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so there is this student teacher in our class and i see him everyday (when i'm at school of course) and he's so attractive and has an amazing smile. i'm only 16 and he's 22 or 23. to me that's just weird. but i know i couldn't have him, because the age difference and he's technically a teacher. i don't know what it is, but i know i like older guys. they just seem to be better than some of the immature guys at my school.
he is a teacher and that's never going to happen. should i stop thinking about him? should i just not worry about it? (link)
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because women mentally advance faster than men, it would seem like you can relate to the 20-25 year olds instead of guys your own age. Honestly, forget about this one, and anybody three years older than you until you are of legal age. If you start dating guys in college before you yourself graduate, you'll probably run into a lot of problems simply because you two are at very different stages of life, and no matter how much you two are into each other, it will strain the relationship. Look, but don't touch.
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16 female. I really love my boyfriend but I'm kinda interested in this other boy that i met. I don't want to break up with my boyfriend for the other guy because im afraid that im going to lose him forever even his friendship. But i don't want to lead the other boy on. Some of my friends say i should choose the other boy and some of my friends say i should stay with my boyfriend. I need to know who i should choose. Please help. (link)
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If you really love your boyfriend, then you would want to stay with him. The other boy might be a crush, and your feelings might go away after a while. Don't flirt, or lead him on, stay with your boyfriend.
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I'v been doing the whole secret admirer thing for a day or so now. I think that this girl knows its me doing it. Should I just play it off and continue with the plan or should I just forget it and go for it. (link)
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Most girls would be flattered to know they have a secret admirer. If you have plans for this, then keep them up, unless she asks you all out. Be sure to wrap it up within the week, and go ahead and ask her flat out before Valentine's.
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I'm 17 yrs old and me and my girlfriend have been together for 7 months and i love her alot. i've been pouring out my feelings to her, tellin her how much i love her n everything, but i dont feel like she feels the same way.. what do i do? i dont wanna dump her cuz i love her alot.. (link)
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Ask her how she feels. Don't let her beat around the bush. You don't want to be lead on, and you also don't want her to feel like she can't let you go because she doesn't want to hurt you. I know you love her, but do you really want to be in a one-way relationship? If she does love you as much as you love her, then ask her to express it, because she is causing you to have doubts.
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13-F! Tommorrow there's a dance at my town, I'm thinking of goin and need some help. How can I do my make-up? How can I do my hair?(A few inches below my sholder.) And what to wear? I'm thinking jeans and a white tee or tanktop. By the way* My crush is going to be there and were both single and how can I get him to know I want him? (link)
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Instead of wearing jeans, do you have a nice skirt, or a good pair of pants? What about a flirty shirt (not tee) or a cute jacket to go over the tanktop? Instead of going completely casual, look a bit more put together. In contrast with the baggy jeans and teeshirts, you'll look like a cutie pie. Makeup? At your age? Tut tut, missy. You may not like it, but I wouldn't wear any. But if you do wear something, put it on very light, earthy tones, or dark colours becuase it will be night. If your hair is naturally (or chemically) straight, then wear it down and curl the ends, or tie it up and do a few candy curls, add a bit of hair product to make it glossy. If your hair is curly or frizzy, than wear two braids (So cute) or some sort of up-do. Flirt with your crush, and if that doesn't work, tell him outright.
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i was really good friends with this sophomore named ryan (im a freshman) and we have started talking since the summer. the guy im dating now (kyle) and my friend ryan are best friends. well at least they were. ever since me and kyle have been dating ryan's been a real dick to kyle and telling him that i've been cheating on him n im using (and IM NOT). and ryan keeps telling me that he loves me and that he really cares about me. and just recently he told me that he really likes me. is this just an act of jealousy or does he just want me to go out with him? (link)
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Sounds to me like he is very jealous of Kyle. Think about this: If he is acting this way to his best friend, then how will he treat you if he gets angry at you, or if you two break up? Tell him to back off, and that he needs to understand that the world does not revolve around him. If you still want to be friends with him, then tell Ryan that he needs to get off the subject of you dating someone else, and that telling you lies is just making your friendship worse, and that you don't want to date someone who acts like a jerk.
