hey..im jus ur average 17 year old.
ive been through my share of ups and downs,havnet experienced it all yet, but i'll do my best to awnser any question you have
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this guys keeps calling me prude. i just dont want to waste my first kiss on someone i dont care about. do you think i should just kiss someone and get it over with or just keep waiting for the perfect moment and the perfect guy. i am 14 years old. please help. (link)
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your still young...wait for the perfect kiss...i didnt and i still regret it!!
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I like this guy.. lets call him B.. and whenever i'm around him i get butterflies in my stomach.. then if im sad or upset..he's the only one that can cheer me up! is this Love?
I rate. (link)
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iono....ur guuna hafta explain more than that...although love is somewat unexplainable....get back to me on that one..
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i'm super confused. I think i may be a lesbian but i'm not sure. see, i find myself flirting with guys like any normal 14 year old. but i find myself checking girls out too. i'm not afraid to be a lesbian but this has been going on for quite sometime now so can somebody just help me decide? am i a lesbian or not? (link)
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Theres this new fad its called bieng Bi sexual...that way you dont have to choose...dont ask me anything about it.i totaly dont swing that way..but you might...goodluck
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ok, well i like this girl, and i no she likes me 2. we went out for like a week, but it didnt really feel right, but we still both like each other! wat do i do? (link)
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Just be freinds with her for a while, get to know each other better. And onnce you've done that you can decide if you still want to be with her. Good luck
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im almost 14 and i still havent been kissed or had a boyfriend is that normal??? I feel like im abnormalk or something... (link)
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na its normal..i didnt get my first kiss till middle of 9th grade...everyone has there own time. Just make sure yourfirst kiss is special!
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There's no way in explaining what happened without using a lot of words, so I apologize. I'm 16 and female by the way. I just don't want the people that read this and give me advice to get the wrong idea about things. I've been with this guy for almost 6 months, and recently he told me he doesn't feel the love anymore and that he wants to break up. Me, being stupid, begged him to stay with me. He said that he wanted to take a break to see if he missed me and such. Throughout our whole relationship he was so loving to me and we've both cried over eachother a lot. He's being completely contradictive right now like after he said he wasn't in love with me anymore, a day later he said he still loves me just not as much as he used to. The other day he said in the really pleading voice..."lay with me before you leave baby..please?"..and he cried when he told me he didn't wanna be with me so what the hell is he thinking? I have no idea whether he's just lying to me or if he really wants to work it out in the future. I talked to one of our mutual friends and she said he's afraid to break up with me cause he doesn't wanna hurt me but a few people say that we've just spent too much time together and he needs a break to really feel the love again. We were with eachother almost every day for the past 6 months...I don't know. Someone help me. I know he's good at heart..he really is and I didn't want anyone thinking he was an asshole for what he said. (link)
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im sorry babe thats not a good situation. But i know how you feel.He is just a 16 year old boy and hell if us teens know what we want at that age anyways.so either he thoght he was in love with you, but he was really just lusting you, and now he doesnt wanna hurt you so he's kinda screwing with your heaD, or he may really not love you as much as he thought he did.That happend to me...my philosphy is you can never fall out of love with someone, you just learn to live without them. Mybe he, for one reason or another, is learning to live without you. Just give him space, and if its meant to be he'll def come back to you. But for the mean time dont let him hurt you. Just live your own life, and let him live his..and if your lives collide again, then let it happen. i hope i helped!!goodluck!!
P.s.-have fun with your open time now. get your mind off him, do things taht you wouldnt be able to do if you were spending all your time with him!Go have fun with the gurls!!!
