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Q: i am a girl, how do i make the first move?

just be confident and make the move. guys love it when girls are confident and make the first move. so just do it [:

Q: Hes easily jealous, yet he thinks it okay.
He gets mad at me for talking to people from work and hanging out with them.(whom he doesnt know) But he's in a band, and has girls coming up to him all the time, and people he talks to from schools he used to attend (whom i dont know) I put up with being second to his band, but sometimes its too much. What is a good way to explain that he gets mad at me for the same things that he is doing? Bluntly, whats the nicest way to tell him hes a hypocrit?

Sounds exactaly like my ex boyfriend. He loves attention but he doesnt want you to have it. he might not trust you with other guys. or hes just really insecure and doesnt think you love him that much. honestly the nicest way to tell him is just lay it out flat. tell him the truth. tell him how you feel about him but say that his jealousy is ruining your relationship.

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Q: This is a long one.. So i've beeng going out with my boyfriend for about 4 months, but sometimes Im not sure if i really love him or not. Like sometimes when we hang out I just get this really good feeling like im totally in love with him. But then other times I get kind of annoyed of just little things that he does. And i also sometimes feel like he doesnt really "speak my language" if that makes sense. Like I feel like there's this wall between us where i can't completely tell him whats on my mind. A couple weeks before I went out with him I had just broken up with my previous boyfriend of about 11 months. Im starting to think that I just got sucked into my current boyfriend because I had sex with him pretty soon, so I felt like I was obligated to stay with him. But now I just can't decide if that was the right choice. I'm too afraid to break up with him though because he would be SO heartbroken and I'm also afraid i would totally regret it afterward! The other thing is that I've met a few realy cool guys lately, one in particular who is going to be a freshman in college. We met at a party and were both totally drunk but he keeps texting me wanting to hang out and stuff. We havent yet hung out but i really hope to before he has to leave for college, because hes a totally cool guy and not to mention quite attractive. But I also keep holding back because I still totally love my boyfriend. I seriously dont know what to do right now. This whole situation has elevated into a confusing mess and I cant make a decision. Please help me figure out what the right thing to do is! Thankkk you :) -age 15

Tough situation but i cant say ive never gone through that! the first thing i want to say is do what you think is best for you. I just recently discovered that everyone should do what is going to make them happy. i mean ya your boyfriend would be completly heartbroken. but is it worth it to you to stay in a relationship your so unsure of? no. I think your afraid you'll regret it because you do care about him and your afraid of losing him. but you dont want him as your boyfriend? because your intrested in other people now? im guessing. But if you really love your boyfriend. and want to be with him. your going to have to be honest with him and tell him your feelings. just have a talk about things that bug you. like the "language" thing. maybe you can teach him how to understand your "language" ...

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Q: I'm going into 9th grade at a Catholic high school (not that the fact that it's Catholic matters, mind you). I've never had a boyfriend, but I do talk to guys. I want to get a boyfriend next year. What is your advice for this? What can I do and how can I act?

Its a good time to start dating. You might be nervous thought talking to guys you really like because you've never had a boyfriend. If you are my advice would be to try and push that aside. Guys love a girl with confidence. & definatly be yourself and noone else. If your not yourself then you will just be miserable in your relationship. if you have any more specific questions about this ask! [:

Q: Ok. Well i liked this boy and he was giving of signs that he liked me to the problem is that when i asked him out he had to say no because he felt he wasnt ready to date. I got really depressed and now i feel empty. My friends are telling me that i could do better but i feel like hes the only one. Whats my problem? HELP PLEASE!!!

Trust your instinct. Do what's right for you. Your friends are probably saying you could do better because..

1) they dont want you depressed
2) theyre jealous
3) they dont like him and they dont want you to be close to him

those are jsut guesses! but you dont have a problem! you just really like him. and hes probably afraid to get close to you. i say you should send more signs and talk to him more.. so he'll get more comfortable around you! hope ihelped! [:

Q: tonight when i was with my boyfriend i suddenly got bored and didnt wanna be with him anymore. i started having thoughts of breaking up with him. but then like 10 minutes later he was holding me and i felt so happy! i LOVE the physical attraction we have and hes really funny but im not sure if hes right for me cause i cant always be the crazy, hyper person that i am. is it bad that i was having those negative thoughts or is it normal? any advice will be appreciated!

Definatly normal. With my boyfriend I'm more relaxed than i am with my best friends. I think everyone is. Don't worry about the thoughts everyone doubts theyre boyfriend or girlfriend! But make sure you trust him. Because it seems that you might not trust him to be yourself around him. but if that isnt the case. If he makes you feel happy .. hes a keeper [:

Q: I'm 13 years old and I really want to have a BF. However, I know that most BF/GF relationships usually begin by being friends 1st. How can I become friends with boys?

Just be yourself, and start talking to boys in your classes or try and plan like a group movie. so your with your friends and some boys to. that way you can meet new boys! just be confident. guys love a girl with confidence! and try not to be fake either, or extremly open! hope i helped [:

Q: im gonna be out of town during our 2 month anniversary thingy and i told my boyfriend i got him a present but i havent gotten it yet and i really dont know what to get or what to make and hes coming home tommorow!! anyone have ideas?

Ya maybe get him something that reminds you of a really fun night you had. or something that will remind him of you! hope i helped [:

Q: Me and my boyfriend lets call him Tom have been together for about a week. We really have a good connection. I have hugged him once. And he asked me if he could kiss me twice, but i didn't answer him. I really want to kiss him so badly, but im nervous. When my friend lets call her Megan kissed her boyfriend lets call him Dan she nearly missed. So i don't want to miss like she did. But however I'm more experienced. And she's only kissed twice.Should I kiss him??

KISS HIM! just go for it. do it spontaneously not when he asks that way it will just knock him off his feet because it was out of nowhere! so if you miss he wont be thinking about you missing he'll be thinking about how amazing it was that you just came up and kissed him. also dont freak yourself out. also confidence is key. just be confident. and push away your nervousness it will make things go much more smoothly.

Q: next week, it'll be me and my boyfriend's two year anniversary and i feel like he's losing interest in me. what are things i can do to gain his interest back?

i agreee with the two below me. be spontaneous and show him how much you love him. do something youve never done before! it will drive him wild. if you need more help just ask! [:

Q: Okay, so I'm in love with this guy named ross, and im not sure if i should hook up with other people to see if it makes him jealous or just hook up with nobody because i only want him. it makes me feel bad when i hook up with other guys bc it makes me want ross more but i figured he might want me more if i did hook up with other guys, and ive tried to before adn it didnt seem to work but idk i think should keep trying.

-- Danielle (on kellys username)

I dont think hooking up with other people is a good idea. Usually with guys they do end up wanting you more if they see you talking to other guys or you know flirting with other guys but it can go the opposite way to. Jealousy can ruin a relationship really quick. if you love him. stay with him and prove to him you love him. He'll show it too. Hope i helped ! [:

Q: my boyfreind showed everyone his private area and im really hurt.
should i break up with him?

I think that you should talk to him about it. If you dont feel comfortable talking about what he did and how you feel about it. Then its not worth it staying with him and constantly wondering what next stunt he'll pull. Hope i helped!

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