I'm a nice girl. I love to help people, and I will answer any question you ask to the best of my ability. Just so ya know...I have two babies (not kids, silly...dogs!) Sophie and Bruiser, and they are my life, so if you have any questions about dogs or anything, I got ya! I love to sing, I am planning a career out of it and I hope to someday be famous. If not for singing, for helping someone. I am very much in love, but I've been through the ringer when it comes to relationships, so I am fairly good at answering love related questions. But, I've found the guy I want to spend forevers with and I'm happy. Yup yup...looks like I'm done here.
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I have been with my boyfriend a little over three years. We love each other more than anything, and I know this. But since it's been so long, the "infatuation phase" (c/o of John Legend [; ) has sort of passed. Of course we're still affeectionate and cute sometimes, but sometimes I feel like I try much harder than him to keep that little spark alive- and by spark, I mean the cutesy stuff, like silly mushy messages now and then, sending songs that remind us of the other, etc. I do all these things and he normally does not, whereas in the beginning of our relationship he did.
Basically, is it okay that the small, silly things we used to do so often have become uncommon and we've gone into more of a comfort phase? We still do cute things occasionally, but now it's more of a "spending-time-with-each-other-is-enough". I just sometimes wonder if it will be enough to make us last as long as I'd like (forever). I mean, it's obvious married couples aren't always super lovey-dovey. So this is normal, right? I'd simply appreciate some advice/opinions (: (link)
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well, this is just my opinion, because i haven't been in my relationship as long as you have (1 1/2 years). but i understand where you are coming from. i think its okay that the cutesy stuff isnt so common. because, then when it does happen its so much more meaningful.
but maybe you could kind of kickstart his memory by reminding him of how much you love it when he does those things? i mean, if he doesn't figure it out on his own :)
hope i helped!
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what do you do when you're with a guy you love & who it would hurt to lose, but see yourself with the one you're IN love with, forever. the one you're in love with is in love with you too and wants to be with you again, but is also in a pickle because he LIKES someone else. when do you know what's right?
the one im with? he's great, and i do love him alot, and want to be with him.
the other one? i honestly think we're made to be together, i can honestly see myself with him my whole life, and i dont want to lose him. however, he has stuck around for almost 8 months after the breakup because of his feelings for me.
i dont even know where to start. (link)
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if you both love each other, you should be with each other. also, its not fair for either of your significant others for you to feel that way while being with them. it's much better to let them know now than to let the situation drag on and on. because then things will get much worse.
hope that made sense...lol
good luck! :)
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So i was just wondering in general...Is it okay to go out with someone who isn't that great looking but is still attractive because of he's body etc. And also because he's personality is great?
I mean..well i'm just afraid if i might find the person un attractive due to he's looks while going out with him.. and that would not a be fun to deal with.
The thing is like he used to like me and i had NO IDEA~ i thought of him as a friend but now days i find him more and more attractive..grrr how can i tell if he STILL likes me..we got into this little argument(this was before i knew he liked me) and it was because i was going out with this other guy and i was being a bitch and ignoring him..sigh* But he's not as talkative to me On AIM but in real life he's still talkatvie..he asked for a high five just earlier and we kinda just held hands for a moment in the air like legit 5 secs and let go.I DON't kow how to tell if he still likes me :P
*SIGH*
questions:
1.Should i give him a chance?
2.He's from church..would that not be a good idea?
3.How do i know if he's still interested?
Thanks :D
-serenity
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I definitely think you should give him a chance. I mean, you said you are finding him more and more attractive these days, so that's probably not an issue.
As far as the Church thing goes, I see no problem with that either. Church would be a good thing to have in common with a person, and would be a place you could socialize with him more.
You could start by flirting with him subtly, and see how he reacts. (cute little jestures towards him, kinda lightly poke fun at him but in a flirty way, which means nothing truly offensive.) If subtle is not his thing, (like most guys :P) don't give up. he's probably just not getting it. try a little harder, but not too hard. Got it? :)
good luck!
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Ok.....me and my boyfriend have been together for almost a year and a half. I try so hard to be the "perfect" girlfriend or whatever...but sometimes I think he doesn't even realize or appreciate anything I do. What should I do? (link)
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Well, honestly, trying so hard to be the perfect girlfriend probably isn't the best idea. I mean, look at it this way: When you're trying so hard to be perfect, your boyfriend won't be able to get to know your imperfections. But that's not the answer to your question, right? I think your bf probably notices more than you think he does, it's just guys aren't the best at expressing their appreciation for the little things that you do, or even the big things. I'm almost positive he notices, though, because I thought my boyfriend never noticed the things I did for him, but the other day I got mad (lol) and said "Why don't you ever realize all these things I do to make you happy?" And he said "I do, I just never thought to thank you for them..." So, yeah. Maybe he just never realized he should thank you for doing the things you do for him. Hope I helped! Sorry it was so long...lol :)
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lately, i have been cutting my arm.. because i get really drepressed and, my boyfriend found out. he told me to stop but i cant.. its the only thing that releaves me.
what should i do?
(and im not emo) (link)
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spend as much time as you can with people who have a positive affect on you. Best friends, boyfriend, family and a trusted adult usually do the trick. I had the same problem and my boyfriend almost broke up with me because of it. I ended up re-evaluating what was more important...him, or the razorblade. It was him, hands down. If you absolutely can not quit, i suggest telling an adult you really trust about it, and let them help you find a way to stop. I'm so sorry this is a real problem...and it's a hard thing to end. But I think you are strong enough to do it.
