Hi! I live in Chino Hills, California and I came to this site to see if I can help anyone who needs it. I am 15 years old and am known in my group of friends as the "voice of reason" :)
I want to try to help as many people as I possibly can. I hope someone can find my advice helpful, although I know some will disagree--and that's totally fine.
I always tell people that I give advice to that I'm just a person who makes mistakes so before they consider my advice they should make sure they agree with it. They should also make sure it's the best thing for them to do.
I hope to help you with what I can with the information given!
*hope I can help*
P.S. When you rate my advice, PLEASE don't be kind. What I mean is give me as much constructive criticism as you can! I want to be able to improve in my advice giving! Thanks!
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i go to a small high school and i pretty much know most of the people. me and my boyfriend of 2 years broke up about 3 months ago and i think its time for me to meet new people....but idk how to do this? like you don't just go out on the road and yell when you see a goodlooking guy and i don't wanna seem desperate...so how do i meet new people my age? and i dont know of any underage clubs or anything.. (link)
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A good way to meet new people is getting a hobby or joining a club outside of school. Don't be shy but don't be too outgoing, just be yourself. If someone doesn't like you, that's their problem--at least that's how I see it. So, yeah, I would suggest joinind a club or getting a hobby. It's a great way to meet new people outside of school. Although it may cost money, but what doesn't these days ^^
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My boyfriend, 15 and I, 14 are very close. We've been together for a year and a half. He's NOT gay. I'm just wondering why we don't do anything. We've never been on a date. Well, football games but nothing specified, "date" material. We HAVEN'T KISSED. We do some things though. We touch each others legs? I've kissed his neck? We hug (: haha. I just want to KNOW that i'm turning him on. He says I do but... I'm just not too sure. When we're at lunch, I'll touch his leg and as my hand gets more "up there" (not his penis just upper,upper thigh) He won't let. He'll move his legs closer together and he'll move to holding my hand instead. What does this mean? Do I turn him on? I know this is a good guy, but... seriously?
I'm just seriously wondering why he hasn't DONE anything. Can any guys or girls please tell me, because I just can't figure it out. (link)
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Hi, I'm sorry for your stressed state of mind. Don't worry too much over this--he could have several reasons why he might be acting like this.
One, he might not approve of PDO (public displays of affection). He gets uncomfortable knowing that people might be watching him show his affection for you. It isn't that he is embarrassed of you, but he doesn't feel comfortable with the idea of everyone watching him while he is giving (or receiving) affection to/from you.
Another factor could be he is "saving" himself for marriage (or he might not be ready yet). Some people have different things that turn them on . . . for some people it's simply the feeling of touching skin. He doesn't want to get too close because he might not be ready for that sort of thing. You might be turning him on too much . . . ;)
There could be more reasons, but these seem to be the most obvious. He is comfortable with some levels of affection, but has tabooed anything more than that. I wish you luck! You could try talking to him (if you haven't already) to see why he is acting strange.
Hope I helped in some way . . . ;) good luck!
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Okay 15/f here might be long but okay. Well me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost 2 months now and my mom doesnt like him at all. Well the other day me and her was talking and she told me that she didnt want me seeing him now that i really like him i just want him to know that i love him and everything she told me that if i am seeing him when im not allowed to then i am grounded but i really like him and i want to stay with him but i want to break up with him to just for a couple of days and then i want to get back together with him so should i end it or should i just stay with him and just say to my mom we are broken up? (link)
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Don't lie to your mom. It would just get you into a whole other mess, plus it would lose her trust in you. If you really like this guy tell him what your mom said. If he really cares for you he will understand.
Tell your mom that you really like him and don't want to lose him. Ask her if you can still see him, even if it is just as friends. Maybe even try to negotiate. Ask her if you can go on group dates or something where there are some other people around.
Trust me, if he is a keeper he'll wait until you are able to date him. If he doesn't want to wait, he isn't worth the trouble. :) I hope I helped!
