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how do you make out? (link)
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i'm pretty sure that there are sites online that you can find out like step-by-step answers for this, but here's a quick breakdown:
okay, well you and the other person put their arms around eachother and just lean in for a normal kiss, but keep your lips parted. then honestly, all you really do is put your tongue in their mouth and move it around, pretty much in a circular motion.
i know guys like it when you go slowly and run your tongue along their gums.
a lot of people are nervous for their first time, so make sure you're completely relaxed and don't worry at all.
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Aliright. I know this is kinda a stupid question but i wanna ask anyway. Well there is this boy that really likes me and i like him back(i told him). I have never really had a boyfriend, and never had a first kiss(he also knows this). We are planning on hanging out soon and im pretty positive that he will kiss me. But im soo nervous! I dont know what to do. any tips are great thanksss! (link)
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okay first things first: stay calm. you'll be fine, i promise! make sure if you're going to hook up with him it's not planned because if if just happens it's always better. you'll most likely know when he's going to kiss you by his body language and it he takes you somewhere apart from others or just takes you on a walk. make sure you have mints or gum, and you should be fine. he knows it's your first time, so follow his lead.
hope this helps !
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Ok so this may seem a little random but me and a friend were talking about this the other day and its made me wonder. How do you know if you're a good kisser? Coz I know when someone else is or isn't, but I don't know how good I am! And if you ask people after you kissed them, unless they're mean, they say yes but how do you honestly know?
Thanks! (link)
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i would say you could have your friends ask his friends because he would be honest with his friends. but i really don't think there's such a thing as a bad kisser, people just have and prefer different styles of kissing. =]
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I am like the only person that doesn't have a boyfriend. And I have never actually had a kiss i mean i just turned 14 but it is so embarrassing. PLEASE HELP!!!!!!! (link)
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this is so not something to worry about! i had my first kiss when i was 12 but just got my first hookup, and i'm almost 14. i was soo afraid i wouldn't hookup before highschool, but when you least expect it there's someone who wants to hookup with you. just talk to a lot of guys because girls can be very flirty in the summer and not be considered sluts. if you really want to hook up badly, you can try going to a teen club type thing because anyone could find a hookup there. if you're not interested in random guys, which i totally don't blame you for, then if you get embarressed when asked just say you're waiting for someone you really like. or you could always lie, but you don't want to have to lie to your friends. i'm sure you're pretty and have an awesome personality, so just be more flirty and talk to any guy you'd be interested in kissing. i hope i helped.
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so there is this boy..and he is one of my bestest friends. && we get along really well. and like seriously, whenever neither of us have a boyfriend or girlfriend or whatever we always end up liking each other!! and we've never actually gone out but pretty much have at the beginning of the school year.. && right now i'm single, and i had told one of my best girl friends that i will always kinda like him a lil bit and stuff and then now him and his girlfriend just broke up. and his girlfriend (well now ex) is a good friend of mine too!! and she broke up w/ him and he's really sad and stuff..and we are totally here for eachother so everything is all good..but i don't know if we are gonna end up liking eachother again, or anything. and i don't know if i want to like him or not, because he totally likes long term relationships and i don't always last the longest and i totally don't want to ruin our friendship. how do i keep myself from liking him? or do i just like him and see how stuff goes? or what??? (link)
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well, something similar to your situation happened between me and my best friend. i took a chance going out with him, and it was so awkward. for several weeks, we didn't talk after we broke up. what you need to consider is how much do you care about your friendship now? take it frome someone who has been there .. things will not go directly back to normal once you break up. you also need to picture yourself with him and think: does it feel right? as for keeping yourself from liking him, you cannot control what your heart wants, but you can try and find another guy to like and focus on instead of thinking about your friend. i'm sure whatever happens will be for the best, so good luck!