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my friends say i talk about this kid i like way too much, and now that i think about it i kinda do. what can i do to stop? i mean i like him so much i can't get my mind off him. what can i do? (link)
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i had that happen to me a while ago. If you really like him then its not bad to show it...althoguh my freinds got kinda annoyed with me talking about it 24-7. so i just started writing stuff in a journal...saved their time and mine. I know how it feels to really like someone and not know how to handle it...so good luck, find a journal and write down how you feel about this kid...he might be someone special you never know. goodluck
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this is a stupid question but i'll ask it anyway. What should you tell a guy if he ask you if you're a virgin? Evereyone is telling me different. some of my male friends tell me that you should defenetly tell them that your a virgin because all guys like the girls to be like pure and clean and stuff (i dont know, thats what they tell me) and that if your a virgin they will like you more because it will be like a big deal for them..you know, to get a virgin to lose her virginity is big, it will make them proud of them selves or something. And some of my friends tell me that they always go for girls that lost their virginity already because that would make them more experienced and stuff.And it will make the sex better.. And that it wont be as gross as having sex with a virgin..I dont know im soo confused! I dont want the guy to think that im a slut! but should i tell him that ive already done it so he likes me more? please don tell me to tell him the truth! tell me the truth, what do most guys like? Thank you! (K) (link)
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try being honest with the guy, you are who you are,and you cant take back stuff you've already done, so tell the guy the truth and see where that leads you...if he doesnt like you for things that you've done, well hes not worth your time...good luck
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I was going out with brian but he randomly wouldnt call me and my computer was broken. so i asked him online when i was at my friends and he was like im sorry i forgot. (mostly because he smokes everyday, i hate it) we wopul hangout on sundays and it sucked, i didnt want to hangout with someone once a week when he lives down the street. but hes different, hes the only guy im shy around, i dont know why. but he called me friday and told me he couldnt hangout because he was going to his friends. he called me latr and told me he went to the mall (why couldnt he of asked me?) so he called me saturday morning and said hed call me later to hangout he did but said he couldnt because his parents were out ( why couldnt he ask me over) so i sad my mom culd pick him up and stuff and he didnt seem intrested and was like lets just hangout tomorrow so i was like no, its not working, sorry an he said alright. he goes to my friends school so he was like i really like her i dont know why she dumped me so i talked to him yesteday and h was like ell i cant ay i liked you a wicked lot because we didn really talk alot but i dontknow why im so shy around you but i definetly like you an what i know s far, so i uess we're going back out. what can i say to tell him i dont like how he smokes so muc and we need to hangout more? and how can i not be so shy and what should i say on the phone? thank you (link)
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ok i didnt completly understand that, but i will try my best..lol Ok so if you really dont like him smoking, let him know and if he wont cut down on it for you then hes not worth your time, and you just have to keep inviting him to do stuff...plan ahead so he cant get out of it on shortnotice. and the whole shy thing...thats kinda hard to get over...but you just have to come out of your shell be yourself and have fun, hopefully that will make things less akward wen ya'll are round each other. also for the fone, its hard to find things to talk about if you dont do it a lot, espeically with someone you dont no that well, just find soemthing you both have in common and talk a lil about that, ask him questions about his past, and just stupid lil questions that will help u be less shy around him in public.other then that he sounds like he likes you, so just be yourself and things should work out.goodluck let me know if i can help you out anymore.
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well i guess i have been sort of seeing this guy for the past like month or so but we arent bf and gf. im 17 hes 20 if that matters...anyways he usually texts me while im in school and picks me up and we hang out every monday and we also hang out on like friday and other days too but the point is every monday i believe since i met him we have hung out well todaii he didnt call me or text me or anything so im not quite sure.. the last time we hung out was on friday and he didnt act any different and what not but im confused on why he didnt call me today maybi he wanted to see if i would call him ? so basically my question is do u think he still wants to keep hanging out and maybi he didnt call cuz hes busy and should i call i him even tho its too late to hang out today? (link)
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he's either just busy so give him a few days and call him to see wats up...dont seem too needy...or he's gettin scared of commetment, or he's gettin more used to the fact that ya'll are kinda together so he doesnt have to call you like every day...it sounds weird but once guys feel more comfortable that they have you..they don't call as much...etc.hope that made sense..goodluck
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Hey you guys!
MiSSc here, OK so here's an update from me...I have a boyfriend now and we've been going out for a month. He asked me out on Valentines Day too. I love my boyfriend so much!! He's everything that I wanted in a guy. Exactly everything that I've ever wanted in a guy! I thought I was in love many times before, but now I know that it wasn't true love. But this time I think I finally found the one for me, even my mom thinks so and our friends too. But I'm only 15, we will both be turning 16 soon. Do you think that its possible to find love so young? (link)
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Definitly...loves crazy like that...it can hit cha at any time, age, day, or place...right when your least expecting it
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I just want to know what are some things you can say to a girl to charm her and make her like you. Such what are some things i could say to the girl i like to just slowly make her like me. Are there anythings that girls like to hear that charms them. Thanks any help is pretty much appreciated (link)
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just be nice to the gurl....dont give her too much attention, us girls always want wat we cant have, but dont ignore her either...then she gives up on you. Be flirty and sweet, give her hugs wen you see her...just talk to her..be yourself...slowly become freinds...eventually ask her for her number...call her not too much...girls get turned off by that...but once you got her....give her all you got...tell her how much she means to you..u no the drill.
