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Q: hey about at what age/grade are people until they get their first kiss?

and do you just like do a peck or actually french kiss, or do you open your mouth a little and sort of like suck on their lips or whatever lol.

please give me a lot of detail and I'll rate high!!!
I got my first kiss when I was in 6th grade and it was a peck..very very short kiss. But my first makeout with in the summer of 7th grade. It's really easy to do all I had to do was lean in and there he was. But my kiss was very pathetic and I regret it.

Q: I was just "dumped" by my girlfriend of 4mnths. I feel rotten about the whole thing. I mean we were close. We were in love. My heart is shattered. I feel hurt. How does she feel. I know its an awkward question. But how do women feel after breaking up with a guy. And how do I win her back.

When I dumped my boyfriend of nine months I felt completely terrible. The only reason why I dumped him was because I didn't feel like I was being fair to him by dancing and everything with other guys, weird situation. Anyway him and I were over in October but he was sooo nice to me and we now at the moment still love each other greatly. So maybe she still likes you, you should ask her why she dumped you, then work from that. Hope it helped. Good luck!

Q: I'm in the eight grade and I'm a 14 year old female. Some boys think that i am pretty. But I haven't had my first kiss yet. I want my first kiss to be spectacular, something that I will remember forever.
I feel really left out because all of my friends have had their first kiss and more. I just want to know the ages of people when they got their first kiss and details (like where, how, etc.) it will make me feel better. Thank you in advance!
When I got my first kiss I was 12 and my boyfriend and I kissed at the back of our school, trashy? Yes. I was pressured into it and it wasn't all that great, but I ended going out with him for 2 more years and it was greattt. But don't be pressured into doing it because it might not be good.

Q: okay, soo, i'm a female 13, and i'm an asian, but i'm kinda goodlooking, and i don't know how to be popular? so if anyone can tell me how to be very populer i'll luv ya'll, and rate u high!
ok well im popular and um you cant to anything besides being smart and very pretty

Q: how do you know when your in love?
if your in love you can tell....if your asking this bc you think your in love obviously your not

Q: Hey. What's up?

I Have an amazing boyfriend. I love him. We have been together since Feb. 2nd, 2004 (for the people trying to figure that out, its been 1 year,6months and 9 days) I Love Him, like I said. However, sometimes I think that I may like other guys. Where I work there are 2 guys who I
"like" but I wouldn't go out with them if they asked me. I want to stay with my boyfriend. I think about these other guys sometimes tho.

Any ways or tips to stop these thoughts?

I am more then sure that I am going to stay with my boyfriend. I wouldn't ever date these other guys.

How can I deal with the thoughts?

Is this normal?

(Sophmore, Female)

-Kels-
ok well i have been with my boyfriend for a while, and i too have thoughts about other guys, its completly normal and they won't go away just do some stuff with you boyfriend and spice up ur relationship and the thoughts of these other guys will fade less and less then they will be gone...lots of luck!

Q: okay well i really like this one guy.. and i mean hes like soo soo perfect... and i know hes noticed me and i think we might have a chance of going out cuz were already friends and i just dont know what to do.. i mean i no i cant ask him out soo please help me please hes soo important to me but he just doesnt know that..
signed so so confused..
*I RATE* please answer me soon*
ok well, hmm this is kind of hard...
1) You can ask him out...some guys like it, others just think its weird so i would wait for him to ask you out
2)Tell him how you feel be like, "You mean the world to me, i jjust wanted to tell you and im not expecting a responce, so yeah and i hope that we can still act the same around each other as we did before"...BUT if he is going to say something let him say it before like say you mean the world to me and im not waiting for a respoce then have a pause so if he is going to say something he can and you will know if not then just go on saying that you hope that you can still be good friends as you were before this


i hope i helped

Q: everything is goin great between us or atleast it seems like it...lately he hasnt been tlkin to me as much and stuff like that...i have a feeling sumthing is goin on but i need someone elses opinion

thx
omg the same thing is happening to me and my bf well hes actually at the shore and everything so he 'cant' talk to me...everything will be just fine. if i were you just call him and tell him that you havent been talking as much lately and you miss him

good luck

Q: basically this guy moved here a couple years ago and ive liked him ever since then. he lives right across the street from me so we became brother and sister type friends. he's had a lot of girlfriends here so we never went out, but he has liked me before. so now he's in an 8 month relationship with another girl and im happy for them. now heres the hard for me part, they've gone to 3rd within 3 months...and now they're talking about having sex within a few weeks. he talks to me about this (he doesnt know that i like him still because i dont want to create drama), but if he actually goes through with it i dont think i could ever look at him the same. we're all 15 by the way. i don't know... i've been thinking about it so much and im really upset. please help
ok well...you should tell him that this WILL prolly change things between the two of you guys, and it will change his whole like so he should think about it---thenn you should tell him that you still like him but dont be like, "no dont have sex with her...i still like you" just be like you who when the moment is right..."i dont know what is happening but i think im starting to like you as more then a friend" just like casually say that then say, "im sorry i said that but i just had to tell you how i feel and im not expecting you to respond to it" then just carry on with your conversation
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thats all that i can think of but you should DEFITANLY tell him that it WILL change between the two of you and his life will be different....hope i helped...good luck

Q: im only 13/f and i have had 3 boyfriends but never done anything more than hold hands and hug?? i havent even gotten my first kiss! is there some way i can get it soon or do i just have to wait?? i rate high!
tell them you want to kiss them its as simple as that just be like "hey i really think your hott..do you think we will ever kiss?" thats all you have to say thats what i said my first time and it worked