i hope this helps,
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I met this guy about 2 years ago. We clicked instantally. He had to move a week after asking me out and so I broke up with him. He came down to see me for xmas and we went to the movies etc. But when he left, we lost touch again. I figured he didnt care. But recently, i have been going through a hard time and I checked my email one day while waiting on a crisis to be solved... and i had gotten an email from him. Later that week, i got a phone call from him! I really like him, and he says that he really loves me too. I asked my friend for advice about this and she said that "if we are apart we are apart. If we are together, we are together." Should i persue a relationship, or what? he is over 1,000 miles away. If i do go for a relationship, am i putting myself up for hurt? (link)
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Well, I wouldn't say you're completely putting yourself up for hurt. True, there is a good possibility, due to the distance, that he may cheat on you. Being a jealous person as I am, I would probably get jealous just thinking of him hanging out with other girls. But since you haven't seen him in awhile and he suddenly emailed you, I would definitely say he is interested. He probably couldn't stop thinking about you. It all depends on the trust you have whether you should go for it. I would say go for it, since you really like him. If something happens, it will hurt. But no matter what relationship you go into, it's very likely the end will result in hurt. So I understand hesitating, but I would just go for it. If you do get hurt, at least you won't have to face him. Well, good luck. And I'm sorry about whatever it may be you are going through, and I really hope things start to look up for you. =]
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I like this guy named Eric but like hes supposably a "geek" in our school but I dont care. I just dont know what to do. I mean hes a really good friend of mine but what am I suppose to do just go up to him and be like i like you. Um no. Theres a semi coming up too and I really want to go with him.. but I dont know how that would happen. Im just confused and dont know what to do (link)
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Well, whether he is geeky or not does not matter. Social status is so not important if you really like him. I would say, since you two are close, ask him who he likes. If he replies no one, chances are there is someone he doesn't want you to know, so it may be you. If you are embaressed to tell him you like him, yout may want to have a friend do it for you. What you also may want to consider is how important is your friendship? Would you rather keep the relationship you have now or have an intimate relationship with him? I know from experience when you go out with your good friends, everything does not go back to normal when you break up. If you really like him, I definitely say you go for it. If not .. you may want to reconsider. But the best thing I can suggest is find out who he likes or have a friend tell him. I hope this helps .. :\
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Well there is this guy Alex and I like him alot and he likes me alot.Well on Friday he was about to ask me out, he was all like"(J.)..... would u like to be my.......o nevermind." I was stunned so this Friday I am going to flirt with him as much as I possibly can. What are some ways that I can let him know it is ok to ask me to be his girlfriend??? I am definatly not asking him out so dont give me advice like that. If possible can you go into details. Please. I need this as soon as possible. Thanks in advance. I rate 5s!!!
J. I am a 13 year old female just to let you know.
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Okay. I know you don't want to ask him out, which I cannot blame you for I would never, but it may be better that way. 90% of guys like it when girls make the first move, but I so will not pressure you to do that if you're not comfortable asking him out. I would say flirting with him is a good idea. Does he know you like him? Well, if not, make it obvious you do. Hug him, talk to him a lot, and be extra flirty. Most likely, if he came that close, his faith will be restored and he will be sure you're going to say yes. After all, guys are afraid of rejection. I'm sure he was afraid you might say no, so make him positive you won't! Hope this helps, and good luck!
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Well, 2day my friends decided to tell the guy that i like that i like him, and it totally screwed everything up, because i wanted to do it myself!
Also, he told them that he didnt like me at the momment, so, what the hell is at the momment suposed to mean?
I totally hate myself right now, and feel totally worthless!
Hev (link)
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Okay, Hev. DO NOT hate yourself over any guy, ever. I totally get where you're coming from. I've had this happen to me before, so I know the feeling. But if he doesn't like you, then he is so not worth it. And at the moment may be indicating he might like you soon or has in the past. Be thankful he didn't say "ew" or "oh great" or anything like that. I know it sometimes seems better for you to tell your crush you like them yourself, but it will be okay. If someone told me they didn't like my friend at the moment, I would take it as they were thinking about it. He doesn't totally hate you, and there is a good possibility this may result in him liking you.
Don't feel worthless!!