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Well first off I am a girl and 16. And i had an ex girlfriend from a completely different state, we fell in love (for real) and just talked on the phone all the time. She still loves me but left me because of the distance. We are still great friends though. So i got a new girlfriend, she is amazing to me but i keep comparing her to my ex in my mind. I still talk to my ex a lot and i love her so much, I'm going to meet her in the near future. But my now girlfriend Is in love with me too. I love both of them, but have no clue what to do. My ex is in a different state, and my girlfriend is here right now. But i think i love my ex more. Please help D= (link)
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this is a difficult situation. only your heart can really tell you what to do. you love them both, one more than the other, but that's all that really counts. if you are happy with your current g/f, you shouldn't break her heart, but if you arent happy with her you should let her know so she can find someone that is able to love her as much as she loves them. if you are able to keep them both, that's reall good. but maybe you should talk to your ex about how you feel. sorry if this isnt what you were looking for. i hope i helped as much as i could. good luck!
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Hey its me the girl whos guy friend isnt treating her right. I know you may have a lot of us but Im the girl who is so in love that i let him come back to me over and over no matter what you responded to my question tues.oct 10 2009 at 11:33 pm. I just want to say he doesnt get it. your responce sounds all fine and sounds good but why is it so hard for me to let go? I told him how i felt and he basically was telling me im wrong about how i feel. He says his feelings for me are growing and he said he always wanted me he's just a guy and he will come around. I know i know. Actually talking to him was making me think about everything he put me through the entire 5 years with him was fake as fuck, excuse my language. But honestly your right i should move on but theres something holding me back there is something telling me to stay. I cant help but think i went through all of this stuff with him for a reason and i cant turn back now! Whats wrong here (link)
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Of course it's going to be hard to let him go--he's been apart of who you are for five long years. It'll be hard for the first few months, but it will get better, i promise. You're mind is trying to protect that part of you by saying you need him and things will get better between the two of you, its trying to protect your heart--your already broken heart. Don't let that happen. Do what's right for YOU. Not what's right for him.
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Dear hear2listen
I recently ran into a problem with a guy. Now understand he’s not my boyfriend but we have been going through this for years now. I was his girlfriend once upon a time but now we are just comfortable I guess you can say. It just seems like every time he goes through a problem with his girlfriends he calls me and yes I’m there for him. Or he really wants to get with me when he breaks up with his girlfriends. I do take him back but not all the way. I don’t trust him all the way with all of me and I really want to but when he plays with me and my emotions all the time I begin to not ever trust him. There is this circle we go in. We will stop talking for months and as soon as I get use to the fact that we are done for good we see each other somewhere and he calls and we talk for probably three days straight and it stops the phone calls will come every other week or just when he wants to have sex. Me stupid and so in love fall for it and go back and let him use me. Ok I know he loves me but this cycle we go in isn’t cool. Oh and let me let you know he’s good with his words. He says everything in the book. I got to give it to him he is good. I just want him to realize that I want all of him. Yeah hell tells me everything and we are best friends and lovers but I don’t just want that part. I want him all. I don’t want half of him. I want him to do whatever he wants now have his little fun now and come to me committed and fully mine. Yes we are young but this cycle is getting old and I want something new. Should I stay should I go? I’m stuck in the middle of this place where I love him and don’t want to give up but I also want to get over him because even though I love him do I really believe he will change. He puts so much on me and expects me to just be here for him whenever he needs me. I want him to stop looking for love in someone else when I’m right here in his face. Or is it that I’m not the one for him. He doesn’t love me the way I love him? He says he does. He says I’m the only girl he truly loves. I’m the only girl who never hurt him and is always here for him. I don’t want to be that girl. I don’t want to be a part of that dumb girl epidemic. I don’t know what to do anymore. Giving up just seems like my answer to everything that gets tough.