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(13/f)My friend, Amy, got me together with a guy called Wayne as a joke because nobody likes Wayne. But I started to really like him. I could tell him anything. He was my best friend. However, he can't stay out of trouble and I found out his grades are really low. So I broke up with him. Now he says he wants me back but he won't change to meet my standards He says he'll try but he doesn't put forth much effort. I told him I just wanted to be friends but it's hard for me because I'm not over him yet. I still want to treat him like a boyfriend. What should I do? (link)
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Instead of telling him to get his grades up and letting him loose, get back together if you really like him. Meet him somewhere and help him with homework, (but don't do it for him!) and give him alot of encouragement. Instead of condeming him when he gets into trouble, help him straighten himself out, and offer different solutions to what he could have done instead. Some people just need that extra little push, and maybe you're the right one to do it.
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ok heres the issue-
theres this guy at my school(lets call him josh) and me and josh always hang out at school. about the second day after we started hanging out, josh started to flirt with me. ALOT. the problem is hes a senior, and i think he has a girlfriend, but she doenst go to our school. should i flirt back???
thanks (link)
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Just think. If you had a boyfriend and you found out he was flirting with another girl- and she was flirting back, how would you feel? Tell him to back off and stop if he has a girlfriend, because it is not fair to her. If they break up, then I say go for it, but until then, don't flirt, and don't let him flirt, either.
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Ok, this is kind of a long story. However I am having extreme issues with it. I am 16 and a very curious teenage girl.
I have a boyfriend for the first time in a while, and hes a sweetheart. However, I have two other guys that I think about on a regular basis. One of them I have been sleeping with on a regular basis since the end of october or beginning of november. The other guy I constantly am flirting with and have been mutually wanting to hook up or sleep together. I feel horrible about thinking about this and guilty about it. But what do I do?
The guy that I have been 'with' since late october, we have established a good connection however no relationship,labels, or any form of ties keeping us 'together'. However I think I have real, raw feelings for him.
if you could help me out it would be very appreciative. Thanks so much to whoever helps me out.
-Rachael (link)
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by the timeline you gave, it sounds like you stopped sleeping with this other guy when you started dating the one you really like. You need to figure out the boundries in your relationship. Can you date/sleep with other people, or does he want to slap a label and call you his girlfriend? If you really do love him, you'll want to be just with him, and put aside all the lust you have for others for his sake.
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So my cousin had me meet this guy via phone and we hit it off really well. He's funny and easy to talk to. I started to like him and Im pretty sure it was mutual. We planned to meet up and I was really excited until I learned a little more about him. He's a metal head. lol He's got the long hair and listens to that kind of crazy music. We dont have a lot in common and definately not the same type of friends. He's my complete opposite. So the question.. Which would be worse > To date him and be labeled as "desperate" because he's not exactly my type.. Or not date him and be called shallow because he looks different than what I normally go for? (link)
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Give him a chance. If you liked him over the phone, then you might like him in person, too. Don't look too much into his type of music, and just because he's different doesn't mean he's a psycho. The best people are sometimes the weirdest. If you really like him, you won't care what others think about the pair of you.
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ok, everytime i start to like a guy, i tell myself im not good enough, and i wonder why any guy would want to be with me. im 14 and have never had a real boyfriend, but i desperately want one. and when i finally do start to think im good enough for the guy, i woory about what his friends and my friends would think... i just dont know what to do... (link)
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just be yourself. If they don't like you, then they are missing out, and don't beat yourself up about it. Instead of thinking about all the bad things about you, think of the good. If you can't find anything, ask your friends why they like you.
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okay like im a freshman an im 15 an my boyfriend is a senior 19 but we dont go to the same schools. yeah i always get talks about how hes dating me...a minor...an how its wrong and everything so yeah dont repeat plz. well today he asked me if i could go to this really formal dance at his school and i wasnt so sure becuase my mom of course doesnt know about him and she definitly wont let me go and i dont really know anyone else that goes to his school. i really wanna go but yeah i KNOW i cant. so if anyone has anything about what to tell him that i cant go or ways that i could probably can go please let me know. thanks (link)
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I know what you are going through. If you are going to date someone that much older than you, make sure you really like him, and know your boundries about intimacy. If you are really sure, and he isn't some homicidal psycho, then ask your mom to go. The worst she can say is no, right?
And NO, dating someone that older isn't illegal unless you have sex!!
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