all i can tell you is to follow your heart, and talk to him [[you did, now you just need to make up your mind if you want to believe him or not]] also when you confronted him, was this face to face or over the phone/internet/texting? because if you confronted him to his face, its easy to tell if he is lying or not, unless hes a really good liar. also another question to ask yourself, what kind of reputation does he have?

let me know how things work out chica
=D
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okay, this may sound sick but i know what popping your cherry is...but does it hurt that badly? im 18 and i have never had sex....and i have decided i want to with my boyfriend of 4 years. but when you rip your hymen or whatever why does it hurt so bad?? if you could answer that that would be great thanks!!

i have never heard that popping your cherry hurts so bad, just sex for the first time in general is not usually pleasureful for the girl. you can rip your hymen many different ways, bike riding, horseback riding, etc...
let me know if that helped!
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HEy baby i hear you have a big butt how big is it

uhhhhhh
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ok well im a 15/f and my bf is a 16/m. we have been together for over a year now and i know what people are going to say your 15 sex can wait and i know it can. i mean i want to wait until later on in life but yet i sometimes feel like im ready to do it with him.. i mean me and him have talked about it before and he says he thinks hes ready but it all depends on me. i mean i love him to death and never felt this way about a guy before..he tells me he loves me alot and wouldnt make me do anything i wouldnt want to..hes told me that hes never felt this way and wouldnt know what to do if he lost me. but i mean when i say i want to i know for a fact ill chicken out because im so self conscience and like because of pain and possible bleeding. we talked about it last night and like when he wants to and stuff but he told me its up to me. like how do i know if im ready? how bad does it hurt? and like would i bleed alot? like i dont want to screw up and stuff like im scared to do it how do i get over it?
sorry its so long
thanks
(i rate)

That is really awesome that you have a guy that wont pressure you into anything, thats important. As for when you are ready, maybe you arent because you are questioning yourself you know? but if you really like him and he means a lot to you and you both want to share the experience together, go for it, if you feel comfortable. i think when it comes right down to the moment you probably will have second doubts and you just have to give those a quick thinkover and make your final decision. ill let you know this im pretty sure it wont be pleasurable for you, i have always heard the first time hurts, and i cant speak from experience, sorry, but i have definitely talked about it with someone.
if you decide to go through with it please be safe! =)
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I just wanted to say thanks for the advice you gave me. I talked to my friend about me liking the guy, and she was okay with it. Now the only problem is that the guy likes someone else. Thank You!

Girl you are SO welcome, but that sucks about the guy =(
if you ever need anything else just drop one in my inbox!
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