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hey ok well..i really need several opinions on whats going on with me!! so like back in the beginning of october/end of september(?) my b/f broke up with me. and i was really broken up..i wasnt even ready to go with anyone for a long time. i really liked him, and he really liked me too but we broke it off because we dont live in the same place and it was getting hard. so about the first of the year i finally hooked up with a guy i'd been liking and who'd liked me for a long time. we've been together for 10 weeks and i love him to death and he does to me too..but lately i've been having a problem.well my ex b/f i dont know what it is but absolutely everything about him bugs me to no end! like not only the things that would bug any ex g/f, but also things like how he is so nice and his eyes are so pretty and really really blue. his name even bugs me. and the most annoying thing is that there is no real reason that he bugs me. then all the sudden lately i cannot get him out of my head. i keep thinking of all the times we had. the way he used to (and still does..) look at me. i think of how we used to cuddle. he annoys me to no end, but at the same time it's like everytime i think back now...i get some kind of feeling. a feeling as if i miss him. what do you think is going on? do i still like him and can't admit it to myself..oh and, how do i know if he still thinks of us like that?
thank you sorry it was long but i will rate high for good thorough answers... (link)
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Okay. About how you find him annoying, I think I know why. I've never had a long, intimate relationship, but I did go out with this kid who I really, really liked. I thought everything about him was perfect, until we broke up. Once I didn't like him anymore, I only found flaws in him. Most likely, you never realized how much your ex annoyed you because you liked him so much. Now that you don't like him as much, you find things about him annoying.
I think the feeling that you miss him is because you do miss him, but that is completely normal. Everyone who has a good relationship, whether it be friends or bf/gf, will miss different aspects about it. I lost a best friend whom I had been friends with for so long, and as much as I hate her, I miss her. I know it's not exactly the same, but you probably do miss some of the things you did together because you spent a lot of time with him.
I don't think that you still like him, but you may have feelings for him. I'm sure you like your bf a lot more, but you just miss your ex. It's perfectly normal to have feelings like that, so don't worry.
I think the best way to tell if he feels the same way is just ask him. But do it casually. Just talk to him and be like, "I was thinking of some of the good times we used to have." See what he says to that. If he just replies like "oh" then maybe he doesn't feel the same way, but chances are we might say something like "yeah, me too," and you would know then that he misses you too.
Just be careful about who you tell these feelings too and who you talk to him around, because you don't want your boyfriend to get the wrong idea. I hope this helps! Good luck with everything !
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Okay, so I have a boyfriend. And I love him so much nobody would ever understand. Everything reminds me of him and he's always on my mind. Today he confessed that I'm all he ever thinks about no matter what he's doing. That means that he thinks about me a lot because he's always playing football or basketball or soccer or working out. My friends say I'm obbsessed, but I just can't help it. Is there anything I can do that will take my mind off of him or at least tone down my thoughts about him a bit?
Thanks so much! (link)
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There isn't much you can do, but just consider this. He loves you as much as you love him, but don't center your life around him. The old saying "love hurts" is true, and if you spend all of your time with him or thinking about him and something happens between you two, you don't want to feel like you've lost everything. I might suggest that to take your mind off him for a little while at least, plan a girls night. Go out with your girl friends, and just hang out. Don't talk about him, and just try to concentrate on having fun with them. I hope this helps.
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Ok I have a great bf and love him but my ex bf who is also my best friend got a new gf and idk why but it hurts..i mean it shouldnt but it does cause i keep imaging she's so much prettier and better IDK WHY!! is this normal? thanks (link)
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It is DEFINITELY normal. Everyone goes through this with their ex's, so don't worry about it. The best advice I can give you is to think more about your boyfriend than your best friend. What I mean is when you're feeling a little hurt and jealous, think about your boyfriend. You said he's great, so just imagine how lucky you are to be going out with him. You may still have feelings for your ex, but you like your boyfriend more. You're not abnormal. Just don't let these feelings show because your boyfriend will become jealous or hurt, but don't worry about it. I'm sure you're just as pretty as that other girl, and if you really need a confidence booster .. he dated you first !
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Okay, so I've got a boyfriend, Ross and we just started dating a few days ago. He's kinda shy when it comes to talking so we have silent kinda ackward converations. How do I fix that?
And all my friends, when we see him in the hall they'll start calling his name really loudly and pushing me right into him and saying stuff like " hey lovebirds " and its really getting on my nerves, I mean hes my boyfriend, I know who he is.
And, one more, Im on a volleyball team for my school and the coach and my dad are good friends. Well one of the schools rules is no PDA ( if you get caught breaking a school rule you get kicked off the team, plus im sure she'd tel my parents and I don't want them to know about him just yet ) so if we hug, hold hands or if he puts his arm around me we have to do it secretley so it takes all teh romance outta it.