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Q: i just found out my bf is gay! i don't have anything against gays but i mean... it's my BOYFRIEND! what should i tell him and how should i react. this is really hard for me!
please help!
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Oh god that really sucks..but you should just except him for who he is and just tell him that you know he likes guys and you are alright with it but that you cant continue this relationship(thats if you havent broken up yet). but remember when you are telling him this let him talk too and be very open minded about what he has to say



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Q: ok, well i really care about someone and have strong feelings for them. I feel like I don't want anyone in the world but him. We dont really talk much, alls i can say to him is "hi" and he'll say "hi" back. He knows i like him but he doesnt like me. I really want to talk to him, but i'm scared mostly of what he'll say back. what should i do?
Ok well I know that if someone likes me I won't like them because I (like most people) want to work for it and just don't want someone to be there who likes them...soo my suggestion is don't try to stop liking him just don't talk about him and don't make it look like you like him because then he may like you and if he asks why you don't like him just say, "Well you don't like me so why waste my time" yep it always works trust me\



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Q: i was talking to my gf on the phone when one of her friends started telling stuff that i dont know about her like she thinks this guys is hot and bunch of other stuff...so....i asked her to tell me everything cause a bunch ppl told me the same thing....and now she told me and i feel bad cause some of them are because of me......and i love her but i dont know how to tell im really sry. i have gone to her friends for help....none of them know what to do.....so please help me...?
Well tell her that you are sorry and if your gonna write on here again i suggest that you be more clear about what you are talking about bc i have no cule what you talking about sooo yeah just tell her how you feel and it's no big deal if she thinks some other guy is hott i mean your the one whos going out with her right? i always tell my bf that i think other guys are hott and i mean it does bother him but he gets over it and in the end he knows that i love him so just let it go haha im prolly not helping at all and im sorry

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Q: ok well ive been going out with my boyfriend for 2 months,and we never go anywhere, and thats because of me, i just dont feel right around him but i like him and all, and im pretty sure he likes me more then i like him, and in the past couple of days, well ive been talking to this boy johnny, and hes absouloutly my type, and i told him i liked him and he said liked me back, he said he would wait till me and my boyfriend brake up, but i like my boyfriend to!, so i dont know what to do cause he likes me so much and i dont want to hurt his feelings, but i like him and johnny, please help im stuck
ha my bfs name is johnny lol and that same exact thing happened to me too like we didnt go anywhere and he loved me but i didnt like him alot so he dumped me for another girl then we got back together and have been happy ever since

so just go for it and dump your bf and just say that you only want to go out with him if you are %100 happy and you arent right now and you might wanna go back out later then go out with johnny

hope i helped xox

Q: Okay- so my boyfriend is away in Florida and I miss him so much. I just need help on some things I can do when he gets back and like some things that I can send in his mail to him! Quotes... Poems... anything.. .thanks I RATE HIGH
I don't know if this is good enough but heres a website http://www.lovepoemsandquotes.com/


it's really cute that you want to send him something


Q: f/13
ohk so i've gone out with many people b4 ... some were crushes, dares you know your typicall 12 -13 year old stuff only like one or two i really truly loved . yes loved i would do anything for them. i have had my heart broken a couple of times and i have broken a few ... but why is it that all a sudden i feel like love can be/ is such a scary thing ?
Love is such a scary thing bc it is giving someone the ability to destroy you but trusting them not to. You might of just realized this bc the other times that you were 'in love' you really weren't or you would of already known this. And anyway how can you be in love with someone when you are either 12 or 13 and then love only one or two guys. I'm not trying to be mean or anything im just saying what is true. You werent in love or maybe you were but not enough to realize that it is a very scary thing


hope i helped

Q: ok how can you get a guy when you are

1. taller than most of the guys that i like
(i am 5'6'')
2. plump
(i dont look like i weigh 165 pound but i do
weight like that)
3. you dont look same as other kids because
I AM ASIAN!

i got quiet few guy friends but they all think of me as friend because all the things i've listed

so how do i get a guy who is Nice... and sweet, i dont really care about the look unless they are like really ugly and smelly and stuff, but i care for wats on the inside, unless they are really social zero.

so pleeeeease help me lose weight and get a guy who is sooo sweet...

and help me not try to steal my friends' boyfriend
yes i tried but i cant get him out of my mind

and its not really my fault if i wanna call him because he gave me HIS number first...

so pleeeeeeease help~
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and 4 if they try to help and
1's if you are going to be makin fun of me
ok to be truthful you shouldn't ask how to make guys like you. They should like you for who you are. But I'll say exercise more and eat less but most important be yourself and don't care about what anyone else thinks.

hope i helped xoxox
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Q: So there is this guy i've been likeing for awhile now, and i know he knows i like him. But hes a ladies man and he flirts with all the girls we hang out with (oh by the way we hang out at the same place at school) anyways yesturday my friend was telling me that whenever he walks by me he looks at me like he want to start a coversation but doesnt know what to say so i text him on my phone (yesturday) and there is still no reply. I really like him and i really dont know what to do. I want to do something about it nut i dint want to sound desperate. Can someone give me ideas of what to do or explain to me if he is ever going to call or text me. Thanks
The only reason that he might not of texted you back is:
1) he may not have texting on his phone (i know it sounds weird but some people dont)
2) he doesn't like you and doesn't wanna be mean about telling you
3) he may just be shy


hope i helped

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