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You need to tell him. You should tell him you want him, all of him not part of him. Tell him if he can't commit himself to you fully then he doesnt deserve you. Tell him yeah, you've never hurt him but he's hurt you time and time again. Don't give in to his words, no matter how much he tells you you're his world. If you were his world, he wouldnt be able to hurt you. Tell him if he loves then he needs to choose: to stay with you and stop using you for his impulsive desires or stop breaking your heart. Frankly, i think you deserve better then him. If you truly love him, tell him that he's hurting you. Dont let yourself be his ragdoll. If he says he will change but the pattern stays, dont give him another look. You can do so much better in my opinion. If he can't respect you, he isnt worth your time.
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Ok, so basically I've been talking this kid for a little over a year. Never dated, and we were really close last summer and then I went off to school and we didn't talk much then. But everytime I would come home we would talk again, and this summer I think it got even more serious. We talk everyday, and practically see each other at least once a week, (but its with a group of people), and we have hung out alone on several occasions.
And I think I'm really starting to fall for this kid, and I'm actually considering turning it into something more. But here's the thing, we've never done anything more than kissed, which we only did once. Yes ONE TIME! and that consisted of me practically attacking him when I was a little under the influence, but either way it was pretty great. And we do do cute things like cuddle or hold hands sometimes but thats it.
But anyway, we both really really into each other, but I was wondering is it really possible to like someone that much when nothing physical has been done? I mean, I've never really known a relationship I've had where its been otherwise. It's always been mostly physical. So I was just wondering your opinion on how exactly the physical stuff is in starting a relationship? (link)
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in my opinion, physical stuff isn't really THAT important in a relationship. If you two truly care about eachother you wouldnt need to get physical at all, unless of course you wanted to :] In the beginning of a relationship things should be more simple and less physical. Remember, you don't want to move to fast and mess things up. But as the relationship grows and you two become closer then you will most likely get more phyiscal.
Hope i helped :]
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Like Taylor Swift says "I got tired of waiting, wondering if you were ever coming along...my faith in you was fading"
well anyway my question i guess is how many of you out there still have faith in love... and i guess what are some of your theories on finding it, keeping it, and losing it. feel free to rant and leave long philosophical answers... i wanna hear it (link)
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well, i have really strong faith in love. and in terms of finding it,i always say "dont search for love,let love find you" and if you cant keep the love that you are feeling then it isnt true love
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hey i have minnior acne and i am 13 and im so afraid that i am never gonna get a boyfriend and i want my first kiss and i keeo reading thease first kiss stories and listening to thease love songs WHAT SHOULD I DO ? (link)
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your 13!!! You are so young and DO NOT need to worry about this, yet!! Just have fun being a kid.. i know how you feel about your first kiss, you want it and you want it now but your just gonna have to wait!! sorry to say, but it will happen. You can't look for it, you have to let it find you. And don't worry, i know someone who didn't have their first kiss until they were 19!! so your not too behind :p
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There's this guy I kind of like, and we talk from time to time. We're friends but we don't hang out or anything, and I don't have his phone number. I want to talk to him more, but I don't want to come off as creepy, since we just started talking about 2 weeks ago. He's nice to talk to, but I have to start the conversations most of the time. He plays lacrosse at our school and I went to the game today with my friends, but I didn't see him afterwards because we had to leave early. Should I keep dropping little hints like that? How do I get closer to him? School's ending soon so I need this to happen quickly! (link)
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well, if you want to get a closer relationship with him and want his phone number just ask. i mean not like right out but play around with it. be like "we should hang out sometime" and be like "here's my number" or be like "do you have texting?" and if he says yes be like "oh we should text sometime" but if he says he doesnt be like "oh you have to get it, anyways here's my number" or something like that to get things started
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so theres this guy i really like and i think he likes me back but im just waay to shy to talk to him. like when i see him in the hallway he smiles and i say hi, but thats it. to be honest i dont like his friends and they dont like me because they know i dont like them haha. sometimes hes alone at the busstation though until his friends come but he's always quite early. should i talk to him then? and i always have issues with smiling. like everytime i see him i freeze up and cant smile. once he's passed me, i cant stop. it really stinks cause i wanna smile at HIM not at the ground :/
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i think you should definitly speak to him! Don't go to fast, though. Just friendly stuff until you have a little bit of friendship, then make your move!