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Hey guys! i just started going out with this boy who is absolutly amazing... he's perfect for me, and is soooo sweet and increible i love him !lol.. we've only been going out for a month but already i've like fallen for him. But i was wondering, what are some tips to keep it going realy well? becuase i don't want to loose him. He also likes me a lot too, but i just want little things that could make him more attachted or somthing. Thankss (link)
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just make sure to always have fun wen your with him, be yourself, let the weird you out..the one that everyone has but is scared to show around other ppl...as long and he feels he can be himself around you, then that will bring yall closer together, and he will feel like he can be completly open with you about everything. Be flirty, give him a little bit at a time...dont just give him eveyrthing you have at once...Make him feel like he cant live without you...always leave him wanting more...goodluck.
-mandi
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im a 21yr old single parent, amd am in love with a married man with two kids, we have been together for 4yrs this would be the 5th now, he tells me he loves me we always argue about our relationship for weeks but eventually amke up and all he teells me he is having major problems with he wife and wants to divorce her i dnt know how true this is or whether he just says so to get what he wants and it has worked for all these years, he doesn t not agree for me to see anyone else but he is married, i love him but im not sure whether it is worth waiting for he says he also wants to have a baby wiht me but what ifheruns away denies it my parents dont know about this relationship but my mum has emphasied never to go out with a married man what do i do, he also expects me to do all the contacting callin smsin and if i dont its a big story does he really love me is heworth the while???? (link)
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Dump his ass, seriously, he's completly controlling your life, when he can't even handle his own!!! Stay away from him, staying with him.. thats the worst decison you can make! If he loved you, he wouldnt have a wife!! Find someone thet won't controll your life, and isnt...MARRIED!!
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so me and this guy i really like decided to be friends. he said i was the coolest person ever and it made his day talkin to me but lately he will IM me and talk but hes weird like is like g2g bye. he stopped callin me like he did before and doesnt text me should I tellh im how im feeling or what? i rate high (link)
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Honestly you should just leave it how it is...i had to go through the same thing a while back..im still trying to get over him, but ya he just like randomnly stopped calling and texting. Make it seem like your cool with that. U'll eventuly get over him, and ya'll will become good freinds, its better that way...trust me.
-goodluck
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ive been going out with this boy since last friday (6 days) i like him so much and firday im going to a dance with him should i makeout with him or is it too soon (link)
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just let it happen, if he makes the first move then go for it.but dont put the moves on him yet.
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How do you know if your relationship is goin to last forever?? (link)
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you never know.but if theres true love involoved then it might.
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Ok i need to know what to do Im actually in love with this girl but her dad doesnt allow her to see me or talk to me and i am truly in love with her and i dont know what to do because i cant stop thinkin about her and i cant stop dreamin about her she is my one true love and i hope one day to marry her and i know she feels the same way
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I don't know what to tell you, ive been in that predicament, and i never found the right awnser. Just let things happen how they happen, you cant force a situation, that always causes problems. And i know she loves you, at least it sounds that way, you will eventually be able to see her everyday so dont ruin ne thing now. but if u truely love each other it doesnt matter if your together now, or in a year, once your in love you'll always be in love...
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Can someone define the diffrence between love and being in love...anything corny is fine! Or could you define love itself.
Oh and is it possible to find love at any age? 15? (link)
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i use the word love wen it's more of like a joy, hobby, or infatuation. Bieng in love is undefinable, it feels like nothing you've ever felt before, at first you wonder what it is, like somethings worng but it feels good. Then you figure out its love, true love is the greatest feeling you'll ever feel. I belive you can fall in love at any age, especially fifteen, thats wen i fell in love. It's crazy, but it happens. And you know your truely in love, if you love that person forever, you'll never forget about them, taht feeling you got at the begining will stay with you forever. You can't fall out of something you fell into. So i hope that anwsers your question, Enjoy being in love!!!
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ok heres the thing. I'm an "a" and im pretty insecure about it. My boyfriend says its ok and he doesn't mind and that he loves me no matter how big I am, but his last girlfriend was a "d" and i feel bad because he "down sized" so much. What can I do to become more confident and secure with myself when I am around him and in general? And what can I do with my boyfriend to make up for what I dont have? (link)
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If your boyfreind says he loves you no matter what..believe him!! You don't have to make up for what you don't have!!If he saw that as a problem he woulda never even asked you out!! be confident in yourself, wat size cup yu have doesnt make who you are!!It's all on the inside!
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