Xo
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well i'm close with my mom. and i can tell her when my boyfriend and i get into stupid fights or stuff like that. i can talk to her about how to handle those type of situations and get the advice i need. she's not the type that'll tell me what i want to hear, she'll flat out tell me whose wrong in the situation. the only problem is that my boyfriend and i have had a lot of stupid fights and now i don't think my mom likes him very much..he said that all his friends mom's and ex-gfs moms love him and i don't understand why my mom doesn't =( it's like ever since i told her everything she just doesn't trust him or something. i really want her to like him and have trust in him because there is no reason she shouldn't. what should i do? we haven't gotten into stupid fights recently which is really good but i just want my mom to love my boyfriend and i don't know how to do that. he even talks to my mom and hugs her when he sees her & is leaving my house. he's a gentleman she just thinks there's another side to him, but there's not. ughh i need help! (link)
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I was in the same situation. My mom used to love my boyfriend, but once I began asking her for advice on the fights we had, she began to not like/trust him. What I did was I just told her all the good things about him, like when he held the door open for me, and when he surprised me with flowers. All the sweet things he does, so that way when you do have a fight and need advice from your mom she won't be so quick to not like him because she will remember all the good things he does for you and how well he treats her daughter. Worked for me!
Good Luck!
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i have a really good friend jon. he is one of the hottest guys in the school and pretty nice. i never even dreamed of dating him till just a week ago. i would ask him out but what if he denies and it ruins our friendship. what if we broke up and it did the same thing? and, he has one flaw: he cheats on his girlfriends. he has never had a girlfriend that he hasnt cheated on.
help! thanks for everyones advice. 14/f (link)
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Well, if the problem was only about him being your best friend, I would say go for it. But, with it being also that he is a cheater...I don't think I would risk my heart on it, because being cheated on is probably one of the worst feelings in the world. What do you think made you want to date him so suddenly? Curiosity, maybe? I've been there. But think of what's going to be better for you: not being with this one guy, or getting your heart broken?
Good Luck!
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okay , so my boyfriend && i have been together for almost 4 months . i love him , really , i do . the only thing i don`t like about him is that he does pot . he says he hasn`t done it for like 2 months. but my friends keep telling me "i wouldn`t go out with someone that does drugs , but thats just me" idk what to do because i really like him , but not sure if i wan`t to keep seeing someone that does pot . and btw : he knows i know that he does pot . what should i do ? should i let it all go to waste & break up with be because of pot ?
uhg , (link)
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I was in the same EXACT situation about 2 months ago. I made it very clear to my boyfriend that I didn't appreciate the fact that he did it, so we made a deal: he doesn't talk about it or smoke it in front of me or when he is supposed to be with me, and he doesn't get high right before being with me, and I don't get upset about it. That's what I suggest, because it won't be around you. I'm still with my boyfriend, and I love him SOO much...and it's worked so far without a hitch. But I don't suggest doing it with him.
Good Luck
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Ok. Me and this guy talk alot on the computer and we laugh and hes says Im the only one who ever laughs to his joke and none of his friends do and he will talk like 30 or 1hr extra with me when hes not suppose too. But When Im around him we never talk!! And Im too shy to ask him stuff and I dont know if he like me or not! Does that mean he likes me. Because along ime ago he said I was pretty and asked me if I consider hm as a friend...becuase we were playing to questuon game. So Does he like me?
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Well...it sounds like he does like you. But maybe next time when you are having a good conversation online, subtly find a way to start talking about why you don't talk like that in person. Remember, talking online is different than in person because when you are IMing you have a lot of time to consider what you should say and what your next move will be. In person you dont have that time, because if you stood there thinking about what to say...umm...you might come off as weird...haha. But I'd definitely say that he likes you. So, take it easy and don't rush it. He'll come around.
Good Luck!
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heyy..okay everything started out like amaazing. i loved him so much you like dont even no..but then he was always asking me where i was and what i was doing like 24/7. i thot that was sorta cute n stuff. but then i got this text message from my friend whitney that said and i quote! [[cuz nobody believes me unless they've seen it.]] "michael loves you so much and wants to be with you the REST of his life." and that just weirded me out. i dont reallii wanna marry someone whose my boyfriend going into eighth grade. i thot that he was taking r relationship ...WAYYY to seriously. so i decided i needed to end it otherwise he might just get more attached. yeah it was a sacrifice but i didnt wanna hurt him worse then i already did because if he got even more attached it could have been ALOT worse. he already hates me and doesnt wanna be my friend. and i didnt wanna make him like go into depression or anything. so i decided it was for my and his own good that we break up. and now everything turned to crap. him and all of his friends are SOOOOO MEANN to me. and like there whole group completely hates me. it reallii hurts..some of the thing that they're calling me. i dont no what to do anymore. i still wanna be friends with him..but he told me he hates me and never wants to see me again. do you think he'll get over it? and do you have any reasons why he's acting like this? any ways to ignore it? thanks in advance♥ (link)
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You know, you are right. You are only in the 8th grade, and you are completely right to be a little weirded out by what he said. I mean, I am defintitely not saying you can't be in love with someone at that age, but to think about marrying someone and being with them for the rest of your life is taking it somewhat seriously. I think he will probably get over it. Maybe he's just trying to find ways to cope with it, because it sounds like he really did like/love you a lot. So, maybe being mean and ganging up on you is his best way of dealing. Boys are confusing, hon. Just try to ignore it, or if you really want to be friends, tell him. Remind him of all the good times you had as friends and that you still care for him as a friend ONLY. And if that doesn't work, he's not worth being your friend.
Hope I helped a little!
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