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Well i dated this guy for 3 months and really really liked him. We were like two peas in a pod and everything. He was sweet, funny, caring and basically everything i wanted in a guy. There was a problem though. He wouldn't stop lying to me about things. He kept things from me and lied a lot. But he never was mean other than that. I finally broke up with him about a week and a half ago and we decided to just be friends. But all he is is drama and i cant get away from it. He started calling me names and saying he dosen't care about me because he was mad i wouldn't take him back. So then i stopped being his friend. But for some reason i still have a lot of feelings for him. I know that i shouldn't because he lied and everything but i do. I loved him. I know people are like "Your 15 and you dont know what love is." Well i have never had a broken heart until now and i was the one that broke up with him. He constantly makes me mad but at the same time i want to be his girlfriend and be with him again. The sad part is, i know i will never be with him again because he lied to much. I wanted to be friends with him so much but he screwd that up to. And after all this time i still like him. I don't know what to do. And i don't get it either. He said i was the first girl he loved and he acted that way to. He was so so sweet. But now, he is starting to move on and i know i need to be doing that to but it is killing me! He flirts with girls already and i can't even stop thinking about him. Please help someone and explain to me what to do! thanks! (link)
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Well, you both kind of screwed things up. You knew he was lieing, right? You should have talked to him about it and worked on it together instead of giving up in the snap of fingers. Love is a very strong feeling, and is not what it is in movies. It isn't this passionate fight fest, its a bond.
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Ok, so when I flirt with a guy, sometimes I likke make fun of them for like stupid stuff. & I'm not sure if they like it or not. Do guys like it when girls are nice and happy all the time? or what? I'm so confused with everything. (link)
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Every guy is different. just be yourself and you will attract the right guy, hopefully ")
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Okay, so i've been friends with this guy for over 2 years. We've both liked each other. He cares about me more, which is sad to say. I always find myself going up and down on whether i like him. Its like when i'm with him, i don't like him, but when i'm away from him i miss him so much. Also my parents won't allow me to go out with him. It's sad but i like his personality, but not so much his looks. I know its shallow, but honestly i just want to find a person that has a great personality and amazing looks. I've told this guy a numerous amount of times i won't go out with him, and we get into big fights, then we get close again. I'm just very confused when it comes to him. We've been through a lot, but i honestly think i deserve better...What should i do? (link)
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Honestly? If you truly care for him, then just push through the pain! Everyone goes through this, but, i think you just need to realize everyone is imperfect. no one is going to be drop dead gorgeous and have a matching personality.
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ok so i have been dating this guy named matthew for about nine months and we have been through alot together....my family recently just fell apart and i got sent to treatment foster care to work on stress and how to relate to a family positively so his mom is going into training to get as licesence for foster care so she can have me in her home i really love his family and i have become so attached to them his neice and nephew call me auntie and everything......anyway i found out last night that he was cheating on me i really love him and it kills me inside to know i cant be there when he wants me to but i dont know what to do if i leave him i have no where to go and his mom would just be wasting her time i dont want to let her down.....i really need help im so lost female/16 (link)
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I think you should talk to him directly. (i mean if you already havent) Told him you found out and straighten every thing out. i mean maybe it was a miss understanding ") but if you feel this attached to him AND his family, it would be hard to let him go, talk to him. Maybe even talk to his mom. If you and matthew truly care for eachother, you'll get through this. People make mistakes, you just have to take them as they come. especially if you love that person
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OK so i know this guy and he's older than me, not by much like a year. So you see both him and i are taken but we can almost never see our partners. Like his girlfriend is younger than me so her parents dont let her date him and my boyfriends parents wont let him date me for religious reasons. So this guy and i have been txting all the time and we do stuff like 'i gotta go do this or that i'll txt you back when i'm done' and we hang out a lot since we live real close to eachother. You see once he was like 'lets hang friday' and i was like 'sure' but then he got invited to go BK with some friends and he wanted me to come with him but i said no, i dont know his friends. so he was like 'i'll come over when i finish here then.' and i was like 'no its ok you dont have to' and his answer was 'No i'm coming and your not stopping me' so i was like 0.0 oh. and sometimes he'll make jokes and i'll be like 'oh no you didn't' and he'll hug me and be like 'oh come on i'm just playin.' and i mean he txts me a lot and sometimes we're not even saying anything just like being stupid. sometimes we talk about eachothers relationships too. and i dunno if he likes me or not but he's left a group of his friends like twice already to hang out with me. He even came with me on a friend of mines date to the movies and when her date was like a real bad guy he wouldnt let me go get her away from him alone, he's also stood up for me when someone teased me but like he then teased my friend. so i dunno, do you think he likes me? if you wanna ask me any questions about it i'll add additional information after being asked (link)
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OK,so, i think this guy reeeeaaallly likes you!! ") But, you have a boyfriend, and he has a girl friend :( so, if you want to presue a relationship with him, you need to make sure you BOTH are single
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I'm a girl,16.