Urg, can you guys help me please? (link)
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Okay, well about the shy awkward conversations, there are a few things you can do. It is natural that one of you too is going to be shy, and if it's going to be him, you have to be the ice breaker. It he is quiet, start conversations. If it still seems awkward, try to loosen things up. When you're with him, maybe hug him or something. Act closer and get him to be more comfortable around you. Hopefully if you are loud and outgoing, it will rub off on him.
About your friends, I get you. My friends did that to me when I first started going out with my boyfriend. I could tell it was weird for both of us, so I finally told my friends to stop. I suggest you say something like "look guys. You know things are a little awkward with Ross (if you've told them) and you doing that makes it worse. Could you lay off a little?" Something like that, and I'm sure they'll understand.
So for the volleyball team, it may take the romance out of your relationship, but that's only in school. You two should hang out on weekends or after school, and you can be as romantic and affectionate as you want then. Don't worry about being romantic in school, because school isn't really the place for that. I hope this helps, and best of luck to the two of you.
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OK so my best guy friend, well all my girl friends say that he likes me, and they say I like him too, which is true. But im way too scared to tell him(for reasons .. i just cant) and i wish he would just tell me ! what should i dooo?
PS-im going with him to a semi formal dance this saturday. (link)
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Well, I totally understand why you're scared. I'm sure it's not just about rejection, but also because he's your best guy friend and you wouldn't want to risk ruining what you already have. What I can suggest is ask a friend to find out if he likes you, but casually. Have one of your friends be like, so it seems like you like (your name). do you? .. see what he says. If you don't want to do that, wait until the dance and see what happens. Maybe he'll make the move and tell you that he likes you, and if not I heard of one other way. I once read somewhere that a way to let someone know you like them without flat out telling them is be like oh I had a dream we were dating. Isn't that weird? See what his reaction is. You can probably tell by his reaction how he feels about you. I hope this helps, and if anything happens at the dance, let me know! Good luck
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okay so i am in 6th grade and tomorrow me and my boyfriend are planning on hooking up. It will be my first time, but the only problem is that i don't know how! i know what it is and all, i just don't know how to do it so that it's feels nice for him also. If you could please give me some pointers on how to do it, that would be greatly appreciated! i rate 5's! Thanks! (link)
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Okay, well I'm sure we can all assume that hooking up is making out. And although others may disagree, I do not think you are too young. A lot of 6th graders hook up. Well, no one can tell you exactly how to do it, but don't be nervous. If you're nervous, your boyfriend can tell. Although that shouldn't matter to him, it will be embaressing for him too. I wouldn't know, but I would guess maybe this is his first time too? If so, then don't sweat it. He won't know if you don't know what you're doing, and there's no such thing as a bad kisser. There are only different ways of kissing, and different people prefer different ways. I'm sure everything will go fine, and let me know how it goes! Good luck, and all I can say is remember to close your eyes!
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Ok so here it goes this may be long and im sorry if it is. Ok Im 15/f and my boyfriend and i have been going together off-and-on for almost 2 years now. I love him soo much i just cant seem to get him out of my mind.The last time we broke up was the worse,and i started dating other people well about 4 months later so did he and it really hurt me alot. Well we actually stopped talking and i lost my bestfriend of 11 years over it. Well a few months past and we still didnt talk and he finally called me oneday and we started talking again but i had a boyfriend. I finally broke up with the other guy and me and my ex got back together. Well last weekend he went off to his uncles house and promised he would be back by 7 but he wasnt...so another guy thats bestfriends with my cousin called and i needed a way to my dad's house and he was nice enough to run me and my friend down there. We never touched like as in kissin or huggin or nothin. And i like the other guy but not like that and my b/f thinks that i cheated on him but i honestly didnt. Everytime i tell him he doesnt say anything and he throws it up in my face alot. What should i do about this?
My friends tell me hes bein to controlling and to dump him...but i cant see my life without him in it.What should i do?
Ill rate 5's for any answers!!
Thanx,
Jessica!! 15/f (link)
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Well, although he does seem controlling, I don't think you should dump him if you really love him. But does he know how much you care about him? You need to sit him down and say "look, I only got a ride with him because you weren't here, and I hope you would trust me enough to know I would never cheat on you because I love you." Something like that. Although it sounds bad, a good way might be to make him feel guilty. I hope everything works out, and I'm sure it will. You're friends don't understand how you feel about him, so don't let them make the decision for you.
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