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Tell me what to do please. What should i do about this?
Dear hear2listen
I recently ran into a problem with a guy. Now understand he’s not my boyfriend but we have been going through this for years now. I was his girlfriend once upon a time but now we are just comfortable I guess you can say. It just seems like every time he goes through a problem with his girlfriends he calls me and yes I’m there for him. Or he really wants to get with me when he breaks up with his girlfriends. I do take him back but not all the way. I don’t trust him all the way with all of me and I really want to but when he plays with me and my emotions all the time I begin to not ever trust him. There is this circle we go in. We will stop talking for months and as soon as I get use to the fact that we are done for good we see each other somewhere and he calls and we talk for probably three days straight and it stops the phone calls will come every other week or just when he wants to have sex. Me stupid and so in love fall for it and go back and let him use me. Ok I know he loves me but this cycle we go in isn’t cool. Oh and let me let you know he’s good with his words. He says everything in the book. I got to give it to him he is good. I just want him to realize that I want all of him. Yeah hell tells me everything and we are best friends and lovers but I don’t just want that part. I want him all. I don’t want half of him. I want him to do whatever he wants now have his little fun now and come to me committed and fully mine. Yes we are young but this cycle is getting old and I want something new. Should I stay should I go? I’m stuck in the middle of this place where I love him and don’t want to give up but I also want to get over him because even though I love him do I really believe he will change. He puts so much on me and expects me to just be here for him whenever he needs me. I want him to stop looking for love in someone else when I’m right here in his face. Or is it that I’m not the one for him. He doesn’t love me the way I love him? He says he does. He says I’m the only girl he truly loves. I’m the only girl who never hurt him and is always here for him. I don’t want to be that girl. I don’t want to be a part of that dumb girl epidemic. I don’t know what to do anymore. Giving up just seems like my answer to everything that gets tough.
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You need to tell him. You should tell him you want him, all of him not part of him. Tell him if he can't commit himself to you fully then he doesnt deserve you. Tell him yeah, you've never hurt him but he's hurt you time and time again. Don't give in to his words, no matter how much he tells you you're his world. If you were his world, he wouldnt be able to hurt you. Tell him if he loves then he needs to choose: to stay with you and stop using you for his impulsive desires or stop breaking your heart. Frankly, i think you deserve better then him. If you truly love him, tell him that he's hurting you. Dont let yourself be his ragdoll. If he says he will change but the pattern stays, dont give him another look. You can do so much better in my opinion. If he can't respect you, he isnt worth your time.
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