Ok so I sorted out the last problem,thank you very much for all your help.
Now though,I like this guy. The guy I've liked for well..years.
I REALLY likie him,the first guy I have liked this much in fact. I dunno if he likes me or not, he used to. We kissed a few months back,but it was his first kiss so afterwards,nothing else happened I guess cos he was too shy to initiate anything and I didn't wanna push him into anything he wasn't ready for so neither did I.
I haven't a clue if he still likes me,but I like him as much as I ever did. For the past while,I've been considering telling him that I still do,but we talk the whole time and hang out quite a lot (We go to the same school so we see each other everyday) so I don't want it to turn out bad if I DO tell him. There's only like ten days left in school and I'm wondering,should I just be honest and tell him straight,or keep it to myself and enjoy being friends with him?
Thanks to anyone who helps. (link)
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Go for it! If you really feel this way then tell him! besides, its a proven fact! if a beautiful girl asks out a guy, there is no way in the world they can ever turn them down!! well, its almost proven
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I like this guy alot and he likes me alot too. The thing is he has had alot of girlfriends and i have never had a boyfriend before. We have been talking for like a week and he wants to go out with me but im scared. Im scared because i know how he is he gets mad over stupid things and i dont want to get hurt. Today i found out that he was staying after school to talk with his ex to see if they could get back together. I dont know what to do becase i am so upset about it. I want to go out with him but at the same time im scared to. THANKS FOR YOUR HELP!!!!!! (link)
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I no this may be hard to hear, but if a guy scares you STAY AWAY!!! If you are ever afriad of a guy, but still have feelings for him, run the other way.
You can read this guy pretty well, he will hurt you and you know it. He is not good for you! First of all, you are afraid of getting hurt. If you knew that the car you were getting into was going to be in a harmful car accident would you still get in? No, because you know you would get hurt, just like this guy will almost definitely hurt you. Secondly, he has had many other girls, and you haven't had a boyfriend at all. Think about it. When you start dating don't go for someone that is an expert at relationships. Chances are, he will play you. Thirdly, he is trying to get back together with his ex! He asked you out, and now he wants the other girl again. Give up on him. You deserve better.
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Well, I have a boyfriend. We have been dating for about a year now. And he's moving away August 12th.
Just recently, I met one of his best friends. And I guess it's pretty safe to say that I have feelings for him. And now I"m at the point where I'm a little confused.
Help please!
A.K. (link)
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Sweetie, you need to think about this hard. Disect your problem.
Your boyfriend moves away and you can't deal with a long-distance relation--move on!! You shouldn't put yourself through this trial if you already know the answer!
Say you aren't sure if you can handle a long-distance relation ship--give it a try! If it doesn't work out, tell your sweetie you can't deal with it, he will understand. If it works out, go you!
Whatever you do, DO NOT date his best friend, at least not with out your bf's consent. Think about it, your not just ruining the relationship between you and your bo, but between him and his friend.
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